Porn Addiction

[Guy]

Have you ever known someone who suffered from porn addiction?

 

[Sevrin]

Does visiting ACF daily, and sometimes more than once a day, count as a porn addiction?

 

[Violet Dawn]

Yes, actually a few people. One was a good friend of mine, and he suffered a lot from it. I think the main part that caused his addiction was the more he tried to avoid it. Which seems to be the issue with every single porn addict I've ever known. They thought porn was gross and wrong but found themselves addicted to it simply because they tried to get so far away from it. Really sad, honestly.

 

[Guy]

Yes, actually a few people. One was a good friend of mine, and he suffered a lot from it. I think the main part that caused his addiction was the more he tried to avoid it. Which seems to be the issue with every single porn addict I've ever known. They thought porn was gross and wrong but found themselves addicted to it simply because they tried to get so far away from it. Really sad, honestly.

Why did they think it was gross and wrong?

 

[Violet Dawn]

It depends on the person, those specific guys were intensely religious and thought it was sinful. But I've heard other non-porn addicted guys give perspectives about them not liking it for being exploitative to the women. So some guys don't like it because they feel it hurts them, some don't like it because they feel it hurts the girls. Both are understandable but can be taken to the extreme.

 

[Guy]

It depends on the person, those specific guys were intensely religious and thought it was sinful. But I've heard other non-porn addicted guys give perspectives about them not liking it for being exploitative to the women. So some guys don't like it because they feel it hurts them, some don't like it because they feel it hurts the girls. Both are understandable but can be taken to the extreme.

I think that conservative christians are a lot more likely to get addicted to porn because they are sexually repressed. When I looked up pornography addiction support groups on Google, almost all of them were faith based.

 

[Violet Dawn]

Yeah, lmao. I'll agree on that. Luckily there are some legitimate ones for people with legitimate addictions. I feel like religious groups also heavily over-exaggerate what a porn addiction is.

 

[Kokoro]

Before I started camming, I would watch porn for maybe 5 hours a day during weekends or holidays. On weeknights, maybe 1-2 hours. I'd skip classes and skip hang out time with friends to watch porn. Even now I'll stop editing my own porn to go watch porn and end up wasting a bunch of my time. I try not to do this too much because I waste time doing this when I could be making money. I think it's difficult sometimes to not give in and watch porn when I'm surrounded by porn all the time. Most days I'll still spend about an hour of my day watching porn. I don't necessarily think I have an addiction. Not anymore anyways. Since I've been in the industry I've felt less bad for watching so much porn. I'm not hurting anyone now by doing it. My fiance watches a lot of porn too and he's cool with me camming and everything. So I feel like me watching porn all the time is harmless. I just need to wait and watch it when I'm not supposed to be working.

My mom claims my father was a porn addict. He had Cinemax porn on the DVR when I still lived with him. He also had a shit ton of playboy mags in the basement that he saved up over the years. I don't think he was addicted to porn though like my mom says. She tends over exaggerate everything when it comes to my dad. However he was addicted to things like online gambling, so who knows. My mom thinks that my dad's porn addiction lead to me doing camming because I was influenced by it. That totally isn't true, but w/e. I think my mom had issues with my dad's sexual likings because she's very vanilla and doesn't really like sex too much. My dad's just a horn dog and she saw that as a problem.

On a related note regarding all those social media accounts dealing with porn addiction, they twist the truth when it comes to porn and addiction. Earlier I read something by one of those 'porn kills love' twitter accounts that said that by clicking on porn you're supporting human trafficking, which we all know is not true in the slightest. Honestly, reading that kind of stuff makes my blood boil. Human trafficking is disgusting and I, nor any other adult worker or porn fan that I know support it. They also tweeted something about watching porn not being normal or whatever.

 

[AutumnDayKink]

I think that there's a very fine line between "watching a lot of porn regularly" and "addicted to porn." A slippery slope sort of thing. I've never, to my knowledge, known anyone with a genuine porn addiction. I believe that love, sex, and porn can all go together in a perfectly healthy way - in moderation.

 

[Mikey_P]

I find porn to be quite boring, especially the studio stuff. It becomes more directed sex performance than 'real' sex and the fakeness turns me off. I prefer amateur stuff but I only watch porn like once every 8 weeks or so.

