Do you girls have a boyfriend/husband?

[AngelicaVee]

I haven’t really been interested in dating since I started camming. I’m a big introvert, so camming and keeping up with my friends takes up all of my emotional energy. I suspect this will change if I meet someone I really like, but right now my life feels very full already. Which I think is a good thing

 

[ZeraEve]

I'm single now, but when I lived with my ex it was a little tricky camming at that time. My ex was EXTREMELY loud though, he would play video games and scream constantly so I understand the stress of your bf making noise while you're trying to cam. I have a roommate now that I'm single, but something I've discovered is buying some sound proofing pads might be a good investment. Also, put a towel or blanket under the crack of the door of the room you're camming in, you'd be surprised how much that can muffle sound.

My other advice would be to set a strict schedule for camming. That way your bf knows that's the time you cam, and knows when it's time for him to get to spend time with you. Maybe that will help if he knows exactly what time to expect you to be off cam and with him.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Please do not hate me for my opinion.
- No, and I either will have a rich husband that can take care of me to the fullest or I do cam as long as I can save enough for my own business... Looking a certain way while dating is already pretty hard. Yes, a lot of guys want to fuck you, but if you really want someone who loves you that's a bit different. - Many guys I would say 80% are not okay with dating camgirls. But I have good new for girls who are reading this.. I found out that those are usually the working class and in general very low IQ men. There is a lot of stigma around this kind of adult entertainment ( no it is not sex work for me because I do not have sex for money or do explicit content ). I usually ask my dates what they think of it, if they are negative about it I remove myself from that situation ( I wait like 10 mins or so and talk about other things then ask the guys to bring me home, after I block them etc. )
When you are a camgirl, you can't work and lead a healthy love life. I work 8-10 hours a day, after that I am not capable of making food, clean the house, giving sex etc. etc. to my partner. - I am very old fashioned when it comes to dating. I believe making money is masculine energy. If man wants hot young body, a totally sexy, high class girls is okay.. But if a girl wants money, she is a bitch? It's not working like that way.

Some guys are into that. I'm not. I don't want to take care of someone, if I did it'd be another child. Not a full grown adult who's perfectly capable of working a job whether it be camgirl, blue collar or white collar jobs.

Fuck all that shit about taking care of someone. A marriage is a 50/50 investment of partners who are both willing to put in the work. Was married to someone who unanimously decided she was going to cut back on work entirely, then bitch at me for not helping around the house on top of working 10-12 hours a day. BTW, I did all the home remodeling, yard work, cleared the snow, maintained the vehicles, did the laundry (she couldn't comprehend sorting clothes by colours and material types), periodically cooked and cleaned (which she bitched at me for not doing correctly).

All to have her hide money on the side, cheat on me, drag me through hell of separation/divorce and then take advantage of me for years because of having to support her and her new BF...

Women wonder why I don't want to date. That's why. Yeah, I know all aren't that way. But, when 2/3 of the women I date cheated on me, and nearly all took advantage of me, odds aren't in my favour. If by chance I do find someone, I'm saying hell no to marriage. We can be just as committed w/o the ceremony as we could with. I'll make sure that we live in a state where there's no such thing as common law marriage either. If she can't agree to that, then I'll happily show her the door.

 

[SaffronBurke]

Maybe you have a vitamin deficiency? 8-10 hours is the average work day for all humans, not just cam girls, and majority of them seem to be able to still feed, clean and have relationships.

Hell, I was able to work 14 hours with a 1-hour bus ride each way, and still tend to my share of the housekeeping and have a relationship.

 

[sevie]

I’ve been living with my partner for 6 years. He is very supportive of me camming and helps me as much as he can, but I think I would have a much easier time getting online more regularly if we weren’t together anymore. He has just been so emotionally draining for me to be around lately, and camming is already so draining by itself.

 

[sophiapoz]

Married 2 years here. He's aware of my cam model endeavors but I don't involve him in any of it at all and treat it like what it is: a job. He wouldn't be interested in it even if I wanted to. He's home a lot and I have a hard time maintaining a "vanilla" job due to anxiety and mental health issues. I made it a personal goal to work a certain number of hours a day as many days a week as possible. I tell him when I plan on working and take our bedroom hostage (he naps on the touch or hangs out in the living playing on his PS4). He's never in the same room as I am when I'm working. The door stays locked and he can communicate with me via text while I'm working if he needs to. The nature of the job, as you know, allows a lot of flexibility and I can always stop for a break for a few hours without any issues and pick back up later if the need arises.

