Does shyness turn you on?

[SilentOne]

I was wondering if shyness turns any guys on? I know a few guys who prefer shy women over outspoken. But I was curious if that worked in the cam world. Would you tip a girl who was to shy to get naked, or even to talk out loud sometimes.

 

[AllisonWilder]

I'm not a guy, but I'd tip a shy model. Not to get her naked or anything, but to hopefully help her break out of her shell a bit.

A lot of guys really like that shy innocence things some girls can really rock.

 

[MemberEd]

Speaking only about cam models, I would have to say it is not a turn on. I do know and tip models who don't get nude in public but they do talk a lot and keep a interest in the room. If a model is not talking to members and not performing in some way nude or not. I can't think of any reason why I would stay in the room and tip.

 

[LacieLaPlante]

There is at least one model I can think of who is very shy on cam sometimes. If you see her after a cum show, she looks incredibly embarrassed.

Sometimes I feel that might be the appeal. She doesn't seem like the kind of girl who /would/ be on cam, her hesitation without refusing to back down might be the appeal. She's a shy girl, working through it.

That said, she is very very very close with her regulars as friends, and I think that helps.

 

[Gen]

I consider myself super shy but camming is my outlet to try and overcome that. Being a bit less talkative or being nervous to get naked could be cute and endearing, but if you're too shy to talk, working this kind of job is probably not for you (ditto anything where you talk to people like customer service, retail, etc).

My favourite camgirls are usually cute girl-next-door types and I think it's cute when they're a bit shy, but to me if a girl is "too shy" to get naked I assume she doesn't really want to and I don't want to watch someone do something good they aren't comfortable with. If they get naked every day but still act nervous about it every time, I find it kind of annoying and probably wouldn't hang out there.

 

[Nordling]

This may sound odd, but I think it's a turn-on when I know it's not real. A kind of teasing demureness. A lusty humility. A coy foxiness. That awkwardness, that I can relate to...but dissolves when you get to know the person.

 

[Bocefish]

Shyness on a cam site can grow old rather quickly and comes across as manipulative sometimes.

Test the waters to seek what you may find.

 

[SilentOne]

Thank you for all your opinions .

 

[Sevrin]

The "Shy Girl" is an act pushed by some studios as a way to draw members into becoming regulars always hoping for a more revealing encounter. A lot of members have become familiar with it, and may suspect that it's just that, an act.

Models come in all different personalities, and some actually are naturally reserved, but if a model just pretends, and a member comes across a video of her spreadeagled with a dildo up her butt, she might find that kind of phoniness will backfire. The best policy is for the model to examine herself and decide what kind of model she wants to be, and just be that person. If it's not her "real" personality, it will take a lot more effort to maintain the illusion, and *may* even cause the model to become confused about who she is, and no amount of tokens is worth that.

 

[Violet October]

Not so much on cam, but in real life I'm incredibly attratced to shy women. I want to take their innocence. :drool:

Either really shy women, or really intimidating women.

I haven't found many shy models who I actually believed were shy, so I'm not sure how I would feel. If I truly believed it, I'd probably fall head over heels and lose all my monies. lol

 

[SinSeraTea]

I gravitate toward shy people in real life. I want to be their friend, stir their excitement and help them build the fire inside them so that it is visible from further away.

I tend not to want to date them unless they're VERY good at communicating and totally prepared to ask for what they want. You can be shy and still have perfect boundaries.

I'm a strange kind of shy. I'm cripplingly shy. But I know I shouldn't be. I force myself out of my comfort zone and truly it feels like fairly constantly jumping out to crowd surf and constantly getting caught and surfing a wild wave of conversation with new people where I find that yes. I am welcome. Why would I feel unwelcome?

Because my brain is hardwired that way.

 

[Ambers Troll]

Shy is definitely not a turn on... I am quiet, serious, and rebelious in social situations, so tend to like extroverted, normal thinkers as company.
Shy people don't like me as a rule, big turn off.

Having said that, might tip a shy model if I ever met one.

 

[RubyDimples]

I think I'm pretty shy myself but enjoy camming to let my inner lioness free xox

 

[Brad]

Part of the attraction of MFC is the interaction between the model and her room/members. I am not sure that a shy model would be able to make that work very well. In my opinion the best models are the ones who simply act like themselves and don't try to capture a persona that is not genuine. While a beautiful model may attract my attention for a short time that will not keep my attention long term nor will it keep me coming back.

