Friendlist entries for tokens

[Saint_G]

I can see why a model charges tokens to add people to the friends list but i do not like the idea lol Friends should be added to friends lists for no token charges because both parties involved want to be friends. If i have to pay to be on a models friends list (which i don't) that tells me the model is all about making money and doesn't think much about the friendship side. What are others views on this ?

 

[SatanJonez]

At the end of the day, it's a job. A very fun, awesome job, but a j-o-b none the less. 90% of the models I know who have "friends only pm" have it for a good reason (getting constant useless PMs that could easily be done in public chat or guys who want to beg in the safety of private message usually thinking that it'll change the models tune). So if they want to charge for it, good for them. I don't see many people saying that models shouldn't charge for their phone numbers or outside MFC messenger names. To me, while I don't do this, PMs are no different. It's a one on one way to talk that I leave for people who have more conversational skills than "how ru bb??" & people who want to pre-discuss a private show/skype. Your essentially taking the models attention away from public (where most of the time it should be) so having to pay for that privilege wouldn't really bug me.

 

[MadisonLeigh]

I don't want to get non-stop PMs because it's distracting, so I limit my PMs to friends. I don't add everyone who asks to my friends list because that would defeat the purpose. Therefore, to be on my friends list, you can either a) actually become my friend by visiting my room a few times and chatting with me, or b) bypass the time involved and tip 75 tokens. I don't think that is unreasonable, and I think maybe you're not understanding the volume of PMs that models receive. The majority of them are things like "mmmmmmmmmm my cock is so hard for u bb, turn my cam on", and it wastes my time when I could be entertaining the whole room. No one wants to come in and see a model sitting there typing in PM...that's pretty boring to watch.

Sure, it's nice to make friends, and I enjoy getting to know people on MFC. But at the end of the day, camming is my job. If someone stops by my room and truly has a burning need to inform me of their erection status, they can tip for that privilege.

 

[Sevrin]

I can see why a model charges tokens to add people to the friends list but i do not like the idea lol Friends should be added to friends lists for no token charges because both parties involved want to be friends. If i have to pay to be on a models friends list (which i don't) that tells me the model is all about making money and doesn't think much about the friendship side. What are others views on this ?

So you want to be friends with models, do you? Then be friendly. Nothing is stopping you. It is not necessary to PM a model to be friends with her. If, however, you want to take up a model's time and get her attention while she is at work then you should pay her. This is the model's place of work. If she is not thinking about making money while at work, then she is not doing her job. Whatever time she spends on freeloading "friends" is time during which she is not paying attention to the people in her room who may possibly be willing to pay for her time.

"Friend" is just MFC's word and it is used to help people in the community to highlight other members in the community. Just because you add a model to your friends list, doesn't make her a friend or you a friend. And if she adds you to her friends list, that doesn't change things either.

 

[Kittycatpurr]

I used to add people to my friends list when they asked me to, without any charge, and as a result I ended up with a friends list full of people who had been in my room once and sent me a whole load of pointless nonsense via PM along the lines of 'u r hot bb' 'open my cam bb' 'hru bb?' etc. It got pretty frustrating coming on line to see a long list of names under 'friends' that i didn'rt even recognise and that i knew weren't likely to turn up in my room as they were probably off spamming some other poor model with their nonsense. So i changed the rules on my friends.

Now in order to prove that you are my friend and be added you either have to hang out in my room a lot and contribute towards the overall atmosphere of the room by joining in with the conversation and towards whatever topic i have going when you can afford to (in my opinion friends support each other in any way that they can and that includes supporting my work endeavours by NOT treating me as a free counselling or wanking service), or you can bypass by tipping 100 tokens if you want immediate PM priviledges because ultimately if you are willing to spend the tokens it is likely that you are going to treat it as an investment and come back and actually hang out with me properly and get to know me afterwards - it's a show of good faith on your part and your willingness to actually build a proper friendship with me and as a result cuts out the timewasters.

Since i revised my adding friends policy i no longer log on and find that my friends list is meaningless, and I have a much better crowd of regular and lovely people in my room every time I'm on. So it works brilliantly for me and I wouldn't change it for the world.

 

[Jupiter551]

I've never paid for a friend list add, and never will.

