3 cam girls fell in love with me. I'm done.

[lost_angel]

I don’t even know where to start so I apologize if this is a little all over the place.



I want to make it clear that the only reason I started visiting cam sites about 3 years ago was because I hate watching porn because it’s so fake and I’d rather pay a high premium knowing that there’s an actual human on the other end of the interaction rather than just pixels on a screen. Every girl I’ve ever had a show with I made a point to get to know her first because I’m picky on who I spend my time with especially if I’m paying a high premium. Over the course of 3 years I found 3 girls that I’d visit regularly. I made it clear from the very beginning that this is purely a fantasy for me because I’m a virgin and I refuse to have sex with anyone I’m not married to because I know someone who was falsely accused of rape and it ruined his live even though he was innocent. It’s just not worth the risk for me so I’d rather pay a sex worker and exchange money for a service. This is a business transaction. I have no feelings attached whatsoever. Now obviously I’m a human. I’m not like most guys and I get this all the time as if it’s a bad thing. I’m not an asshole. I’m always respectful; ask them what they’re comfortable with before requesting anything. I’m also a hopeless romantic. I’m very traditional. I want to find a wife, be with her for the rest of my life and have as many children as my wife is willing to have because I can afford it. I’m not looking for a main chick and rotating a bunch of side chicks. I just want one wife to spend the rest of my life with like my parents. They met at a young age, were both virgins, got married, had 5 kids and lived happily together for over 40 years until my father passed away from cancer. My mom refuses to even consider having a relationship with anyone else so she lives with me and I take care of her. My goal is to either have a relationship like my parents or no relationship at all.

So back to why I’m making this post. I’ll try to keep it brief. All 3 of my fav cam models fell in love with me. All 3 of them had a nickname for me even though I said I wasn’t comfortable with it. One was Russain, one was Latina and one was American. All three of them gorgeous and smart too. I paid a lot as a result but I was ok with that. As I mentioned I’m very picky with who I spend time with.

The Russain girl lasted the longest. I met her almost immediately when I started visiting cam sites and it literally just ended like 30min ago. It ended because I finally met someone I can see myself marrying so I don’t want to distract myself by being on these sites. All I said was, hey you know I love spending time with you but thought I’d let you know that I met someone and I won’t be coming back unless the relationship ends. She literally said “I knew you didn’t really love me and you think I’m ugly. Go spend time with her and never come back”. I was able to get a response in before she banned me. I said, “Did you honestly expect me to be on here forever like some kind of loser?”

The three years were fun. If I knew it’d end with all 3 of my fav girls telling me they love me I would have never gotten into it. I guess all I can do is warn others. I’m throwing in the towel and I don’t regret my decisions.

After the second one went down, I made this thread: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/t...odels-do-cam-models-ever-fall-for-guys.37762/

 

[yummybrownfox]

I met her almost immediately when I started visiting cam sites and it literally just ended like 30min ago. It ended because I finally met someone I can see myself marrying so I don’t want to distract myself by being on these sites. All I said was, hey you know I love spending time with you but thought I’d let you know that I met someone and I won’t be coming back unless the relationship ends. She literally said “I knew you didn’t really love me and you think I’m ugly. Go spend time with her and never come back”. I was able to get a response in before she banned me. I said, “Did you honestly expect me to be on here forever like some kind of loser?”

Hey now...don't call these guys "losers." If it wasn't for MFC earnings back in 2013, I wouldn't have been able to get a V.I.P. ticket to see Justin Timberlake in concert...and touch his foot!

 

[Cheeseonmyfriesplz]

They didn’t really love you, they loved your wallet. A lot of camgirls use emotional manipulation to tie you in for as long as possible.

