Being Stalker, Harassed and Threatened To Have My Account Deleted By User

[latinaluxe]

The same user has been stalking and harassing me for months on Streamate. He doxxed me, sent flowers to my house trying to get my attention and when he doesn’t get his way he keeps threatening to tell Streamate lies that I met with him, send fake screenshots and claim I solicited so they will permanently delete my account. Meanwhile, he’s the one that tried to solicit, text me, email me, call me, etc. I’ve blocked him, but he keeps making new accounts every single time and won’t leave me alone. Can he get permanently banned from the site?

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

Apparently, none of you know how to read

Wow I guess no one has reading comprehension on this forum.

victim blaming me by insinuating I met up with this person

No one insinuated this. So the problems with reading and comprehension might be your own. Either you revealed information to this person, or the information was already available to them (and others...). What they chose to do with that info is clearly wrong, but interested parties wanting to know what resulted in this outcome aren't blaming you. They are asking because they want to know how they can avoid the same.

I see you are banned already but still probably hanging around. I hope you get the help you need with both the stalker and the psychological aftermath. I am glad to read that you already have a therapist. Maybe they can tell you where you went wrong in this thread.

 

[MarieElise]

I think this person expected us to infer from the word doxxed that they were followed home from the store, however that doesn't explain how their email address and phone number was found out. So it makes literally no sense.

Especially if you look at their message and posting history posts her on ACF and the dates.

Jumping from that to us supposedly thinking it's their fault, is weird unless they believe it was their fault in their own mind, and are projecting that onto us.
Which is super annoying.
But if something bad happened and they are blaming themselves for it subconsciously, that's definitely something the therapist should assist with.

I'm not sure I know anyone who is a fan of having the things they have said twisted or having words put in their mouth by someone else.
I know I most definitely am not.

Going from 0-100 with anger and vengeance like that is also something the therapist should assist this person with.
There are many techniques for people to use to manage fight, flight or freeze response, and to keep themselves grounded, or manage emotions and/or anxiety that are out of proportion to situations.

If someone is that psychologically vulnerable, we usually recommend that sex work is not a good fit (or several of us on the forum usually do anyway, as it is a psychologically wearing field).
And a break, treatment, or another career might be a good idea, until if and when, they are better.

ETA; Aside from that it concerns me given how many mentally vulnerable people are attracted to our field, that they would say such things. Someone vulnerable or in a depression episode might actually take that type of stuff seriously, and as well all know many people with active mental health issues come to us in our jobs. It worries me that this model could fire off such terrible words at one of them like that. Not OK.

 

[Omne35]

How many cam models refer to their customers as "tricks"?

 

[AudriTwo]

How many cam models refer to their customers as "tricks"?

Its common sex worker slang for a person who enjoys spending their money on sexual gratification. more of an fssw/dancing term than camming. not necessarily an insult.

"turning tricks" - soliciting sex acts.

 

[CheeseMoon]

How many cam models refer to their customers as "tricks"?

We are simps according to cam pimps!

 

[Smoothie]

Its common sex worker slang for a person who enjoys spending their money on sexual gratification. more of an fssw/dancing term than camming. not necessarily an insult.

"turning tricks" - soliciting sex acts.

I can’t say I’ve ever been called that as a cam model customer (that I know of, of course). I know it’s common for other types of sex work.

There was one (maybe former?) person here that was calling cam site members “johns” about a year ago. I definitely dislike that term because it incorrectly implies that the member is seeking something illegal. It’s a good way to scare off a paying member who is actually playing by the rules.

 

[CheeseMoon]

There was one (maybe former?) person here that was calling cam site members “johns” about a year ago. I definitely dislike that term because it incorrectly implies that the member is seeking something illegal. It’s a good way to scare off a paying member who is actually playing by the rules.

Yep, and it didn't go down too well.

 

[AudriTwo]

There was one (maybe former?) person here that was calling cam site members “johns” about a year ago. I definitely dislike that term because it incorrectly implies that the member is seeking something illegal. It’s a good way to scare off a paying member who is actually playing by the rules.

no offense man but i seriously doubt a cammodel calling members "johns" here on acf is going to scare off paying members on their camsite playing by the rules. it's just an umbrella term, also they could have been from a different aspect of sexwork where it's commonly used to describe people who pay money to achieve sexual gratification. i doubt the model was calling them johns to their face but their actual usernames or names.

another example: lots of cammodels, like me, call their "sales tactics" hustling here but more than likely wouldn't on cam unless it was fetish related.

i guess my point's language is fluid and it's important to remember sexwork is work and legal in other parts of the 1st world. camming is an umbrella of sexwork, and there are cammodels who are or have been fssw. so you are gonna see slang used or adopted.

Yep, and it didn't go down too well.

bb had more issues than just calling you guys johns.

 

[CheeseMoon]

i guess my point's language is fluid and it's important to remember sexwork is work and legal in other parts of the 1st world. camming is an umbrella of sexwork, and there are cammodels who are or have been fssw. so you are gonna see slang used or adopted.

I kinda miss the now in the wind Colombiana from the worse part of town, who only half jokingly called the drooling guys in the room pendejos. I guess you had to be there.

 

[Smoothie]

no offense man but i seriously doubt a cammodel calling members "johns" here on acf is going to scare off paying members on their camsite playing by the rules. it's just an umbrella term, also they could have been from a different aspect of sexwork where it's commonly used to describe people who pay money to achieve sexual gratification. i doubt the model was calling them johns to their face but their actual usernames or names.

another example: lots of cammodels, like me, call their "sales tactics" hustling here but more than likely wouldn't on cam unless it was fetish related.

i guess my point's language is fluid and it's important to remember sexwork is work and legal in other parts of the 1st world. camming is an umbrella of sexwork, and there are cammodels who are or have been fssw. so you are gonna see slang used or adopted.

Fair enough. And I respect that some models may come from that background, and that they mean no offense. I’m not judging.

It’s mostly a legal thing. The predominant definition of “john” in this realm of society is still “customer of a prostitute,” which is illegal where I live. I’m not a john by that definition. But the perception that I am could get me in trouble.

By design, I don’t know the models I visit, and they don’t know me. Therefore, I don’t know if they might end up under investigation at some point. Theoretically, if police were to investigate them for something illegal, they might ask CB (or any other website they can connect to her) for chat records. Or the identities of the dudes in her chat that don’t correct her when she calls them a John. Even being investigated for something like that - even if it turns out I did nothing wrong - can impact my life. Knowing that, why wouldn’t I just choose a different model?

That’s where I was coming from with the “scare off” comment. And I’ll concede that I am sure a lot of guys wouldn’t care. They can tend to their lives, I’ll tend to mine.

 

[Omne35]

Its common sex worker slang for a person who enjoys spending their money on sexual gratification. more of an fssw/dancing term than camming. not necessarily an insult.

"turning tricks" - soliciting sex acts.

I know the term, I just have never seen it in terms of camming before, just fssw. It made me wonder if there was more going on in the OP's situation especially when she brought up meeting off-site on her own and added even if she had what difference did it make. Might help explain how he got her info.
Just kind of musing.

 

[CheeseMoon]

[...] especially when she brought up meeting off-site on her own and added even if she had what difference did it make. Might help explain how he got her info.

Sounds similar to the thread where a cam model accused a member of being a creepy old pervert because she had agreed to meet up with the guy and then gotten cold feet. After that it was all his fault.
I think we all embellish the truth a bit when we realize we did just something really stupid and proceed to tell the story, but at one point you will probably be forced to admit - at least to yourself - that the emperor actually has no clothes.