Cam model and just married, how to go on?

[yummybrownfox]

Careful now, you don't want us to think you're being trafficked and coerced!

 

[OFFICIALidiot]

This is weird. Like everyone is saying here, they should only have gotten married if he knows and accepts what she does. And yeah, this might all be an act to touch on some fetish.

but it’s definitely not your place to get involved in any way, shape, or form. If she asks your advice specifically, sure. But it doesn’t really seem like you have any valuable advice to give.

and also, what do you mean by “how far she goes.”? These sites have rules so what could she possibly be doing that is so flagrant?

speaking from his perspective, as someone that hopes to one day marry a cam model, you don’t have to like what she does. It can be weird and uncomfortable to sit on the other side of a door and listen to a show in progress. But that’s my problem, not hers. So as long as he supports her and doesn’t make her feel bad about his own insecurities, it shouldn’t be a problem. Cause at the end of the day, she falls asleep next to him, so he had no reason to be jealous.

 

[Smoothie]

Oh, and by the way, I haven't gave her the "advise" , like i put in my OP: am not in favor for the idea of continueing, I never said i gave that advise, I was just thinking so and i told her that, it's just my feeling.

But if you spoke up about it at all, the difference between giving your opinion and giving advice is irrelevant because either way, you’re butting in on a personal matter.

Not even sure if this is legit or just part of her camming persona. But I’ll tell you what. Most husbands probably wouldn’t appreciate an internet rando giving their wives unsolicited opinions about her marriage.

 

[yummybrownfox]

I think it will sell very good on clips4sale , i wantclips and avn stars lol

there are a lot of subs there waiting to eat everything you could give them

Damn, I don't have it on my computer anymore...I deleted the video from my Dropbox account...and I didn't upload it to any clip sites, so I'm not able to retrieve it that way. Sent it to the guy on IWC a while back, and decided I didn't wanna have anything to do with it anymore, I guess. Lol.

 

[GothHostess]

I've always found it interesting that people think there are different rules between someone you've been in a long term relationship with/are engaged to, and someone you're married to. Why was it ok that her long term boyfriend/fiance didn't know what she was doing, but now it's wrong? The emotional effect it would have on the relationship would be the same. If you're worried about it from a "what will society think" standpoint, I have some bad news for your re: what society thinks about sex workers.....

I wanna echo what everyone else has said, that she probably is giving you the camgirl rundown of her relationship, and that a lot of partners don't need to know every detail of what we do at work, same as any other job. Also, you have probably known quite a few married camgirls, this is just the first one who is upfront in telling you she's married.

As a note (not sure if you do this outside of the cam world) many people find unsolicited advice off putting, or even downright rude. I understand it's well meaning, but it's not always the right thing to do! While she is on cam, she probably wants to earn money, get into the vibe, have a nice time - not have an in depth discussion on the ethics of her relationship. If she has shared with you that she's recently married, that means she's excited about it, so celebrate with her! If you can't, time to move on. Different strokes for different folks

 

[GraysonDrake]

and also, what do you mean by “how far she goes.”? These sites have rules so what could she possibly be doing that is so flagrant?

He means he's scandalized that a woman who has a husband is naked on the internet where men who don't own her can gaze upon her tiddies and ask her to masturbate.....while also being one of those men....

 

[Diana_Devil]

Damn, I don't have it on my computer anymore...I deleted the video from my Dropbox account...and I didn't upload it to any clip sites, so I'm not able to retrieve it that way. Sent it to the guy on IWC a while back, and decided I didn't wanna have anything to do with it anymore, I guess. Lol.

Write the guy and ask him if he wants to upload the vid in your dropbox( he is a sub so he will probably do it to please you ) or do another Eat this soap you mushroom cock ! vid , i bet now it will come much better

 

[MallorieReese]

It doesn't matter that you are her good friend - if she didn't ask for advice, why go to this extent to give it? It's her life, her husband, her choices - why interfere with it in any way? If she chose to not be fully honest with her man, that is her own business, so keep ur nose out of it.

Really, not giving full-on details about this job is not a big deal. Imagine her going home to telling her husby she cummed 5 times in front of 40 watching users. Some things are better left unknown. Get a life.

