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One of the first models I met was a studio model and if she ever made too much money, she would be gone for days or weeks. Very frustrating, but it led me to meeting other models.
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One of the first models I met was a studio model and if she ever made too much money, she would be gone for days or weeks. Very frustrating, but it led me to meeting other models.
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I want to again second Amber! I never feel frustrated with my regular supporters! Those are the guys that keep me smiling and do what they can, when they can! It NEEDS to be a group effort, and when it's not it becomes painfully obvious!
None of us want anyone tipping themselves into the poor house! My biggest frustration on a failed cam day is not that my regulars failed me but that everyone else failed them and the effort they put forth. I hate logging off feeling like my friends tried the best they could to reach a goal and now the show isn't happening because 100, 200, fuck 500 people couldn't be arsed to help them out a little.
I know it's a reality of camming. I try my best to always let people know, whether it be 10 tokens or 1000, that they are VERY appreciated and I'm sorry more people weren't willing to help out.
So on that note! Regulars tippers, even if that's twice a month, you've failed no one. The lurking masses have.
IMO it is always the fault of the lurking masses.
None of us want anyone tipping themselves into the poor house! My biggest frustration on a failed cam day is not that my regulars failed me but that everyone else failed them and the effort they put forth. I hate logging off feeling like my friends tried the best they could to reach a goal and now the show isn't happening because 100, 200, fuck 500 people couldn't be arsed to help them out a little.
I know it's a reality of camming. I try my best to always let people know, whether it be 10 tokens or 1000, that they are VERY appreciated and I'm sorry more people weren't willing to help out.
So on that note! Regulars tippers, even if that's twice a month, you've failed no one. The lurking masses have.
IMO it is always the fault of the lurking masses.
The topic and answers made me think of this David Foster Wallace commencement speech.
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Is there a text form of this somewhere?
Or maybe someone can elaborate, via text?
It is one of the better commencement speeches, by novelist David Foster Wallace, which made the rounds back in 2005. Here is the transcript http://faculty.winthrop.edu/martinme/Thisiswater.htm. I guess I'd best summarize it as "it isn't what you don't know that will get you in trouble it is what you know for sure that ain't so", and you can choose what to think about and how to react. Understanding that choice is the true value of a liberal arts education.
Making that choice to adopt a view outside of your own little world is necessary to becoming well adjusted human. If you don't the sheer boredom and frustration of day-to-day living will wear you down and make you want to shoot yourself. Ironically three years after making this speech Mr Wallace hung himself. Anyway it is tangentially related to the OP on the difficulties of staying motivated.
Making that choice to adopt a view outside of your own little world is necessary to becoming well adjusted human. If you don't the sheer boredom and frustration of day-to-day living will wear you down and make you want to shoot yourself. Ironically three years after making this speech Mr Wallace hung himself. Anyway it is tangentially related to the OP on the difficulties of staying motivated.
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I appreciate everyone's comments and replies. My goal was to make sure the Models know that they aren't alone in feeling bad about not making goals, some of us do care too. I understand the models point of view, and I try to help with the room conversation when I can't tip. :twocents-02cents:
AmberCutie said:Wonderful post!Meoff_69 said:dilligaf0 said:
THIS! This is pretty much everything I've wanted to say from my point of view, as well as being a regular to a few models! Thank you very much! Well said!
If I may add a couple of my own observations, as well?? In the last 6 months...I'd discovered a very disturbing, embarrassing, and flat out irresponsible trend that was developing with me. That being, because I felt (and continue to feel) horrible about seeing a model(s) that I consider a friend, not making her goals or struggling...I would literally spend myself into a stone's throw of the poor house! This, because I felt it would help a model somewhat, and to re-confirm to her that I, as one of her regulars, still appreciated all of her hard work. With that being said, I had to start telling myself that I was just that! I was one of her regulars. Sorry to sound cliche, but knocking out a model's countdown is a team effort. I've seen some long time regulars in a model's room, that I've never seen tip a single token. It gets aggravating as hell! But again, I don't know what's going on in that person's own life. It's none of my business and I have no right to judge! And I don't! But it's still annoying.
To clarify, I am NOT making excuses for my own past behaviour! I accept the consequences of my actions. Nobody held a gun to my head when I clicked the "submit" button for the tokens. And I sincerely hope this doesn't make any model to whom I'm a regular, feel guilty. If so, I apologize. Like dilligaf0 said, there are things that none of us can control. But in my case, I'm embarrassed for my very apparent lack of self control.
**Edit...to get back on topic** Ladies, if I may echo what many have already said here...many of us regulars, who truly "get it" and understand what the camming community is about...we understand that all of you work extremely hard to put on a sexy, fun, and entertaining show! We understand that just because we are friends with some of you, our "friendship alone" doesn't pay your bills. Each and every one of you is beautiful, creative, unique, and talented...in your own special way!
My apologies for getting of topic, earlier. I only wanted to point out that when the models, that have tipping regulars, struggle...we struggle too. For myself personally, (to the models that I'm a regular/friend) it's more on an emotional level because I've felt that I've let you down. Anywho...thanks to everyone for some great answers!
I promise we want our counts to be a group effort, and I guarantee you that regardless of the immediate reaction after one person clears nearly a whole countdown, many of us feel very guilty soon after that one person was responsible for that show's/night's success. I always say that I try to keep my camscore high enough so that I am visible enough to get newcomers who share the "burden" of making my daily goals and take a little pressure off of my beloved regulars. Because I know that my biggest supporters can't always be the ones wiping my countdowns and hitting my goals... and I know my goals aren't likely to change (again, I actually recently adjusted them to realistically fit better with the slower times).
And I promise we know you are not some endless wallet. You are our friends and real people with real lives and real ups-n-downs. I guarantee that any of us models who have discussed our motivation issues when it's slow didn't for a second blame you (you being our supporters) but moreso the general ebb and flow of things.
You can tell that a model is truly your friend when she is having a super-slow night, and you PM her to say that you are going to buy some tokens to help her out and she says no, you've already done enough.
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But that makes her so damn special you want to buy them anyway!
Remind me never to say that line to you, then.HiGirlsRHot said:pg240 said:
LOL, sometimes.
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PlayboyMegan said:Remind me never to say that line to you, then.HiGirlsRHot said:pg240 said:
LOL, sometimes.
I was thinking the same thing....
I so agree with the original PM.
One other thing is camgirls have their initial "its easy money" period, the first year or so part time, and maybe less full time where just logging in they make money without trying LOL.. THEN comes the work.
You decide the cam job is good for you, so you go full time. Talk about motivation. Nobody forcing you, hard spells where it's slow or maybe everyone is a douche. Some spells last for days.. Lately on a certain site its been like months hahah.. BUT it is definitely harder to work for yourself selling yourself and even though I do make great money camming full time, I admit my feelings get hurt too when it's slow/nobody pitching in to shows, etc.. we're all human and GIRLS after all.
One other thing is camgirls have their initial "its easy money" period, the first year or so part time, and maybe less full time where just logging in they make money without trying LOL.. THEN comes the work.
You decide the cam job is good for you, so you go full time. Talk about motivation. Nobody forcing you, hard spells where it's slow or maybe everyone is a douche. Some spells last for days.. Lately on a certain site its been like months hahah.. BUT it is definitely harder to work for yourself selling yourself and even though I do make great money camming full time, I admit my feelings get hurt too when it's slow/nobody pitching in to shows, etc.. we're all human and GIRLS after all.
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