models meeting members

[tjb1022]

I've read through several topic threads that touched on the subject, and saw a couple spots where a model either said they had met a member, or knew a model that had. I've heard rumors of models that supposedly met with a regular and had sex with them, and it got me wondering what the politics of meeting a member would be. Obviously, the vast majority of models don't approach MFC like match.com, but of those that have met a member, or considered it, would you share your thoughts on the subject?

I'm sure every women on MFC is different, but what traits would a model need to see before considering meeting with one. Obviously, I'm not talking about a raffle winner, and I'm not necessarily talking about a romantic/sexual meeting either.

Understandably, trust would be the #1 trait a model would look for, but what describes trust on a site like MFC (considering we all have to take what we are told at face value)? Most models, in my experience, seem to be on the submissive side, do dominant/controlling men come off as more appealing as a "nice guy" on mfc? Does tipping, or lack of, play a part in considering meeting a member? Does a members life style in real life affect a possible meeting? If they are financial secure verses struggling or broke?

If any models have met members, what was your experience? I read one post by a model that said she met a few members early in her cam model career, and said that the members changed shortly after meeting her. Her experience was they were regularly in her room before meeting her, but either rarely logged on, or rarely went into her room after meeting her. She also went on to say they began to overwhelm her by contacting her in her real life, and made demands upon meeting with her again.

Also, within the model community of MFC, would a model be looked down on for starting a sexual/romantic relationship with a member by other models? If you did start a sexual/romantic relationship with a member, would you let the models you friends with know?

 

[Oy vey]

Let me voice an opinion, if I may. Cam models are not there to meet people, they are there to work and make money. I believe they find it a bit threatening when someone's objective is to meet them. The more someone tries to convince them that they are harmless, the creepier they look. I think the best way for guys to go is to just chat with their favorite model(s), practice their flirting skills with her, enjoy looking at her beauty and then do their hunting in the real world....or maybe I''m full of shit :twocents-02cents:

 

[Jupiter551]

Nope I think you pretty much nailed it

 

[Nordling]

Agree. Meeting with a model should be the exception, not a goal. There's no way of knowing the sanity of either a member or a model by watching pixels.

 

[Rose]

Basically what the guys said. When members push to meet up it seems extremely creepy and invasive. I wouldn't come to you at your place of work and pester you to let me have lunch with you. That would probably get you fired and it would make you very uncomfortable. Same applies with camming.

 

[Deleted member 565]

I have had a couple of members that have wanted to meet with me, and the more that they push for it the more scared of them I become. I have had to ban a couple of people that I considered to be really great friends on MFC because they just wouldn't let up about it. If she wants to meet you , she has to be the one to bring it up.

 

[tjb1022]

Understood that models aren't here to meet members. I believe that was covered with the statement "Obviously, the vast majority of models don't approach MFC like match.com", but according to the posts I read, it does go on. The topic is, in my opinion, an unspoken taboo subject on MFC and I wanted to get opinions of the models that had experience with it, or considered it.

My curiosity, and the point of my questions, is how does a model go from simply logging to make money to being willing to meet a member, and what goes threw their heads to justify that. If you've never met a member, and never would, that's fine. The point of the post wasn't to hear why you wouldn't, or that you think members that want to meet a model are creepy. It's the fact that most models seem to be of the opinion every member is a potential serial killer is partially the point of the post. What goes threw the heads of a model willing to make that leap and let someone they don't know into their life.

 

[alexa7]

he would need to be Jared Leto...
On a serious note though. Its really hard to say. In some ways maybe for me it would be quite awkward to meet someone in person who has seen the bedroom side of me. Not saying anything bad about them, and i have had some negative response in previous postings about this but I don't think that my point was read correctly. I don't think anything less of the guys on MFC as we are all real people in the world, but to me I feel like ive already given this impression that im this little sex kitten, when in reality, yes i am that , but alot of my time im just a very normal girl. Off cam I am quite shy and timid sometimes, so a member could have an issue with that. We also don't want to lead you on in anyway thinking there could be more, ex: a relationship or anything sexual. If I were to meet up with someone off of MFC I would want to know alot about them... with proof. I would be backround checking as well, and have a friend with me at said meeting. We are faced with this issue constantly, and with the nature of our job it is very easy for us to be defensive about it because we are protecting something extremely important to us, which is our lives. It is the internet and I do not think you can ever be too cautious.

 

[Sevrin]

The topic is, in my opinion, an unspoken taboo subject on MFC and I wanted to get opinions of the models that had experience with it, or considered it.

You know what the interesting thing about "unspoken taboo subjects" is? They don't get talked about.

