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@Trixxi_Love and
@AutumnPage I am so glad I said something. I was worried that it would come across as bossy, but it's just really hard to read about new models suffering w stuff I also suffered with at the start, and not say something.
Here are some further tips that may or may not help;
1) I don't stay on any longer than 15 consecutive minutes without a private or a bunch of tips. I tell everyone in my room, the truth about that, and I smile politely when I say it. If I get nothing or very little (which is rare) I log off, clear the room, and wait anywhere from 10 to 60 minutes before I get back on.
2) If freeloaders PM me I ignore it, if Members who have paid me reasonably PM me, or fetish guys who sound serious in their inquiries PM me, I answer. But I won't answer all those bullshit "where are you", "how's it going tonight?" wanting to chat PMs from people I've never been paid or tipped by.
3) I will sit and bullshit and be fun in free chat, but what people don't see on the outside, is that I am only doing that because 4 to 6 guys are in there, who have already spent $100s if not $1000s on me. I don't do that if my room is full of men who have never spent, or only spent tiny amounts.
4) I'm very clear (most of the time, except for some slips with regulars from time to time) that a) my room is not about them, therapy, their lives - it's about me, and sex shows, and b) I log in because I want to have fun
and make money.
@AutumnPage I understand the British thing, I am British too. It took me over a year to learn these things, and it used to be very painful for me to cut people off. However, it is a personal insult if someone camps out in my room, and tries to use me for entertainment, therapy, company, free jerk off fodder, whatever. I make sure they know that too. Mostly they leave of their own free accord, but often a block is necessary aswell. Once the paying guys see that those guys can't hang out, then they will take over and be active. Otherwise, they are scared to interrupt, and just leave as you have noted. That behavior is very common with them.
Another option that might suit you is running consecutive GOLD shows. You could sit and chat as much as you want during your countdown, and then once you meet your goal, do the show (and stop all regular non-sex chat). Then once that one is over, you can start another one etc. If you are feeling chatty that's a great way to get that chat energy out, but also be sure to make $$$ or in your case pounds I guess. Because you can do up to a 30 minute countdown, and then just be sure to make it a fancy show worth a larger amount of GOLD. I have done that with 100 + GOLD real 10 minute orgasm and or oil GOLD shows before, and it has worked out well. But you have to cover the 30-minute countdown and make enough to be paid for that too. Or alternately do like a cheaper 6 or 10 minute countdown for a 5 or 7 minute group GOLD show.
You should not be going through what you are going through on SM. Yes, it was a bit quiet there for a few weeks, but it has picked up again.
If you really feel like you can't avoid being perfectly polite (which I totally understand being British), then a token site might be a better option as your main site. They do have a potential for higher payout anyways if a model gets really popular on them. However, I don't know how easy that is to do, or how long that takes. Trust me once you practice being firm and assertive it will become no big deal. It's possible to be firm and assertive without being impolite, and normal people recognize that. It's only weirdos and sick people (i.e. narcissists and misogynists) who freak out at that, and you really don't want those in your room hogging air time anyways. I had the same struggles, but they really can be overcome, and fairly quickly.
As well as that age-old fear that if you raise rates it will mean less regulars and less business. Everyone has it to begin with, so just don't get mired in it for a year like I did. You can overcome these thought patterns and grow your business and hourly way faster, by breaking through them. And realizing that literally, every new model has to do that, at some point.
Autumn the other thing I worry about since you remind me of myself, is that once you do get firm a lot of them might get abusive and pissy with you. That happened to me. If it does happen just block any bad tags (we all get them), and block that user, and report if it's abusive too. If it's been a while of them camping out, they are going to feel very entitled to it, and are more likely to be cruel when that privilege gets taken away from them. So don't worry about it. I am pretty sure hundreds of thousands of guys use that site, maybe millions. Once you wade through the leeches and get cutting them off out of the way, the potential for fun, happiness and prosperity are endless. And that's coming from someone who is 40, and does not look anything like a traditional cam model right now. And who charges $8.99 premium, and $6.99 exclusive. Just remember those guys target the new/ newish models, because they've already been blocked by the rest of us, so it's just kind of a necessary evil to get blocking them out of the way. It sucks, but it just kind of happens that way.
OMG my fucking book is over. Thanks for reading my novel!
Women with cosmetic surgery are beautiful too. I prefer fake tits for the most part, some do, some don't. I don't like to talk about stuff like that because I feel it causes trouble and objectifies women further, which is already a huge problem in society. I don't like it being natural set against enhanced, it's all beautiful.
