Offsprings

[Karli_Killcam]

Hello world!

Still waiting to get verified as a model (how long does it usually take?) :icon-cry:

Anyway, just wondering if anyone would be willing to share whether or not they have any offspring, and how they feel about camming as a mother.

I've been on a camming hiatus for a while due to a government job, but am thinking of starting up again, only now instead of one, I have two little minions. :hello2: :hello2:

I obviously wouldn't cam while they're around, it's more a matter of morals. I'm perfectly okay with it, but I'm just wondering how other models feel.

Looking for anyone and everyone's insight!

-Rin

 

[Rose]

I have a Spawn. I cam while he sleeps or plays in a separate sound proof room with his daddy.

My morals are low compared to most. I pay the bills. He doesn't care what I do for a living, too young to know the difference anyways. All Spawn cares about is that Mommy and Daddy love him, he's taken care of, he gets regular visits with his Grammaw, and that the dogs hold still while he pets them and smears banana in their fur.

Honestly, I'd pick up dog poop off the street with my bare hands if that's what I had to do to provide for Spawn. This career actually allows me to be a part of his life, and is significantly better than touching dog poop. It's fun, pays the bills, has flexible hours, and lets me be there whenever he gets sick or needs me. :twocents-02cents:

 

[Ambers Troll]

I have none myself, spoil my sisters regularly (about fortnightly for 24hours) then hand them back.

As a member found I spent time about equally with 'single' MILF's and 'singles'. Wondered about this too, from my perspective it is probably unethical for anyone with offspring to be camming, either member or model.
Having said that models with offspring tend to be so good at camming, considerate of their members, and I've always found such models easy to spend on (you know most spending goes to someone worthy of it).

Keep them sheltered from your 'evil' ways, spoil them with the rewards of camming, and always lie to them. No good will come if they learn of your wicked ways. :shhh: :lol:

 

[Rose]

Keep them sheltered from your 'evil' ways, spoil them with the rewards of camming, and always lie to them. No good will come if they learn of your wicked ways. :shhh: :lol:

Maybe you're meaning this differently than it came across, but how is camming evil or wicked? That's like implying that because someone is a parent they shouldn't masturbate or have sex.

In no way does being a parent mean you have to give up sex or sexual pleasure. Also, lying is never a good thing to do to your children. It sets a horrid example. They don't need to hear that you fuck yourself for money for random people, but lying would be worse. Tell them an age appropriate version, but don't lie. That sets an absolutely horrid example and makes it seem like you should be ashamed of camming.

 

[Ambers Troll]

Keep them sheltered from your 'evil' ways, spoil them with the rewards of camming, and always lie to them. No good will come if they learn of your wicked ways. :shhh: :lol:

Maybe you're meaning this differently than it came across, but how is camming evil or wicked? That's like implying that because someone is a parent they shouldn't masturbate or have sex.

In no way does being a parent mean you have to give up sex or sexual pleasure. Also, lying is never a good thing to do to your children. It sets a horrid example. They don't need to hear that you fuck yourself for money for random people, but lying would be worse. Tell them an age appropriate version, but don't lie. That sets an absolutely horrid example and makes it seem like you should be ashamed of camming.

Was being a little sarcastic, so it means the reverse in reality. Camming is as equally unethical as most 'straight' jobs in reality.
The wicked part I was referring to (any unethical part), could equally apply to members camming, offspring benefit/ pay the price of any of our actions either directly or indirectly.

My real view is that there are far worse jobs, and much better paid, that can potentially put your children at risk of soul damage. You can minimise any future risks to them but should they disapprove or someone important to them disapprove (potential partner, employer, friends), then they are set up for some soul damage.
The one asking about offspring was concerned, IMO camming has both ethical and unethical components to it, make sure you get the best out of it, and don't let any baggage from it transfer to them. Trading in your sexuality for the benefit of your offspring is a little unethical in the sense that they, by default, are benefitting from it too, but it is yours to trade.
:twocents-02cents:

 

[Diana Blake]

I have a three year old and I cam while she's at the sitter or her daddy watches her downstairs. The other night she heard my sybian and asked Mr. Nerd if she needed to rescue me, we had a bit of a laugh at it.