And if any model would discuss her experiences with this subject, it would be with someone she trusts, in private. It would not be in a public forum with someone who registers here and does nothing but ask about that subject.

 

[SoTxBob]

I will assume you are not referring to the ones that escort so perhaps I can offer a tiny bit here... I know several girls that have met members outside of mfc. The common thread is time invested to build the trust. Once that is established, its pretty much like any other real world meeting with the exception that you know what each other look like naked. You may or may not have the desired ending and that member may or may not remain in your room or your real life.
I'm not even going to start on the psycho possessive guys that think a meeting is some sort of exclusivity clause that gives him some sort of rights to the girl.... I know one model that had to deal with just that.. she changed her nic several times trying to get away from him and the creep still did his best to destroy her rooms with multiple nics of his own for months after.

It does seem the "win a date with..." raffles are on the increase so perhaps you can pm a model with one of those in her past to find out the feelings upon meeting. :twocents-02cents:

 

[Jupiter551]

I suggest - tip AngelSerena (for her time) and then ask her, because I popped in her room the other night and heard her say she's thinking of starting a 'fan club' where she can meet some of her regulars in person. It wasn't about sex (she made that clear when members made jokes to that effect). It's just about getting to meet her.

 

[schlmoe]

I have met 4 people that I met via MFC. One being a model and her husband, the other two members. It took time and trust and getting to know them on MFC as well as lots of talking on skype, etc. One of the two that were members is now my boyfriend and we live together. We did not meet to have "sex" because he was a fan. We actually met in another models room under my premium account and for a long time he didn't know I was a model b/c my premium account was pretty nondescript. We became fast friends and met because we liked each other. He never tipped me prior to us dating, so tipping wasn't a factor in me meeting any of those I met. Friendship and built trust over time was.

Whether or not I am judged for this by other models, or members, I do not know. Nor do I really care.

I kind of think your situation is a little different, but I wouldn't judge you either way. I say good luck and hope you both have a happy life together! But it is a little different, because you and your BF met when you were not working. And like you say, you spent the time to get to know each other. Way different if you were getting propositioned while you were working.

Even if all the customers weren't all serial killers/rapists/cannibals, the fact of the matter is that most women don't like being hit on at work. Doesn't matter if they are a clerk, office worker, waitress, or cam-girl. For all the guys that are hoping this will happen, in 99.99% of the cases, it's not going to happen. In the miniscule chance that it might happen, let it come to you. Whether it's the waitress at your favorite pub or your favorite cam-girl, I'm pretty confident she knows how to get in touch with you to let you know how she feels.

 

[PixieDust_]

I have some great friends i met on MFC
I also talk to them on Msn all the time
But honestly i don't think i will ever meet someone in real life
I'm just scared what if?

I mean you just never know right?

But i get scared easily so maybe its just in my head haha

 

[LaceyRoyce]

The times i have met have all been initiated by me.

I ran a raffle that was to meet me. It was not for anything but hanging out and I had my boyfriend present. I also met my boyfriend and Master on MFC - I initiated EVERYTHING (he ALMOST backed out when I took him up on his "i have a couch if you need it" offer).

If I am pursued, it sets off alarm bells.

 

[SatanJonez]

If I am pursued, it sets off alarm bells.

This sums up my first meeting. My second was awesome though. I went to Chicago Sex Con & it was almost reassuring to see a regular there (we had both come for our own reasons, him to take pictures & me to just run around). Very cool dude & meeting him convinced me that if done right, hanging out with a regular can be fun as hell.

 

[Anonymous]

The great thing about camming is working from the comfort of your home at times that are convenient for you. MFC isn't Match.com. Match.com, another site that I've been on, is for people looking to make romance connections. MFC is for people wanting to enjoy good webcam chat with hot girls. It does seem like more and more models are offering members opportunities to meet them (through raffles and tips of x tokens). If that's what they choose to do, that's their decision. But if a guy comes to my room talking about "How much to meet in person, bb?," once I've told him "Sorry, I don't meet in person," he'll need to stop buggin' me about it or he'll be banned. There are other sites for guys looking to meet women in person. MFC isn't the place for it, unless you tip a model who happens to be open to meeting in person.

Also, some things to keep in mind, if you're considering meeting up with a member:

*If you were to have an argument with this person, would they be spiteful enough to return to your public chat and - in one post - announce your FULL NAME to everyone (that is, assuming you're on a first name/last name basis)? That would SUCK.

*Some people tend to act differently once they've gotten your phone number/Skype info/etc. You may find that they suddenly do not tip you anymore, yet they're texting your phone all the time.