I have no facts to base this on but I don't think that the members using cam sites simply to masturbate are the ones doing the majority of the tipping. I do know that the girls I tip is because I like them for who they are, not just based on what they look like.
:twocents-02cents:

 

[SilentOne]

Thank you all for your opinions. But I am not trying to put on any persona. I really am shy, I have social anxiety insanely bad. I used to be a cam girl about a year ago. And I did put on the persona that I was this really outgoing provocative girl. It wasn't me, and trying to mock it was quite difficult. Because acting for introverts, is not a easy thing to do. We don't like to be in a position where we are forced to be someone else. The thing is why I am asking, is I miss camming. It was the only time I could actually talk to people and build relationships because I did not feel judged, as wierd as that is being on a cam site where nearly every guy is judging every girl trying to find there favorite. Camming was my escape, but I did not like doing shows. Getting naked here and there is fine, but I felt really uncomfortable masturbating in front of people. I liked the talking and doing silly things to entertain my room. I'm not a tease, or trying to put on a act. I'm just a introverted girl with no friends and to shut off to build any in the outside world. I'm just wondering, if I am myself, are people going to like me? A constant question in my head. Or am I going to be faced with the same facts I am on the outside world where people are not attracted to shyness. Not even as a sexual thing just in general. I think I would cam alot better knowing, I don't have to put on a act just to get tips. That I could for once just be myself and be accepted and loved for it.

 

[RubyDimples]

Individually I think everyone has their own way of doing things when they cam. But you shouldn't by no means pretend to be something your not and expect that to make you money. Members on MFC are VERY VERY perceptive to phony behavior, and are much smarter than some models want to admit. Do whats right for you! Good luck on your journey.

 

[SilentOne]

Thank you doll

 

[LuckySmiles]

I've always kind of towed the line between being painfully shy and very outgoing.. i know it doesn't make sense. It's more of a confidence thing that's inconsistent in certain situations. If I'm at an amusement park with friends or family I'll crack jokes to strangers on the line. Or in a store or something I have no problem asking for help. On the phone with a customer service person when I know the company is clearly in the wrong. "I want my money back" I don't care.

For me it depends on the situation and how much I care what other people think that day. Sometimes not at all.. sometimes it's consuming.

That party where you meet your s/o friends for the first time?... tripping over my words and dropping things barely able to speak.. until someone asks for help with something I'm confident I'm awesome at OH LET ME HELP YOU!

It's a situational thing for me that carries over into camming a lot. Sometimes I know I look good, I know I'm being charming/sexy/etc., I know who's there and what they want to see. And I'm not shy.

Sometimes I log on in an iffy mood to begin with and get no response to anything I say, start fumbling my words, question the way I look, everything I say, everything I do, narrowly escape being trolled. And clam up completely until I have to excuse myself. This happened to me just yesterday.

I think this is why so many people rely on regulars etc. you just need a reminder that you know what you're doing and there's a reason to be there to snap out of your shell. Some nights I'm just waiting for the camming equivalent of "I don't know about these mojitos?!" OMG YES I KNOW THIS I CAN HELP YOU WITH THIS I AM SO GOOD AT THIS.

I'm not sure of what that is.. maybe.. "i hear you have delightful boobs and if I give you some tokens you might show me??"
OMG YES! YOU'RE RIGHT THAT IS SO TRUE! I CAN HELP YOU WITH THAT! I AM LIKE SO GOOD AT THIS!

:lol:

I don't know if this is relevent.. I'm just saying it's not always an act. I can be really out there sometimes, and I can also be really shy.

 

[SilentOne]

Lucky, I am the same way to a point. If someone comes to me with a question, I have no problem helping. The care taker in me wants to be helpful in anyway I can. Although when it comes to me asking for help, its quite difficult. I realized when I was camming, I could let my wall down. Im always shy, but its just so much easier for me to make small talk when I cam. Plus I find these people watching me so much more interesting to talk to, then people in the outside world. Its like a place where no matter who you are or what your flaws are. Someone out there is going to like you, and I guess thats why I loved camming. It was the one place, I could be myself. But here's my thing, I am not all that a sexual person, unless it comes to my boobs. cause I really love my boobs ahaha. But I like to entertain in other ways. Am I not going to get tipped if Im not willing to masturbate or be naked all the time? Its just not who I am. But I love camming so much, and its been driving me crazy not to be able to do it because I don't want to fail at doing things my way. ALSO!

