I have been told to back off the connection, told my Peach posts were too explicit and all in the same breath been told to writhe like an electrocuted fish.
I connect with people too much that they have convinced themselves I'm not working and don't need to be tipped.
Honestly - following others advice (i know you asked me for some and I gave it) is only helpful in so far as you are able to look at it critically and decide which bits fit you and your situation, and which bits don't.
I Used to cam as a highly social model on mfc.. for a decade. I gave freebies to members a lot. And it worked really well for me, i worked really hard but my room was mostly full, i had a loyal group of dudes and it felt fun. It felt that way because it would all even out. I might give out a few freebies but at the end of the month i looked at my bank and felt i got paid well.
Eventually, my lack of boundries around those connections meant I burnt out. The social method takes strong personal boundries. I get the frustrstion you have with people feeling entitled to your time without payment. I was right there w u.
The best way for me now is less connection, much more transactional. Connecting happens on paid time only, so there's no fuzzy lines. I'm actively cultivating a fanbase that gets that.
What works for me now didn't work for me before. I have made a lot of succesful friends in this industry and many other forms of sex work and for all of them they had to try various methods on for size until they found the one, the unique way of doing things that worked for them. And they had to adapt when they, or their situation changed.
I still try and soak up advice. My therapist is a successful active sex worker, i hang out with pro dommes, i listen to sw podcasts, i follow ppl like sexworkceo, swsurvivalguide, etc but i only take what works. Sw ceo has an interesting pricing model for her OF - i don't do that. It's not for me. But i did change how i wrote my OF posts based on her suggestion and it's done well! Because i know my audience and what works.
This got rambly but i guess basically to say following advice is helpful when you know your own audience, and your own self well. There are so so many different ways to do this work.