If you end up dating someone you meet off of MFC, that could be a bit awkward too, I'd imagine.



By the way, there have been two occasions where I was seriously discussing meeting up with guys from MFC. With the first guy, I decided not to, and his "I wanna fuck as many different women as possible before I turn 30" comment was just one reason I had changed my mind. :roll:

With the other guy, he ended up quitting MFC because he said he's ashamed of himself for "not living like a Christian," and he was ashamed of himself for having such naughty thoughts of me, etc. He was a good guy, so that was actually hard for me to deal with (logging into MFC and knowing he wouldn't be on anymore).

 

[Jupiter551]

If I am pursued, it sets off alarm bells.

This sums up my first meeting. My second was awesome though. I went to Chicago Sex Con & it was almost reassuring to see a regular there (we had both come for our own reasons, him to take pictures & me to just run around). Very cool dude & meeting him convinced me that if done right, hanging out with a regular can be fun as hell.

Blame hollywood! in romantic comedies the girl WANTS you to call the airline, find out what flight she's on and chase her down at the gate!

 

[LadyLuna]

(random: I just noticed the 60000 character limit... New?)

So, my thoughts...

I've never met a member. When I first started, the idea of meeting up for a ton of money seemed... attractive. My partner whacked sense into me, and I promised him I would never meet a member. So, me actually meeting a member is out.

That said, I've debated meeting the guys in my DnD group. That has to do with the fact that I met them on MFC, I was the one who suggested we DnD together, and through our DnD sessions, and teh shit-talking before and after, we've all become rather close to each other. Oh, get us in the full group and there's a LOT that looks like none of us get along. But put any two of us together and we talk like best friends. Mostly.

We've been playing DnD together off and on since somewhere around March 2010. So that gives you a time for how long it took me to start thinking I might consider it if I hadn't made that promise.

The one guy I've met in person after meeting online... we met on IRC. We exchanged aim names. Then phone numbers. Then skype names. There was a LOT of talking going on. We got two years of talking done in about 4 months. About 7 months after meeting online, we met in person. Public place, people knowing where we were, and all that jazz.

So yeah, the fact that we met on MFC would make it take a lot longer. And the second someone starts pushing for a meeting, teh possibility of there ever being a meeting even if I decide to break the promise goes completely out the window. In fact, unless they were already getting to be a "close friend", I probably start pulling away even on cam.

 

[Jupiter551]

If you meet someone over the internet then seeing them IRL is not COMPLETELY out of the question, afterall dating websites are BIG business.

I think Alexa7 made a really good point though - it's the context. None of us are the same people when we're horny and in the bedroom as we are out in public - at least to some degree.

Part of the whole cam thing, I imagine, would be that you can explore sexual fantasies and intimate nudity with clients (total strangers) precisely BECAUSE they're total strangers.

Very few of us could or would do anything similar in front of any random member of the public who handed us a $50 note, even if they did nothing more than members on MFC do in privates - talk at you and masturbate.

So doing that, and then meeting them - awkward! Throws everything you've done into awkward retrospect too, and for some of the members they see it differently - afterall the fact that they're doing for free (fantasizing and masturbating) what they pay you to do for them which you often wouldn't otherwise do, itself points to the fact that YES, they would happily do this with you in public lol.

 

[RedHerby1]

I have contact with a few (east-europe) models with real names on both sides, facebook/skype/email. This happens mostly with non-nude models who are above 30. It works good, relaxing online friendships, like penpals. So far there where no meetings.

So no meetings in real life ? Every rule has a exception I did meet a cam model in real life, a Russian model, age 22, from the nude section of LJ, half of my age, half of my weight

To my defense, I did not really push for that, it just did happen In LJ chats she did say she was trying go get a visa for Holland, and I joked that if that happens I did want to drink a cup of coffee with her. I did not think it was for real at that time, just small talk. However, at some point in LJ chat she did say she was now in Holland. I did meet her 2 times during her 3 month stay on Holland, so sure she was not in Holland for me

We did have a 3 hour dinner with interesting talk, and I was her personal tourist guide for a day. Spending time with a 22 old, it does give a 45 old man lots of energy It was cool, but sure we where different. I can dream about getting a relation with one of those models from the beginning of this posting. That was not the case with her. Of course, as a man, it was my duty to give hints about possible bed time fun, it was completely ignored by her

 

[AedanRayne]

(random: I just noticed the 60000 character limit... New?)

:shock: I will personally stalk & shoot any person who tries to post more than 60,000 characters. I support this limit and ask that it is reduced. Thank you & have a nice day!

