Isabella_deL said:
If she came on cam wearing a dress she really liked but you hated I would hope you wouldn't insult the dress and throw a hissy fit and refuse to tip until she put a different item of clothing on. Her putting up this scroll text probably took her time to sort out, she must have liked it, was maybe excited about putting it up, you didn't like it, maybe people don't like it, but jeeze, it's no different from insulting a dress she put on. Try some tact.
If asked I would tell her if I did not like her outfit, I have never been big on lying. Asking me my opinion on something is going to get you my opinion on something. I will not YELL insults, but I will give constructive criticisms on cuts or colors. If you want a yes man look somewhere else. She loved several outfits that covered her stomach, and she knew I have a thing for abs. She told me she considered them extra incentive to tip it off of her.
She was excited about her scrolling text, but since she set it up on cam I knew it took her less than five minutes of fiddling. She tried it on the bottom first and it covered up her breasts when she was sitting down. Since that kind of made tipping for topless pointless she moved it to the top, and that is how I lost getting to see her face as she danced. I tried to talk to her about it first, and she was unsympathetic to my views.
Isabella_deL said:
And in normal situations it's often worth telling the person that they've upset you. In camming? Is it worth me saying to a tipping regular that it hurt my feelings that he tipped someone else more when I was struggling? No, because he's going to me because I make him feel good, that would make him feel bad and really it's not a big deal and would be my issue.
I know you can not help what hurts you, but I agree telling people that would probably not be a good thing to do. If I model told me she was hurt I tipped someone else when she was struggling I would be upset with her. Would you tell your real life friends you were upset they gave someone a present when you were struggling? I am not your boyfriend or your husband. It is not my responsibility to keep your camscore above what you consider good. If your score is low you need to discuss it with the people you let watch for free every night, not me.
Isabella_deL said:
If a regular who tips lots hurt my feelings in a minor way, why would I go and upset him by going on about it? That could stop him visiting again, which I do not want.
Think of that little hurt hitting the same nerve over and over and over and over and over and over and over. At some point you are just going to tell him to go to hell, so why not see if you can change that behavior? I used to tell a model what I was doing with other models to see if I could get her to do the same kind of things with me, but it turns out that was just pissing her off. She never told me, but if she had I would have stopped. Now days I avoid even mentioning names, even on the forums, as much as possible.
Isabella_deL said:
Mfc relationships are not real relationships, especially when we have guys hanging their tokens over us, so no we can not always be as blunt as with real people as we are running a business. So try to be sensitive to that. In the end unless you are such an arsehole you effect her camming performance camgirls will be nice to guys/regulars they hate, it is part of our job. It's your choice whether you want to be a chore or something to look forward to.
You do not think your relationships are real and say you are running a business, but you expect me to tip out of friendship so I do not hurt your feelings. You seem to be one of those people who want to have their cake and eat it too.
Also my friendship and my tokens have nothing to do with each other. Just like the cash in my wallet and my offline friends have nothing to do with each other.
