What do you do when?....

[_pilya_]

I'm fairly new, but this thought has been in my mind before i even started...

What do you do when someone approach you in public (supermarket/mall..etc) and ask.."'Are you *your cam name*?" --- In my mind I would simply say no, but I might have the deer in a headlight look and freeze, confirming the answer without answering.
please advice if this had happened to you or just simply what would you do in your case?

Thank you,
_pilya_

 

[ElaySmith]

I actually wonder how often this happens. Nobody has ever approached me in rl and depending on the situation id either confirm or deny. I did get an email once saying that they thought they had seen me grocery shopping but he didnt press the issue. Id honestly find it a little creepy/invasive depending on the situation and how I was approached. I think if members see a model out in public they should respect her privacy and just leave her be unless she has made it clear she doesn't mind being approached.

 

[AlexaCrush]

This has never happened to me but I'd probably play off the 'deer in the headlights look' as a 'wtf are you talking about' look and just walk away looking all offended or something haha.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

I actually wonder how often this happens. Nobody has ever approached me in rl and depending on the situation id either confirm or deny. I did get an email once saying that they thought they had seen me grocery shopping but he didnt press the issue. Id honestly find it a little creepy/invasive depending on the situation and how I was approached. I think if members see a model out in public they should respect her privacy and just leave her be unless she has made it clear she doesn't mind being approached.

It happened to me, but I was the one who recognized her. We had already interacted with one another for a while, so we kind of knew each other a little bit as well as knew we lived in the same general area. One day, I was at a local pub eating dinner at the bar and enjoying a beer while waiting for the band to start playing. This gal comes walking past me, that looks like said model.

Didn't say a word, just thought "Wow she looks just like So-and-So." She walks past a few more times, and I'm fairly certain it's her. But, because she was with other people, I didn't want to stop her to ask and potentially ruin her night.

Next time I see her online, she's talking about that night out with friends. She mentioned a couple of key things that happened, which confirmed it was her. So, I sent her a quick message saying I was there, and saw her but didn't want to bother her for above reasons as well as respecting her privacy.

After a bit of discussion, via PMs to confirm it was me and I was really there, we agreed to meet in a public place. She was with a group of friends, including her boyfriend. She and I sat and chatted for a little bit just to say "Hi" and personal introductions out of the way.

Since then, we've stayed in contact offline and have become good friends, including her boyfriend and I. The three of us will get together on occasion when there's something going on. I still respect her privacy, so don't overextend my stay when we do get together. Nor, do I constantly hit them up with messages all the time. I just treat them as regular people.


This definitely isn't the norm for most, as most are like you say Elay. Wanting privacy and to be left alone. Which I'm happy to do, as I see most personalities/celebs as being bothered by others, I'd rather just let them be. But, this situation was a little unique. Had she of quickly dismissed it. I would have left it at that and respected her privacy from there. There are a few others who I know are in my general area, or an area I frequently travel to. But, aside from a bit of chat or banter online, it's never gone beyond that.

 

[ThePrincessLuxy]

It happened to me, but I was the one who recognized her. We had already interacted with one another for a while, so we kind of knew each other a little bit as well as knew we lived in the same general area. One day, I was at a local pub eating dinner at the bar and enjoying a beer while waiting for the band to start playing. This gal comes walking past me, that looks like said model.

Didn't say a word, just thought "Wow she looks just like So-and-So." She walks past a few more times, and I'm fairly certain it's her. But, because she was with other people, I didn't want to stop her to ask and potentially ruin her night.

Next time I see her online, she's talking about that night out with friends. She mentioned a couple of key things that happened, which confirmed it was her. So, I sent her a quick message saying I was there, and saw her but didn't want to bother her for above reasons as well as respecting her privacy.

After a bit of discussion, via PMs to confirm it was me and I was really there, we agreed to meet in a public place. She was with a group of friends, including her boyfriend. She and I sat and chatted for a little bit just to say "Hi" and personal introductions out of the way.

