Can we help change this models life?

[belton]

Hi guys, I was a member who did what all guys do and fell in love with a cam model. Difference is she actually loved me back and came to live with me for 2 years. Long story short she was a cam model because of a very abusive past and I did everything I could to help her which nearly wiped me out financially. She left because of an incident and regretted it instantly knowing the life she had just thrown away to be living in a studio working 10 hours plus a day again. I made this page for her to help her come back to me as I cannot afford it on my own. If anyone could help it would be so appreciated. http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/help- ... /x/5602982

Thankyou guys

 

[KamikaziKitty]

If she wanted your help she wouldn't have left. Your post and making a page FOR her AS her screams complete and total control freak...

 

[KayleePond]

Whoa, this is really taking things to a whole new level.

 

[SexySteph]

You seem to have symptoms of an abuser...

http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/abuser-tricks

 

[xSALTx]

:?

 

[Teagan]

This is honestly creepy dude. Not to mention we have no way of knowing if this is even real. It could be all you with some made up story and a girls picture. Sorry but no.

 

[belton]

wow, ok nice response that people who dont know me or what I have done for her or the fact she doesnt have paypal so I had to do it on her behalf with her knowledge. A simple no reply would have done, you dont have to make me out into a control freak or abuser when you dont know the full extent of the situation.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

As much as it's going to sound really harsh. Many of us have shit going on in our lives and have really bad pasts and don't use guilt and a sob story to make money. I'm sorry that all this is going on, but these problems are hers. It's your decision that you've decided to make them yours too, but asking other people to feel sympathetic and donate money to the cause? This is the worst sob story ever. It's good she's actually offering shows, but still, bit of a boner kill in my opinion. We all have things we need to do in life, money we need for certain things, it's nice to have people help us out when we're down and everything, but so blatently asking for sympathy when there are so many others who need that money more in my opinion isn't cool.

My advice is to make a way more perkier message, something focused on the good sides of things. When I see girls on Mfc running successful campaigns for something going on in their life... they sound far less "woe is me". Even girls I've seen who are dealing with serious illnesses and ill family members tend to have a more positive attitude. It's going to sound harsh again, but the message is not only really negative, it also doesn't make me feel remotely inclined to feel sympathetic to her. It also, for all we know is a total scam.

 

[KamikaziKitty]

Your post was thanked because you're following the site that Steph posted about abusers to a T...

If she wanted help SHE could come here and ask. No one is going to entertain your nonsense.

 

[Starling]

Well, look dude. You can't just come onto these forums and start making claims and expect people to believe you. We don't know you, you have no verification, and even if you did, it would STILL be a shady situation.

 

[Teagan]

people who dont know me

This dude. We do not know you. We do not know you at all from anyone else who would come here and ask for money. We have no clue who you are or what's truly going on. So expecting us to give you money without a single shred of evidence, proof, or anything else would be insane for us to do.

 

[AmberCutie]

people who dont know me

This dude. We do not know you. We do not know you at all from anyone else who would come here and ask for money. We have no clue who you are or what's truly going on. So expecting us to give you money without a single shred of evidence, proof, or anything else would be insane for us to do.

:text-yeahthat:

 

[mynameisbob84]

If anyone wants to set up one of these pages on my behalf so that I can pay my bills this month without going massively overdrawn then that would be splendid and tremendous. I'd also like some money for a PS4 :thumbleft:

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I also think that, assuming that what you're saying is genuine, saying that she spent all your money on drugs and now needs money to go back to a country where she's not actually native so that someone else can look after her some more isn't really a heartwarming sympathy inducing story for most people. There is absolutely zero reason why this woman cannot cam for herself. If she has internet access to perform these skype's etc then there's zero reason she needs to sign up for a studio.

I found that page about abusers really interesting by the way. It's interesting to look at a lot of relationships with people I know and thinking you can really see these actions. Not in all of them, but in a lot of them, and the women just live in denial letting dudes treat them like shit. One of the things I love about camming is that it's almost the ultimate test. Sometimes you could date someone for ages and not see their true colours, but with camming, when someone doesn't question your job, act jealous or ask you to quit, yet still wants to date you and treats you like more than a sexbot it generally speaks pretty highly of their respect levels to women.

 

[VeronicaChaos]

One of the things I love about camming is that it's almost the ultimate test. Sometimes you could date someone for ages and not see their true colours, but with camming, when someone doesn't question your job, act jealous or ask you to quit, yet still wants to date you and treats you like more than a sexbot it generally speaks pretty highly of their respect levels to women.

YES YES YES.

My dating experiences have been SO much better after I started camming. Actually, all of my friendships, for that matter. You know exactly how open-minded people are in general (I'm open about my job so people know right off the bat) and as far as relationships go it's a great way to weed out jealous/insecure men. And the men that have been cool with my job have been FAR more respectful than those I dated in the past that wouldn't have been.

There have been guys/friends that treated me like a sexbot because of it but I'd rather know that about them up front.

