Recent events have made me ponder the nature of ethics and morals between a model and her members. I'm trying to play both sides of this, and see it from both the members side and the models side.
There's no sides, models are under no obligation to disclose their relationship status any more than members are.
Nobody is entitled to anyone's "real" personal information. Ever. End of story.
It's unethical to even think you are entitled to it in the first place.
Should camgirls be completely truthful and honest whether or not they have a boyfriend or husband? Should she disclose the information to everyone openly, or only to members who ask and who are significantly contributing to her overall income?
Nope, that's not really anyone's business but the model's. Just like the relationship statuses of the members in my chat are none of my business. I don't give a fuck about your wife or girlfriend or whatever, what you do outside of the cam room is your own damn business, just like what I do outside of my shows is mine.
A reasonable argument is that a cam girl is a fantasy actress, and that she is selling an experience, not reality. A great actress never breaks character during her performance. A cam model is seen as selling her persona. On the other hand, members become emotionally fond of their favorite camgirl and learn a lot about her life. They feel a bond, a closeness, and even loved. She makes him feel like the only man in the world for her. When a member finds out she is married, a sense of trust is shattered, and feelings of betrayal set in. I can imagine a member who truly felt a connection, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars, to discover it was all a lie is utterly heart breaking.
Let's be honest, many women in the sex industry lie.
Don't even start with this sexist, whorephobic crap. People in the sex industry (OF ALL GENDERS) "lie" to protect our own safety and interest mostly. It's not like you gain or lose anything from it.
They lie about their age, they lie about the real name, they lie about where the live.
This is not unique to sex workers, or women for that matter. Not wanting to disclose your real name or location is just part of internet culture, and asking for or expecting this information is considered to be extremely rude and creepy.
What's one more lie such as being single? Everything is protected behind a persona. Or should models be completely honest right out the gate? Or should they be honest with their top tippers? I can see why a model would want to appear single, because the fantasy of being attainable is very alluring and profitable.
I really want to spam you with screenshots of all the men actively lying to me about all sorts of random shit for literally no reason except to jerk off to me believing their fantasy. Yet somehow you don't seem to have any ethical issues with this, why is that?
Models (and their families) have been stalked, threated, harassed, and doxed by members. In-person sex workers have been murdered when men find out their personal information. There are also real, life shattering consequences to being outed as a sex worker for many of us. We don't owe you shit.
I believe cam sites are a powerful example of something called parasocial relationships. With camming, it becomes more interactive and lines blur. So, I'll open for discussion. I'm eager to hear what you all think.
I've posted at length about parasocial relationships on here. The trick with keeping them from becoming toxic is just remembering that it's not real and the person you think you know probably doesn't exist just by the vey nature of how these exchanges work. Everything would still be a fantasy even if you knew their fucking social security numbers. I am 100% unavailable to anyone I meet through camming regardless of my relationship status. If they can't separate fantasy from reality that isn't my fault or my problem, and if they try to make it my problem they're getting a banhammer to the face. If a member is so smitten by me that he thinks we're in a real relationship then I'm ethically bound to give him a harsh reality check.
The actually interesting aspect of parasocial relationships in camming is when everyone knows their place and it's a wholesome, respectful, boundary enforced type of exchange. These are the kinds of relationships I seek to cultivate as a model, and I've got a twitchy trigger finger for those who try to take more from me than I am willing to give.