Not letting them know their words hurt

[LadyZombie]

One night when I was camming, I had an ok audience (I'm not that interesting right now lol) well as I was conversing and having a good time showing off my mom bod (still have some left over baby weight) when all of a sudden someone comes in and asks how far along I was. I was taken a back by this but didn't let it show. I corrected him nicely and went on with the show but like deep down inside it kinda hurt? Like I know I still have a tummy and I'm working to slim down some, but I mean I didn't think I looked that big? The regulars I had love my body and it makes me feel good, but just that one comment saddened me that night. No one knows that I was sad and I didn't let it ruin my show but once I got off cam I kinda just sat on my couch and watched a movie thinking about it. He didn't know I wasn't actually pregnant, but it still made me feel some type of way. I'm over it now, this was just a thought that came back and I don't know has anyone else have something like this happen?

 

[DrNecessiter]

I've been in rooms where one thoughtless or needlessly cruel comment brings down the mood or even causes the model to log off. It sucks. I'll never understand people that bring that kind of negative energy with them.

 

[DrWangFei]

I do believe there's some people that will just go around to different rooms and make troll comments... it just baffles me why someone has to be negative like that

 

[yummybrownfox]

One night when I was camming, I had an ok audience (I'm not that interesting right now lol) well as I was conversing and having a good time showing off my mom bod (still have some left over baby weight) when all of a sudden someone comes in and asks how far along I was. I was taken a back by this but didn't let it show. I corrected him nicely and went on with the show but like deep down inside it kinda hurt? Like I know I still have a tummy and I'm working to slim down some, but I mean I didn't think I looked that big? The regulars I had love my body and it makes me feel good, but just that one comment saddened me that night. No one knows that I was sad and I didn't let it ruin my show but once I got off cam I kinda just sat on my couch and watched a movie thinking about it. He didn't know I wasn't actually pregnant, but it still made me feel some type of way. I'm over it now, this was just a thought that came back and I don't know has anyone else have something like this happen?

With the way you said he came in the room and just blurted that shit out, I'm gonna go with yeah, he's being a troll. Nothing better to do with his time than to be a dick. I was about to ask you if it's possible he entered your room, and misunderstood...and thought you were having a "Check out my hot, mom-to-be, pregnant bod!" moment? But no, I'm still gonna go with A) being a troll. Regardless, it's just a really, really bad move for a person to blurt out to a woman "How far along are you?" I mean, if you're not 100% sure that a woman is pregnant, you don't ask that question. You'd think people would learn from that Seinfeld episode.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

With the way you said he came in the room and just blurted that shit out, I'm gonna go with yeah, he's being a troll. Nothing better to do with his time than to be a dick. I was about to ask you if it's possible he entered your room, and misunderstood...and thought you were having a "Check out my hot, mom-to-be, pregnant bod!" moment? But no, I'm still gonna go with A) being a troll. Regardless, it's just a really, really bad move for a person to blurt out to a woman "How far along are you?" I mean, if you're not 100% sure that a woman is pregnant, you don't ask that question. You'd think people would learn from that Seinfeld episode.

Seen that "are you pregnant" crap several times. I think usually it is trolling.

Some may mean it as a compliment I guess. I remember seeing something along the lines of "mmm you look pregnant" in a trans room one night, which struck me as hilariously stupid.

Maybe some people just didn't have any upbringing. That asking about pregnancy stuff was one of those things my mother taught me early on. Sort of like going into a woman's purse; to this day, I don't dare do it.

 

[SMuser69]

One night when I was camming, I had an ok audience (I'm not that interesting right now lol) well as I was conversing and having a good time showing off my mom bod (still have some left over baby weight) when all of a sudden someone comes in and asks how far along I was. I was taken a back by this but didn't let it show. I corrected him nicely and went on with the show but like deep down inside it kinda hurt? Like I know I still have a tummy and I'm working to slim down some, but I mean I didn't think I looked that big? The regulars I had love my body and it makes me feel good, but just that one comment saddened me that night. No one knows that I was sad and I didn't let it ruin my show but once I got off cam I kinda just sat on my couch and watched a movie thinking about it. He didn't know I wasn't actually pregnant, but it still made me feel some type of way. I'm over it now, this was just a thought that came back and I don't know has anyone else have something like this happen?

I think you get excellent educating him on why he was incorrect rather than just being upset. I don't know how many times I hear someone complain about something they didn't like but do nothing to inform the person that they should reconsider their action. Sometimes a mistake is a mistake, sometimes it's not.

