Question regarding oral sex

[eyeteach]

Let me cut to the chase here, this question is for the female cam models and other females on this forum. What are the yay's and nay's for you when receiving oral sex? What are the things you enjoy having done to you during oral and, conversely, what are the "Don't fucking do that shit again!" traits?

Please educate me, thanks...

 

[KudosKids]

I'm not a model nor do I have a vagina. But lets just say I've done that quite alot. Honestly, there really isn't just one way to do it. Every girl is different. They all like it in different ways. I've met girls that don't even like it. So your just going to have to be open with your partner and let her direct you on what she likes.

 

[Camgirl]

Agree with Kudo. All women's vaginas are built differently and they all like different things. Some may not like it at all.

The only thing that might be somewhat universal is the skill of paying attention to body language. Once you get the indication that you are doing something right, don't change it. For me that is usually the most frustrating element of oral sex.

Also, 69 is fun for foreplay, but typically I can not have an orgasm from it because I am too focused on what I am doing.

 

[SoniaSilk]

Agree with both previous posts.
And as a lesbian I could reinforce that: every girl is different, thats not bullshit. You have many pussy types, really, and each of them will respond in a different way.

So, ask her! Make it sexy, ask for her instructions in the middle of a dirty talk thing ("do u like it when i suck it hard? do you prefer when i lick it gently?", not good but you got the idea).
This technique would be flawless IF girls knew what they like. The thing is I personally took almost 10 years of active sex life to get good oral sex and you just cant know what you like if you never had what you like.
In that case I would recommend a playful "lets find it out" without the pressure of orgasming during oral sex. So first of all find out about her favorite way of having an orgasm, then play the explorer thing and if it goes fine but not extremelly great enough for her to cum, just make her cum the way she loves it.

Think thats all, hope i was helpful.

 

[LilyMarie]

Something that spontaneously came to my mind:
Please, please always ask before pulling up the clitoral hood and licking the clit directly. Mine is way too sensitive for that and I might have accidentally kneed a guy in the face who did a couple years ago, because the sensation was so unbearable
I guess it can be compared to stimulating the head of your cock the second after you came, when you don't watch to touch it at all?
I seriously can't handle the clit being stimulated directly, under the hood. Just the thought of it makes me cringe.
I know some girls actually like that, but definitely not all of them. So just ask. Or don't pull the hood up.


Like Camgirl, 69 isn't for me, either. I can't cum when I'm concentrating on giving efficient head at the same time :-D

Some other stuff, all personal experience:

- don't press the girl's thighs down to make more space for yourself, that can get really painful if she doesn't have strong thigh muscles
- don't motorboat the pussy (no kidding, one guy did that to me once, I burst out laughing and the sex was over)
- it's nice to start off by licking/sucking on the labia too, but once you've started focusing on the clit, focus on it and don't go back to the outer regions again. Unless you just want to tease her and don't want her to actually cum. Nothing's more frustrating than being about to cum after some focused clit-licking, and suddenly the guy doesn't care about the clit anymore and does things to your labia instead. :roll:

 

[Jessi]

You need to ask the person. Its SO individual. If she's not communicating well, tell her flat out "I want to get you off, so guide me here".

 

[NerdyBBW]

Something that spontaneously came to my mind:
Please, please always ask before pulling up the clitoral hood and licking the clit directly. Mine is way too sensitive for that and I might have accidentally kneed a guy in the face who did a couple years ago, because the sensation was so unbearable
I guess it can be compared to stimulating the head of your cock the second after you came, when you don't watch to touch it at all?
I seriously can't handle the clit being stimulated directly, under the hood. Just the thought of it makes me cringe.
I know some girls actually like that, but definitely not all of them. So just ask. Or don't pull the hood up.

Uhm yeah this! Outside the hood is best for me too. My boyfriend likes to try and rub it directly and it doesnt feel good at all. In fact the sensitivity is so intense it hurts sometimes.


Something I like that my byfriend does is when he thrusts his tongue in and out it feels so amazing, because the first inch of my opening is really sensitive.

