Hi...Just say Hi if you want to chat

[AudriTwo]

How are people supposed to learn to socialize like everyone else if no one treats them like everyone else?

AS peeps think differently then NS people, so you have to really break down conversations down when there is conflict.
http://www.kennethrobersonphd.com/arguing-effectively-adult-aspergers/

 

[JoleneBrody]

AS peeps think differently then NS people, so you have to really break down conversations down when there is conflict.
http://www.kennethrobersonphd.com/arguing-effectively-adult-aspergers/

I understand that and have multiple people on the spectrum in my life as well but my kindness ends at "kill yourself"
I'm not, or any of us as far as I know, a therapist and shouldn't have to take on such harmful abuse.
I do hope he seeks therapy. Those suggesting that and the resources are angels

 

[justjoinedtopost]

AS peeps think differently then NS people, so you have to really break down conversations down when there is conflict.
http://www.kennethrobersonphd.com/arguing-effectively-adult-aspergers/

Consider Writing
Talking directly to someone with Asperger’s about a disagreement often leads to a standoff. He or she doesn’t understand your position and you can understand theirs. Try writing to each other. This gives both sides some distance from the complicating emotions, and it allows reason a chance to organize and shape the discussion.

Clearly this bit will only get you so far.

 

[AudriTwo]

I understand that and have multiple people on the spectrum in my life as well but my kindness ends at "kill yourself"

understandable, but when i see "kill yourself" i kill them with more kindness.

 

[Gen]

But I don't think it should be our burden to put up with him.

None of us (except Amber until she bans them) have to do anything. I think that dude was way out of line. But I’m surprised to see people saying we should be less nice, lol. He’s not our patient or our burden but we can still try to push him in the right direction if we choose to engage with him, which all of us who posted before he got banned did.

Some people like snarky, some people like something else, whatever. He sounds like a dude with problems who grew up on 4chan and porn. If he has no irl social connections and is used to seeing “kill yourself” flung around everywhere, maybe he doesn’t realize that it’s not just a sassy retort. Or, maybe he does. No harm done in trying to explain it, though.

 

[Dan Epstein]

I just hope he's not giving trouble on the streaming websites themselves.

 

[Dan Epstein]

I remember being a chat representative years ago in a very small company, we had a regular visitor who used to come everyday on the chat board. He wasn't rude, or abusive, but he was very time consuming and communicating with him was always riddled with garden path phrases.
Eventually one day when I was bombarded with 5 chats at the same time and I told him that we can't cater to his wants at the expense of working with active customers. Sometimes you gotta let a regular go seek the light somewhere else.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

If you can't behave like an adult, you have no place being on adult-oriented websites.

None of us (except Amber until she bans them) have to do anything. I think that dude was way out of line. But I’m surprised to see people saying we should be less nice, lol. He’s not our patient or our burden but we can still try to push him in the right direction if we choose to engage with him, which all of us who posted before he got banned did.

Some people like snarky, some people like something else, whatever. He sounds like a dude with problems who grew up on 4chan and porn. If he has no irl social connections and is used to seeing “kill yourself” flung around everywhere, maybe he doesn’t realize that it’s not just a sassy retort. Or, maybe he does. No harm done in trying to explain it, though.

I agree with everything you said, and I'm glad there are people who are willing to explain that it's not okay to tell other people to kill themselves, I'm not that patient. I recognize that it was my choice to engage in conversation with him. I wasn't suggesting that anyone should have been less kind than they were, my reply was simply meant to voice that I was glad to see him banned. Someone who thinks that we are greedy and dirty (but still wants us to fall in love with him???) when we do our jobs, that it's okay to upload recordings of our work, that this is how to talk to people... probably has little to contribute positively in this space. I didn't mean to sound like I was passing judgment on how others interacted with him.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

I have to say that none of the members or models, even when directly attacked, was making fun of him, since it was clear to everybody that the guy has some serious issues. Actually, some told him just to leave/log off, others to seek out for help - also providing useful links for online counseling where he could get professional and proper help. So I'd say everyone - each in his own way - has actually been really helpful, or at least has tried to be. My 2 cents.

 

[_pilya_]

Everyone had some sort of reasons for contributing here. May it be needs/wants or giving, its something... for OP I believe he wanted attention and assurance following him from the first day he posted here at ACF. I mean, who would have foreseen the firestorm that ended from a simple " Hi...Just say Hi if you want to chat" and for a while it was nothing but crickets. OP, sure knows how to press the button, just because in less than 24 hours this page turned to 7 pages of good reading material over coffee. Mt point is, if OP had watered down his comments just a little, enough not to get hammered, it would be interesting what else he can bring for so many of us to return our comments.

 

[AudriTwo]

 

[Gen]

If you can't behave like an adult, you have no place being on adult-oriented websites.


I agree with everything you said, and I'm glad there are people who are willing to explain that it's not okay to tell other people to kill themselves, I'm not that patient. I recognize that it was my choice to engage in conversation with him. I wasn't suggesting that anyone should have been less kind than they were, my reply was simply meant to voice that I was glad to see him banned. Someone who thinks that we are greedy and dirty (but still wants us to fall in love with him???) when we do our jobs, that it's okay to upload recordings of our work, that this is how to talk to people... probably has little to contribute positively in this space. I didn't mean to sound like I was passing judgment on how others interacted with him.

We are in agreement, haha! I agree with all you’ve said. and this is how you have productive internet conversations, Peter, if you’re still lurking