Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question...

[Kunra9]

I was wondering for those of you that have had enhancement, were you with a partner prior to getting the work done, and if so did it seem to affect your relationship at all? Are you still with that same partner?

I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Obviously he's being dramatic because he got burned one time, but it did make me curious. My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

If you haven't had enhancement, but know of a girl that did, what was her story like?

I personally only know two women that have had their breasts done, neither were in a relationship at the time though.

 

[Evvie]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

While I could not comment personally on your friend's situation, I had heard from many women that getting breast implants was a huge self-esteem boost and made them feel great about themselves. If a woman was unhappy with her life or marriage, it seems reasonable that if she had the self-confidence to do so, she would leave and find a better situation.

We all know that having large breasts does not make a woman sluttier, nor does a woman need to be a slut to leave her marriage. Nor are large-breasted women more likely to leave their marriage. Beyond that, I think this conversation would actually benefit from women who have had the procedure done

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

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Why is she a slut for leaving him? Maybe he was a douche bag, not everyone discloses the things they do to cause issues in their relationship when telling friends why it ended.

 

[Red7227]

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For me the only issue with breast enhancement is when they look really fake. The only ones I've gotten to touch were on a stripper, and they were cold and hard. Going up a cup size and wearing them with low cut tops is obviously going to do wonders for a person't self esteem, if she likes having her tits stared at, but a decent psychologist is probably cheaper.

 

[lordmagellan]

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As a sort of joke, I tell guys, "never buy your woman implants." Every story I've heard of a guy paying for the procedure ends with her leaving shortly thereafter. Not saying it always happens, but of the few cases I've known, personally, and read about, there seems to be a bit of correlation.

I do have friends who, once she got implants, she had an affair. But as Evvie suggests, they were having troubles prior. They're still together, having worked out most of the troubles, I guess. Or they ignore them, I'm not sure. Neither is especially in touch with openess.

Don't get the slut thing, myself; but then I tend to see "slut" as little more than a female equivalent of the male "stud." That's a bit different from being unfaithful to the partner.

 

[SoTxBob]

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Interesting direction... of course you will get flak for wondering if fake tits make the inner slut come out. LOL. That's a very abrasive way to word it.
I have known 3 women over the years that bought a chest. 2 were married and 1 was single. Without question the "addition" did get the attention that increased their self confidence. Ultimately the single one became, for lack of term, an easy dater. She told me many "adventure stories" of her exploits. Of the other 2 women, both ultimately found greener pastures and divorced their mates. Mel was quite up front about it and said it was indeed her new chesticles that brought the initial attention of her older and more well to do new BF.
I'd wonder tho, for the majority of women, how the self confidence boost from the "adoration factor" effects relationship interaction, (besides giving you a larger pool of fish to go fishing in.) To over simplify, would it have the ability take some demure semi shy gal to an in your face YLAM don't give a damn person ? I have witnessed this transformation in the cam business repeatedly and wonder if it happens to a lesser extent elsewhere.

 

[Kunra9]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

Why is she a slut for leaving him? Maybe he was a douche bag, not everyone discloses the things they do to cause issues in their relationship when telling friends why it ended.

Don't see where it says that in my post.

 

[16_bit]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

Why is she a slut for leaving him? Maybe he was a douche bag, not everyone discloses the things they do to cause issues in their relationship when telling friends why it ended.

Don't see where it says that in my post.

You don't say it but it's the way it comes across from your friends view. Your friend thinks that women who have implants become sluts, after having a bad experience so it's fair to assume he views that his wife became a slut and left him.

 

[Evvie]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

Interesting direction... of course you will get flak for wondering if fake tits make the inner slut come out. LOL. That's a very abrasive way to word it.
I have known 3 women over the years that bought a chest. 2 were married and 1 was single. Without question the "addition" did get the attention that increased their self confidence. Ultimately the single one became, for lack of term, an easy dater. She told me many "adventure stories" of her exploits. Of the other 2 women, both ultimately found greener pastures and divorced their mates. Mel was quite up front about it and said it was indeed her new chesticles that brought the initial attention of her older and more well to do new BF.
I'd wonder tho, for the majority of women, how the self confidence boost from the "adoration factor" effects relationship interaction, (besides giving you a larger pool of fish to go fishing in.) To over simplify, would it have the ability take some demure semi shy gal to an in your face YLAM don't give a damn person ? I have witnessed this transformation in the cam business repeatedly and wonder if it happens to a lesser extent elsewhere.

