Have you ever told friends or family about your camming?

[Alex_M_21]

I have been camming for a while and always kept it as a side thing to my regular job, or for when I had a holiday coming up or something. However, I recently walked out of my job due to an abusive employer and it has become my main source of income, which is great and I never knew the difference in earnings would be so big doing it full time, I'm definitely doing a lot better than when I was working.

The problem is, my friends and family know I'm "unemployed" and I have no way to explain to them where I'm getting all the money from. I'm able to go on all the nights out, city breaks, new things, new clothes and they're beginning to as me questions. Saying "savings" is only going to get me so far.

I'm thinking of either telling some close friends and family, or I'll have to come up with another plausible excuse.

If you have told people close to you, how did they react?

Were you ever worried if people found out that they'd be creeps and go searching for you, stumbling across all your recorded camshows all over google?

 

[Mila_]

You will probably get more replies if you get verified and post it on the Model's Only side of the forum.

Being discreet about your money is always a safe bet. Not only will it save you from having to answer uncomfortable questions but you will avoid a host of uncomfortable situations such as jealousy from friends or people coming to you for money because they know you have money to spare.

My advice is to do whatever makes you feel more comfortable. Tell them and soften the blow by explaining calmly what your job consists of. As a general rule men take it worse than women in the moment, but women will give you more shit in the long run. Keep in mind at all times that you are an adult and nobody is entitled to know everything about you, or to make you justify your income. Some models are straight with their family and friends, others make up stories. The most popular ones include freelance work that can be done remotely:

1) Working on sales or marketing online

2) Retouching pictures for photographers

3) Doing logo and website design

You can also take the middle-of-the-road route and tell them you are a model or an entertainer, while keeping the specifics vague.

 

[Val Vega]

Most of the people that know me know that I do professional porn and web camming. The reactions are generally pretty muted. I maintain a small group of non-judgmental friends, though. And my boyfriend and his family are equally non-judgmental. So experiences will absolutely vary.

 

[BobbyB]

Another possible "excuse" could be a lottery win, stay vague about the total amount, so you can justify your expenses for quite a long time.....
on the other hand "lying" costs normally a lot of energy, but hard to tell how it will play out if you tell the truth....

 

[Alex_M_21]

Another possible "excuse" could be a lottery win, stay vague about the total amount, so you can justify your expenses for quite a long time.....
on the other hand "lying" costs normally a lot of energy, but hard to tell how it will play out if you tell the truth....

Thanks, it's a good idea. I'd look like a bit of a tight arse if I said I just won the lottery and was not giving any money to my nearest and dearest.

 

[Val Vega]

You can also take the middle-of-the-road route and tell them you are a model or an entertainer, while keeping the specifics vague.

I tried the entertainer thing for a bit, but people always probe and I think the vagueness just leads to them assuming something even worse.

 

[Alex_M_21]

I tried the entertainer thing for a bit, but people always probe and I think the vagueness just leads to them assuming something even worse.

That's why I want to tell them something. Sometimes what people may be assuming could be far worse!

 

[Val Vega]

Were you ever worried if people found out that they'd be creeps and go searching for you, stumbling across all your recorded camshows all over google?

If people want to get acquainted with my butt hole and imagine that every time they see me, so be it!

 

[Val Vega]

That's why I want to tell them something. Sometimes what people may be assuming could be far worse!

How do you feel the people in your life will react? Are you in a situation where your safety and/or livelihood could be threatened by the revelation? Are you getting tired of being in the closet, so to speak?

 

[Alex_M_21]

How do you feel the people in your life will react? Are you in a situation where your safety and/or livelihood could be threatened by the revelation? Are you getting tired of being in the closet, so to speak?

The only negative consequences would be embarrassment, I'm living in the UK, which is very chilled really, still though I live in a small area where people like to gossip. I think I'd probably feel very exposed if I knew that everyone knew, it's only a google search away... Also those cam recordings always catch you with the most unflattering facial expressions haha

 

[Val Vega]

I'm a big ol' ball of controversy whatever I do, so I don't sweat it if people dislike that I'm a pro ho. And being a pro ho isn't just a diversion for me, which may factor in your decision. If you are only going to be doing this for a while, then you may want to consider keeping up the ruse, but if this is your life to come, factors change. I just know not having to constantly side-step questions about what you do is nice. The problem will only get worse with time, I'd reckon.