 

[Danigirl]

I think you had more feelings than you thought or you would have just left the cam sites without a goodbye. Dudes do it all the time. They don't owe me anything even though I do appreciate the heads up. Feelings don't have to be lovey dovey. You made connections and felt a certain way about a few cam models to the point you only visited 2 or 3 in the last few years. You don't have that sort of loyalty without some sort of feelings attached. Sorry you attached to models using you for your wallet and trying to use manipulation to extract more. That's not cool on their part at all. There's tons of models who don't play that shit and you may want to take a look at your picker if you manage to get 3 who do. You're putting all your future sexual eggs in the basket of one in real life person. Commendable but just be careful.

 

[Deleted member 57885]

Thanks for sharing. I think it's important to stay very cautious on these sorts of things, both for members and models. When guys and girls interact, there are bound to be mixed feelings here and there, and I think camsites can really confuse & complicate the senses with sexual attraction (aka lust) / emotions / money / fantasies thrown into the equation. It's, in essence, trying to monetize sexual attraction but emotional manipulation in a way. I don't think that's a bad thing necessarily, but it's easy to get lost if not careful.

I think several aspects of your story hit home for me.
Granted, I haven't fallen in love or anything, and I'm also pretty certain no one has fallen in love with me, but I have stayed friends with a model who retired from camming some while ago. As far as I know, I was the only one in the room that happened to know when she was leaving + she gave me her number. (I also got discounts w/ special privates for just me at the end of each stream, which was nice lol ) Tbh, she was the only reason I ever signed up for an account on CB, and she was non-nude, so it was mostly just casual chatting / nothing too explicit, and we happened to click. Similar to your scenario, she was the only room I visited, and I figured to close my account after she checked out too.

Even with all these commonalities though, I understand the importance of being brutally realistic, which is my usual big takeaway from your and other's "love around camsites" stories. My viewpoint towards camsites personally is they're business transactions. However, meaningful friendships/relationships can ensue, but only incidentally-- they shouldn't ever be pursued. A camsite is not a dating site, and it's not a friendship-making site either. In my case, a friendship happened incidentally though, so I'm happy to continue it like that. Past me probably would have been over-interpreting benign signs left and right, but the current me is a bit wiser/realistic from past escapades leading nowhere and is happy with staying non-financially-driven friends. I figure there is a lot of often under-appreciated value in a friendship, and I think staying in contact despite complete financial separation gives a bit more meaning to it too.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

You spent a LOT of money on these girls then said to them you're going elsewhere--of course they'd be upset their high spending regular is gone and lash out. Does that mean they love you? No. Even if they say they love you? No. Love comes in many forms and 3 years of online interaction can lead to all sorts of feelings but I highly doubt all three are helplessly lovestruck.

People fall in love anywhere, anyplace--but if any of these models actually had these profound feelings they wouldn't be charging you to interact with them. They could just be attempting to keep you as a customer and personally enjoy the shows you do together.

If a member feels compelled to tell me bye or that they have a girlfriend it means they do have some sort of feelings and consideration for me because it's not at all needed. If you didn't have feelings or wanted to be distracted by these girls why bother going back and saying bye? Move on and enjoy the new lady in your life and don't look back.

As for the warning--we've warned members of everything under the sun and it does nothing lol. People believe what they want to believe no matter the red flags.

 

[AmberCutie]

As for the warning--we've warned members of everything under the sun and it does nothing lol. People believe what they want to believe no matter the red flags.

 

[Lelo1]

Good for you! Don't try to use cam sites as dating sites.

Maybe go to a bar, buy a gal a few drinks or something.

 

[AudriTwo]

Hey now...don't call these guys "losers." If it wasn't for MFC earnings back in 2013, I wouldn't have been able to get a V.I.P. ticket to see Justin Timberlake in concert...and touch his foot!

He touched my hand when I was 12 years old at an n'sync concert. I cried.

 

[yummybrownfox]

He touched my hand when I was 12 years old at an n'sync concert. I cried.

Yesss!!! I LOVE him!