 

[Jupiter551]

Of course, as a man, it was my duty to give hints about possible bed time fun, it was completely ignored by her

Hahah well, you had to try

 

[lordmagellan]

(random: I just noticed the 60000 character limit... New?)

:shock: I will personally stalk & shoot any person who tries to post more than 60,000 characters. I support this limit and ask that it is reduced. Thank you & have a nice day!

So if anyone wants to have a meet-up with Aedan, get to writing.
Just keep it interesting, please.




Now where'd I put that manuscript...

 

[lolita968]

Yeah there are lots of guys asking me to meet them. Some of them are my friends too. Some guys are even offering me big amount of money to meet them and stay with them and have a sex.

But i am afraid to do that. What if he is a sadist? What if he do this and that. It's a little scary and i think it's embarrassing too.

But if i know them for some years and they invited me to have a lunch or go shopping then maybe it's ok. But dunno maybe they will get bored cause i will probably be shy enough to talk.

 

[Lacey Black]

I get asked to meet daily and I find it strange that members do not see how pushy, rude and creepy it is. Plus most act like they cannot see the risk behind doing it. IMO if a member asks to meet then they do not truly value your life at all. If there are any rare cases where a model does meet a member it should be the model initiating it and not the member begging for it.

 

[ComicOzzie]

I get asked to meet daily and I find it strange that members do not see how pushy, rude and creepy it is. Plus most act like they cannot see the risk behind doing it. IMO if a member asks to meet then they do not truly value your life at all. If there are any rare cases where a model does meet a member it should be the model initiating it and not the member begging for it.

Exactly. I see members asking a model if they can meet up with them literally 30 seconds after first entering the model's room. And then they get all whiny when the model says no.

As an aside, I have been good friends with an awesome model for about 3 months now. Last night, we were chatting on Yahoo Messenger and SHE brought up the possibility of us meeting in person at some point in the future. :dance:

 

[BCamden]

If you want to meet a model, go to an event where the model will be doing meet 'n' greet.
If the model doesn't do those kind of events, take the hint.

 

[mr_wood]

I've read through several topic threads that touched on the subject, and saw a couple spots where a model either said they had met a member, or knew a model that had. I've heard rumors of models that supposedly met with a regular and had sex with them, and it got me wondering what the politics of meeting a member would be. Obviously, the vast majority of models don't approach MFC like match.com, but of those that have met a member, or considered it, would you share your thoughts on the subject?

I'm sure every women on MFC is different, but what traits would a model need to see before considering meeting with one. Obviously, I'm not talking about a raffle winner, and I'm not necessarily talking about a romantic/sexual meeting either.

Understandably, trust would be the #1 trait a model would look for, but what describes trust on a site like MFC (considering we all have to take what we are told at face value)? Most models, in my experience, seem to be on the submissive side, do dominant/controlling men come off as more appealing as a "nice guy" on mfc? Does tipping, or lack of, play a part in considering meeting a member? Does a members life style in real life affect a possible meeting? If they are financial secure verses struggling or broke?

If any models have met members, what was your experience? I read one post by a model that said she met a few members early in her cam model career, and said that the members changed shortly after meeting her. Her experience was they were regularly in her room before meeting her, but either rarely logged on, or rarely went into her room after meeting her. She also went on to say they began to overwhelm her by contacting her in her real life, and made demands upon meeting with her again.

Also, within the model community of MFC, would a model be looked down on for starting a sexual/romantic relationship with a member by other models? If you did start a sexual/romantic relationship with a member, would you let the models you friends with know?

Did u meet her yet? :lol:

Trying to figure out the reasoning u are inquiring about this info.
Sounds like u wanna start a sexual/romantic relationship with a model?

Meeting models...what do they look for...yea not meeting members.
Every relationship is different..people are people...things happen naturally..

 

[LittleLezboUK]

I agree with SoTxBob, I myself have met up with one member, he was a really nice guy, tipped, and never asked for a meet I initiated everything. I get lots of prems ever day asking if I escort, meet exc some have offered thousands but its never gunna happen that way.
Hope we arnt giving the prems after meets too many ideas here! :/ xx

 

[mr_wood]

I agree with SoTxBob, I myself have met up with one member, he was a really nice guy, tipped, and never asked for a meet I initiated everything. I get lots of prems ever day asking if I escort, meet exc some have offered thousands but its never gunna happen that way.
Hope we arnt giving the prems after meets too many ideas here! :/ xx

I met a few models but never asked, is inapropriate and invasive.
Even said no at first..cuz why? whats the point? :lol:
Glad I did though was fun and good to get to know them in real life.