I think that when I was younger 15-20, I did have a bit of a masturbation addiction, but I'm thinking most guys that age do. It would make me late for school and work at times.

 

[AriaAnderson]

Ashe Maree said something the other day on Twitter like "there are people who are addicted to eating toilet paper, that doesn't mean toilet paper is addicting" I totally think that there are people addicted to porn, but I don't think that porn is inherently addicting.

 

[Lelo1]

Well there are compulsions and there are addictions. Food & Sex falls into an interesting category because you need food. And reproduction is a normal part of the human life cycle.

When people talk about sex addiction. I think they're talking about the whole addictive cycle. Regardless of what the person is addicted to, they binge. There is a loss of control; they're putting themselves at risk.

 

[Influenced]

Yeah I know a few people that do and now go to support groups for it because of their personal religion that they have converted to.
He says its harder than quitting smoking because its a natural part of what we do as humans even though I partially disagree with that statement
sex is yes but pornography is not all "natural" as he termed it, but I get off point, yes and he is still struggling with it after a year however
support groups and staying with it, and password protecting his pc by his wife etc have helped him quite a lot he says the longer he stays away
from it the better it gets.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

One of my biggest ex-regulars is a recovering sex addict, which included porn. It was incredibly heartbreaking to see what the addiction had done to his life. I was not aware of it until it was too late for me to do anything to help, and he was never allowed to speak to me again. Which sucked for both of us, beacuse I would have liked to have been his friend and I never would have allowed him to spend a dime on me again. He spent his childrens college fund on me and 2 other models, cheated on his wife, placed her in so many unsafe sexual situations... he really did some awful things. He lost his family, his job, his home.. the entire thing traumatized me so much, I had to work through like where was i personally responsible. It gave me the oportunity to develop a really clear personal code of ethics when it came to providing service to people online who might be addicts.

I also had to deal with a few when I was working at a video store with a large adult selection in my late teens. SOmetimes they would come in with a counsellor or doctor and ask us to block their accounts. I remember this one man that would come in and do circles in the store... trying to avoid going in that room, talkign to himself..then go in... 'just to look at teh covers' etc.

 

[MrSwoob]

I think that conservative christians are a lot more likely to get addicted to porn because they are sexually repressed. When I looked up pornography addiction support groups on Google, almost all of them were faith based.

Porn addiction is a form of sexual addiction. It is an addiction, an addiction is anything that interferes with your social life, relationships, school or work. What defines the addiction is the negative affect.

 

[AliciaLeigh]

Saw this article a few weeks ago and thought I'd share:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201307/your-brain-porn-its-not-addictive

And it led me to another article:
http://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/04/pornography.aspx

Thoughts?

 

[shylurkerdude]

Ashe Maree said something the other day on Twitter like "there are people who are addicted to eating toilet paper, that doesn't mean toilet paper is addicting" I totally think that there are people addicted to porn, but I don't think that porn is inherently addicting.

I'm addicted to toilet paper, I use it every time I go to the bathroom. I tried to stop but I couldn't

 

[justjoinedtopost]

From personal experience, just what I have noticed...

When I was a believer, porn was an addiction. Struggled with it. Felt guilty as hell, tried to stay away, but it was like knowing that it was off limits made it even more desirable.

Deconverted, now is no big deal. I can take it or leave it.

 

[Owlrito]

Not exactly porn, but sex in general. I have an extremely high libido and even though that's not really an issue by itself, it's how my mood tends to dramatically shift when I feel my needs aren't being met. I get angry, emotional, and stressed. There are often times I spend all day thinking about it to where I'm overwhelmed unable to work or do anything productive. There have been times where I have to literally drop everything I'm doing to take care of what I feel are needs. When it comes to sex I become downright obsessive about it.

I don't think I'd ever be able to quit cold turkey concerning masturbation or subscribe to /r/nofap, but I really dislike the pressure I've put my partners through regarding sex, and I've been reevaluating my behavior and feelings when being told no or they're not in the mood and learning to not only follow their boundaries but to also respect them, no begging until I get my way, pressuring, etc, cause that shit is not cool.

Sorry if this post offends anyone, I have sought help (therapy) and oddly enough Camming has been helping me scratch that itch in a more healthy way that does not affect those around me.