 

[lost_angel]

We had a lot of back-and-forth last night. I didn't even plan on ever updating this thread. I was ready to leave everything behind me and focus on my new relationship. But there was an interesting development. I'm not going to post everything we talked about, but I really wish I could because there's a lot of important lessons to be learned. I will, however share this which completely melted my heart:

You mean a lot to me and I mean it. I can’t believe you’ve been feeling like I was manipulating you the whole time. Why didn’t you talk to me about it? I would never want to make you feel that way. I still don’t understand what you mean by manipulating. Did I ever ask you for money? As I remember, you asked me if I had PayPal and I didn’t even give it to you. You said you wanted to send me some money because the website was taking way too much. I appreciated that. But we changed the topic and I never brought it up again. I’m not trying to drain you. I don’t ask you or anyone else to send me money so I can reach my goal for the day/week. If I have a slow week and need to reach my goal I will work extra hours. Do I ever beg you to take me private? Do I stop talking to you or ignore you if you’re just talking to me in free chat and not spending anything? You know I don’t. I love it when you show up in my room. No matter what we do. I don’t need you for your money. I make enough at work even when you don’t visit. But I do appreciate your support. I’ve never taken you for granted. I only added you on IG because I thought you were special. Just you. Your personality. Your sense of humor. Your talent. The way you make me feel. I always felt happy when we hanged out and spoke. You are not just another customer to me, I don’t know if you’re able to comprehend that. I’ve been stressed out lately and I couldn’t sleep last night. I had you on my mind and I messaged you. I don’t even know why. Lately I just felt closer to you then ever. Seems like you are used to being manipulated and lied to and you don’t expect anything else from people. You even feel this way about me. You know, when I say nice things to you it’s because I mean them. I don’t compliment you so you can keep spending money on me. Even if you stop visiting me on the website for good I don’t care. I would love to keep in touch with you. I want you to be happy. You deserve it. If you start a real relationship with someone I will be happy for you. I know what it’s like being lonely and depressed. I think you have a wrong impression of me. You only know one side of me. I don’t even have any friends in real life. I have big communication problems. The reason why I like this job so much is that I can actually talk to people and be myself. I always get stuck when I have to talk to someone face to face in person. Sometimes I can’t even make a phone call to make an appointment somewhere. I’m so insecure. Besides that I have so many insecurities about my looks. That’s why I got a nose job and still want to get another one and I’m thinking about other surgeries too. I don’t feel pretty. I see so many girls who are way prettier than me. I’m getting older and it’s even harder to look good. I’ve always considered myself average. And you show up and start telling me how you met three other chicks and how gorgeous they are. I feel unattractive. I feel like they are way better than me. They are flawless. They are younger and hotter than me. And this is bad news for me like you said. I am not pretty enough. I understand that you get bored of me and the same thing over and over again. I am fine with you seeing other chicks but don’t tell me how perfect they are. It hurts me a lot.

As for my job I just do my thing. I know a lot of people come on the website because they are lonely and need to distract or vent so I am here to comfort them. I never give anyone wrong expectations. I don’t promise guys to meet them for real, to be their girlfriend or have sex with them. I am some kind of a therapist for people. This is not scam. You might have a different idea, I don’t know. I care about people. And I’m sorry if I was talking about other guys too much. I didn’t realize that. I always try to tell you something cool that happened at work because I usually don’t have much going on in my everyday life. I’m sorry if it was too much. I hope you will be okay. Please forgive me if I did something wrong. I never meant to hurt you. Let me know if I can do anything for you.

 

[Danigirl]

Hm. That's a lot of words and effort from a supposed cam girl. Most cam girls would reply "good luck bb" or just "I'll miss ya, hope you enjoy your new relationship". Or you know, not reply at all right away cause there's another hundred members in the room and we've got to entertain. You sure that's not just the response you wanted to hear in your head?

