Happy #SundayFunDay!

[AlexaCrush]

The only reason tone matters is because society influenced us that way, outside of that this is the reason the world has more and more broken marriages each year because people are too concerned about tone than the actual message.

I wasn't going to respond because everyone already covered all my thoughts, but my inner linguist is raging.
You have no idea how language works. Semantics is a HUGE part of the field of linguistics.

P.S. You're upset someone could think you have ill intent? Dude, you're more concerned with the fact that people are viewing you unfavorably than the fact you accidentally offended someone. Get over yourself. Everyone says something that comes out wrong at some point, but getting pissed that people didn't understand your intent when it wasn't clear is just going to make you look like an asshole.

P.P.S. Wanting to give Lorelei a gift for not appearing grumpy at you, to show everyone what a 'nice guy' you are, makes you seem like an even bigger asshole. Good god...

 

[Deleted member 16664]

Maybe my opinion is unpopular here, but I feel like @Sneeqie really didn't mean any harm in his suggestion. If anything, he was just ill informed on how busy this lifestyle can be... I think sometimes it's hard to know someone else's intentions via the forum and unless someone is being a downright asshole, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.

 

[Kiki Jane]

Finally, someone posts something useful. Thank you Lorelei, I will start to do that from now on I was just overly upset that I could ever be assumed as someone with ill intent. What's your Twitter, do you have an Amazon Wishlist? I am going to make these ladies who are tossing shade at me believer's in my good natured intentions for each and every woman here by spoiling you a bit. Thank you for making my day, there is still hope for humanity's communication issues!

Maybe you should make a Hurricaine relief donation in her name instead

 

[Magnolia]

maybe you could start a small donation fund for anyone in Houston

no u

 

[Gen]

Maybe my opinion is unpopular here, but I feel like @Sneeqie really didn't mean any harm in his suggestion. If anything, he was just ill informed on how busy this lifestyle can be... I think sometimes it's hard to know someone else's intentions via the forum and unless someone is being a downright asshole, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.

And that's fine, but it's the subsequent "no you idiots just don't understand" vs "sorry, thought it was a good idea" that dragged the thread on. I agree, I don't think it was ill-intentioned, but that doesn't mean it's unfair to point out why it's an awkward position to put Amber in. (Though I think the later posts on the "attacking" models work ethic were straight up rude.)

 

[AudriTwo]

usually when you say something rude, and it's pointed out, you apologize.

we are also protective of our fearless leader.

 

[mynameisbob84]

we are also protective of our fearless leader.

I'm more fearful than protective. Sure, she seems nice and level-headed and it's true that I've never seen her be unreasonable or let her own feelings get in the way of being objective when it comes to running this forum in all the years I've posted here, and I guess she puts in a lot of unpaid work to keep things up and running when it might be more tempting to put her feet up and watch some Netflix, and I have no "proof" of anything, but do we know she's not a tyrant? Do we know we're not really all in the lion's den of Kim Jong Cutie? Do we know?

That's why I'd never let these fears be known to her.

 

[Emberblaze]

Amber, this will be my final post, for sure this time.

In ending, if the girls that got offended by my post focused more on their careers like Amber does instead of saying the same response different wording that someone else has already stated and I replied, then maybe they wouldn't be attacking someone that openly said multiple times they are coming from a good spot in their heart. Cheers.

Oh I'm sorry, are you an expert in how my career or life is going?

I'm sure you can just tell by my lack of face picture and an ancient cam name that hasn't existed in 3 years exactly how much work I put in or how well I'm doing.

And I'm sure you must be an expert on the financial and career status of every model that posted.

Not to mention posting about how you're here to uplift women but then making sure to take a minute to tell us our paychecks come from men.

Uh huh...

Ok.

 

[MDouble00]

Reads thread

 

[CharlieCharma]

look at my posts, i'm not here to troll but to empower you women.

In ending, if the girls that got offended by my post focused more on their careers like Amber does instead of saying the same response different wording that someone else has already stated and I replied, then maybe they wouldn't be attacking someone that openly said multiple times they are coming from a good spot in their heart. Cheers.

Truly a pioneer in empowering women.

 

[dilligaf0]

I wasn't going to post on this subject but there's so much here to reply to.
I know from past years Amber has a big heart and does what she can to raise donations for charities when she has time. This month was very busy for her with a lot of demands on her time on and off camera.
I don't believe any charity will ever publicly recognize a donation from a collective of, to put it in the terms they would see it as, a group of sex workers. I'm not saying it's right, but we all know how judgemental people can be.
Many people disagree about which charities they trust to properly distribute donations and not skim a large portion for "expenses".
I believe the best solution is for those who want to, and can, to donate to the charity of your choice. It all adds up.

P.S. There's another hurricane (Irma) heading in the general direction of Cuba and the gulf as well as one behind that winding up in the Atlantic behind Irma.
A lot of people may need a lot of help in a very short time.

 

[Teagan]

Let's not forget that the Komen breast cancer foundation refused a donation from strippers years ago. Also let's not forget many people do not support the Red Cross and for many reasons. So see, there would be some complications with picking just one charity unanimously. That's why it's best to just do it your damn self and shut up about it.

That said dudebros you're one step away from calling us feminazis basically. Your intent wasn't really questioned but you're playing victim and saying you're being attacked, bullied, and we're trolling. (You have no clue what those words mean obviously.) People took issue with your tact really. Doubling down that tone doesn't matter was just silly because it does. Even animals can tell tone so it's not a society influenced thing. How you write does matter as evidenced here and many times on the forum. You say we should peruse your history but did you peruse ours in return? Nope. If you did you would see WE aren't trolls or man haters or jaded or "idiot anxiety ridden people." You lacked tact man, deal with it. That's not on everyone else's shoulders.

Lastly: we are an empowered community with or without you sir. #Idiocracy indeed.

 

[Kiki Jane]

The ACF--- Active Caring Foundation, in no way ass-ociated with online... Ahem... Entertainment.

 

[AmberCutie]

I'm bewildered that this dragged on to a 2 page thread, when all that really could/should have happened was "dang sorry I didn't mean it like that, my bad".

Locking this. If anyone wants to make a new thread with lists/suggestions of charities to contribute to for the current and upcoming storms, please feel free.