It's not that I have anything against models charging for that, it's just extremely rare I'll need to say something to a model privately even if I consider us "friends" on mfc.

Most of the time she's online she's probably on cam, and if I'm not in her room then why am I pming her? And if I am in her room what do I need to be saying to her that the rest of the room can't see?

I think, the people who want to pm constantly are, in some cases, the equivalent of a heavy-breathing phone call - the model being on the other end is both the object of their pleasure and irrelevant to it.

 

[ComicOzzie]

Therefore, to be on my friends list, you can either a) actually become my friend by visiting my room a few times and chatting with me, or b) bypass the time involved and tip 75 tokens.

Option A is the only way I have ever been added to a model's friends list, and I am now friends with dozens of models. I am constantly amazed at the nimrods who enter a model's room for the first time and immediately ask to be added to her friends' list. (Most likely, because their "mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm" PM was blocked.)

PS The best model response I have seen to these members is "sorry, only my friends are on my friends list."

 

[Shaun__]

Friends list have another use of letting you into a models room who has your state blocked. I MFC mailed a model I was recommended once and asked if she would friend add me for tokens so I could watch her. The amount most models ask is just so small I never saw an issue with it. Besides who wants a model spending all her time on cam answering MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM BB MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM PMs from broke premiums.

 

[Rosemary]

I pretty much just went down this thread thanking everyone. Good points all around! I love this forum so much. This thread in particular is going to help me explain to people who don't understand why I don't just add them to my list the moment they ask. It can be hard to understand what is going on on the other side of the screen!

I don't see anything wrong with asking for tokens for a friends list. I think any other point I could bring up has been already covered.

 

[Nordling]

I'd also suggest that when a member gives tokens to be added to a "friend's list" that the model inform them that even though they've paid to be added, that the privilege can be revoked at any time for any reason.

I was a little surprised that the OP actually thought that "friend" in the MFC sense actually meant a literal friend--something that is rare even offline, or that you could be a friend in such a casual manner. lol

Maybe models should quit calling it "friend" altogether, in deference to the dense. Call it "my special list" or whatever.

 

[JickyJuly]

I think LovelyLemon's profile says it best. Something along the lines of not charging for friendslist/pm because you can't buy the right to annoy her. Hehehe.

 

[AlexLady]

The list of friends are people we care about are written in our minds and hearts.


The "Friends List" on MFC is a list of people who can PM us.



Don't make it out to be more than it is just because they named it that.

 

[WickedTouch]

Therefore, to be on my friends list, you can either a) actually become my friend by visiting my room a few times and chatting with me, or b) bypass the time involved and tip 75 tokens.

Option A is the only way I have ever been added to a model's friends list, and I am now friends with dozens of models. I am constantly amazed at the nimrods who enter a model's room for the first time and immediately ask to be added to her friends' list. (Most likely, because their "mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm" PM was blocked.)

PS The best model response I have seen to these members is "sorry, only my friends are on my friends list."

I've never paid for a friend list add, and never will.

It's not that I have anything against models charging for that, it's just extremely rare I'll need to say something to a model privately even if I consider us "friends" on mfc.

Most of the time she's online she's probably on cam, and if I'm not in her room then why am I pming her? And if I am in her room what do I need to be saying to her that the rest of the room can't see?

I think, the people who want to pm constantly are, in some cases, the equivalent of a heavy-breathing phone call - the model being on the other end is both the object of their pleasure and irrelevant to it.

I am with option A... I will take the time to get to know a model and then if SHE wants to she can add me. I don't get bent out of shape if it doesn't happen, as I work with the understanding that an MFC "friend" is nothing like IRL and not to be confused. I have been privileged to have been trusted with personal information given to me by models, none of whom had ever put me on their MFC "friends" list so I always chuckle at the guys who beg to be put on friends lists.

Its a handy feature to circumvent state or country blocking for sure, or to assist the model to filter out numpty pm's from trolling fuckwits, but apart from that it is just a title... no real meaning. If a model wants to make some extra dosh by selling a space on her friends list then that is ok with me... by all means go for it. Real world friendship is never bought nor sold though... it is earned.

 

[Nordling]

When someone begs to "add me bb," I just thought of another possible response: "This is your first time in my room, if you have something earth-shattering to tell me in private, put it in a tip note."

