Can't stop dwelling on the fact that I cant use OnlyFans.

[Guy]

As I mentioned in a previous thread, I am unable to be a subscriber on Onlyfans because my debit card does not support 3D Secure authorization. Im a subscriber on MV Crush and JustForFans, but for some reason the fact that I cant be a subscriber on OnlyFans is still bothering me. Its making me feel excluded and left out. Making this thread is pretty embarrassing for me TBH. I know that me being upset about not being able to use OnlyFans is pretty childish. Have you ever gotten upset about something this trivial as an adult?

 

[xDollPartsx]

I think everyone has those things in life that make them really disappointed, no matter how trivial it seems to anyone else. I say, don't be embarrassed to express or feel the way something just happens to make you feel, but also try not to dwell too long on things that you can't change. I mean, I get disappointed to a strange degree when I am looking forward to eating a certain thing or having a soda only to find that it's gone when I get there... Obviously it's not THAT big of a deal but I feel a pretty soul crushing disappointed feeling for a minute or two but inevitably get over it and move onto other things because no amount of me wishing it was different or feeling upset about it will make it change. So I suppose I'm saying...it's completely normal and ok to feel disappointed or frustrated with things both big and small, what's not ok is if you "set up camp" there and "live" in it or dwell too long given the impossibility of that making it different than it is.

 

[asia_lynn]

Yes, i take disappointment extremely badly its ridiculous. I've been known to cry because the restaurant I wanted to go to was closed or when plans change. I'm a baby. Oh well. We all have these things, like Dollparts said, its fine as long as you let it go and don't dwell

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Guy, I don't know if you're spiritual but the wisdom contained in this prayer is worthwhile (even if you take the god bit out)

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Have you ever gotten upset about something this trivial as an adult?

Oh, I could list all kinds of things. Lol. Some I may have even posted about in the Pet Peeves thread on here.

*I was pretty upset one day when I came home (from work, I guess?), and saw that the Simply Lemonade I'd bought (and had really been looking forward to drinking) was all gone.

*When I keep hearing about how awesome MFC Share, I get upset thinking about how I couldn't the damn feature to work for me (when I'd uploaded a video for 50 tokens to my page), and that I can't even advertise other clip sites to MFC Members since I could get banned for that (They only want us advertising MFC Share).

Etc. Etc.

 

[SMuser69]

saw that the Simply Lemonade I'd bought (and had really been looking forward to drinking) was all gone.

Isn't that sand lemonade? Can't you just mix more? or someone mixed and drank ten gallons of lemonade?

 

[Dan Epstein]

Guy, you can simply use a credit card

 

[yummybrownfox]

Isn't that sand lemonade? Can't you just mix more? or someone mixed and drank ten gallons of lemonade?

Nope. I’m talking about the 89 oz. container of Simply Lemonade (store-bought right out the grocery store fridge...I didn’t mix anything). Had lots of it still left, and then when I’d walked back home, it was gone.

 

[Dan Epstein]

I have an idea @Guy . Forget about the lemonade and take a look at my modus operandi. I take comfort in this lovely Toscan Dogajolo, and make Fonzy impressions all by myself in a 1 room apartment. D'angelo is in the background, and I'm sinking into oblivion...

 

[mynameisbob84]

This is coming from a good place, I promise (like everyone else here I think, I like you Guy, and I think we all want to see you happy) but have you ever thought about therapy? It seems like this might be less about OnlyFans specifically, and more about that fear of missing out on things in life that you've alluded to in many other threads too.

I think even if you were able to find a way to get an OnlyFans subscription, that would do little to fix the underlying issue, whatever that may be. But therapy might help with that.

 

[yummybrownfox]

I have an idea @Guy . Forget about the lemonade

Forget about lemonade? That's poppycock!

 

[Guy]

I have an idea @Guy . Forget about the lemonade and take a look at my modus operandi. I take comfort in this lovely Toscan Dogajolo, and make Fonzy impressions all by myself in a 1 room apartment. D'angelo is in the background, and I'm sinking into oblivion...View attachment 76266

No. What what we need is some Grasshoppers.

 

[Guy]

This is coming from a good place, I promise (like everyone else here I think, I like you Guy, and I think we all want to see you happy) but have you ever thought about therapy? It seems like this might be less about OnlyFans specifically, and more about that fear of missing out on things in life that you've alluded to in many other threads too.

I think even if you were able to find a way to get an OnlyFans subscription, that would do little to fix the underlying issue, whatever that may be. But therapy might help with that.

It has more to to do with the fact that I work hard for my money. My position at work has become more stressful and demanding than ever. And after all of that effort I cant use OF to subscribe to models I like, despite the fact that I have plenty of money and I can far beyond afford it. Its an insult and makes me cringe.

 

[SMuser69]

It has more to to do with the fact that I work hard for my money. My position at work has become more stressful and demanding than ever. And after all of that effort I cant use OF to subscribe to models I like, despite the fact that I have plenty of money and I can far beyond afford it. Its an insult and makes me cringe.