 

[Aprilsweetart]

I would like to exchange thoughts about a cam model that just is married and wants to continue her business. Me personally, as a good friend, am not in favor for the idea of continueing, specially because i know that her husband is not fully aware of what she's doing on her job. I'm asking myself does she have to be completely honest to her man and try to get his consent or should she better stay silent about it (for the record, i don't think he's open for it, but i don't know him very well).
So, if you happen to have the same experience as model or as user, how did you handle it? if you have tips or comment on this, please do so.

These problems just aren’t yours , friend. This is her issue to deal with and it’s probably not the whole truth , So don’t worry about it!

 

[Derek_Zoolander]

The unspoken part is the desire for the OP to reaffirm his special place in this model’s heart now that she’s married. She might be married but he’s that special friend who looks out for her and knows how she really feels. The subtext is, it’s a source of pride that he is privy to the intimate details of her work that her husband does not even know. But like everyone has mentioned, it’s quite possible she’s playing that up to make you feel special.

 

[GraysonDrake]

Really, not giving full-on details about this job is not a big deal. Imagine her going home to telling her husby she cummed 5 times in front of 40 watching users. Some things are better left unknown. Get a life.

I mean for all we know her husband mods for her ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[nightwish]

I thank you all for your comment, and insights. I have taken your advice to heart and do not want me to interfere in their marriage at all. What she decides and what she does in her marriage is her business. What she says to her husband doesn't really appeal to me at all. I just wanted to check what married models think about it and I notice that there are quite a few differences in approaches to marriage. Some are very open with their husbands and others remain closed about their profession. I think we can consider about 50/50.

 

[dark_mermaid]

You are not a good friend, you are a customer. Just keep out of it.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Congratulate and wish her well and be happy for her. I don't get where the problem is and why would you care if her husband agrees or not. For instance, have you ever dated a married woman? Did you care if her husband agreed or not? I bet you didn't care, right? Not your problem whether he agreed or not.

as a good friend

If you haven't been invited invited to her wedding you're not one of her close friends. It's unclear whether she asked you any opinion. I doubt very much she did. She didn't ask you anything more like it. In any case, your opinion means nothing and doesn't count.

I'm asking myself does she have to be completely honest to her man and try to get his consent

I've never met a married or engaged woman in my life who had to ask her boyfriend or husband for anything. My 2 cents here.

 

[AudriTwo]

He means he's scandalized that a woman who has a husband is naked on the internet where men who don't own her can gaze upon her tiddies and ask her to masturbate.....while also being one of those men....

tale as old as time

 

[nightwish]

For instance, have you ever dated a married woman?

sorry, yes i did, and i am a little ashamed of it.

Did you care if her husband agreed or not?

yes, that's why i didn't want it anymore

If you haven't been invited invited to her wedding you're not one of her close friends

she invited me, but it was a little bit far away and complicated, so i send her a wedding present and she sent me the photo's of the wedding and that's not because I asked for it. I helped her with the financial problems of her mother and the cost of her medication (that was several months before the wedding ). Her man is not always around but he knows about my existence and told her he's fine with it. I don't know him personally but i've seen him and he has seen me. For the rest i keep my distance just because of the fact that i indeed see her on cam and her husband doesn't know.
Yeah, maybe I am a bad friend, and had to go to the marriage and say, Hi i am a man who likes to see your wife masturbate on cam before a lot of people.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Ok, but the main point was whether she asked you any opinion about it or not. If she didn't, that means she didn't want your opinion anyway. Also, if you were a close friend of hers, you would have her telephone number and sorted this out with her in private. No need to post this question on an internation public forum. I mean, don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with that if you come in good faith. Just my opinion.

i am a little ashamed of it.

Well, don't do it again, I guess. As a counterpoint, I would argue, Did you force her? I guess, not. Did she accidentally slip on a banana peel and fall on your D. I also believe not, so I mean. Maybe she just liked you and was into you or whatever the reason.

yes, that's why i didn't want it anymore

Don't date married women again, then. Nothing wrong with that.

maybe I am a bad friend, and had to go to the marriage and say, Hi i am a man who likes to see your wife masturbate on cam before a lot of people.

Well, this isn't the kind of topic I would bring up to a wedding, unless you want to start drama or something, but I woud definitely like to partake in such a wedding.

Her man is not always around but he knows about my existence and told her he's fine with it.

