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Re: If your partner had a sex change, would you stand by the
In general thoughts:
-If this was brought up after the relationship got really serious, I could totally see it being a deal-breaker. Just an out-of-the-blue thing is no good.
-If you knew about this, why would you suddenly stop being cool with it once it happened?
More interesting to me is the question: if you found out that your current significant other had a sex change in the past, would that be a deal-breaker? You're making sweet sweet love to a woman one night, and the next day you find out that she used to be a man. Would you leave? I'm not talking about taking a break from the relationship. Of course it'll take some time to wrap your head around it, but does who the person used to be matter to you?
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On my own life...
By the time I get sexual with someone, I care so much about them that I'd be willing to give them almost everything I have. (Get rid of the damn debts behind me, and that almost goes away. As it stands, I can't give everything I have until those debts are taken care of.) But I care more about their mind, their heart, their soul, than about their body.
So, find out that my partner is thinking about a sex change, I'd be supportive, we'd have to figure out how it will work. But I honestly can't see it. The only men I've gotten intimate with are the kind who like to put their dick in things, and aren't comfortable with the idea of having a dick penetrate them. Not that I have a problem with men who do like that kind of thing, it's just... I don't have a dick, so I already know I can't satisfy their desire for that. And I'm not all that in to using something that's not me. I like the physical contact.
Of course, two men is hardly an accurate sample for stating definitively about what I like and don't like. So it's possible that I would enjoy a relationship with a man who is more bi than just "I'm willing to put my dick in any human, whether it's male or female." (and yes, for men, I do make a distinction between "I'll put my dick in any human" and "I'm willing to be penetrated by a man", but the levels of sexuality is another topic entirely. I might make a blog post on that...)
Bah, back to topic.
If I were with a man, and I found out that he used to be a woman, well... how deep have we gone? I honestly don't know if the dicks which are a result of surgery can meet my sexual needs. So, I'd be willing to try, and willing to continue a romance even if it doesn't meet my needs, but at that point I'd need another man involved to satisfy my need to play with a real-live dick. And if the partner can't deal with that, and can't satisfy my needs on his own, then it's just not going to work out. As stated earlier, if we're at a point where getting sexual is a possibility, I'm already in too deep to back out just off of that.
So yeah, as long as my need for dick is being satisfied, the romantic and sexual relationships can continue. I'll need time to process. If it's a male partner who wants to be a woman, I'll need time to mourn the loss of my favorite dick. If it's a male partner who used to be a woman, I'll need time to get used to the dick, as well as time to figure out if this will satisfy me, or if I'm going to need another man in my life to satisfy that need.
In general thoughts:
-If this was brought up after the relationship got really serious, I could totally see it being a deal-breaker. Just an out-of-the-blue thing is no good.
-If you knew about this, why would you suddenly stop being cool with it once it happened?
More interesting to me is the question: if you found out that your current significant other had a sex change in the past, would that be a deal-breaker? You're making sweet sweet love to a woman one night, and the next day you find out that she used to be a man. Would you leave? I'm not talking about taking a break from the relationship. Of course it'll take some time to wrap your head around it, but does who the person used to be matter to you?
----
On my own life...
By the time I get sexual with someone, I care so much about them that I'd be willing to give them almost everything I have. (Get rid of the damn debts behind me, and that almost goes away. As it stands, I can't give everything I have until those debts are taken care of.) But I care more about their mind, their heart, their soul, than about their body.
So, find out that my partner is thinking about a sex change, I'd be supportive, we'd have to figure out how it will work. But I honestly can't see it. The only men I've gotten intimate with are the kind who like to put their dick in things, and aren't comfortable with the idea of having a dick penetrate them. Not that I have a problem with men who do like that kind of thing, it's just... I don't have a dick, so I already know I can't satisfy their desire for that. And I'm not all that in to using something that's not me. I like the physical contact.
Of course, two men is hardly an accurate sample for stating definitively about what I like and don't like. So it's possible that I would enjoy a relationship with a man who is more bi than just "I'm willing to put my dick in any human, whether it's male or female." (and yes, for men, I do make a distinction between "I'll put my dick in any human" and "I'm willing to be penetrated by a man", but the levels of sexuality is another topic entirely. I might make a blog post on that...)
Bah, back to topic.
If I were with a man, and I found out that he used to be a woman, well... how deep have we gone? I honestly don't know if the dicks which are a result of surgery can meet my sexual needs. So, I'd be willing to try, and willing to continue a romance even if it doesn't meet my needs, but at that point I'd need another man involved to satisfy my need to play with a real-live dick. And if the partner can't deal with that, and can't satisfy my needs on his own, then it's just not going to work out. As stated earlier, if we're at a point where getting sexual is a possibility, I'm already in too deep to back out just off of that.
So yeah, as long as my need for dick is being satisfied, the romantic and sexual relationships can continue. I'll need time to process. If it's a male partner who wants to be a woman, I'll need time to mourn the loss of my favorite dick. If it's a male partner who used to be a woman, I'll need time to get used to the dick, as well as time to figure out if this will satisfy me, or if I'm going to need another man in my life to satisfy that need.