I'm not defending him but, how do you know it's your body that made him make that comment. I've made the mistake before of coming into a conversation really believing they are talking about something they in the end weren't. I'm not telling how to free or how to take the comment just it can be just as bad you assuming why he thought to say it as much as it was bad for him to make that assumption to make the comment in the first place. Nobody gets to be mind reader.

 

[faekitty]

Ouch, you didn't deserve that. I'm definitely sure your body looks fantastic so fuck that guy! People who have nothing good to say, usually don't have much going on. You have a room full of people who adore you otherwise, so I think it's nice to focus on that? ♥♥♥

I've lost about 26kgs in the past year so my body has some odd stretch marks here & there, and some guy today asked me about my non-existent liposuction scars because it was ~obvious~ I had surgery... so I kind of covered up a little, because ouch!

 

[Bocefish]

Glad to hear you're over it, but it probably isn't the last time something like that will happen. Super-Thick skin is pretty much a requirement for being a cam model. This should probably be in the models only section to help avoid other trolls targeting.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Troll. Sure, body shaming is cool. Not.

Here's the thing (with me at least), I go to rooms because I like the model.

Rooms I visit run the gamut, hot and fit, pornstar-like accentuated, milf, skinny (and those models hear a lot of shit as well), curvy, older, young, US, Romany,

I hear a lot of shit. Focus on the one's who appreciate you and screw the rest. Easy for me to say. I was not the receiver of those comments.

It's gonna happen, no matter who you are. roll with it and move on.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Aw that really sucks

It is hard sometimes not to let things people say effect us. Something I was surprised about when I started camming was that no one commented on my weight, I've always been curvy and my weight fluctuates between a stone to two stone and at that point it was at the higher end. I think I've had a few people comment on it trying to be complimentary which I've not taken as compliments. But you will get trolls, they usually have a classic comment, for me I don't think I've had the weight one mentioned, which they kind of missed out on a trick as it's where I'm sensitive. I've had all sorts though that clearly don't refer to me. The pregnant one is most likely something they went around saying to every girl they could. Unfortunately it was a sensitive spot for you.

I had something similar recently, I came on MFC for a chill session, made it clear I wasn't looking for tokens and just wanted to hang out with friends and have a catch up as I've been ill. I was having a great time and lots of friends showed up, then a new guy said a couple of things and then stated my room was shit. I banned him but I hate to say that it did change my mood a bit and made me feel a bit insecure. He was probably annoyed that I was dressed and wasn't masturbating, and he clearly wasn't going to tip, nor was he right for my room if he couldn't handle a girl chatting for the ten mins he'd been in there. But sadly, when someone's an arsehole and you're feeling a bit vulnerable it really can get to you. You are only human, and these guys who do this are clearly either socially inept or sad pathetic losers who can only get off on upsetting other people. So you win every time!

 

[Ambers Troll]

I had a pvt with a model as she cried after being called fat. One of the more memorable pvt moments for me personally.
The model was very experienced, knew that when she ate something on cam someone may make a fat comment, the comment just happened to time to the moment it would affect her.
She was upset with herself for being affected. It was cool to be with her for the recovery and to talk it through. This model was able to let it go quite easily. She did ask that when she did a show for me later on that I let her do it her way (give her full freedom) so I am guessing that there was some sensitivity for a while after.

Am reminded of another pvt experience where a model lost it because she thought the cam angle looked ugly. She cried, hit herself, and shouted at me that I wanted her looking ugly.
She was quite insecure most visits, but that one she completely lost control. Her insecurity was her nose, other than it being slightly longer than most she was one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen; one of the hottest models I have ever been with.

 

[LadyZombie]

I usually don't let trolls get to me, it's just that one night it did lol. I expect to have a lot more trolls like that to come in, that was just the first time it happened and kinda caught me off guard lol

 

[Magnolia]

I used to have a sticky note hanging off the bottom of my monitor that said "IGNORE IT." To me it meant: ignore the mean comments, ignore the stupid comments, ignore the freeloaders, ignore the glitches, ignore the dumb mistakes you made, etc. The best advice I could give is IGNORE IT. Yes, there is constructive criticism and if someone takes things too far you need to confront them, but 99% of stuff that makes you feel like shit can be totally ignored.

 

[JuliaStorm]

I have a perfectly flat tummy.
And people still come in and ask if I am pregnant.
Do not take it personally and don't doubt yourself.

The people who just come in and say insulting things out of nowhere are usually people who feel the need to bring someone down to make themselves feel better. It doesn't even have to be true or tied to reality in any way.

I know, sometimes, some words stay with us. But always remember, if you are true to yourself, it's not you, it's them!