When I was camming, it was only for about 4-5 months awhile ago. I was really working it towards the end, really trying to land a higher camscore. Because well, I didn't have that high cam score. I was actually towards the bottom. My highest potential was 1880 I believe. Anyways, the second I get a nice decent check I was happy with. Something odd happened. Everyone stopped coming to my room, my regulars even. I made 5 dollars in 2 weeks. I only had maybe 4-5 people come in my room. I went from having 20-60 people in my room on the daily, to have no one stay for even 10 minutes long. I kept wondering, did I do something wrong to piss off mfc, and now there punishing me for it? It was just so weird how everything drastically changed from one end to the other out of nowhere. Has this happened to anyone?

 

[Ambers Troll]

Everyone stopped coming to my room, my regulars even. I made 5 dollars in 2 weeks. I only had maybe 4-5 people come in my room. I went from having 20-60 people in my room on the daily, to have no one stay for even 10 minutes long. I kept wondering, did I do something wrong to piss off mfc, and now there punishing me for it? It was just so weird how everything drastically changed from one end to the other out of nowhere. Has this happened to anyone?

This is pretty common (to various degrees), even with experienced models, 'extroverted', and very common for models after the new period. I would assume you think it has something to do with the shyness? You are probably being a bit hard on yourself, camming is highly competitive, and keeping others happy/ entertaining them takes alot of work.

You seem to be someone who needs alot of attention before you feel comfortable enough for any member request, this is ok.
If/ when you try again at this focus on keeping conversation going, and if you can't talk plan on actively doing something. I would assume that part of camming is creating contingency plans to do or say something, when you have nothing to do or say, frozen wont work.

On the more positive side of shyness, there are alot of fake shy models out there, am sure genuine would be far more sexy to the right members. Part of the appeal of innocence/ new is those unexpected and honest reactions, I suspect in being with someone shy it would be similar, especially when get to see their reaction when they do/ say something they never would usually. Having a shy moment is ok. Take a peek at others rooms, drama (good or bad) of some kind is usually susccessful for the model. Models should never fear it unless it gets disruptive.

You can do things 'your way' next time if you plan for it, and get the right advice.

 

[HarmlessSquirrel]

To answer the question directly, no I don't find shyness a turn-on. I do find sincerity appealing though. If that's who you are, that's fine as long as it doesn't stop you from being fun to watch and talk to.

Having a shy moment is ok.

This I agree with. Some guys even find a little awkwardness charming.

Take a peek at others rooms, drama (good or bad) of some kind is usually susccessful for the model. Models should never fear it unless it gets disruptive.

I strongly disagree with this. A model freaking out and getting abusive of the room in general is certainly dramatic, but it's unlikely to earn her friends and regulars. Happy drama is cool, but negative drama will kill the mood of the room and maybe turn some guys off to the model permanently even though it might draw a crowd in the moment.

 

[SilentOne]

Really? Thats common? I just thought it was so weird, how once I start doing great, everyone just disappeared. And it wasn't after my new model name came down. Iti was towards the last 2 weeks of my 5 month career as a webcam model. But thank you for giving me boost that being shy can work. Maybe even better then when I pretended to be someone I wasnt. I guess Im going to have to get fairly creative with my room, if I wanna beat 5 months.

 

[LilLitaRose]

I only will be shy for videos or privates if that's what the customer wants. I enjoy pretending to be shy, because I think my taste in porn is very demure women and a Dominant person. (Male or Female). So it depends on the person. XD

 

[Worship Jaclyn]

I am very shy and I worried about it holding me back but I really don't think it does. I also worried people would think I was faking it for a role but I think it's pretty obvious I'm not.

It takes me a while to cum in cumshows and afterward I'm just like ummm.. what do I do now? Someone say something! This is awkward!

Unlike a lot of models, I keep my pm open. I don't answer anyone asking about skype/paypal/cam watching but otherwise I think it is by pm that I get all my regulars. I'm an open book and don't mind talking, I'm just very introverted. So I think guys might like how well I get to know them?