Yes, I think any significant physical change could in turn change someone's personality. I've seen people dramatically change after a haircut or wearing a different style of clothes. In high school, I saw some of my female friends do this YLAM thing after they started to wear makeup.

From what I've seen and heard, it seems like women who get breast implants are empowered to do things they find enjoyable, including leaving bad, unhappy, or unfulfilling relationships. So it seems like this should make us all encourage women to get breast implants if they want them. I'm not really seeing any negatives here.

 

[Shaun__]

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I knew a man whose wife left him after getting breast implants, and ditching him seemed like the sensible thing to do. I think it was a coincidence, but maybe having your husband say your breasts are too small makes you consider the health of your relationship.

 

[Anonymous]

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Everyday I wonder what kind of thread you'll start today...lol.

I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Your friend sounds like an idiot.....

My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

In the words of Stephanie Tanner...how rude! LOL. Seriously though...you may not realize this, but in a lot of your posts you come across a bit disrespectful towards women. You shouldn't assume that the woman is a slut, when you probably don't know the whole story. I realize that guy is your friend, so naturally you're gonna side with him, but it's pretty rude to make a comment like that out loud about your friend's wife. Whether he paid for her implants or not, if she wasn't happy with the marriage, why should she stay? I know there are some religious people who think they'll get struck by lightning or something if they end a miserable marriage, and I think that's sad.

And if she really was using him just for the implants, I'd think she'd just get the implants and then be like "So long, sucka!" LOL.

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

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I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Obviously he's being dramatic because he got burned one time, but it did make me curious. My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

Based on your comment, it does sound like youre agreeing that she is a slut for leaving him, but that it probably didnt have to do with the implants
:twocents-02cents:

 

[Nordling]

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I'm a little curious about the "...years of begging." Who was begging? Him or her? If it was her, then I see why she'd leave after getting some confidence. Why should she have to beg for something she wanted to do? If it was him, then there's no question why she'd leave. "Okay, you got your stupid wish, now bye bye!"

 

[SoTxBob]

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Evv, you are hung on the assumption that the so called "boob empowerment" and dissolution of a union is the result of " bad, unhappy, or unfulfilling relationship." At least in the instances I speak of, both women had nothing but good to say about time and relationships with their former mates. The divorces were both friendly. They simply wanted to see what they might be missing.... and just for fodder, its not always the mans fault when things go south.

 

[Evvie]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

Evv, you are hung on the assumption that the so called "boob empowerment" and dissolution of a union is the result of " bad, unhappy, or unfulfilling relationship." At least in the instances I speak of, both women had nothing but good to say about time and relationships with their former mates. The divorces were both friendly. They simply wanted to see what they might be missing.... and just for fodder, its not always the mans fault when things go south.

You obviously know your friends better than I do, but it is possible to like someone perfectly well and still not have a fulfilling relationship. It seems odd that someone would get a divorce to end a completely happy and satisfying relationship just because they felt they were missing something (the implication I get is that they wanted to see if they were missing something better). I do not think women get boob empowered just because they were in a bad/unhappy/etc. relationship. Nor do I think it's always the man's fault when things go badly, and I'm sure I didn't imply that.

 

[Deleted member 8603]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

You can have a completely happy relationship and still be unfulfilled.
Everything can be right about someone, and there can still be that little thing under the surface that you can't shake.
This happens to a lot of people, and they feel like they're too ugly/stupid/etc to leave and they have no right to want to.

A burst of self esteem usually helps people who have that scratching feeling in a so called "perfect" relationship that they can't get rid of.

A woman isn't a slut for leaving, and the man isn't a bad man for being left.