Well, of course he is, I suspect he's fine with it because you paid not only for her mother's imaginery financial problem but also for her wedding expenses while he didn't pay jac*shit. Maybe I'm wrong.

 

[Chiara_Montague]

I don't know him personally but i've seen him and he has seen me.

What... what does this mean? Has she brought him out on cam to meet you and you were doing C2C?

 

[nightwish]

What... what does this mean? Has she brought him out on cam to meet you and you were doing C2C?

very funny Chiara, there are other ways to see eachother outside the cam sites, besides she's not working at home.

 

[Chiara_Montague]

very funny Chiara, there are other ways to see eachother outside the cam sites, besides she's not working at home.

I'm not being funny. I asked you a bunch of questions 8 days ago and you never answered them. Here they are: "How do you know what he knows? What do you mean you don't know him "very well"? Do you know him at all? You've met or at least spoken? How? When?"

Instead of being coy and waiting for us to ask the exact right question that unlocks your answers you could just explain.

 

[nightwish]

i find those things not really relevant. My OP was about a married woman where the man is not completely aware of her doing on cam and what you think about it (i told you how i think about it ) and how you models handle the married life.

But if you insist i tell you:

How do you know what he knows?

all i know is what she tells me, and she told me he doesn't know of her doing on cam, well about her camming

What do you mean you don't know him "very well"?

like i said i have seen him, he has seen me (as a friend of his wife) but i have not spoken him. I only know his name, profession, age, religion, some habbits (but all told by his wife)

Is this enough information for you Chiara?

So yes, his wife might be lying, but then she has to be a damn good liar to be able to keep that up for all those months. And the fact that her husband comes from a very religious family, what do you think, that she has said it?

 

[Chiara_Montague]

i find those things not really relevant.

How is it not? We assume you don't even really know this woman and your only relationship to her is as a customer ON CAM because that's 99% of the time the context of how guys present problems to us. That you have actually met her would be news to us.

all i know is what she tells me

Which is exactly what I suggested is what's going on in my post if you'd read it. Other models already suggested this to you as well and told you she could be lying for the benefit of her job.

like i said i have seen him, he has seen me (as a friend of his wife) but i have not spoken him. I only know his name, profession, age, religion, some habbits (but all told by his wife)

I don't get it. Like you've seen him in person from a distance? You met her in person and he was just there and refused to say hi? He dropped her off to hang out with you and you saw him in the car? You two stared into each other's eyes but said nothing? You need to be clear about what's going on.

Is this enough information for you Chiara?

Don't get snarky with me. And no. What you're saying isn't making any sense to me. Maybe it's just me; maybe someone else can make heads or tails of this "he has seen me" business.

So yes, his wife might be lying, but then she has to be a damn good liar to be able to keep that up for all those months.

Not really. It's one lie and it's a pretty simple one. I'm not a very good liar and even I could keep up with "my husband doesn't know teehee".

And the fact that her husband comes from a very religious family, what do you think, that she has said it?

I don't know what this means.

 

[Marceline]

maybe someone else can make heads or tails of this "he has seen me" business.

I think what he meant by that is "He has seen pictures of me and I have seen pictures of him". The reason why he dodged your questions, but instead answered the question "Have you ever been with a married woman?" when that question was not at all relevant to the topic at hand, as opposed to your questions which were relevant, is because he doesn't want to come right out and say "No, I've never met him in person and I have never met her in person, either". Just from what has been said here it seems like OP wants us all to believe that he has a very special friendship with this cam model that extends further than the bounds of a simple cam member/cam model friendship, when in fact, it's exactly a cam model/cam member relationship.

If OP is even telling the truth (because at this point I don't know what is truth or camgirl fan fiction out here in the public side anymore), it seems like this model is just hustling. She pulled the sick mother card and he supposedly helped pay for medications, so whose to say this whole marriage thing isn't just a hustle, as well. She very well may have been married for awhile or may have only told OP about the marriage because she wanted a nice gift off her wedding registry. OP seems to be really into this whole situation even if he admits otherwise. The model might have also picked up on that and is just feeding into what she believes will make her money. Why else would she talk about her husband that much? Especially talking about her husband's religion. Sounds to me like more fodder for the "teehee, I'm being such a naughty wife behind my religious husband's back" kink.

 

[nightwish]

Thank you Chiara for the attention to this post. i would like to add the following:

How is it not? We assume you don't even really know this woman and your only relationship to her is as a customer ON CAM because that's 99% of the time the context of how guys present problems to us. That you have actually met her would be news to us.

