Did webcamming help your body image issues?

[JigglesJane]

Overall, being on cam has really helped me and my confidence. I find that there are PLENTY of members who really like my body and all of its jiggles.

Some days are harder than others but I haven't had any trolls in chat telling me to lose weight (knock on wood).

I've lost some weight in the few months I've been back on MFC and some of my members are noticing and encouraging me. That's just the best!

 

[SaffronBurke]

Although some strip clubs hire a wide variety of women, the more upscale clubs typically prefer the Barbie doll or Playboy Playmate look-white, blonde, thin, implants, tanned, with few or no tattoos. I've worked in clubs where I was put on "weight probation" (I had to lose weight or I'd be fired), and at the time I was about 20-30 pounds thinner than I am now-definitely not overweight. At some clubs, all tattoos had to be covered, no unnatural hair colors were allowed, and no piercings other than your ears and navel were allowed.

Wow, that's hella strict! As a customer, I'm glad that the strip club I frequent lets girls have whatever tattoos, piercings, and hair color they want, because that level of restriction sounds very not fun.

 

[BadgirlIvy]

Sometimes I am busy comparing myself to skinny models and wondering if I would do a lot better if I looked like them. I also stopped camming and clip making after weight gain and an influx of people calling me pig. Some days- it's easy to handle and brush off because I feel beautiful. But when I don't feel beautiful, it sticks into me and just digs. Which sucks but we're only human here, for now.

So, sometimes.

I can totally relate, but in the end I stop and remind myself that me and the skinny model aren't even in the same genre of porn so she really isn't my competition anyway. You have to think, you can really only technically compare yourself to your own genre, if you absolutely have to compare yourself (which I obviously suggest you don't lol). The only thing I compare myself on with ALL models is stage presence, mood of my room, fun of my room, things like that. I'm always looking for new ideas.

About the whole 'piggy' thing...I was hurt the first time someone called me a piggy, but only slightly. I'm submissive in my show and I accept humiliation and things like that, as long as it's followed by praise. So it may be a bit easier for me, but hear me out.
As a fat girl in the sex industry you almost always have to be able to accept some sort of comments about it. A lot of people have domination fetishes, they like to say mean things and call us piggy, make us oink, make us say we are fat pigs, BUT they at the same time are JACKING OFF TO US. They think we are sexy AS FUCK. And they are PAYING to call you those names and jack off to you haha.
So unless someone is coming in your room saying shit like 'Oh you're a whale.' 'You need to cut out the snacks.' things like that that are obviously meant in a mean way, then I consider everything else dirty talk.
Like I said I'm a little less sensitive about it and am pretty comfortable with my body but its something to keep in mind.

 

[BadgirlIvy]

Camming has helped my body image. I used to dance in strip clubs and strip clubs have a much narrower view of beauty than the camming world does. In camming, you'll see girls of all races, ages, and sizes bank. Although some strip clubs hire a wide variety of women, the more upscale clubs typically prefer the Barbie doll or Playboy Playmate look-white, blonde, thin, implants, tanned, with few or no tattoos. I've worked in clubs where I was put on "weight probation" (I had to lose weight or I'd be fired), and at the time I was about 20-30 pounds thinner than I am now-definitely not overweight. At some clubs, all tattoos had to be covered, no unnatural hair colors were allowed, and no piercings other than your ears and navel were allowed. I felt like I was walking on eggshells in super strict clubs, and I couldn't relax and enjoy pizza or ice cream for fear of gaining weight and losing my job.

I get far more rude comments on cam sites than I did working in strip clubs, but that's because people are anonymous on the Internet and say things that they would never have the balls to say to a person's face. A lot of the time, these people are broke assholes who just enjoy getting a reaction out of you. The key is just to not take it personally-quietly ban the assholes and don't let them bother you, because all camgirls get rude comments at some point.

This is exactly why I quit being a stripper!!!!
After camming for a few months last year I had a friend, who used to be a stripper locally, tell me I should try it out. We were sure there had to be Strip Clubs in Kansas City that accepted thick girls right? WRONG.
I worked one night at a club my friend used to work at and only because she put in word for me, I didn't give ONE lap dance. I had 2 stage performances and only made 80 bucks. They then called me the next day and told me not to come back because they were too over staffed right now....yeah right.
So I went and tried to apply at EVERY SINGLE club in KCMO vicinity. Only one club hired me, and only for the day time shift. I'd make maybe 60 bucks a day and it was mostly the same customers that smelled awful...lol. Every time I gave this one guy a dance he would hint at paying me for a blowjob. Then once I had been there for a week or so the club was totally empty one day and all the girls got together and were swapping stories. I soon came to realize that every single stripper in that club was also a prostitute. I was like wait... that is why I'm not making money?! And every single girl was like "Yeah! duh! you have to give BJs and let them finger you and stuff at least!" That blew my fucking mind and I quit that day. I'll stick to camming thank you very much!

