Privates: To Cam or Not To Cam

[DuoShi]

Curious about a few things that I am.

Models,

What's your stance on viewing a member's cam during private? Does a majority of your privates consist of the member having his/her cam on?

Members,

How do you feel about having your cam on during a private? If you don't like having your cam on, do you find it harder to connect with a model during a private?

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I generally don't like having my cam on during privates or any other sexy times. I haven't had an issue so far with privates being horrible, but I have had a few privates where it took a little while to "get in the groove".

 

[Gen]

I really generally like seeing a member's cam, it's fun BUT the vast majority of members have terrible webcams and no lights so you essentially see about six pixels moving around, and then the guy asks if you like what you see and you just giggle. I also find microphones mess up because you moan and then he says something and you're like "what??" and then you interrupt each other forever, hahah.

Usually I get a bit shy at first when I see a guy on cam but afterwards I start to enjoy it. It also means you're not constantly going "....is this okay" when he's silent for a while, because you can see he's watching

 

[Guest12345]

I only C2C in privates if:

1. Model asks me to turn on cam in private

2. We have C2C chemistry in public chat first. E.g. she's into/doesn't mind my look, C2C is fun for both of us, and it generally enhances the experience for both of us. Much like real life personality is different than chat box personality, C2C personality is another different dynamic.

I also find microphones mess up because you moan and then he says something and you're like "what??" and then you interrupt each other forever, hahah.

It also means you're not constantly going "....is this okay" when he's silent for a while, because you can see he's watching

+1,000,000 to these 2 points.

- C2C mics don't work at all with the lag (at least on MFC). The convo just gets stuttered as you accidentally talk over each other, or you feel really awkward waiting extended periods of time to account for the lag. Also, if you don't wear headphones, you hear the echo of your voice which adds in another vector of weirdness.

- I've found models like getting some feedback during privates and non-verbal facial reactions tend to get the point across better than typing out what you feel. You can also get a heightened sense of connection when you you get in a "zone" together with no typing or the model checking in with you.

There's no guarantee C2C will enhance privates, but when they do and you have C2C chemistry with a model, it makes the privates have an intensely more "real" feel.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I'd rather see evidence that the guy is enjoying himself, instead of him just typing "MMMMMMMMM" numerous times.

And no mic. Please. Everyone who turns their mic on makes me want to end the show right there. One of three things happens:
1) Super loud TV in the background. And I can't even discern individual words, over a crappy mic, it's just noise, and it's so awful to hear.
2) Dude has input cranked up, and leans as close to the mic as possible, while yelling into it like an old person yelling into the phone. Ow, my poor eardrums.
3) Horrendous feedback. Hearing myself answer a question while the guy is trying to ask another one makes it really difficult to pick out his words. Bonus points for suck if I can hear his own delayed voice coming out of his speakers because my mic picked it up coming out of my speakers.

I've had enough bad mic experiences that, as soon as someone turns their cam on, I hit the mute button on my computer. I'm not even taking a risk that the guy's turning his mic on.

 

[SexySteph]

I don't mind cam to cam at all. It helps me to see that he's enjoying himself! Having the mic on makes me BEYOND uncomfortable though. It's too intimate for me and makes me feel very icky. Idk why. It's just too much.

But at the same time, I do Skype dates that are hanging out chatting only and I prefer to hear their voice in those casual scenarios because it's interesting to hear what they sound like and makes conversation flow better.

 

[AerynShade]

For the love of pie guys, stop turning your mic on. It just never quite works properly and weirds me out big time.

I really only want a guy to turn his cam on if it's a sph show or a sissy showing off his pretty lingerie.

 

[Empress Mika]

Ok, I'm a little weird but figured I'd share anyway XD I enjoy cam-to-cam with voice but most of my privates are talking. It's great to be able to respond via voice (despite any lag on MFC, which kind of makes it funny in its own way) instead of me talking and waiting for a typed response. It really stands out because we can't do that in free or group chat. I love it. What I really find awkward are those that turn their cam on and it's only of their man parts X_X Like... do you have a face or...? Ahhhhh!

 

[CherryChu]

It's something I really like if I really like it, if that makes sense... it's sort of an extra degree of intimacy - like you might not enjoy hugging a total stranger or kissing someone you're not attracted to, but if you're into the person, then hugs and kisses are awesome. So I usually say I only watch cams in privates, and only do privates with people I've spoken to at least a bit. I'd imagine if I'm not attracted to someone then I'd just not really focus on their cam while I'm doing my thing, but there's always a risk that they might be so much not what I'm into that it ruins the show and that's no fun for either of us. So I try to get a feel for the person first. But assuming all's well there (and it's not a hugely picky thing - I don't only watch cams for Johnny Depp lookalikes or people who can spout poetic compliments or something lol) then I quite like it. Maybe I've just been lucky so far, but the cams I've seen as of yet have either just been meh, not totally exciting but not terrible, or I've liked it. I like to be wanted so one thing that's guaranteed, no matter who's on the other end, is that if they're enjoying it, I'll enjoy that. Part of what I like about camming is being able to share a genuine part of my sexuality and when you have that chemistry with someone it's nice to be able to see them too. I feel like doing a public cumshow is more about what I want, because I can't please everyone and because I'll have already had my tokens for it and everyone involved should understand that I run the show (literally). So I ignore chat mostly. But in a private, they're paying for my time specifically so it needs to be tailored more to what they want. I like and need that feedback so I like to see them enjoy themselves. Also I guess my submissive streak just likes it on a pervy level ha.