 

[anabeauty37]

We had a lot of back-and-forth last night. I didn't even plan on ever updating this thread. I was ready to leave everything behind me and focus on my new relationship. But there was an interesting development. I'm not going to post everything we talked about, but I really wish I could because there's a lot of important lessons to be learned. I will, however share this which completely melted my heart:

You mean a lot to me and I mean it. I can’t believe you’ve been feeling like I was manipulating you the whole time. Why didn’t you talk to me about it? I would never want to make you feel that way. I still don’t understand what you mean by manipulating. Did I ever ask you for money? As I remember, you asked me if I had PayPal and I didn’t even give it to you. You said you wanted to send me some money because the website was taking way too much. I appreciated that. But we changed the topic and I never brought it up again. I’m not trying to drain you. I don’t ask you or anyone else to send me money so I can reach my goal for the day/week. If I have a slow week and need to reach my goal I will work extra hours. Do I ever beg you to take me private? Do I stop talking to you or ignore you if you’re just talking to me in free chat and not spending anything? You know I don’t. I love it when you show up in my room. No matter what we do. I don’t need you for your money. I make enough at work even when you don’t visit. But I do appreciate your support. I’ve never taken you for granted. I only added you on IG because I thought you were special. Just you. Your personality. Your sense of humor. Your talent. The way you make me feel. I always felt happy when we hanged out and spoke. You are not just another customer to me, I don’t know if you’re able to comprehend that. I’ve been stressed out lately and I couldn’t sleep last night. I had you on my mind and I messaged you. I don’t even know why. Lately I just felt closer to you then ever. Seems like you are used to being manipulated and lied to and you don’t expect anything else from people. You even feel this way about me. You know, when I say nice things to you it’s because I mean them. I don’t compliment you so you can keep spending money on me. Even if you stop visiting me on the website for good I don’t care. I would love to keep in touch with you. I want you to be happy. You deserve it. If you start a real relationship with someone I will be happy for you. I know what it’s like being lonely and depressed. I think you have a wrong impression of me. You only know one side of me. I don’t even have any friends in real life. I have big communication problems. The reason why I like this job so much is that I can actually talk to people and be myself. I always get stuck when I have to talk to someone face to face in person. Sometimes I can’t even make a phone call to make an appointment somewhere. I’m so insecure. Besides that I have so many insecurities about my looks. That’s why I got a nose job and still want to get another one and I’m thinking about other surgeries too. I don’t feel pretty. I see so many girls who are way prettier than me. I’m getting older and it’s even harder to look good. I’ve always considered myself average. And you show up and start telling me how you met three other chicks and how gorgeous they are. I feel unattractive. I feel like they are way better than me. They are flawless. They are younger and hotter than me. And this is bad news for me like you said. I am not pretty enough. I understand that you get bored of me and the same thing over and over again. I am fine with you seeing other chicks but don’t tell me how perfect they are. It hurts me a lot.

As for my job I just do my thing. I know a lot of people come on the website because they are lonely and need to distract or vent so I am here to comfort them. I never give anyone wrong expectations. I don’t promise guys to meet them for real, to be their girlfriend or have sex with them. I am some kind of a therapist for people. This is not scam. You might have a different idea, I don’t know. I care about people. And I’m sorry if I was talking about other guys too much. I didn’t realize that. I always try to tell you something cool that happened at work because I usually don’t have much going on in my everyday life. I’m sorry if it was too much. I hope you will be okay. Please forgive me if I did something wrong. I never meant to hurt you. Let me know if I can do anything for you.

Wow, seems like the owner of the studio or the trainer did a good job , or maybe the russian model is this smart .. is she just typing when u visit or shes talking> ? so we know who is texting you this awesome massages ..

 

[AudriTwo]

I’m so insecure. Besides that I have so many insecurities about my looks. That’s why I got a nose job and still want to get another one and I’m thinking about other surgeries too. I don’t feel pretty. I see so many girls who are way prettier than me. I’m getting older and it’s even harder to look good. I’ve always considered myself average. And you show up and start telling me how you met three other chicks and how gorgeous they are. I feel unattractive. I feel like they are way better than me. They are flawless. They are younger and hotter than me. And this is bad news for me like you said. I am not pretty enough. I understand that you get bored of me and the same thing over and over again. I am fine with you seeing other chicks but don’t tell me how perfect they are. It hurts me a lot.