Since then, we've stayed in contact offline and have become good friends, including her boyfriend and I. The three of us will get together on occasion when there's something going on. I still respect her privacy, so don't overextend my stay when we do get together. Nor, do I constantly hit them up with messages all the time. I just treat them as regul


This definitely isn't the norm for most, as most are like you say Elay. Wanting privacy and to be left alone. Which I'm happy to do, as I see most personalities/celebs as being bothered by others, I'd rather just let them be. But, this situation was a little unique. Had she of quickly dismissed it. I would have left it at that and respected her privacy from there. There are a few others who I know are in my general area, or an area I frequently travel to. But, aside from a bit of chat or banter online, it's never gone beyond that.

Thank you so much for treating this an appropriate way. Ideally if I ever get recognized this is how I personally would want the situation handled. I am sure she really appreciated it as well.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Thank you so much for treating this an appropriate way. Ideally if I ever get recognized this is how I personally would want the situation handled. I am sure she really appreciated it as well.

You're welcome and thank you for the compliment. She is a very private person, and her initial reaction was a bit of shock. Which, I thought was kind of interesting since we had been communicating for a few months by this time. She does jokingly tease me a little about perhaps I should have approached her in person, instead of sitting there glancing at her as she walked past.

But, I know how I handled it was the best way possible. It's how I would prefer to be recognized if the tables were turned. Same with privacy and respect. While I know many aspects of her personal life, I will never publicly comment about anything unless she says it's okay or it relates only to her public persona. Far too many ways for people to pick up on little things and then piece them all together.

 

[AudriTwo]

once. looked at them like they were crazy and shouted in a crowded store "THIS MAN IS SAYING INAPPROPRIATE THINGS TO ME" Did this so everyone knows someone was making me uncomfortable and he wouldn't follow me on my way to my vehicle.



and I raaaaaaaaaaaan. I ran so far away.

 

[Ms_Gingersnatch]

I think this is statistically very unlikely to happen to me.

However, the idea of some poor dude working up the courage to approach a total stranger, who may or may not be me, and ask her if she's Ms Gingersnatch... even contemplating whether it should be pronounced Miss, Missus, or Mzzz... it's kind of hilarious. (In general, having a sexy first name/last name type screen name is best, but in this case, I think mine is an advantage.)

If he did it in a respectful way, I'd probably admit that it was me, but get out of there asap and take a long, winding drive through a shitty neighbourhood to discourage anyone following me home.


For anyone that notices a model irl, one part of @ForceTen 's approach that I really like is that he communicated with her about it on one of her model accounts. Firstly, it eliminates the possibility of any embarrassing confrontation with a person who genuinely isn't who you think it might be. Secondly, it shows that, even though he accidentally got a peek at her private life, he chose to constrain himself to interacting with her in her public realm until she agreed to let things cross over.

 

[dilligaf0]

I would never approach someone and say "are you (insert a cam model's name) from (insert a website) because...
#1) That's a very personal question.
#2) I'm not fond of getting slapped (especially if I'm wrong).

I used to frequent strip clubs (even before I worked in a few as a bouncer) and a few times I did see dancers out in public ( the grocery or department store, etc.)
I would just nod or say "hi" (depending on how well I knew them) and proceed with my shopping. No big deal.

 

[mynameisbob84]

I don't think I'd approach a cam girl IRL. I wouldn't want to blow their cover/freak them out, nor embarrass myself by saying something stupid like "hi, my name is Bob and I've seen you naked on the internet" before realising what I've just said and then going red-faced and pretending I have somewhere else to be.

What I don't know how I'd deal with is the follow-up though. Do I let them know I saw them and risk making them feel they can't go to the place I saw them again, or do I not tell them and potentially bump into them again and again without ever letting them know? Would they want to know they were frequenting a place where a member was also possibly going to be?