Coming out to friends and family

[LittleLei]

Hi everyone, hoping to receive some feedback.

I'm having a bit of a difficulty finding the right way to come out to my family as cam modeling is my main source of income. I've been web modeling for a few years now and knew that this was not going to be a secret for the rest of my life. As I plan to continue to broadcast for a little more time while I am in school, I am finding success in my room and seeing my popularity grow. The only thing that I am afraid of, is if ever my family were to be put in the position of being questioned or being told of all the things I do or have done because of what I choose to do, as I enjoy it. I live in a new area now and have been breaking the mold of telling new friends my line of work, but it's family that I don't ever want to hurt or have be disappointed in me.

Do you ever have one of those down days? It sort of is for me today, but I'm really trying to strive through and put some hours in today.

Thanks for reading, looking to hear from you all. This forum has been a great outlet for me to read stories, tips, ideas, and advice from other broadcasters as I've been finding myself lonely sometimes not having people to talk about cam modeling issues.

 

[BiancaBaker]

If you get model access there's a whole thread with how to deal with coming out to family & friends and each girls experience with it. I am very open about what I do to an extent.

 

[LittleLei]

Thank you! Just waiting to get verified to navigate the other sections

 

[violetvibe]

but it's family that I don't ever want to hurt or have be disappointed in me

I can't wait to be able to peruse that section also!! Well- couple of months to go for me before I get verified but thank you for posting here cause it gives me something to respond to with passion..
so excuse me for pointing this out but... how about being worried about YOU being disappointed in your family and you being hurt by them?! Is that not your concern at all?! Because if camming is something that you enjoy and if it is something you want to do and you and only you should decide about your life... and if they truly love you (rare thing within a family except in movies but it happens to some) then they should be totally ok with it. And if they don't they are not truly family other than in blood. I run away from home when i was in my teens and I am an orphan since then my dad passed away and my abusive mother has no idea where I am - I even my changed my name. There were times when I had nothing to eat and my looks - am very pretty only stood in a way cause was often pounced on by vampires. But I feel free now and not dependent on what my abusive mother thinks and never will be and am about to go into camming myself and what anyone thinks is not my concern at all - the only concern I have is what I think and if I can be successful at it cause I really want to be! and what I like about it all(and I like mfc and think some models there are amazing and have star quality and not only the ones in top 20)- anyway everyones story is different but remember that no matter what happens this is YOUR LIFE.
And sometimes I think having no family at all is best for success and that is why so many with messed up families or orphaned went far in their career.No so called family held them back.

 

[LittleLei]

Thank you for sharing that and I'm so sorry that your upbringing was rough being so young, but it seems that now you are radiating with confidence and happiness. This is the first real big news I've ever had to break. Being from a traditional family becoming Americanized it's been a bit difficult to veer away from traditional expectations, going to college, becoming a doctor, being married, having a family, being financially stable.

.. and if they truly love you (rare thing within a family except in movies but it happens to some) then they should be totally ok with it.

This is how I feel they will respond, it's just a matter of doing it now!

 

[violetvibe]

thank you so much ! I hope all works out for you!

 

[Swizzles]

If I found out my sister was a cam model I'd be livid initially. But because all I want for her is to be happy, as long as she was/is happy doing it then I'd be ok with it. Just don't ever let me catch you on MFC or see your vids on PornHub et al..i'd have to bleach my eyes and I REALLY don't want to do that!

 

[Pluot]

I'm feeling you on this. I just put in my two-week notice to my "regular" job, because I want to put my full energy into camming. My family/friends are going to ask me about where I'm working next... and what do I say? I have told my partner and a handful of close friends that I trust, but other people are going to wonder how I'm paying my bills "without a job" haha.

I am not ashamed of being a camgirl at all. Personally, I would love to be open about it with everyone. If I didn't have a little voice in my head telling me to think it through a bit more, I would have already shouted to the world that I am a camgirl and I fucking love it. I am actually happy with my job, and I feel confident and empowered. I'm just not sure how to properly express that without my family getting (maybe?)upset. I just don't know what their reaction would be at all. They are liberal in many ways, but disagree with a lot of things that I do.

I guess, maybe it's more about accepting the fact that some people will not be okay with what you're doing. All you can do is explain that it's important to you and you're happy doing it, and their reaction is out of your control. Hopefully they love you enough to support you in this and won't be cruel.

Anyway, I am still very new to camming, so maybe I am giving terrible advice, hah! Having a resource like this website is beyond helpful, and I hope you can find some advice that resonates with you. It's really cool that you're coming out to friends! You rule!