Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like me?

[KayleePond]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

It’s the guilt trip that causes me the most pain, directly asking for money would be easier in a strange way. It’s the “OMG, I have to pack my bags, what am I going to do? I am going to have to sleep in the park” that is the killer. I can’t go there, to this girl that I have fallen for and visit her in the park, that’s crazy! I would end up giving her money for rent just because I couldn’t see her like that, then she ends up with her rent paid without even having to ask for any money and I end up feeling like a sucker.

I have blocked her on WhatsApp because I just can’t deal with the guilt; it almost feels like it is my fault that she is in the situation she is in. I know I don’t owe her anything but I could have helped and I chose not to. Probably the right decision overall but I can’t help but feel really shitty about it.

Thank you all, I think I am going to stick with trying to find an English girl away from the internet. Wow, how old fashioned! 

Sorry to be late to join this thread matey, it's obviously your decision, but my suggestion (I refrain from using the word 'advice') would have been to go, but for a shorter time - flights are peanuts from Luton/Stansted on Wizzair/Ryanair, and a couple of nights in a reasonable hotel isn't going to break the bank, even at late notice, you'll get a 1 bedroom studio for eur 40 per night.

I'd guess that you'd know a lot more, and be much more comfortable with your decision (either way) with a face-to-face, and the short duration wouldn't give her the time to 'work you', if that was her aim.
Further, from my (limited) experience, Bucharest is nice enough, streets are clean, no 'Hostel' type gangs waiting to whisk you off, no muggers on the streets, most people speak a decent level of English, food/drink is pretty cheap.

From my (again admittedly limited) experience, the girls that are scamming won't give you their real name & address, and won't actually meet - something unexpected 'comes up' at the last moment.

I bet even now, you're thinking "what if?"...

Awww, c'mon man! Why would you do that? Why would you come in to a post over a month past the incident and say something like that?! You can see through the span of the thread that Bonjour thought really hard about his decision and made a SMART choice. Regardless of that, actually, the time has certainly gone by at this point, so it's not like you're influencing a decision for this incident.

What you ARE doing though is putting potentially weird, upsetting doubt into someone's mind after they've already made a difficult decision through no small amount of pain and suffering on their end. Isn't that kind of cruel? Unnecessary? That last line is kind of down-right mean.

Plus it's not like the points about Bucharest being a neat destination that's cheap weren't already broached many times, but he made the choice not to go because it would be too upsetting. I'd also argue that seeing her for even an instant would be PLENTY of time for her to "work him". I think most of us wanted this to work out, but not at the cost of Bonjour's happiness and safety. I'm glad that at the point things got weird he made the decision he did. I think it's a bit uncool to try to make someone feel bad about a big decision they've already made.

 

[Looney]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

Awww, c'mon man! Why would you do that? Why would you come in to a post over a month past the incident and say something like that?! You can see through the span of the thread that Bonjour thought really hard about his decision and made a SMART choice. Regardless of that, actually, the time has certainly gone by at this point, so it's not like you're influencing a decision for this incident.

What you ARE doing though is putting potentially weird, upsetting doubt into someone's mind after they've already made a difficult decision through no small amount of pain and suffering on their end. Isn't that kind of cruel? Unnecessary? That last line is kind of down-right mean.

Plus it's not like the points about Bucharest being a neat destination that's cheap weren't already broached many times, but he made the choice not to go because it would be too upsetting. I'd also argue that seeing her for even an instant would be PLENTY of time for her to "work him". I think most of us wanted this to work out, but not at the cost of Bonjour's happiness and safety. I'm glad that at the point things got weird he made the decision he did. I think it's a bit uncool to try to make someone feel bad about a big decision they've already made.

Emmm... I did start with an apology for joining late.

Nowhere was there any intent to make him 'feel bad' - just hopefully to give a little different perspective from a little experience
(ie I went to Bucharest to meet a 'cam-girl', and wasn't scammed, or mugged, or minus a kidney)

You didn't appreciate it? Well, I can only apologise to you too, no offence intended.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

These threads always make me feel like a fucking weirdo with no feelings, like I'm Dennis Reynolds or something. I don't think I'm capable of falling for someone on the internet, maybe I'm missing out on some sweet life experiences.

 

[ACFFAN69]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

These threads always make me feel like a fucking weirdo with no feelings, like I'm Dennis Reynolds or something. I don't think I'm capable of falling for someone on the internet, maybe I'm missing out on some sweet life experiences.

Just when I thought I was over this thread you had to bump it and re-break my heart.
To make matters worse I've just been struck with the news that my love for PunkInDrublic will forever be unrequited?
And now I have to clean up the sofa due to the blood spurting from my wrists!!!!
Die in a fire Loonie! You have ruined my life! :crybaby:

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

To make matters worse I've just been struck with the news that my love for PunkInDrublic will forever be unrequited?

Sorry my dude, I think I have to get married before the feelings come back. "What I'm saying is I built up a shell.. a shell around myself. A cold, calculated shell that couldn't be broken by anything but marriage." Will you gay marry me bro?

 

[zippypinhead]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

This is so bromantic!

 

[Sevrin]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

To make matters worse I've just been struck with the news that my love for PunkInDrublic will forever be unrequited?

Sorry my dude, I think I have to get married before the feelings come back. "What I'm saying is I built up a shell.. a shell around myself. A cold, calculated shell that couldn't be broken by anything but marriage." Will you gay marry me bro?

Don't you wanna have dinner first, or, at least have some buttsecks?

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

As super awesome as some gay buttsecks sounds, I am a gentleman, which means no buttstuff until the honeymoon.

 

[ACFFAN69]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

As super awesome as some gay buttsecks sounds, I am a gentleman, which means no buttstuff until the honeymoon.

As much as I love you, that's a tough demand to ignore. How about oral? At least a dick pick?
I need to see what I'm working with here!

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like

At least a dick pick?

I gotchu

He can't help that he was born with a cool name like Dicky.