I’ve recently sold my Snapchat through MFC to a couple of regulars from my room. There’s one in particular that is starting to bother me... he will message me almost hourly. Like, non-stop. It’s ALWAYS dirty talk...always. He persistently asks me very very personal about my sex life and the standard “what would you do if I was there” and most recently “Have you ever had sex in the bath and if not, can I be your first?” and not to mention the fact that he calls me babe on every sentence I receive from him. I don’t want to sound like a jerk, but it’s really starting to bug me. How do you handle people like this? Is it to be expected? I’m not very assertive and I try to avoid making other people feel bad but now it’s gotten to the point where I avoid opening his messages because I feel so uncomfortable.
Snapchat should always, ALWAYS have levels to it, in my opinion, like
@Miss_Lollipop touched on. There are so many features to it. Base rate, people can see my sexy story. That's it.
Chatting is extra,
monthly (there is never a price for lifetime chatting, I am busy). People who tip regularly and hang in my cam room regularly might get chatting for free
on occasion, IF I am feeling social and IF I have free time. I literally had a guy who would constantly DM me on Insta laugh at me when I told him I was exhausted from working so much. "Work" he said, "pshhh". He was a regular tipper so I made the exception to try to answer his constant correspondence with me outside of my WORK hours of being live on cam. He seemed to then insinuate that all that we juggle is not, in fact, work, and he got his ass bloooockkked. He can take his $50 and fuck off at that point. Didn't even have to dirty talk with me, just was straight up rude and ignorant and didn't even deserve an explanation from me. Safe guard your time and energy. You are not a volunteer in your offer of a public service (connection, companionship, entertainment, sexy stuff, whatever). The people who want what you offer for less than you deserve for it are not going to be the ones to help you. YOU have to set the boundaries in a matter of fact, no apologies, manner. Constant dirty talk should be at a private rate IMO. Calling can be an extra too. A
monthly or pay by the session extra. When people want my phone number I tell them that they can pay Skype rates which are about $200 an hour at the lower time thresholds and about $180 an hour if they commit to a whole hour. I am a sex worker, not a minimum wage slave. I've had clients that expect special treatment after buying things from me, shows, snapchat, whatever, but they need to realize that girls are probably not going on cam to flirt and find a boyfriend. They are there to make money. I will be fully engaged with someone when they are actively paying for my time, but after that they are simply one of many people I make time for. Sure, maybe some of us are out to make friends on cam, but friendship cannot be bought. Maybe MAYBE it'd be open to finding a partner through camming one day, but if people seriously think buying one service from me and abusing it is going to get them closer to me, they've got it completely backwards.