 

[Teagan]

If she has internet access to perform these skype's etc then there's zero reason she needs to sign up for a studio.

It says on the page she also needs a computer so i'm guessing she is lacking one and hence the studio needed. For the equipment. However no studio I know of allows the girls to use their stuff while taking outside payments for skype.

If she can skype she can advertise herself and take her own payments.

Also if she's "coming back to you" why does it also say she needs 2000 to get into her own flat. Even writing it yourself she doesn't want to live with you.

Also just FYI dude it's against Indiegogo and Paypals TOS to do this. They will shut you down for offering shows for payment through them.

 

[Koolguy321]

but I can only get there now by using my own money which I have very little of working in a studio and having to buy Methadone

How can it be your own money if I'm the one giving it ? :/

plus having to buy methadone ? having ?

No offense but hearing you say she wiped you out financially (by helping her) gives me certain doubts about the whole "she loves me back"

I think giving that sort of money to a drug addict isn't going to end well anyway, just saying.

Don't be hating on the models who replied to you either, this is just like me walking up to your door and saying "hey i want to go visit a friend who lives in the US, can you give me some money because i want to go see her"

 

[JerryBoBerry]

 

[MemberEd]

No. I will not help you.

 

[Red7227]

Junkies have no friends. You are either lying to us or to yourself.

 

[Bocefish]

Cyber panhandlers now?

Even IF true... after wasting all your money, you now want to waste other people's money too?

You sound like the government.

 

[paige_orion]

I spent three months of the past year living with two people whom I later found out were heroin junkies. I thought they were nice people - until they stole two months of rent to spend on junk, gave big old smiles while lying through their teeth, almost killed my cat, hiding eviction notices - and ultimately costing my lover and I a roof over our heads, and shattering my belief that everyone was good.

I used to be very naive, and drug addiction stories broke my heart. I thought if they just had people who cared about them, they would want to get better. Living with heroin addicts taught me an important lesson. Drugs are their world, and they will lie and steal and cheat to get those drugs. They won't quit until they WANT to quit, and honestly, I would never send money to a stranger on behalf of another stranger who supposedly ruined her life on such drugs. I have seen what drug addiction does, and how it makes any sort of trust impossible, even in a person you know very well.

The situation is terrible, yes, and if it is true, I feel badly for you both. But I think she has to be the one to fix her own life, if she truly wants it to be fixed. Sending so much money to someone who has already wasted so much... How is that going to end up any differently this time, except by emptying the wallets and wasting the time of even more people?

 

[Kunra9]

So you met a girl on a webcam site.

Fell in love.

She moved to be with you and proceeded to ruin you financially.

Moved back to wherever she's from and is on cam again.

Now you are panhandling for money to get her back with you.
Why?

How will you two survive if she can't live within her means?

I don't understand.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

I don't understand.

No one does.

 

[Reina Lynn]

I read this earlier this morning and wasn't going to reply. However, the more I thought about it, the more I disliked it on overall principle.

When I was a mortgage broker, no one ever wrote into any real estate or financial forums asking for money to "save" another mortgage broker simply because we had the same profession.

When I worked in healthcare, no one ever wrote into any healthcare forums asking for money to "save" a fellow R.N. or therapist or speech pathologist simply because of a shared profession.

What is it about the sex industry that people think we have more money than sense?

Not only does this story not make sense, the narrative in the plea we've been directed to is poor, and we all (men and women) have our own commitments, our own financial responsibilities, and our own desired charities for which we feel an affinity.

Even if this story is 100% true and just, there are loads of causes more important to me than a single woman who has made some bad decisions -- especially since the only thing used to draw on my sympathy is a shared profession.

And, just for the record, if anyone is giving away 600 sterling for a computer, you are welcome to send it my way. :hello2:

 

[Bocefish]

You might be shocked to find all the websites promoting cyber begging, I was. One of them even says:

"It's absolutely legal, ethical, honorable and popular!
Get Your Very Own Donation Web Page
Get Donations from around the world!"

Google it if ya want. I guess it was only a matter of time before professional lowlife panhandlers hit the interwebz.

 

[JoleneBrody]

She left because of an incident and regretted it instantly knowing the life she had just thrown away

She left because of an incident

incident

GTFO

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Shouldn't she be going to rehab to try to get clean?

 

[NoelleBright]

Shouldn't she be going to rehab to try to get clean?

I'm assuming that's why she's on methadone, to try to get clean.
Hopefully she's not dosing herself and is actually going to a clinic or something.

Still wouldn't give this dude money though.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

I'm assuming that's why she's on methadone, to try to get clean.
Hopefully she's not dosing herself and is actually going to a clinic or something.

Still wouldn't give this dude money though.

Still think rehab would be a better plan. Not positive, but I would think those going into rehab would have a smaller chance of relapsing. Better to get clean(like for reals clean) instead of taking methadone your whole life.

lol@this whole situation tho, like were supposed to believe or even care about this dudes problems. lol@her leaving once she wiped him out financially