Dear Cam Models

[Leon_Omega]

And... the sex talk thing... I still think it was distasteful telling and dissecting the quirks of her sex partner. Then having the followers of her room making half-assed assumptions and making fun of the guy. When it might not have been him that was odd but she was the one messed up. I don't know maybe she was just ranting like I am now and that's how she deals with things. But I will say this, "damn if that's her in real life." Why would anyone want to take her to a private show and be under any kind of scrutiny such as that? At least, that's what I thought while being in the chatroom.

I can sympathize with this, but could you please elaborate on what this has to do with giving a chance to a regular over, say, a guy she met at the gym?

Because you'll excuse me if the fact that you regularly give her attention doesn't strike me as the best reason for her to have sex with you. I'll admit that I don't know you, but if we're taking a completely objective look, neither does she. She may have an idea, you'll have talked a lot, of course, but all that she would actually know for a fact is that you chose to go by whatever name you use on MFC. Everything else might be an elaborate fabrication with the express purpose of eventually having sex with her. In recent years, an entire subculture of "nice guys" popped up who do EXACTLY this.

Again, I'm not trying to say that your intentions are bad, or that you're a liar, but from HER perspective I can certainly understand that she may not want to take the risk. See, that's the advantage those other guys have over you - she at the very least knows them to some degree and, considering that she wanted to have sex with them, she was ostensibly at least attracted to them.

That's not the only thing, because even if you do end up having sex, are you guys going to perform well under that kind of pressure? I mean, if this goes badly, will it make things weird between you two? Do YOU want to risk her airing your sexual quirks (and for that matter are you aware of all the things you do that she might consider quirky)?

I could go on, but what I'm getting at is that reading that point reminded me of someone on Twitter who approached a camgirl to ask her whether or not she would like to take his virginity. I'd like to pose the same question that I would have asked him: why should she have sex with you? What's in it for her?

 

[RubyDimples]

I've gotta agree with the other posts regarding your situation.

Not all cam girls are elaborate scam artists that are trying to manipulate you. Take a step back and realize in most cases cam girls are going to only stay on the computer screen..

 

[RainyDayGuy]

I do enjoy these threads as the responses of the models are just as illuminating as the initial ranty posts by disgruntled members.

 

[AmberCutie]

I do enjoy these threads as the responses of the models are just as illuminating as the initial ranty posts by disgruntled members.

In the sense that the models' replies open your mind to both sides of our cam lives as well as the members' stories open our eyes to things? Because yes, these threads to provide some good insight beyond the norm.

Or are you just being "rainy" about it?

 

[AlluraVain]

I actually agree with the OP about the sex talk. I can't stand it. I also never, never want to see my favourite models in B/G videos. Ruins the fantasy. But I have to admit lots of guys DO want to see that, and they do want to hear the sex chat. So, if it works for her and she gets a paycheque, who am I tell her she is wrong?

Keyword: fantasy. :twocents-02cents:

 

[JimsX]

I actually agree with the OP about the sex talk. I can't stand it. I also never, never want to see my favourite models in B/G videos. Ruins the fantasy. But I have to admit lots of guys DO want to see that, and they do want to hear the sex chat. So, if it works for her and she gets a paycheque, who am I tell her she is wrong?

Keyword: fantasy. :twocents-02cents:

Yup, that is what I said. Not sure where you are going with this

 

[AlluraVain]

I actually agree with the OP about the sex talk. I can't stand it. I also never, never want to see my favourite models in B/G videos. Ruins the fantasy. But I have to admit lots of guys DO want to see that, and they do want to hear the sex chat. So, if it works for her and she gets a paycheque, who am I tell her she is wrong?

Keyword: fantasy. :twocents-02cents:

Yup, that is what I said. Not sure where you are going with this

That a model is there to create a fantasy for you and members shouldn't expect her to meet up for sex or meet up in general just because he consistently tips her. At least that is my opinion. There are a few members I genuinely connect with and have great convos with outside of MFC but they never expect me to meet up in real life because of that. It's more likely for me to have sex with the guy at the gym rather than a guy I met through the adult website I cam from. I am sorry, I should have elaborated more in my first post haha

 

[JimsX]

I actually agree with the OP about the sex talk. I can't stand it. I also never, never want to see my favourite models in B/G videos. Ruins the fantasy. But I have to admit lots of guys DO want to see that, and they do want to hear the sex chat. So, if it works for her and she gets a paycheque, who am I tell her she is wrong?