 

[jazzy242]

Being on a model's friends list can (in some cases) be of more benefit to the model than the member, because she can see when you're online and PM you, subtly making you feel a bit guilty if you don't visit her room. This is why I have never asked (or paid) to be on a model's friends list - it's just not to my advantage. Having said that, I have ended up on many model's friends lists anyway (even those that normally charge), but it's NEVER because I've asked.

I mainly use PMs to discuss private shows, or occasionally if I have some information that I don't want the whole room to hear about. If my PM is blocked because I'm not on her friends list, I just leave it, or in the case of a private I may just press the private button and see if it's accepted. But I don't want to discuss a private show in public chat.

 

[Remykins]

I don't charge for it because I think PM-ing is an important tool thats necessary for guys to inquire about stuff going on on my profile, asking about my private shows/skype shows etc...why should I charge for them to simply ask me a few questions? Not like it takes alot of time to reply. HOWEVER....that being said, I totally understand why alot of girls charge for them, and I DO ignore anything that consists of "mmmmmmmmmmmmm bb", or "hey bb my cam is open". I only reply to intelligent questions.

 

[ComicOzzie]

I don't charge for it because I think PM-ing is an important tool thats necessary for guys to inquire about stuff going on on my profile, asking about my private shows/skype shows etc...why should I charge for them to simply ask me a few questions? Not like it takes alot of time to reply. HOWEVER....that being said, I totally understand why alot of girls charge for them, and I DO ignore anything that consists of "mmmmmmmmmmmmm bb", or "hey bb my cam is open". I only reply to intelligent questions.

So you ignore 99% of all PMs? :-D

 

[ComicOzzie]

I have been in model rooms before where a bloob will enter and immediately demand to be put on the model's friends' list. No hello, no tip, just "add me to your friends' list, bb."

What
the
fuck?

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

I don't charge for it because I think PM-ing is an important tool thats necessary for guys to inquire about stuff going on on my profile, asking about my private shows/skype shows etc...why should I charge for them to simply ask me a few questions? Not like it takes alot of time to reply. HOWEVER....that being said, I totally understand why alot of girls charge for them, and I DO ignore anything that consists of "mmmmmmmmmmmmm bb", or "hey bb my cam is open". I only reply to intelligent questions.

I generally charge to be added, but if the come in and talk for a bit and say that they want to PM for privates discussion or something like that, then I tell them I will put them on my PM list for a few mins, JUST to ask those questions. The first time they say "MMMMMM U SOOO HAWT BB IM SOOOO HARD OMFG YOU WANNA OPEN CAM SEE ME BB MY 12 INCH COCK SOOO HARD 4 U BB!!!!!!!!" They get perma banned.

 

[JoleneBrody]

I think spexy and I may be the only ones now
I don't restrict PMs to friends mainly because I did once and I lost money. Yes I get a shit ton of stupid PMs that I just ignore. But I also get a hand full of private inquiries, custom video requests and questions about offers. I still consider limiting it to friends only on occasion but I won't unless it get's out of hand. I also don't have a huge room count. I can't imagine if Ambah didn't limit it to friends, her computer would probably die in the first 5 minutes!
I do not blame girls for charging for friends list adds at all though and I think OP may have the wrong idea about what MFC actually is.

 

[Keithy]

I think spexy and I may be the only ones now
I don't restrict PMs to friends mainly because I did once and I lost money. Yes I get a shit ton of stupid PMs that I just ignore. But I also get a hand full of private inquiries, custom video requests and questions about offers. I still consider limiting it to friends only on occasion but I won't unless it get's out of hand. I also don't have a huge room count. I can't imagine if Ambah didn't limit it to friends, her computer would probably die in the first 5 minutes!
I do not blame girls for charging for friends list adds at all though and I think OP may have the wrong idea about what MFC actually is.

Remember too, Amber doesn't do privates, nor does she make videos for people. So cutting off her private messages to just her friends list doesn't effect that business in any way.
You make a very valid point though, a PM is the easiest way for a potential customer to contact you about services. The harder it is for someone to get services from you, the less likely they will be to get said services.