 

[ReneeRoseX]

I find that even though I've only been camming for a couple weeks, it is a dual edged sword. on your good days where you meet your goals etc, you feel great but on your low days you feel real low.

camming has made me feel more confident about my sexuality though which has been a very interesting adventure!

 

[JigglesJane]

This is exactly why I quit being a stripper!!!!
After camming for a few months last year I had a friend, who used to be a stripper locally, tell me I should try it out. We were sure there had to be Strip Clubs in Kansas City that accepted thick girls right? WRONG.
I worked one night at a club my friend used to work at and only because she put in word for me, I didn't give ONE lap dance. I had 2 stage performances and only made 80 bucks. They then called me the next day and told me not to come back because they were too over staffed right now....yeah right.
So I went and tried to apply at EVERY SINGLE club in KCMO vicinity. Only one club hired me, and only for the day time shift. I'd make maybe 60 bucks a day and it was mostly the same customers that smelled awful...lol. Every time I gave this one guy a dance he would hint at paying me for a blowjob. Then once I had been there for a week or so the club was totally empty one day and all the girls got together and were swapping stories. I soon came to realize that every single stripper in that club was also a prostitute. I was like wait... that is why I'm not making money?! And every single girl was like "Yeah! duh! you have to give BJs and let them finger you and stuff at least!" That blew my fucking mind and I quit that day. I'll stick to camming thank you very much!

OMFG WORST ESCORTS EVER. Giving strippers AND providers a bad rep. No wonder clients think they can just do whatever they want if they throw money at you.

If you ever want to see great BBW strip clubs, come visit me in the PNW. We love all shapes and sizes!

 

[VeronicaChaos]

I honestly feel like you're not gonna get an accurate response on this. Everyone that has had positive body image as a result will respond, but most women who have been negatively affected are gonna keep that to themselves. We're at a point in sex work "empowerment" where it's kinda taboo to admit to any serious negative effects of sex work, plus it's better for our careers to act as though it's all sunshine.

Everyone is different, so I'm glad some see themselves more positively and wish it were more, but there are obviously hundreds(thousands?) of models who are more critical of their appearance after spending a lot of time looking at it while being surrounded by insanely gorgeous and successful women in our industry. All this becomes more complicated and changes if you stay in the industry and go through aging, weight fluctuations, rollercoaster earnings, etc.

 

[BadgirlIvy]

OMFG WORST ESCORTS EVER. Giving strippers AND providers a bad rep. No wonder clients think they can just do whatever they want if they throw money at you.

If you ever want to see great BBW strip clubs, come visit me in the PNW. We love all shapes and sizes!

You have no idea how much I wish I could afford to move there!!!!! It's my dream!

 

[KristinKervz]

Camming mostly helped my self esteem. I was never very self conscious, but I definitely had "flaws" that I tried to hide, like my belly and stretchmarks. Come to find out, no one gives a shit about my stretch marks, and I get constant compliments on this big beautiful belly of mine.

Sometimes I do catch myself comparing my "big" butt and boobs to other BBWs who have HUGE butts and boobs, especially when they have a teeny tiny waist. Seeing London Andrews on my IG kills my confidence, with her perfect everyfuckingthing lol. But I guess that's off topic, this is about camming.

 

[JigglesJane]

You have no idea how much I wish I could afford to move there!!!!! It's my dream!

My dream is to be able to afford to live here

 

[BadgirlIvy]

Right I could never afford it. Maybe when my kids are grown up. I'll move up there and be a killer cam cougar. Gotta love BBW Cougars.

 

[6-Rose-9]

I find that even though I've only been camming for a couple weeks, it is a dual edged sword. on your good days where you meet your goals etc, you feel great but on your low days you feel real low.

camming has made me feel more confident about my sexuality though which has been a very interesting adventure!

Hello! Im mew to this site and im not sure how to even go about this entire process of becoming a cam girl. Any websites you can give me tips on to join? Really not sure how this works.

 

[Desiremiller]

I kind of assume for most that it did, but I'm interested in hearing other stories.

Yes! I always felt I was to skinny but when my clients give me compliments on my body, it helps with my self esteem

 

[sweethornydreams]

I love hearing the compliments from the users in my room - it definitely helped my image self esteem. Occasionally there will be a negative comment but it typically is related to my small tits or my age...I like my small tits and that doesn't insult me. I also know that I look younger so if someone says I look old those comments don't bother me.