Hey people! Im curious to know if im the only person who had to deal with this REALLY harassing member. I struggle to ban him because he doesn't use any rude language but he is well and truly playing the victim and trying to manipulate me. I will copy a few messages below if you have the patience to read it. Maybe you dealt with him too. I went to the extent of telling him I wasn't interested in his friendship and he just keeps going. I kinda wanna show you guys because its kinda funny how friggin intense he is. Surely im not the only one going through this... If you think you have been dealing with the same person let me know. He's done the same thing in December and now came back a couple weeks ago with a different name thinking I wouldn't recognise his behaviour.
TheWaveDancer: If you ask me a question i'll answer. I dont always have an answer for each comment.
19:07:01 ******: sorry well it would be nice if you made an effort too.. like you do for the others in the room.
19:09:35 TheWaveDancer: Im not talking to anyone in the room in pm except right now for you so im not sure what you mean.
19:16:29 ******: Alana, what I mean is why is that I come in I say hello how are you and you reply back which is nice that then it just goes way .. where as others say or do the same thing and your asking how your day, did you anything what the weather, or any of the multiple question you ask them but when come to me .. you go flat lined… then I try to joke in pm to get some going with you.. and again your flat lines with no respond. then when I ask .. you about it .. its oh.. I had nothing to say.. ..really makes me feel that you want me there. so from now on I am going to make it easy .. if you not going make an effort like you do with others .. why bother being in the room… I can talk to myself and have a better conversation.
19:34:40 *****: Alana there been many time I try to get some foreplay going with you because I wanted take you private .. and I am not like some who just going press the button .. if people arent interested or trying to have lil fun with its like forget about it. I need at least some sort a feeling/ connection back from that person. its the same when try to have a conversation, you are given you effort and words to others but when it come to me ... your uninterested.
19:41:19 *****: ok dont talk to me just proves my point.
THEN I GOT A 24 HOUR BREAK UNTIL ...
20:02:33 ******: Hey Alana I am not sure what to say other than, I came into your room to gain your friendship to have you want to get to know me, to have you ask questions and learn more about me. but instead it was one way conversation where I watched you give your attention and conversation while ask people questions to get to know them.
20:02:41 ******: Unfortunately I guess I didn’t realize that I wasn’t important enough to be in your circle of friends or have you interested enough in me to have a conversation. all that was reserved for others and Now I feel like a fool because I should saw this and I didn’t.
20:03:09 ******: its my fault really, it is my fault for wanting someone friendship who did not want mine. it stings a little but I’m not going run after it or beg. I just sorry that you did put much effort into me. like you did with others. I apologize for being myself and liking someone who didn’t like me. I wish you well.
When I was off broadcast I mailed him and told him that some members were there since my very beginning so im closer to them. I said that pm's were not for long conversation and already explained in the past that we need to go private if he wanted my undivided attention. I told him that we are not really connecting and that we should stop and also to watch his behaviour cause its a cam site not a dating site or a friendship site and he will never make friends if he's forcefully trying like this. Then I received THIS:
well,
just maybe if you bother to actually tried to get know me, this perceived thinking of your would have some validity but it doesn't. the length of time you know someone doesn't have any bearing on if he or she is going to be a good friend or not.
you have called me selfish for wanting the same things that you give to others, it is not self for wanting to have someone you like to have a conversation with them so a friendship can grow. as far as me wanting to have a private with you or anything sexual all this knowledge is from actually talking and have a conversation with them. Someone cant change they way the think or act with a person if the person is not willing share and have some exploratory conversation with the other.
you act like I want all your undivided attention or that I am taken away from others and their conversations with you. I don't interrupt their conversations with you and yes once or twice I had tied to include myself in some of them but you chose not to reply or comment on them.
You say that I don't wait my turn for conversations or that I haven't been patience. I actually had a lot of patiences because your conversations had never been directed towards me or even remotely tried to expand your view of me beyond shroud you have covered me under. it take two people Alana to want to know each other.. I had always put my hand of friendship out for you to have, but it you who has twice now slap it away.
I am sorry that you feel my friendship has no value or worth to you or the room but the fact is you never gave me the opportunity too but your right I cant force you to wanna get to know me. what this last email show me is that a person who come into your room really doesn't have much of a chance in getting any friendship with you because your priority on everyone has place them on a high pedestal that anyone that dares to want your attention, conversation or friendship is climbing a greased pole. you allow them to get so far with you, you allow the tip you, your allow them to maybe had a couple of words but to gain any friendship .. Impossible.
you currently friends and regulars know you and you know them great I happy you have friends you love and trust. all that I ever was trying to do here Alana is become a friend i don't make excuses nor do i sugar coat my feelings and if you had bother to have a conversation with me you would know that what you say or think of me currently is ignorant on your part.. no I am not calling you not Intelligent .. but you cant get to know someone if dont bother to actually talk with them. your friends already know you and you know them but how can you get know someone else or they you if you do not talk with them and have a real conversation to find out more about them.
its you who make yourself not reachable and cold the only warm you give is the people you already love and care for but for everyone else who looking to be in that circle. you keep them on the outside looking in and then wonder why someone like me comes at you like I have and in which you think that I am some kind of a jerk for wanting a friendship with you.