 

[Rose]

Step 1: ask if she would like you to go down on her
Step 2: do NOT proceed until she says yes or no
If she says yes, proceed. If she says no, respect it.

I have a huge thing with spit and tongues so receiving oral is my absolute biggest turn off of all time. The thought of receiving it, from anyone at any time anywhere, makes my stomach turn and dries me up faster than laying spread eagle under the sun. If your potential partner gives any indication of those types of feelings, don't push the matter or you may find yourself trying to couple with a sandpaper vagina. :shock: :?

 

[Jessi]

Oh and dont do that weird tongue-hanging-out-your-mouth flicky thing they always show in porn. That...doesnt really do anything in my experience.

 

[BarbieLuv]

I have a huge thing with spit and tongues so receiving oral is my absolute biggest turn off of all time. The thought of receiving it, from anyone at any time anywhere, makes my stomach turn and dries me up faster than laying spread eagle under the sun.

Receiving oral from anyone of either gender just grosses me out completely and will completely turn me off/stop the sexy times immediately. It's just so slimy and icky, makes a horrible mess, and doesn't even feel good to boot... Just no. ukeright:

While swinging, I would tell new partners that I didn't like it and EVERY SINGLE MALE PARTNER was like "Oh bb, you obviously haven't had the right kind, let me just tickle your lady bits for a while" like their mouth must be the most magical instrument of pleasure ever. So annoying. Yeah dude, I haven't liked it my entire life, but obviously you're the special one. This was before I started camming, but now they remind me of those guys that pretend to lick pussy during C2C and just end up looking stupid/making the model want to barf. :roll:

 

[Rose]

I have a huge thing with spit and tongues so receiving oral is my absolute biggest turn off of all time. The thought of receiving it, from anyone at any time anywhere, makes my stomach turn and dries me up faster than laying spread eagle under the sun.

Receiving oral from anyone of either gender just grosses me out completely and will completely turn me off/stop the sexy times immediately. It's just so slimy and icky, makes a horrible mess, and doesn't even feel good to boot... Just no. ukeright:

While swinging, I would tell new partners that I didn't like it and EVERY SINGLE MALE PARTNER was like "Oh bb, you obviously haven't had the right kind, let me just tickle your lady bits for a while" like their mouth must be the most magical instrument of pleasure ever. So annoying. Yeah dude, I haven't liked it my entire life, but obviously you're the special one. This was before I started camming, but now they remind me of those guys that pretend to lick pussy during C2C and just end up looking stupid/making the model want to barf. :roll:

Sounds like my experiences! Ugh, just no, please no, stop now, don't pass go because you will not collect money or an orgasm. :lol:

I don't mind watching it or giving it, just please never ever try to give it or you'll be blacklisted in my black book.

 

[Alexandra Cole]

I love oral.

When it's amazing, I get lost in it, so I'm never entirely sure what they're doing right. I can try to ballpark a few guesses, though, if you bear in mind that every woman is different and whatever I say might need to be taken with a grain of salt.

On the whole, the general state of my clit depends on how turned on I am. Early on, it's hypersensitive, so touch needs to be gentle. If it's not gentle, it's either uncomfortable or painful - I'd compare it to rubbing your dick with a loofah immediately after an orgasm. The more turned on I am, the less gentle it has to be.

Like any part of the body, no matter how good it feels, it can be desensitized by repetition. So if it's the exact same movement, over and over, without pause and for a really long time, it can be numbing, especially if it's aggressive. What's amazing is something that feels a bit like being kissed, and not the kiss-your-mom-on-the-cheek kind of kiss but the god-I-want-you-so-much kind of kiss. Suction is good, direct and indirect licking are good (I'm half-guessing here - I can't always tell what's going on down there), or some combination of the above. Pressure can also be good. And it doesn't just have to be the clit. The area around the clit feels great, and the lips. Penetration, especially once I'm close to the edge, is amazing. I love fingers. That usually does me in.

If I'm close - like, really, really close - don't stop. That's when repetition is a good thing.