I'm a little concerned at this idea of "soul damage" and honestly, the situations you are talking about only happen if you choose not to communicate with your child; if you hide things and expect them to figure them out as they get older. As a child of this type of parenting, I can tell you that young adulthood and sexuality can be really fucking frustrating and can cause far more "soul damage" than knowing that Mommy or Daddy both had sexual urges and knew that the large majority of the human race does too and decided to capitalize on it. The fact is, commercials for fucking hamburgers are sexualized and then you're going to turn around and tell your child that sex itself isn't a product? More, that being sexual is something shameful?

If I had a partner, employer or family member that disapproved to the point that they make it known to my child, they are the ones involving an innocent. They are the ones pushing shame on a child that has no reason to feel it. And trading my sexuality? I'm giving people an experience, entertainment; if there were inherent shame in sharing ourselves with other people would artists, actors and athletes be nearly as celebrated as they are? Is it really all that different because I get the benefit of having orgasms while entertaining people? I mean, really? I give my body one of the most pleasurable and healthy things it can have while people are watching and paying for it and it's a bad thing? Entertainment is only a bad thing if people are touching their genitals?

I'm trying to raise my child to understand that some of the things that the world says are bad or shameful are not. I grew up in the South with an upper case "S" which means I wasn't in the most progressive area. And here's a big thing I want people to realize about their children...anything you hide from them anything hidden becomes either desirable or shameful. Sometimes both. If you don't talk about it your child will pick up from body language and context clues how they should feel about it and sometimes the conclusions they come to aren't the right or healthy ones.

When I developed breasts I was labeled a slut because my genetics caused me to grow something bigger than a B cup. I spent 20 years of my life afraid to wear any shirt with a collar below my collarbones. I feared cleavage because, my god, what would people think!? I prayed that people thought I was just fat instead of noticing the giant meat pillows on my chest because I just knew they'd think I was dirty and horrible if they knew I had huge boobs. No one outright told me that boobs were bad but I could tell from looks I wasn't supposed to see, tightened lips when I walked past, slightly furrowed brows...that some people thought that I was disgusting just for my breast size. In my head it was something wrong with me and I spent years thinking that way.

The first time I had sex I was certain he'd never call again because I was, obviously, such a slut. Now it's almost eight years later and we have a baby together. I don't want my daughter living the way I did as a young woman. I don't want her thinking her genitals are shameful. I don't want her thinking of boobs as a wholly sexual thing. She spent the first part of her life with one in her mouth for Christ's sake. I don't want her masturbating in the dark while wondering if she'll go to hell for it. So, no, I don't want to hide my job from my daughter. I mean, obviously, I'm not going to do it in front of her but when she's older I'll talk to her about sex, masturbation, birth control, tits, sexual preference and anything else she has questions about. If she ever decides she wants to do something similar I will teach her how to keep herself safe.

If she ever asks about Mommy's time as a camgirl I will tell her that I made money while never having to sacrifice being a close, loving, and available mother and that I had a fucking blast while doing it.

 

[Rose]

Thank you Diana. You said that so much better than I ever could.

 

[curvyredhead]

Honestly, I'd pick up dog poop off the street with my bare hands if that's what I had to do to provide for Spawn.

Good lord is this what motherhood does to you?

 

[JickyJuly]

Honestly, I'd pick up dog poop off the street with my bare hands if that's what I had to do to provide for Spawn.

Good lord is this what motherhood does to you?

Yeah. If dog poop in the hand is the grossest thing you come across in a day with a toddler, it has been a VERY good day. Hehehehe.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Keep them sheltered from your 'evil' ways, spoil them with the rewards of camming, and always lie to them. No good will come if they learn of your wicked ways. :shhh: :lol:

Maybe you're meaning this differently than it came across, but how is camming evil or wicked? That's like implying that because someone is a parent they shouldn't masturbate or have sex.