It just didn't work out.
Happens every day, and its between those two people, not anyone else.

 

[Evvie]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

You can have a completely happy relationship and still be unfulfilled.
Everything can be right about someone, and there can still be that little thing under the surface that you can't shake.
This happens to a lot of people, and they feel like they're too ugly/stupid/etc to leave and they have no right to want to.

A burst of self esteem usually helps people who have that scratching feeling in a so called "perfect" relationship that they can't get rid of.

A woman isn't a slut for leaving, and the man isn't a bad man for being left.


It just didn't work out.
Happens every day, and its between those two people, not anyone else.

Right on, Chelle. This almost exactly describes my recent breakup situation. We still live together and we still like each other, but it was just time for our relationship to end. Although I was never in danger of getting a boob job and leaving him because he is stolidly against them.

Now that I'm single, who knows what size I might go up to... >

 

[Kunra9]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Obviously he's being dramatic because he got burned one time, but it did make me curious. My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

Based on your comment, it does sound like youre agreeing that she is a slut for leaving him, but that it probably didnt have to do with the implants
:twocents-02cents:

Again, someone is going to have to quote anywhere in my original post where I said, implied, hinted, suggested, or in any way at all insinuated that she is a slut for leaving him.

I didn't. At all.

If someone leaves it doesn't make them a slut. If they want to fuck other people then they are doing the right thing by leaving. Cheating is bad.

 

[Nordling]

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No, but your friend obviously believes it does.

 

[Kunra9]

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Everyday I wonder what kind of thread you'll start today...lol.

I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Your friend sounds like an idiot.....

My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

In the words of Stephanie Tanner...how rude! LOL. Seriously though...you may not realize this, but in a lot of your posts you come across a bit disrespectful towards women. You shouldn't assume that the woman is a slut, when you probably don't know the whole story. I realize that guy is your friend, so naturally you're gonna side with him, but it's pretty rude to make a comment like that out loud about your friend's wife. Whether he paid for her implants or not, if she wasn't happy with the marriage, why should she stay? I know there are some religious people who think they'll get struck by lightning or something if they end a miserable marriage, and I think that's sad.

And if she really was using him just for the implants, I'd think she'd just get the implants and then be like "So long, sucka!" LOL.

I still can't figure out how everyone here is focusing on the fact that she left him and wether or not it has anything to do with her potentially being a slut.

I never suggested that in any way.

When I say "I didn't have the heart to suggest...", I'm putting the blame on him. I don't get how nobody can see that?

 

[bob]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

You can have a completely happy relationship and still be unfulfilled.
Everything can be right about someone, and there can still be that little thing under the surface that you can't shake.
This happens to a lot of people, and they feel like they're too ugly/stupid/etc to leave and they have no right to want to.

A burst of self esteem usually helps people who have that scratching feeling in a so called "perfect" relationship that they can't get rid of.

A woman isn't a slut for leaving, and the man isn't a bad man for being left.


It just didn't work out.
Happens every day, and its between those two people, not anyone else.

amen :thumbleft:

even tho i can understand -even feel- the validity of your "burst of self esteem" statement, i remain bewildered by the whole "bigger breast" thing.

i'm old school i guess, and resistant to change.....things like "empowerment", "self esteem", "attitude" have always struck me as things that must be learned by experiencing life and being willing to risk some trial and error.....change comes from within and all that.

the idea of buying physical add-ons seems like -at worst- a distraction from the issues that prompt their choice: at best....well, maybe at best they CAN be a valuable tool towards personal growth, given a person who is naturally self-reflective.

but i tend to see "at best" as just putting off the issue until a later time

and admittedly, that point of view is driven by my perceptions of a culture that seeks a material, marketable solution to every thing that can be identified as a "need"....if we can legitimize the medication of emotional states for greater "happiness", then why not body sculpting for self esteem?

we are quick to point how kids want "instant gratification" and how this is a deterrent to taking responsibility....isn't the idea that you can simply go out and buy a solution to a personal issue just about the same thing?