WHAT - THE - FUCK
TheWaveDancer: If you ask me a question i'll answer. I dont always have an answer for each comment.
19:07:01 ******: sorry well it would be nice if you made an effort too.. like you do for the others in the room.
19:09:35 TheWaveDancer: Im not talking to anyone in the room in pm except right now for you so im not sure what you mean.
19:16:29 ******: Alana, what I mean is why is that I come in I say hello how are you and you reply back which is nice that then it just goes way .. where as others say or do the same thing and your asking how your day, did you anything what the weather, or any of the multiple question you ask them but when come to me .. you go flat lined… then I try to joke in pm to get some going with you.. and again your flat lines with no respond. then when I ask .. you about it .. its oh.. I had nothing to say.. ..really makes me feel that you want me there. so from now on I am going to make it easy .. if you not going make an effort like you do with others .. why bother being in the room… I can talk to myself and have a better conversation.
19:34:40 *****: Alana there been many time I try to get some foreplay going with you because I wanted take you private .. and I am not like some who just going press the button .. if people arent interested or trying to have lil fun with its like forget about it. I need at least some sort a feeling/ connection back from that person. its the same when try to have a conversation, you are given you effort and words to others but when it come to me ... your uninterested.
19:41:19 *****: ok dont talk to me just proves my point.
THEN I GOT A 24 HOUR BREAK UNTIL ...
20:02:33 ******: Hey Alana I am not sure what to say other than, I came into your room to gain your friendship to have you want to get to know me, to have you ask questions and learn more about me. but instead it was one way conversation where I watched you give your attention and conversation while ask people questions to get to know them.
20:02:41 ******: Unfortunately I guess I didn’t realize that I wasn’t important enough to be in your circle of friends or have you interested enough in me to have a conversation. all that was reserved for others and Now I feel like a fool because I should saw this and I didn’t.
20:03:09 ******: its my fault really, it is my fault for wanting someone friendship who did not want mine. it stings a little but I’m not going run after it or beg. I just sorry that you did put much effort into me. like you did with others. I apologize for being myself and liking someone who didn’t like me. I wish you well.
When I was off broadcast I mailed him and told him that some members were there since my very beginning so im closer to them. I said that pm's were not for long conversation and already explained in the past that we need to go private if he wanted my undivided attention. I told him that we are not really connecting and that we should stop and also to watch his behaviour cause its a cam site not a dating site or a friendship site and he will never make friends if he's forcefully trying like this. Then I received THIS:
well,
just maybe if you bother to actually tried to get know me, this perceived thinking of your would have some validity but it doesn't. the length of time you know someone doesn't have any bearing on if he or she is going to be a good friend or not.
you have called me selfish for wanting the same things that you give to others, it is not self for wanting to have someone you like to have a conversation with them so a friendship can grow. as far as me wanting to have a private with you or anything sexual all this knowledge is from actually talking and have a conversation with them. Someone cant change they way the think or act with a person if the person is not willing share and have some exploratory conversation with the other.
you act like I want all your undivided attention or that I am taken away from others and their conversations with you. I don't interrupt their conversations with you and yes once or twice I had tied to include myself in some of them but you chose not to reply or comment on them.
You say that I don't wait my turn for conversations or that I haven't been patience. I actually had a lot of patiences because your conversations had never been directed towards me or even remotely tried to expand your view of me beyond shroud you have covered me under. it take two people Alana to want to know each other.. I had always put my hand of friendship out for you to have, but it you who has twice now slap it away.
I am sorry that you feel my friendship has no value or worth to you or the room but the fact is you never gave me the opportunity too but your right I cant force you to wanna get to know me. what this last email show me is that a person who come into your room really doesn't have much of a chance in getting any friendship with you because your priority on everyone has place them on a high pedestal that anyone that dares to want your attention, conversation or friendship is climbing a greased pole. you allow them to get so far with you, you allow the tip you, your allow them to maybe had a couple of words but to gain any friendship .. Impossible.
you currently friends and regulars know you and you know them great I happy you have friends you love and trust. all that I ever was trying to do here Alana is become a friend i don't make excuses nor do i sugar coat my feelings and if you had bother to have a conversation with me you would know that what you say or think of me currently is ignorant on your part.. no I am not calling you not Intelligent .. but you cant get to know someone if dont bother to actually talk with them. your friends already know you and you know them but how can you get know someone else or they you if you do not talk with them and have a real conversation to find out more about them.
its you who make yourself not reachable and cold the only warm you give is the people you already love and care for but for everyone else who looking to be in that circle. you keep them on the outside looking in and then wonder why someone like me comes at you like I have and in which you think that I am some kind of a jerk for wanting a friendship with you.
WHAT - THE - FUCK
And yeah hes fucking draining
seriously....
