Very thoughtful reply and confirms everything I was thinking when I asked the questions.
It's frustrating to me that I go into other rooms and see viewers talking to each other and not really at the model but in my room people talk directly to me and ignore everyone else. I could be doing something sexy while they chat among themselves. Instead I feel like I'm the subject of an FBI interview.Very thoughtful reply and confirms everything I was thinking when I asked the questions.
I am not on CB but have never seen or heard of guys using that as an excuse for not tipping. As to why they do not chat, well, it can be hard to type with one hand I guess
Or maybe they just have no real ability to converse.I am not sure that I have ever been in the room of a "crazy" model. Generally I would say no amount of crazy would be acceptable to me. BUT...
I am now reminded that in my early days on SC, I did become a regular in a room of a model who was VERY jealous of other models, like even the general mention that other models might exist in the lives of me or other users. But she was not particularly petulant about it (with me anyway) and readily admitted this failing of hers and she was a very nice girl otherwise and much fun to play with and talk to. So it was not a deal-breaker for me, and I only stopped visiting and lost touch when my financial situation changed such that I could no longer regularly visit more than one model. )For me it has always been both (except in my early days when I was sometimes browsing "purely" from horniness
). Naturally I would pay a visit to a room because the model caught my eye in some way physically, but would certainly not revisit if it became apparent that the model was "not for me" (i.e. we did not "click")If I am to be a regular visitor, then yes. Personally I "need" some sort of human connection, and that of course means useful conversation apart from the old chatroom ASL Check
And also the general chat and "demeanor" of other users and the room in general. Whether it is considered the "correct" way to use cam sites or not, I tend to look on visiting rooms like visiting a pub or a party, if the "crowd" do not appeal to me, I do not stay 
I've never really encountered anything too bad. My favourite model and I can definitely "fall out" sometimes but that's because we've become quite friendly offline and I guess when people get to know each other better then expectations and behaviours change. Things that I would brush off with a random model bug me when they come from her. Likewise, I bug the shit out of her sometimes and we need a couple of days to reset.
For me it's not about the sexual stuff on the whole. It's the entire experience. I can get the sexual stuff from porn alone. The human element is the biggest factor for me. Of course obviously I get horny and go private or tip for sexual things in public but it's not the only draw in terms of returning to a room. Another thing is that there are a thousand models out there who stream naked, just rubbing their pussy and moaning. I avoid them like the plague. A dressed, classy model is way more attractive.
Obviously I'm sexually attracted to the physical attributes but intelligence is way sexier than any of that. If a model can't hold a conversation with me then I'm not interested at all.
There are definitely users who visit my model friend who I like to engage with. It's easier sometimes to conduct a three or four way conversation than a one on one. I also know that she quite likes when there is a fair bit of chat in her room because it can make a shift pass more quickly. Equally, there are other users who I don't want to engage with at all. Definitely the horny randoms who turn up or the fetish guys (who always seem too focused on their fetish to engage). I also find that there are sometimes users - usually of the whale variety - who make a point of not engaging with other users, even when addressed directly and who want to dominate the room by controlling all of the interactions with the model.
For me gray user chat on is fine so long as it is moderated where needed. I particularly do not like when dudes are allowed to spam the chat, that is a turn off
On SC, grey chat is usually ok, but a room that allows unregistered users to chat is usually (IME) just a shit-show of nonsense in the chat, and I leave quickly.
It’s a good question.
Are you on Streamate? There's no way on SM to check an online model's profile without entering the room so sometimes users entering the room to check a profile or to check the pics/tags may get caught in an awkward hello moment. I wouldn't take it personally.
Sorry to double post but this want here when I replied. That does give me some understanding of the situation so thanks
Sorry, I worded it badly. I meant more that it was less of a reflection on you and probably more on the users motives or mood at that time. Which is what I think Smoothie managed to say much more effectively than me.
The other thing I would say is that often the exchange of hellos turns into small talk and I’m not always up for it if I haven’t even decided if I am going to stay in the room yet. It goes like this:
I do, but I am a guy who likes to "know" stuff. Not in a nefarious way, I just like to (am interested to) know how things work; what is going on "behind the curtain" as it were. It gives me and other users who may be interested, an insight into the pressures models have or just the type so things they have to deal with or manage in their working lives. And I do truly believe that the more we each (models and users) understand the others' perspective / motivations / necessities, the better our joint experience can be.
I didn't used to care about it but with visiting the same model regularly, a lot of the practicalities of the job come up in conversation. Most of it is about how the business works rather than a wider discussion around the politics though. I would probably care about a lot of the political stuff if I actually knew more about it but I'm not sure even she does so we don't discuss it.
You posted that just as I was typing my post. Same here. I like to know how it works and if there is anything I can do differently that helps. It also helps me understand why she might have been snappy with me that day, or which days to tip more.
God bless you for this.
I wish I could tell my viewers, in a mature and adult way, that I am on cam but also on my period and I am not going to be tolerable to a lot of shenanigans like I normally will be. Of course, I could not get on cam and just rest but all you see is dolla dolla bills going to someone else while laying there miserable and wishing you could take hormonal birth control or get a uterine hysterectomy so the issue becomes a nonissue. Sorry if this was TMI, but it is a large part of our lives and something that interferes with energy levels and emotional stability.
