DigitalSweety said:
ScarletRaven said:
I wanted to take a moment to say that I think a lot (not all) of these comments really suck! I suppose some of you will justify your shitty responses by saying he should not have posted on the forum if he could not handle the responses, but I say...that SUCKS!!! AmberCutie is an incredible model that I admire very much and this forum is a valuable resource to so many people but it is because of posts like I see above that I stopped visiting the forum. These types of comments would be better as private messages, if they are really sincere and meant to be helpful. But, the way I see it is that some of you just like to be mean and judgemental. It takes a lot of courage for some people to make posts like this, they think about it for days (as SgtPeper said in his post) and it is really sad that when they do they get ridiculed by a lot of people. This is not the first person I have seen this happen too and this time I decided to say how I felt. I don't really care what people have to say about my posts but I am clearly not at all shy or reserved. Next time you comment on someone else's post you should ask yourself how it would make you feel to get a response like that. Do onto others...this is a golden rule that people seem to forget about when they are hiding behind a laptop.
I am a BAD ASS Angel that adores SgtPeper for his courage, bravery and caring nature all while he is fighting cancer and stuck in the hospital a lot!!!
Have a great forum experience!
Scarlet :angel12:
I understand where you're coming from, and of course models appreciate the support of members, but at the same time some of us (me, anyway) feel we don't need someone to defend us. We're actually pretty good at doing it ourselves. I think he would have received less criticism if he had posted it as an open letter to trolls, rather than requesting a critique. Critiques are critical. That's sort of the point of them.
Exactly.
While it is sweet and very kind to care and feel the want/need to defend models, there is a right way and wrong way to do that. Speaking exactly as the "trolls" do doesn't help anything. All it does is make the assholes more mad and give them more of a reason to keep you on their minds.
He asked for critique and got it and while I don't agree with any mean words, I do love the fact that people on this forum are honest without sugar coating things. Not all critique is going to be good and that should definitely be considered when putting yourself out there for judgement.
Angry, insulting posts are never going to be as persuasive as eloquent, more calmly written things. Instead of being the same as the trolls, state it differently so there's actually a chance that it strikes a chord and gets them thinking about reconsidering their actions/opinions, as oppose to wanting to fire back.