Keyword: fantasy. :twocents-02cents:

Yup, that is what I said. Not sure where you are going with this

That a model is there to create a fantasy for you and members shouldn't expect her to meet up for sex or meet up in general just because he consistently tips her. At least that is my opinion. There are a few members I genuinely connect with and have great convos with outside of MFC but they never expect me to meet up in real life because of that. It's more likely for me to have sex with the guy at the gym rather than a guy I met through the adult website I cam from. I am sorry, I should have elaborated more in my first post haha

I actually agree with you, but it seems as if you intended to reply to another member/post. I said I am not a fan of sex videos (not a fan of porn either). I said it ruins the fantasy. That is my preference. I never said anything about meeting up or having sex with a model whom I tip consistently.

 

[AlluraVain]

I actually agree with the OP about the sex talk. I can't stand it. I also never, never want to see my favourite models in B/G videos. Ruins the fantasy. But I have to admit lots of guys DO want to see that, and they do want to hear the sex chat. So, if it works for her and she gets a paycheque, who am I tell her she is wrong?

Keyword: fantasy. :twocents-02cents:

Yup, that is what I said. Not sure where you are going with this

That a model is there to create a fantasy for you and members shouldn't expect her to meet up for sex or meet up in general just because he consistently tips her. At least that is my opinion. There are a few members I genuinely connect with and have great convos with outside of MFC but they never expect me to meet up in real life because of that. It's more likely for me to have sex with the guy at the gym rather than a guy I met through the adult website I cam from. I am sorry, I should have elaborated more in my first post haha

I actually agree with you, but it seems as if you intended to reply to another member/post. I said I am not a fan of sex videos (not a fan of porn either). I said it ruins the fantasy. That is my preference. I never said anything about meeting up or having sex with a model whom I tip consistently.

True that. But the OP doesn't seem to realize that some models are just providing a fantasy. To me his comment about not giving a regular tipper a chance over a guy at the gym or whatever sounded like jealousy. He also said we are making connections just like any other place, but that isn't always true for a model. Because of the fantasy factor. I more wanted to point that word out to the OP so he can consider that this "emotional connection" may not exist to the model he is referring to.

 

[JimsX]

True that. But the OP doesn't seem to realize that some models are just providing a fantasy. To me his comment about not giving a regular tipper a chance over a guy at the gym or whatever sounded like jealousy. He also said we are making connections just like any other place, but that isn't always true for a model. Because of the fantasy factor. I more wanted to point that word out to the OP so he can consider that this "emotional connection" may not exist to the model he is referring to.

Gotcha. I agree completely. It seemed like you were saying that I feel that way. All good

 

[AlluraVain]

I just worded it wrong haha

 

[HarmlessSquirrel]

True that. But the OP doesn't seem to realize that some models are just providing a fantasy. To me his comment about not giving a regular tipper a chance over a guy at the gym or whatever sounded like jealousy. He also said we are making connections just like any other place, but that isn't always true for a model. Because of the fantasy factor. I more wanted to point that word out to the OP so he can consider that this "emotional connection" may not exist to the model he is referring to.

I think even the OP eventually admitted that he was kind of over-the-top in his first post, and yes, members absolutely need to be aware of the fantasy factor if they begin to feel romantically connected to a cam model. Apparently such connections actually have happened a few times, but they are still extremely unlikely, and it's foolish for a member to have any kind of expectations that something like that might happen. Almost always, they will be disappointed and probably hurt. Most models consciously intend to avoid such situations for understandable reasons. It's a hazard of this sort of thing that even with all that pointed out, there is an emotional component to human interaction, and once in a while someone's emotions will get the best of them even if they should know better.

This brings me to a somewhat related and more realistic point. The OP in a subsequent post admitted that there were still some feelings of jealousy or envy. That's not entirely unreasonable if he invested a lot of time and energy (also money, but emotionally that's not really the point) into their relationship. I don't mean to say it's a "we're going to get together offline" relationship, but much is made of the fact that models and their members are, at least sometimes, friends. While it is not at all common for a cam model to say she loves a member in a way that should be taken literally, it IS common for many of them to call some members friends in a believable way. I choose to believe that there's some sincerity to that in most cases. If, disregarding the overly emotional nature of the original post, we assume the situation described was fairly accurate, I can see where the OP could reasonably feel a little hurt. If you see a friend totally blow you off for another person who is presumably also just a friend, that does sting. There could be a good reason why the model acted the way she did, sure, but from the member's point of view, it's still gonna seem crummy. Maybe nobody is in the wrong, but people have feelings all the time when they don't know all the facts. That's just human.

Anyway, assuming we do make some online friends here, once in a while there will be some hurt feelings. That happens with offline friends too. Here we do need to be mindful of a couple of extra factors: the models are here to make a living, and they will often need to do things for reasons other than friendship. The members have whatever financial limitations they happen to have and can't always "come through" for a model friend even if they hear she is struggling with something. Everybody has some sort of a life going on outside of the cam world. Hopefully most of the time most people will not get more upset than a situation merits.

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