LacieLaPlante said:
PunkInDrublic said:
I've never understood why guys care so much about squirting.
This is an idea I've had for a long time and I'm not sure it's correct, I'm not saying it is, but it's a hypothesis....
I hypothesize that some men don't really fully understand the female orgasm. Something need they can equate to their own ejaculation and orgasm. They need visual confirmation, a squirt. For
some men a quivering vagina and moans is just not enough confirmation that pleasure has happened, because those can be easily faked by a good actress.
What is interesting to me is that it's been proven that women enjoy the moments leading up to their orgasm more than their actual orgasm. And most women I've known who can squirt say it's not really as pleasurable as an orgasm. If this is true, then my hypothesis makes even more sense.
I agree with this completely.
I cannot vouch for every woman, but from what I always experience and what people I've talked to experience seems to be pretty much the same thing. A squirt isn't an orgasm, squirting is basically when the g-spot is being rubbed/having pressure on it (which is pleasurable) and causes a womans body to create a fuck load of fluid. The fluid being created isn't what feels good, it's more that the position that you have to press is generally a pleasurable area. This is why you can squirt even if you're not particularly enjoying it, which I've had when a man is being particularly aggressive with it, although I will still squirt it's too uncomfortable to feel pleasure. I think when women experience an orgasm, it's not the squirt that is the orgasm, it's that they've happened to have an orgasm at exactly the same time.
I don't enjoy the squirting itself, but I do enjoy the kind of sex that causes me to squirt. For me to squirt during sex it relies pretty much entirely on the shape of the mans penis.
The men who wish to see a squirt as evidence of a woman actually enjoying themselves are seriously misdirected. If a woman knows how to make herself squirt and has trained her body into doing it with ease (and yes it does seem to become easier once you've done it a few times), then essentially she can squirt and really not be very horny at all, she'll feel some pleasure, because... well, she's masturbating... but it isn't what men think it is.
I hear from men also that the male orgasm is remarkably different from the female. I love having orgasms, but yes, it is the ride itself that's important. I actually prefer sex when I have no orgasm. The only times I've ever "faked" on cam, isn't really a fake, it's the build up to the orgasm, get right to the point before, and then I won't let myself go over. Reason being, that's one of the best parts, and I can only have so many orgasms in a day. For men I've heard that the build up is a lot of sexual tension, I'm sure it's good because men seem obsessed with it, but from how it's been described by many men... well the actual build up to it sounds kind of rubbish... I'm not really surprised that men are so obsessed with orgasms, seeing as it sounds like for them cumming is dramatically the main event.
But... it's the same reason the amount of men see a woman with hard nipples and assume it's because she's horny... I mean seriously... nipples aren't tiny penis's... they respond to temperature. Mood sometimes effects temperature, but seeing as I'm physically hotter when I'm horny, my nipples are more likely to be soft than hard. *Sigh.... men really are so visual...