If a regular of a room can't tip anymore, should they distance their self from the room?

[Trixxi_Love]

Your question about the strip club scenario reminded me very much of my dancing days in this tiny hole in the wall dive bar. There was always a good ratio of 60/40 spenders vs non spenders. There was no cover fee and drinks were quite cheap so a patron could sit in the “back” (~6ft from the stage) and watch the dancers for free. We also had very very sheer curtains in the lap dance rooms and many of these 40 percent non spenders would sit in such a way to perpetually watch the lap dance rooms.

The tipping patrons always tipped the dancers generously but the non tipping patrons would literally approach and ask for a $1 lap dance (typically they were $20) and just basically disrespect the tipping customers and the dancers both.

But management preferred a “full house” of people in the club rather than a handful of really good spenders. Many people in the neighborhood knew this and came to my club specially for the “free” experience. As a dancer, if you had your regulars that day you could avoid the free loaders ... but some days when your regulars were gone and you just had pushy free people it really would effect your mood.

That said, I’m on SM not CB and I would prefer “A” all the way - every day. If the non tipping patrons only showed up when they could tip : I would like them and appreciate them completely. Instead they just got under my skin and made me (and most other dancers) feel used and annoyed with their constant free watching and rare tipping only one of the dancers $1 for sitting for over 4 hours in the “back” watching all the dancers strip and do lap dances.

Good conversation is valued, compliments are nice, but if you are working in this line of business please try to avoid being a “freeloader.” If you can not tip then go back to Pornhub or free sites. Someone mentioned the Fanclub and I think that’s a great idea. My fanclub is a really low rate and provides access to all my videos.

I have a few fan club members that renew monthly and show up and chat but never request private shows. I am grateful that they joined my fan club and have all my content to enjoy me and I presume they don’t get privates because they cannot afford them. FYI my fan club is the same cost as 3 minutes of my time in the “private” rate or like 1 1/4 minute of my “exclusive” rate and I have 14 videos with average 5 minute length.

Basically my point is that you walk a thin line to annoyance and to try to prevent that from happening I would tip minimally (fan club) or not show up to a place where people work for tips. I would watch Pornhub porn for free adult experience and save money until I could get the one on one cam / strip club experience.

If a member decides to ghost me I just presume their life got busy and I don’t think a second thought. When they approach again and tip and appreciate me: I am flattered and appreciate their return even more that they still were thinking of me during and after their break.

 

[jaedev]

Yes ummm but can you help me understand your profile pic????

 

[Deleted member 57885]

Yes ummm but can you help me understand your profile pic????

I could say the same with yours lmao

My profile pic is a panda with a reference to the hunger games "volunteer as tribute." I used the word "bruh" just because I like it, but really, the profile pic has no deep meaning whatsoever. I like pandas and wanted to add text to it. It was the first thing I thought of lol

 

[jekster]

I know I'm late to this conversation...

I've always had a fairly open and upfront approach with my favourite model and have told her if I can't be tipping as much due to other reasons in any period of time. I'm not her biggest tipper, but I am one of her more regular tippers and having been a part of her room now for over 3 years, I like to think she appreciates my honesty with her.

We both understand this is a business relationship, but she has told me that she understands that sometimes spending on cam-sites has to come second to real world needs and has told me that even if I cannot tip much/anything, that she would still want me to be an active part of her room conversation. Without trying to sound too egotistical, I would say that in her room, I would be one of her more vocal talkers. There have been times I wasn't in a chatty mood, and I do notice the difference when I am not there. I believe that, given she has a smaller room, my absence tends to make the chat quieter and there can sometimes be long stretches of silence.

That said, she has made it clear that regardless of my ability to tip, she would appreciate me being there to help keep the conversation flowing in the room. This is on CB for reference. So I think if you find yourself not being able to tip as much, and feel comfortable telling the model this, let her know and see what she says. Perhaps my situation is different? But I know that I'm welcome in her room not just as a regular tipper, but also as a regular contributor to the room chat.