 

[JoleneBrody]

I think spexy and I may be the only ones now
I don't restrict PMs to friends mainly because I did once and I lost money. Yes I get a shit ton of stupid PMs that I just ignore. But I also get a hand full of private inquiries, custom video requests and questions about offers. I still consider limiting it to friends only on occasion but I won't unless it get's out of hand. I also don't have a huge room count. I can't imagine if Ambah didn't limit it to friends, her computer would probably die in the first 5 minutes!
I do not blame girls for charging for friends list adds at all though and I think OP may have the wrong idea about what MFC actually is.

Remember too, Amber doesn't do privates, nor does she make videos for people. So cutting off her private messages to just her friends list doesn't effect that business in any way.
You make a very valid point though, a PM is the easiest way for a potential customer to contact you about services. The harder it is for someone to get services from you, the less likely they will be to get said services.

Oh yes I know, But even if she did her room numbers are huge and the amount of stupid PMs would be out of hand! So maybeshe was not the best example... ummm... crazysysy then. :mrgreen:

 

[sxycherrypie]

Hmm maybe I should charge to have people on my friends list or when they actually get the time to know me so I am not bombarded with watch me hang my self by my dick pm's. I mean I got tricked into watching a disgusting horrible move of people mutilating their genitals and shit and ugh never ever again do I want to see something like that again!Price only 50 tokens lol.

 

[Remykins]

I don't charge for it because I think PM-ing is an important tool thats necessary for guys to inquire about stuff going on on my profile, asking about my private shows/skype shows etc...why should I charge for them to simply ask me a few questions? Not like it takes alot of time to reply. HOWEVER....that being said, I totally understand why alot of girls charge for them, and I DO ignore anything that consists of "mmmmmmmmmmmmm bb", or "hey bb my cam is open". I only reply to intelligent questions.

So you ignore 99% of all PMs? :-D

actually I get lucky, only about 50% of my PM's are douchey.

 

[AlexLady]

I always went back and forth between friend's only and open PM's. It depends on my mood of the day.



I'll always be annoyed by the whole "bb y u tak me off friends QQ" I get when I turn it on, but eh, I don't care.

 

[Preslye]

For me? If you come in my room and don't say a damn thing or really don't say much and then ask for a friends add like a lot of people do, then I tell you it's 150 tokens for a friends add. If you aren't bringing anything to the table and you admire from a distance how am I suppose to feel mutual about having you on my friends list? Yeah pretty much not going to happen. If however you come in my room and keep me entertained I will add you as a friend but because I want too not because you asked me too. It is mutual if you let me make that decision. If you ask, well then chances are I don't really feel I know you enough to just randomly add you.
Thats my take on it.

 

[sxycherrypie]

For me? If you come in my room and don't say a damn thing or really don't say much and then ask for a friends add like a lot of people do, then I tell you it's 150 tokens for a friends add. If you aren't bringing anything to the table and you admire from a distance how am I suppose to feel mutual about having you on my friends list? Yeah pretty much not going to happen. If however you come in my room and keep me entertained I will add you as a friend but because I want too not because you asked me too. It is mutual if you let me make that decision. If you ask, well then chances are I don't really feel I know you enough to just randomly add you.
Thats my take on it.

Well said. Some people think they are entitled to be you freind and it is like ugh shooo fly don't bother me lol.

 

[GingerAnn]

In my opinion PMs should be used to negotiate privates, send videos, and chat with regulars that i actually LIKE and who have been around long enough for me to actually LIKE them. I'm actually thinking i'm going to stop charging for it/offering it at all. PMs drive me insane.

 

[nerdguy]

In my opinion PMs should be used to negotiate privates, send videos, and chat with regulars that i actually LIKE and who have been around long enough for me to actually LIKE them. I'm actually thinking i'm going to stop charging for it/offering it at all. PMs drive me insane.

On that note, I've actually stopped PM'ing models for the most part when they're on cam, simply because a) it takes their attention away from the room and b) I realized that 90% of the stuff I pm are simply things that could really could just be talked about in normal open chat.

 

[sxycherrypie]

In my opinion PMs should be used to negotiate privates, send videos, and chat with regulars that i actually LIKE and who have been around long enough for me to actually LIKE them. I'm actually thinking i'm going to stop charging for it/offering it at all. PMs drive me insane.

Agreed and oh presents too don't forget pm's can be used to discuss presents off your wishlist too!!