Guy, you have to learn to accept 'no' for an answer. There are models that also don't always accept the payment you want but you wouldn't come in here and say something like, 'I wish that model would use Paypal because it's not fair'. There no different between these two situations. Businesses have to put their liabilities first ignoring those liabilities is the fastest way to go out of business. The risk they feel they would take to offer the payment type you're looking for is not worth all the money you're willing to throw at them.

 

[Guy]

Guy, you have to learn to accept 'no' for an answer. There are models that also don't always accept the payment you want but you wouldn't come in here and say something like, 'I wish that model would use Paypal because it's not fair'. There no different between these two situations. Businesses have to put their liabilities first ignoring those liabilities is the fastest way to go out of business. The risk they feel they would take to offer the payment type you're looking for is not worth all the money you're willing to throw at them.

For obvious reasons, models are completely justifed in not accepting PayPal. OnlyFans said that if they didnt require 3D secure, they would be liable for 50% of all chargebacks. This is incorrect. 3d Secure only prevents liabilty for chargebacks caused by stolen credit/debit cards. They should have done their research. In the Untied States, less than 10% of chargebacks are caused by stolen credit/debit cards. https://chargebacks911.com/verified-by-visa/

 

[SMuser69]

For obvious reasons, models are completely justifed in not accepting PayPal. OnlyFans said that if they didnt require 3D secure, they would be liable for 50% of all chargebacks. This is incorrect. 3d Secure only prevents liabilty for chargebacks caused by stolen credit/debit cards. They should have done their research. In the Untied States, less than 10% of chargebacks are caused by stolen credit/debit cards. https://chargebacks911.com/verified-by-visa/

Anything that can say 'NO' has the right. You don't need a justification to say NO either. You could be 100% right but so what? It doesn't lessen the answer.

 

[asia_lynn]

Guy if it bothers you this much could you either get a credit card or open an account with a bank that has the kind of debit cards you need? My debit card says verified by visa, is that what you need?

 

[SMuser69]

Guy if it bothers you this much could you either get a credit card or open an account with a bank that has the kind of debit cards you need? My debit card says verified by visa, is that what you need?

If your debit says verified by visa it usually means your checking account is tied to a credit line provided by visa (major credit). Guy is saying he does not have a major credit card or just refusing to use it and just wants the money pulled from his checking account as a debit transaction. This is at least what I've gathered from the thread so far but I could be mistaken.

To simply things. Verified by VISA means VISA is co-signing the transaction with credit in order to prevent a chargeback.

 

[Guy]

If your debit says verified by visa it usually means your checking account is tied to a credit line provided by visa (major credit). Guy is saying he does not have a major credit card or just refusing to use it and just wants the money pulled from his checking account as a debit transaction. This is at least what I've gathered from the thread so far but I could be mistaken.

To simply things. Verified by VISA means VISA is co-signing the transaction with credit in order to prevent a chargeback.

Verifed by Visa is a form of 3d secure that involves a customer typing in a password to confirm to the merchant that the person who is making a transaction with their card is actually them. In order to have Verifed by Visa your bank must support that password system on your card. Unfortunately, my bank (Chase) decided to only allow Verfied by Visa on their credit cards. This is typical with banks in the Untied States.

 

[EmptyKins]

Verifed by Visa is a form of 3d secure that involves a customer typing in a password to confirm to the merchant that the person who is making a transaction with their card is actually them. In order to have Verifed by Visa your bank must support that password system on your card. Unfortunately, my bank (Chase) decided to only allow Verfied by Visa on their credit cards. This is typical with banks in the Untied States.

If what you said so far in the thread is true, you work really hard for your money, you have a lot of it, so any bank will take you! Plus, you get all those fancy "new bank" perks and an Only Fans account with a high tech 3D secured Debit Card.

It's worth noting there are a lot of people on this forum who do not have the option of choosing any bank they want, regardless of how much money they have, or how hard they worked to get it. So you may not get much sympathy. Especially with the firstchoicepay stuff going on.

A lot of people have given you good advice though! You seem to have plenty of options so that's nice.

 

[AudriTwo]

You should really get a credit card, not just for porn. I use my credit card to pay all my bills and pay off my credit card every two weeks. helps build credit

 

[asia_lynn]

You should really get a credit card, not just for porn. I use my credit card to pay all my bills and pay off my credit card every two weeks. helps build credit

Yeah I use my credit card for everything, its so nice. And I just pay it off in full every time. Plus i get like $100 cashback a year which is better than nothing

My partner gets us like $50 a month in groceries with his company card

 

[Guy]

You should really get a credit card, not just for porn. I use my credit card to pay all my bills and pay off my credit card every two weeks. helps build credit

Are you with a major bank?

 

[AudriTwo]

Are you with a major bank?

I have two banks. Credit union and a major bank.