Well, thank you guys. This has been really unhelpful.
Can you maybe stop condescending and answer the questions I asked in my thread title?
No one is being condescending to you. It sounds like you are brand new to camming and you came to ask a bunch of veteran camgirls what to do in this situation. Girls who have years and years (some almost a decade) worth of camming experience under their belts, who have collectively experienced more cam scenarios than any one person can imagine. Who have collectively dealt with countless people trying to take advantage, who collectively been burnt a thousand times over. Once, we were all new models and many of us were more naive than I'd like to admit - and we learned the hard way how to operate our businesses in the most profitable - and the safest - ways.
On the boards, it would be irresponsible if we only gave new camgirls the answers they wanted to hear. We try to be honest and point out situations that bring a lot of risk, or if we feel someone could be taken advantage of. It is our responsibility to be honest, even if the truth is an unpleasant one. Such as the comment that if one cannot or is unwilling to learn the more technological skills that this career, they probably won't succeed as much as they would hope.
We have seen so many girls get majorly screwed over in studio situations who are legally entitled to a slice of their earnings. We have seen them with mod-customers who seem to be helpful but are really just taking advantage. We have seen girls get outed by disgruntled people whom they thought they could trust and end up with their lives almost ruined when their information gets leaked or when that person tries to blackmail them. Heck, I have seen a ton of vanilla business partnerships implode and cause a world of hardship. We have seen it all, and that is the basis of these answers. Collectively, we have earned a lot of wisdom, which is why new cammers come here to seek answers. That is one of the main strengths, and draws, of these boards.
So when people try to tell you that it isn't a wonderful idea, I promise, no one is trying to condescend. We are trying to be honest. You may have experience in the adult industry due to work as an exotic dancer, but camming is a completely different beast with its own batch of required skills - and its own batch of risks. And many of us feel obligated to point out the risks when we see them, whether the poster wishes to read it or not. It would be remiss of us if we didn't.
I am sorry that you don't like the answers you are receiving... But that isn't likely to change the opinions you are likely to get.
Personally, I wouldn't give ANYONE a slice of the pie I have worked hard to build. Not a manager, not a family friend, not a boyfriend, not even a spouse (I've seen some very messy, very ugly, very financially destructive divorces amongst adult-industry people because they trusted their spouse with a chunk of their business - and they paid a very heavy price because of it). If someone does work for me, I give them a straight per hour fee, and that's all they get. Using a contract to give them an equal share of MY business - just thinking about it makes me shudder, legit horrified. Even the freelance per-hour situations are rare because I've learned to be extremely self-sufficient in this career, and personally, I find that to be one of the most fulfilling aspects of this job. That is what helps me grow, helps me evolve, helps me reach new customers. Is it a lot of extra work? Of course. Is it easy? Not even a little bit. But at the end of the day, no one can let me down and no one can screw me over except me!
(Yes, there's some awkwardness, but oh well! Just a job.)