What a hustler.

 

[CheeseMoon]

[lots of text]

Whatever the case is, her English is disturbingly good.

 

[cbhours]

Wow, seems like the owner of the studio or the trainer did a good job , or maybe the russian model is this smart .. is she just typing when u visit or shes talking> ? so we know who is texting you this awesome massages ..

He mentioned russian, latina, american....its probably the american, the russian told him to never come back

 

[tokensarentforkids]

the problem with following your parents' example is that most girls have more experience at 14 than you do, different times

 

[AudriTwo]

the problem with following your parents' example is that most girls have more experience at 14 than you do, different times

lol wut.

 

[Lintilla]

you show up and start telling me how you met three other chicks and how gorgeous they are

So there are four?

Do the others all write exactly like you, too?

 

[Danigirl]

So there are four?

Do the others all write exactly like you, too?

Shhhh it's not polite to point out discrepancies in fan fiction lol

 

[CedarSelene]

So there are four?

Do the others all write exactly like you, too?

The fourth one's the IRL person, obviously.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

 

[uzhvecher]

Just three? That's nothing. I'm up to my ass in I love you's and te amo's. They all adore me, how hot I am, how funny. Sometimes I think love blinds them because they say I have a big dick but I've measured it and I've read peer-reviewed studies that looked at like 300 dicks, it's average! When cam girls see me, this middling, middle-management, middle-aged dreamboat of a hunk struggling to cum due to prostatitis or something related to it, they melt like butter and think, "my god I love him."

 

[KenzieCams]

No way 3 hot cam models are falling for a virgin adult man who is afraid women will accuse him of raping them. I don't mean to be mean but I also don't like playing into this type of fantasy. It isn't healthy.

 

[AudriTwo]

No way 3 hot cam models are falling for a virgin adult man who is afraid women will accuse him of raping them. I don't mean to be mean but I also don't like playing into this type of fantasy. It isn't healthy.

And false rape allegations are pretty low too. The chances of being falsely accused is rare. If op is really scared, he should consider sexual consent form/contract. https://eforms.com/consent/sexual/

Its not the sexiest thing, but it's a good thing to know your partner's boundaries so you don't cross them during the heat of passion. It's also important to respect when your partner says no after agreeing to something prior.

 

[lost_angel]

Let me start by sayin is I give absolutely zero fucks what anyone things of this situation or whether or not they believe its accuracy. I'm only trying to educate people about the fucked up reality of society and relationships.

You guys can learn from this girl. You what to know what a true hustler is? She came from an abusive household and hated her dad for always abusing her mother. She never wanted to be in a position where a man has any sort of power or control over her. She couldn't find a job out of school and saw a job posting for this and was intrigued. She did the training had her first shift and enjoyed it. She thought to herself if I'm going to do this I'm doing it 100%. She started going to the gym 5 days a week, eating healthy and learned 3 new languages. her room always has gold raining down on her because she talks to everyone and gives them attention in whatever language they speak. And she is rewarded handsomely for it. What a fucking awesome woman.

Ladies, take notes.

 

[Marceline]

inb4 the camgirl in question, who is totally real and not at all a not very well written character in OP's headcanon fantasy, joins the forum and posts on this thread to defend her undying love for OP while simultaneously telling all us mean people who don't believe him to go to hell in all three of the new languages she learned just for camming.

 

[xoxAprilJames]

Ladies, take notes.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

I'm only trying to educate people about the fucked up reality of society and relationships.

Educators are knowledgeable in their field though.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

First it started off as a “warning” next it was just bragging and now it’s advice on how to hustle. For someone who has said they want to move on, has a new woman in their life and that webcam members are losers you sure are wrapped up in all this far more than the average member.