I don't really know why, I just know that it works for me.

 

[SilentOne]

Thank you Melody. Finally someone that can understand what I'm talking about! I know this job isn't typical for introverted girls. But I honestly enjoyed it so much, I can't imagine doing any other work to make me happy at this point in my life. I was very much like you, where I kept my private messages open, because I enjoy getting to know people on a one on one level. Its a better connection. You just made my day

 

[LadyLuna]

There are some guys who want to play "rescue the maiden" by tipping small amounts to a model who doesn't make much to begin with. If said small amounts total up to a large amount, suddenly, those members feel their 20 tokens is lost in the sea of tokens other people sent. They go elsewhere. So when you get too many of the people whose reason for tipping is that you're not a big-time model, you get too close to a big-time model for their comfort, and they leave.

The really sad bit is, they can't give you the chance to prove that you're not like other girls, for the same reason we can't give guys the chance to prove that they won't be the one to scam. They leave before you have a chance to stop giving such a big thank you for their 100 token tip as you used to.

The important thing is to keep going. Other people will find other reasons to tip you.

Also, 1880 camscore is not that bad. MFC claims that 1,000 is average. Know what average means? It means that roughly 50% of the people are not as good as that. (It's not exact, if it was, that would be the median). The real average camscore is somewhere between 800 and 900. Which means you were doing more than twice as well as the average camgirl.

At this point, since you did take the break, I think the best thing you can do is get on camera with a goal of having fun. Whatever you find fun about it, that's what you're trying to recreate each time you're on. Vary it so it happens in different ways, but go for it! Try not to let it bother you when people decide to wander off. Most of the ones who were keeping you company will stop back in at some point.

MFC allows you to turn off privates, and I think to turn off groups, so you don't have to be 1-on-1 with anyone who hasn't proven they don't care about the sex aspect. It's okay for you to never masturbate on camera. Just have it in your profile that you won't do it. People will still ask for it, you say that you don't do it. If the same person asks again after you already said you won't live specifically to that person, type it to that person (assuming you said it out loud), because maybe the person doesn't have sound. If they still ask, use both the ban and the ignore button.

If you do have private and/or group open, you can press the "decline" button. If you end up in one accidentally (when typing, windows takes the spacebar or enter button as pressing whichever button on the pop-up is highlighted. I just wish the programmers would make it the decline button instead of the accept button...), type in chat "I'm sorry" then end the show real quick, unless it's a private you want to accept. Remember- it's okay to say no, and it's okay to ban anyone who doesn't take no for an answer. In real life, if someone doesn't accept no, it's harassment at the very least. You don't have to put up with that.

 

[SilentOne]

Aw thanks girl . That makes alot of sense! I had it in my head that maybe mfc was trying to knock me out of the competition to give other models a chance. When I first started, I didn't really understand cam score. And when I finally did, I was at a 700 cam score. Every week it kept going up because I started to really work it. The fact I went from 700 to 1880 made me feel so proud of myself. For once I was exceling at something and it was all because of my own hard work. And then all of sudden it was taken from me, which caused frustration and then I just gave up because I couldn't understand why everyone had just disappeared. I guess once you do get close to the 2000 cam score, at least from what I have noticed models start charging more. Which is true, that is what I was doing. So I guess because I wasn't a cheap model anymore, my clients couldn't keep up with it and decided to move back down the page of models to find there new favorite. Just kinda makes me sad, because I did get attached to some clients as we had become very close. I watch cam girls EVERYDAY, I'm possibly more obsessed with mfc, then most paying customers are. I study who does what and what has yet to be done. I realize the multiple personalities which is probably why its so easy to become addicted, no matter how many models you flip through you will find that one you just "get" or is really fun to watch. I just never have seen a shy girl, so I thought I'd come here and ask if anyone would be turned on by that, because this time around I really just want to be myself. I don't want to compare myself to other models and try to compete with them or attempt to act like them. It's really draining. Other then that fact, I'm going to go for it. Ever since I saw a job posting for cam models, I knew in my heart that I could really be great at this. And I don't get that feeling often. I'm so happy that there is a community like this where we can all bond and get help from each other. So we don't all feel alone

 

[SilentOne]

All opinions are welcome you guys! Lets keep this thread going!