We live in a 2-bedroom/2-bathroom apartment. Before I started camming, I had an entire room to myself most of the time but ,unfortunately, a friend of his had a fight with an old roommate and is staying with us for a while so no designated cam room for me anymore for the foreseeable future. Our couch sucks so I want to save up and get a nicer one for him to better sleep/nap on when necessary. I've basically been a housewife for a while so as long as I have some chicken and vegetables in the fridge that he can microwave, he's perfectly content entertaining himself.

 

[FoxyDame]

I am married and he is supportive but I havent actually started camming yet. We are still working out the details tbh... like where in the heck i am gonna cam... it is looking like the walk in closet lol! I have teens as well (every other week) so that's also an issue I am trying to figure out... anyway, going to watch this thread and see what others are saying. Great question though!

 

[AudriTwo]

I am married and he is supportive but I havent actually started camming yet. We are still working out the details tbh... like where in the heck i am gonna cam... it is looking like the walk in closet lol! I have teens as well (every other week) so that's also an issue I am trying to figure out... anyway, going to watch this thread and see what others are saying. Great question though!

You might want to think about clips, sexting, snapchat, and pso when your teens are at your home. that way you don't have stream and still can make money.

 

[FoxyDame]

You might want to think about clips, sexting, snapchat, and pso when your teens are at your home. that way you don't have stream and still can make money.

Omg duh! Thanks! That's such a good idea. I am new to it but reading the wiki about camming and that's such a duh thing lol you're the best!

 

[AudriTwo]

Omg duh! Thanks! That's such a good idea. I am new to it but reading the wiki about camming and that's such a duh thing lol you're the best!

we were all new at one point. you good bb. here is a great free digital book on pso: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/free-book-about-i-became-a-top-phone-cam-girl.31497/

 

[FoxyDame]

we were all new at one point. you good bb. here is a great free digital book on pso: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/free-book-about-i-became-a-top-phone-cam-girl.31497/

Thanks! I DM'd the OP on Twitter so hopefully she gets back to me soon

 

[FoxyDame]

Thanks! I DM'd the OP on Twitter so hopefully she gets back to me soon

She sent me the link!

 

[Rydergoodee]

I had a fiancé when I first started cam almost 3 years ago . He was back and forth about it and sometimes he would freak. Pull the wires out when I was getting tipped or yelling for the spite of it . I started cam to supplement income I was in school and working 10 hour shifts. For a year I put up with the names and his awful behavior then I left for good. 3 months later I went full time cam. Some guys will never be ok with there SO on cam. Most of them are ignorant and have low self esteem and insecure issues. I honestly have no clue on how to go about dating because I wouldn’t lie and I’m sure they would think I’m a sure thing. Well I’m definitely not. Hopefully when the time is right I will meet someone open minded and intelligent enough and if not looks like I’ll be single forever

 

[Deleted member 37064]

I had a fiancé when I first started cam almost 3 years ago . He was back and forth about it and sometimes he would freak. Pull the wires out when I was getting tipped or yelling for the spite of it . I started cam to supplement income I was in school and working 10 hour shifts. For a year I put up with the names and his awful behavior then I left for good. 3 months later I went full time cam. Some guys will never be ok with there SO on cam. Most of them are ignorant and have low self esteem and insecure issues. I honestly have no clue on how to go about dating because I wouldn’t lie and I’m sure they would think I’m a sure thing. Well I’m definitely not. Hopefully when the time is right I will meet someone open minded and intelligent enough and if not looks like I’ll be single forever

Sucks about how SO's freak out on those who are supposedly the most important to them. Not just as you, and other cam models experience. But, just in general.

When I get asked if I'm dating anyone, or have met someone, or hoping to. My response is along the lines of "Sure, maybe someone I'll meet someone who will make me not want to be single anymore. Until then, I'm happily single."

 

[Rose]

My spouse and I have been together since before we got into the adult industry. When I started camming in 2011, he was my biggest supporter emotionally and is largely the reason that we now live entirely on my income.

Full disclosure, it doesn't matter if you do porn or not, relationships are hard fucking work. Especially the ones worth having!

We've had lots of ups and downs, both in conjunction with my career and strictly personal problems, but there are lots of ways to make it work. Mostly it takes time, talking, and tinkering with schedules until a happy compromise is reached. For us, the only thing that does work is communicating our schedules explicitly. Our current point in life has him doing all of the cooking and most of the parenting, while I do everything else (everything as in 100% of the income, all of the cleaning, all of the scheduling for everyone, everything). It works for us because I'm a control freak and he's always wanted to be a dad, plus it helped him deal with our traumatic pregnancy and miscarriages in a healthy way by being super hands on all the time.

Even with our scheduling though, there's still noise and interruptions sometimes. I've made that work with my career by just being honest. The married MILF thing works for me. This industry is lots of trial and error and is completely flexible if you want it to be. Above all, just communicate honestly. Taking your post to him sounds like the best way to solve things, imo.