As this is to be my first post (besides my introduction), here on AmberCutie's forum, I figure that I should make it count.
Here goes:
I've seen and heard the term 'vanilla sex' tossed about with alarming regularity, and I'd just like to lodge a formal complaint. There's nothing 'plain' about vanilla, and if you're having uninteresting sex, with or without a partner(s), you're doing it WRONG!
The term 'vanilla' has somehow become synonymous with 'bland', 'boring', and 'pedestrian', and it's a crying shame. The vanilla bean is one of the most difficult to grow, expensive, and complex, spices known. As someone who spent twenty years working with some of the best chefs and bakers in my little cornter of the world, I can confidently tell you that vanilla is anything but plain.
If you're interested: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V97th9ixh7o http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vanilla
Now let's talk about sex for a few minutes. And for purposes of this argument I include the simplest forms of manual masturbation to the most involved sexual practices, everything in between, and anything conceivably beyond. Regardless of the motivation for, and method of, sexual activity we're forced to be 'in the moment', as our needs and desires are constantly changing. Accepting that, then physical, mental, and/or emotional, exploration and discovery (of ourselves and/or partner) is required if we're to acheive climax, or failing that, anything resembling satisfaction. Given this, I can't believe, for a moment, that sex should be allowed to be defined as 'boring' (and if it is, somebody please hunt me down and put me out of my misery, as life and all it's passions will have lost all meaning).
So, I submit to you, that not only is the term 'vanilla sex' misused but that there is NO SUCH THING (unless, of course, ice cream is indeed involved)!
Now it's your turn, everyone. Please, support or rebuff the argument as you see fit, or maybe pick apart another abused phrase. I'm here to learn.
Here goes:
I've seen and heard the term 'vanilla sex' tossed about with alarming regularity, and I'd just like to lodge a formal complaint. There's nothing 'plain' about vanilla, and if you're having uninteresting sex, with or without a partner(s), you're doing it WRONG!
The term 'vanilla' has somehow become synonymous with 'bland', 'boring', and 'pedestrian', and it's a crying shame. The vanilla bean is one of the most difficult to grow, expensive, and complex, spices known. As someone who spent twenty years working with some of the best chefs and bakers in my little cornter of the world, I can confidently tell you that vanilla is anything but plain.
If you're interested: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V97th9ixh7o http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vanilla
Now let's talk about sex for a few minutes. And for purposes of this argument I include the simplest forms of manual masturbation to the most involved sexual practices, everything in between, and anything conceivably beyond. Regardless of the motivation for, and method of, sexual activity we're forced to be 'in the moment', as our needs and desires are constantly changing. Accepting that, then physical, mental, and/or emotional, exploration and discovery (of ourselves and/or partner) is required if we're to acheive climax, or failing that, anything resembling satisfaction. Given this, I can't believe, for a moment, that sex should be allowed to be defined as 'boring' (and if it is, somebody please hunt me down and put me out of my misery, as life and all it's passions will have lost all meaning).
So, I submit to you, that not only is the term 'vanilla sex' misused but that there is NO SUCH THING (unless, of course, ice cream is indeed involved)!
Now it's your turn, everyone. Please, support or rebuff the argument as you see fit, or maybe pick apart another abused phrase. I'm here to learn.