In no way does being a parent mean you have to give up sex or sexual pleasure. Also, lying is never a good thing to do to your children. It sets a horrid example. They don't need to hear that you fuck yourself for money for random people, but lying would be worse. Tell them an age appropriate version, but don't lie. That sets an absolutely horrid example and makes it seem like you should be ashamed of camming.

Was being a little sarcastic, so it means the reverse in reality. Camming is as equally unethical as most 'straight' jobs in reality.
The wicked part I was referring to (any unethical part), could equally apply to members camming, offspring benefit/ pay the price of any of our actions either directly or indirectly.

My real view is that there are far worse jobs, and much better paid, that can potentially put your children at risk of soul damage. You can minimise any future risks to them but should they disapprove or someone important to them disapprove (potential partner, employer, friends), then they are set up for some soul damage.
The one asking about offspring was concerned, IMO camming has both ethical and unethical components to it, make sure you get the best out of it, and don't let any baggage from it transfer to them. Trading in your sexuality for the benefit of your offspring is a little unethical in the sense that they, by default, are benefitting from it too, but it is yours to trade.
:twocents-02cents:

Society is fucked, and there will always be people who disapprove of sex work, but I don't think that's reason enough to not cam. Kids can be self-centred little shits (I know I was) but any "waaa, my friends found your videos online and now I'm a social pariah and you've ruined my life, waaa" attitudes will (hopefully) give way to the realisation that camming is ultimately just a job, and one that can pay very well and leave a lot of extra time for all that parenting stuff, which I hear is pretty important and beneficial for kids.

Society could also benefit from perhaps moving away from the idea that sex work means "trading in" or sacrificing sexuality, or morals or principles, or anything at all other than time and effort. Just like every other job out there. Just because somebody has paid to jerk off to your naked body doesn't mean that you've "traded in" or lost something important. To think otherwise is a strange and dangerous way to look at things, and one that feeds into society's fear of sexuality and harsh judgement of sex workers. :twocents-02cents:

 

[CallMeWilliam]

that can potentially put your children at risk of soul damage.

For a second I thought I was on Tumblr...

 

[Worship Jaclyn]

I have a three year old daughter and I was surprised how little I struggled with deciding to cam.

I know I'm doing nothing wrong. It's as simple as that. Don't forget that you can change the way your child sees the world. Just because we may have been raised with body shame and denied sexual identities doesn't mean that our children have to be raised that way. I want my daughter to own herself and to one day own her sexuality. Isn't that what most Moms want? So I see myself as a living example. I'm not camming and then feeling terrible about myself, I'm not doing it just to pay the bills and hating every second. It's work and there are bad days but overall I enjoy it and most importantly, I am the one choosing to do this with my life. That is what she is going to pay attention to.

 

[Karli_Killcam]

Thanks for all your input everyone! Not sure I'll tell my chillins about camming (maybe stripping?).

I have a while to decide, they're still young.

 

[Jessi]

Thanks for all your input everyone! Not sure I'll tell my chillins about camming (maybe stripping?).

I have a while to decide, they're still young.

I think its okay to keep to yourself, as it is a part of your personal life. You are entitled to your privacy! Just don't make it a HUGE DARK SECRET SCANDALOUS BIG DEAL.

If it ever comes up, be honest and unashamed. Hopefully they will have been raised in an environment with good sex ed and respect for women, understand the difference between porn and real life, etc.. So it won't be anymore of a big deal than "ewwww my mom has sex". How they react is going to be shaped by your attitude towards it.
Just my :twocents-02cents:

 

[Rose]

Thanks for all your input everyone! Not sure I'll tell my chillins about camming (maybe stripping?).

I have a while to decide, they're still young.

Honestly there's not really any need to. It's personal and private. You wouldn't tell your kids every time you had sex or how you had sex, camming is the same way. It's a private matter.

If they want to know how you earn money then it wouldn't be wrong to tell them an age appropriate version. Simply saying, "I talk to people online for money" should suffice.