If I'm not at the edge of an orgasm, it's okay to stop and start. Oral is mindbending foreplay for me. It turns me on very, very quickly, so after a little oral, pretty much everything feels orgasmic. Kissing, for example. Any sort of touching. But I've also come over and over from oral alone, and if that's something you're into, I'd just bear in mind that immediately after an orgasm, you need to be gentle again. Or gentle-ish. And I'd wager that some women, maybe most women, would need you to pull back altogether and focus on something else for a bit.

But, like everyone's said, women vary.

 

[LailaBaise]

Thanks Alexandra.

 

[JimsX]

Oh and dont do that weird tongue-hanging-out-your-mouth flicky thing they always show in porn. That...doesnt really do anything in my experience.

Years of practice wasted!! :crybaby:

 

[SNATCH]

Let me cut to the chase here, this question is for the female cam models and other females on this forum. What are the yay's and nay's for you when receiving oral sex? What are the things you enjoy having done to you during oral and, conversely, what are the "Don't fucking do that shit again!" traits?

Please educate me, thanks...

As everyone has said, each individual has difference preferences. Def asking, && paying to body language is a must!

I love love LOVE teasing. In the beginning. Ha. Kissing, sucking, licking the outer labia/vulva is always a nice way to get me going. I do NOT like direct tounge on my clit. Mine's far too sensitive for that.. Unless it's done like, barely touching the tip of the tongue to my clit, then sometimes that's okay, but it seriously just depends on the day/my mood.

I like having my clit sucked on. Not like you're trying to suck something out of a straw that's stuck in the straw, but gently, sensually... I can't think too much of how to describe this, ha.

My biggest issue for oral, esp when trying to orgasm, is I need steady strokes of the tongue/fingers. Not crazy fast, let's go hard type of stuff. Except, if I'm using a vibrator, I like to have it pressed down more into my clit, rather than just resting on it.

A few things that are a no-go for me, && can really ruin the mood...

Slapping my pussy, or clit. WHAT THE SERIOUS FUCK. I had a guy slap my clit once, && I'm pretty sure I kicked him in the nose. Not really on purpose, but that shit fucking hurt man. His idiotic response was "But, I've seen it in a lot of porn before..." - smh.

I do not like having my legs touching anything but whatever I'm laying on [for instance the bed?] or having them draped over someone elses. The only exception is in the 69 position, but even then it's not truly ideal for me to get comfortable && cum that way.

I prefer a one finger insertion into my pussy, rather than a guy trying to shove multiple fingers in there. It just feels better for me.

 

[annamaytiddies]

1) First thing's first: When licking the clit, do so with a FLAT tongue. Pretend you're licking a lollipop! It feels a hundred times better than when you stiffen your tongue.

2) Another good one is genuinely enjoying it. Moaning like you haven't ever tasted anything so good.

3) Eye contact is essential for me. Just seeing a pair of eyes looking up at you, filled with lust and pure excitement.

4) Don't neglect other parts of her body: It feels amazing when my boobs are played with at the same time, or stroking my stomach or thighs.

But like all the others say, it's truly down to preference. These are just pointers that I personally love! :mrgreen:

 

[Kassie_Lynn]

Personally, I'm kind of the opposite when it comes to sex and receiving oral (or even foreplay).
I can handle a cock being rough down there, but for some reason teeth/a tongue or fingers being rough down there is just a HUGE no-no!
Overall, being gentle in pretty much any aspect works for me.
Tongue-fucking is just :angel1: though.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

If she tries to break your neck with her thighs or belts you in the forehead with a shoe chances are you are doing it wrong.

 

[ThePrincessLuxy]

I really hate nibbling and biting down there. It is not sexy nor does it feel good.

 

[Pretty_Polly]

One of the main things for me that makes all the difference to good oral is it the guys supports my legs while he's down there. If I've had the up for a really long time I start focusing on that rather than everything he's busy doing. So if he holds them up with me, or gets me to rest the, on his back then my brain is free to focus on the good stuff!!