Mics though, I think I've tried that once and it was a pretty casual start so we just kind of laughed at the echoes and feedback then turned it off. Gptta admit, the sound of my own voice is not my biggest turn-on =p I agree, it'd probably be nice if it actually worked (especially as like I said I'm pretty submissive by nature so I tend to take privates from guys who like to be dominant and give instructions, which is easier if you don't have to type/read) but so far it just doesn't. I think if I was doing a casual Skype date or something like that where I could wear earphones and tell them how the sound quality is so far and make adjustments then I'd have their mic on, but otherwise probably not. That and it's another risk you take that the member on the other end may say something that weirds you out - maybe if I'd been doing this for ages I'd be more the type to just switch all of that off and go into autopilot ha but for now I like to try to find at least a little bit of genuine chemistry so that I can have genuine enjoyment

 

[Shaun__]

Having my cam on if I am masturbating is just too weird for me to do. Walking around my house while I happen to be naked afterwards or before, and chatting on Skype does not bother me though.

 

[DuoShi]

I'd imagine if I'm not attracted to someone then I'd just not really focus on their cam while I'm doing my thing, but there's always a risk that they might be so much not what I'm into that it ruins the show and that's no fun for either of us.

That's another reason I don't turn on my cam. I get so worried about whether the model finds me attractive, since my lower half isn't the best thing ever. I won a Skype for staying in a camathon for the entire duration. The model and I chatted for like 1.5 hours without me even thinking about it. I thanked her later in a private tip note, because I felt like that was the most confidence boosting experience out of the 5 years I've been watching cams.

 

[Ambers Troll]

Cam 2 Cam I reserve for rarely, as my chance to show off a bit to someone I have known a long time. I have fun when I do it, but with my connection and distance from the model's country it creates quite a bit of lag and the focus on showing yourself off right does detract from just enjoying yourself.
Most of my private experiences (95%) are without cam on. I want to focus on the model, not on myself. I actually find it easier to connect with the model without cam on simply because all my attention is on her, but perhaps that is just cam 2 cam experience I am missing.

 

[summerale]

I only private with one model that I'm really comfortable talking to and connect with. I know she wants me to turn on my cam when we do privates, but I'm shy and rarely do. I have no issue turning on my cam randomly in rooms and if models watch me just clicking around or eating, I don't care, but private time is different to me for some reason.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

I don't mind cam to cam at all. It helps me to see that he's enjoying himself! Having the mic on makes me BEYOND uncomfortable though. It's too intimate for me and makes me feel very icky. Idk why. It's just too much.

But at the same time, I do Skype dates that are hanging out chatting only and I prefer to hear their voice in those casual scenarios because it's interesting to hear what they sound like and makes conversation flow better.

I'm one of the members Gen described, my webcam is official ancient, my lighting sucks, and the cam is always on my face for a variety of reason, so I don't care that much about having the cam on or not. But I really do want to talk to the model. I don't direct much after I state want I want but one handed typing is hard and talking is just more natural. The audio on MFC is pretty awful which is why I really don't like MFC privates, and at $280/hour (my cost) I expect more. On the other hand Skype was designed for communication and it is much more natural.

 

[Protocosmo]

To me, a private without cam to cam is pointless. Otherwise, I could simply watch a recorded porno. I'm fairly comfortable with my body, though. It certainly helps encourage me to keep up with exercise! My only issue is that the lighting in my bedroom isn't that great. Never tried sound and I'm not about to from how I've heard it works on MFC. One handed typing is a bummer but I can get enough across with body language.

I do kind of have problems with having my cam on during regular chat just cause the model wants to see me. Mostly due to being weirded out by having somebody watch my silent cam while I have a resting bitch face broken up by the occasional chuckle.

 

[Reina Lynn]

I really like cam-2-cam, and I also like voice, whether that's on the phone or via Skype. As mentioned, the mic feature through the "big box" camsites is of poor quality, so Skype is far superior for voice/cam chatting.

I'm pretty amenable to whatever members want. I've never been turned off by a cam, and I've been plenty turned on by being able to see the person I'm enjoying time with. I like the one-on-one connection of privates, whether the man's cam is turned on or not.

 

[Leon_Omega]

For privates, I have yet to turn my cam on because I only really go private when I'm horny and I'm not that comfortable masturbating in front of someone who's not in the room with me. It also doesn't help that when I do go private, I'll be in a place where my lighting is horrible. Well, that and the fact that I don;t think I've gone private for over a year, meaning I was still 50% bigger than I am now and disproportionately more insecure about my looks.

I do, however, LOVE hangouts via Skype where we just sit back and chat. It gives me a chance to actually set up a decent spot where lighting isn't a problem (and coincidentally gives me a good use for this giant top hat I have).

 

[NerdieBirdie]

Hate it. It is 95% of the reason I never Skyped. Its evokes too much anxiety.