If i say i am a good friend, i mean i am a friend and she considers me as a good friend, someone who she can talk to, share things with and helps her. Isn't that what friends do? OK, she can be doing that because I give her tokens and money, but why does she wants to share information about her family, her life, her recent husband, her marriage, her home, her cat, her youth with me so i can learn her better? I never met her in person (don't know where you get that), i only have seen her on cam in the studio and at her appartment, and many other places.

I don't get it. Like you've seen him in person from a distance? You met her in person and he was just there and refused to say hi? He dropped her off to hang out with you and you saw him in the car? You two stared into each other's eyes but said nothing? You need to be clear about what's going on.

she has many friends from foreign countries, like Russia, Germany, where she used to work. So when she invited me for the marriage she introduced me to her husband to ask if it was ok. that's when i saw him, but we have not spoken.

the fact that the husband is religious makes it harder for her to tell she's in the porn business.

 

[GraysonDrake]

So yes, his wife might be lying, but then she has to be a damn good liar to be able to keep that up for all those months. And the fact that her husband comes from a very religious family, what do you think, that she has said it?

Loads of people from deeply religious families grow out of their families' conservative views on sex and become their own people dude.

In fact a lot of SWs and kinksters come from religious families themselves. It's almost as if people can have their own thoughts and opinions that are different from their parents......

Also you still have no idea if she's not making shit up about cucking her super conservative religious husband behind his back because people seriously love that sort of thing and being honest with your fans about how honest you are in your marriage.....not as much.

 

[nightwish]

If OP is even telling the truth (because at this point I don't know what is truth or camgirl fan fiction out here in the public side anymore), it seems like this model is just hustling. She pulled the sick mother card and he supposedly helped pay for medications, so whose to say this whole marriage thing isn't just a hustle, as well. She very well may have been married for awhile or may have only told OP about the marriage because she wanted a nice gift off her wedding registry. OP seems to be really into this whole situation even if he admits otherwise. The model might have also picked up on that and is just feeding into what she believes will make her money. Why else would she talk about her husband that much? Especially talking about her husband's religion. Sounds to me like more fodder for the "teehee, I'm being such a naughty wife behind my religious husband's back" kink.

o common! you have seen to many movies. this is a joke

 

[Marceline]

o common! you have seen to many movies. this is a joke

Perhaps you should go take a look at the huge array of "I'm in love with a cam model" threads on this forum. Sick family member, sudden financial troubles, needing medications, it's all a very common trope amongst them.

There's cam models that will say things members want to hear that will make them money. Foreign studio models in particular are coached to form emotional bonds with members so that the member keeps on coming back. Do you honestly believe that this particular model is just telling you things about her life because you're such a good listener? Or, do you think that maybe it's a lot more likely that she is just telling you what you want to hear (and more than likely embellishing or flat out making up things for her own privacy and safety) so that you can feel closer to her and want to keep on giving her money? The fact that she is a studio model makes it even more likely that she is just flat out lying to you.

I'm not sure if any cam model lovecon movies exist, but please do tell if you have seen any and have some recommendations.

 

[MarieElise]

Loads of people from deeply religious families grow out of their families' conservative views on sex and become their own people dude.

In fact a lot of SWs and kinksters come from religious families themselves. It's almost as if people can have their own thoughts and opinions that are different from their parents......

This exactly.

My BF/ Common Law Husband comes from an extremely religious family. He knows what I do, and thinks it's cool. He likes it that so many men find me attractive Likes it even more that I can set my own schedule and work from anywhere. Not everyone is still entrenched in the Victorian era.

I come from a religious and moral family too, doesn't affect me at all. Makes camming more fun actually. Sticking it to the man... publicly ...hehe.
What better way to reject society's double standards, and make it clear to everyone I've ever known that, that is what I do (i.e. think for myself and reject BS standards).
It's great!! It's like painting a giant sign on my head that says IDGAF what other people think, with 2 giant middle fingers.
Lol, I love it. #Aquarius.

 

[AudriTwo]

OP, I think you would benefit from this important children's lesson.

 

[Emberblaze]

As a "good friend" I certainly wouldn't share their business on a cam model forum where they might see me talking shit about them. That's for sure.