Responsible disclosures

[Wolf_3_5_9]

So I found some personally identifying info on a model by following links posted on her social media account. I'm sure it was a mistake, so I reached out immediately through mfc mail to notify her about it so it can be fixed. Just sucks to have found this for a model I enjoy spending time with. At this point I'm fully expecting a ban from her room, which is 100% understandable.

I'm saying "sucks" because I'm sure this will lead to a ban from a model I like, but I realize it is nothing compared to how mortifying this is from the model's perspective, hence the immediate disclosure.

Any similar experiences from guys/gals here? What was the outcome for you?

 

[ElaySmith]

I personally don't see much reason for her to ban you. It doesn't sound like you were actively searching out her personal info but instead made her aware of a mistake that she had posted. You handled it privately and in a timely manner and as long as you don't bring it up, use it against her or out her in any way she doesn't gain anything by banning you... its not like it will magically erase you memory. I say go about your normal interactions, forget it happened and let her take the lead.

 

[Mila_]

She could still ban him out of fear of him using that info to hurt her in her room if anything doesn't go as desired. Unless you are one of her trusted tippers that is what many models would do.

 

[Gen]

She could still ban him out of fear of him using that info to hurt her in her room if anything doesn't go as desired. Unless you are one of her trusted tippers that is what many models would do.

I would think immediately banning him would provoke the same response, if he’s the type of douchebag to do it.

Both ways make sense to me but I wouldn’t ban if someone told me quickly and privately, and didn’t keep bringing it up or referencing it.

 

[yummybrownfox]

She could still ban him out of fear of him using that info to hurt her in her room if anything doesn't go as desired.

Years ago, when someone in my chat asked me what name they should call me, this other big-mouthed member decided to blurt out in public chat “Well, I know your real name, but you know I’d never tell anyone!”

What the fuck, dude??? Why even say some dumb ass shit like that? Do you enjoy holding something like that over a model’s head...knowing that some creeper in the room may actually PM you, pressing for info to be nosey?

 

[Mila_]

I would think immediately banning him would provoke the same response, if he’s the type of douchebag to do it.

Both ways make sense to me but I wouldn’t ban if someone told me quickly and privately, and didn’t keep bringing it up or referencing it.

Everyone knows my real name so that is not an issue for me anymore but I think if I was still trying to conceal it whether or not I banned the user would have more to do with my relationship with him than any other factor. If it's someone who never talks and watches as a guest I would ban. If it was a regular tipper I wouldn't. If it was a regular tipper who was kinda creepy I would. And so on and so on.

 

[Wolf_3_5_9]

I would think immediately banning him would provoke the same response, if he’s the type of douchebag to do it.

FWIW, I would never consider anything like that. I closed the webpage as soon as I realized what I had found, and I have already forgotten what her real name is. Knowing it, for me, only dilutes the fantasy experience - like the "Colliding Worlds" in another thread going on around here. But unfortunately, there is no reason for her or anyone else to think that I am not full of BS - I'm just an anon on the internet, after all.

The thing that I keep thinking is that if one is truly a douchebag, he could just never disclose it - let the info continue to exist on the web - all the while continue interacting with the model as usual. On the other hand, doing the right thing and telling her runs the risk of an immediate ban. It seems that the dynamic skews toward the model never finding out if the member is only looking out for himself. It seems like this is an unfortunate situation where there is no definite win-win scenario, or am I not considering something? Or is that just the unfortunate reality of it?

I also considered the option of disclosing it anonymously - via a new account - but decided against it in the end. It seemed unfair, as she wouldn't have the option of banning if that is her preferred action, nor would it provide a sort of closure - in that any member in her room might be "the guy" who knows, which could be anxiety-inducing.

 

[Mila_]

The thing that I keep thinking is that if one is truly a douchebag, he could just never disclose it - let the info continue to exist on the web - all the while continue interacting with the model as usual. On the other hand, doing the right thing and telling her runs the risk of an immediate ban. It seems that the dynamic skews toward the model never finding out if the member is only looking out for himself. It seems like this is an unfortunate situation where there is no definite win-win scenario, or am I not considering something? Or is that just the unfortunate reality of it?

You are right, it is unfortunate, the good guys get punished for the bad apple behavior, but it is what it is. I mean, there is no "fuckface" test available online that you can take to prove to her that your heart is in the right place. On the other hand the member who tells the model about these security holes is not always all that altruistic, in my experience members who do this sort of thing are often looking for some sort of recognition, and "nice guy syndrome" men are the first ones to fuck you over when they don't get what they think they deserve out of you. (I am not saying you belong to any of these groups, you could be a terrific human, I am only describing a pattern)

 

[Moffle]

I think it would depend how much time and effort were required to "find" this personal information and just how likely it was you found it innocently i.e. would the model think you drifting into stalker territory?

If it's a question of just clicking on the links she/he has publically posted and ending up somewhere personal I would tell them immediately and would be disappointed at a ban to be honest (although I fully accept that if I went on to be an asshole about what I had seen I would deserve a ban or worse).

 

[Fatquack]

One of my favourite models once accidentally posted her address on snapchat. I contacted her and she removed it before anyone else saw it. She was very glad I did that.