 

[Jupiter551]

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Now that I'm single

 

[Kunra9]

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No, but your friend obviously believes it does.

Yet I am being blasted in this thread for his opinion? I am the one disrespecting women???

I even called my friend dramatic at the start of the sentence to dismiss his opinion, yet I am the evil piece of shit lol

 

[ScarlettLeigh]

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My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later.

If I'm reading this correctly it was your friend that begged his wife for years? If I was with someone who begged me to get implants for years I would probably leave them too. It means they aren't really happy with how I am to begin with.

 

[bob]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

Everyday I wonder what kind of thread you'll start today...lol.

I have a friend that swears he would never stay with a girl that got a boob job while they were together because "girls become super sluts after they get implants".

Your friend sounds like an idiot.....

My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later. I didn't have the heart to suggest that his wife may have been a slut prior to the implants lol.

In the words of Stephanie Tanner...how rude! LOL. Seriously though...you may not realize this, but in a lot of your posts you come across a bit disrespectful towards women. You shouldn't assume that the woman is a slut, when you probably don't know the whole story. I realize that guy is your friend, so naturally you're gonna side with him, but it's pretty rude to make a comment like that out loud about your friend's wife. Whether he paid for her implants or not, if she wasn't happy with the marriage, why should she stay? I know there are some religious people who think they'll get struck by lightning or something if they end a miserable marriage, and I think that's sad.

And if she really was using him just for the implants, I'd think she'd just get the implants and then be like "So long, sucka!" LOL.

I still can't figure out how everyone here is focusing on the fact that she left him and wether or not it has anything to do with her potentially being a slut.

I never suggested that in any way.

When I say "I didn't have the heart to suggest...", I'm putting the blame on him. I don't get how nobody can see that?

i've found that semantics plays a huge role in (all) forum talk....a single word can side-track an interesting idea or discussion into that same forest where snow white fled to escape the huntsman. it can take pages before the original topic emerges again

 

[Kunra9]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

My friend was actually married, paid for his wife to get implants after years of begging, then she left him less than a year later.

If I'm reading this correctly it was your friend that begged his wife for years? If I was with someone who begged me to get implants for years I would probably leave them too. It means they aren't really happy with how I am to begin with.

Poorly worded, but she was the one begging. They had 4 kids together, and her girls apparently didn't hold up. She wasn't happy with her body and wanted a change.

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

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No, but your friend obviously believes it does.

Yet I am being blasted in this thread for his opinion? I am the one disrespecting women???

I even called my friend dramatic at the start of the sentence to dismiss his opinion, yet I am the evil piece of shit lol

No one is "blasting you". Relax dude, its a discussion.

People are going to view things and perceive things differently. If you cant handle that its probably best to not start controversial topics.

 

[Kunra9]

Re: Ladies who have breast implants, relationship question..

No, but your friend obviously believes it does.

Yet I am being blasted in this thread for his opinion? I am the one disrespecting women???

I even called my friend dramatic at the start of the sentence to dismiss his opinion, yet I am the evil piece of shit lol

No one is "blasting you". Relax dude, its a discussion.

People are going to view things and perceive things differently. If you cant handle that its probably best to not start controversial topics.

I love controversial topics, but so far the topic has only been addressed by 2 replies.

I was wondering for those of you that have had enhancement, were you with a partner prior to getting the work done, and if so did it seem to affect your relationship at all? Are you still with that same partner?

Question as posted from the OP

 

[Anonymous]

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I still can't figure out how everyone here is focusing on the fact that she left him and wether or not it has anything to do with her potentially being a slut.

I never suggested that in any way.

When I say "I didn't have the heart to suggest...", I'm putting the blame on him. I don't get how nobody can see that?

Ah, okay. I forgot about the "I didn't have the heart..." portion (sorry about that).

But still, saying 'I didn't have the heart to suggest she may have been a slut' just means that you didn't say it to him OUT LOUD...but it still implies that you were thinking it.

 

[Nordling]

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Exactly, Foxie. When someone starts a thread, readers are going to look at the entire post, not just one question contained in the OP.