WOW, this one is still warm its so fresh. ("Quality", a word used a lot in this post, mostly should not be given the meaning of good, or desirable, as in most cases it was meant much like "proprieties"of this or that. Where it means more than that, I think will be evident.)
Reading Luna's post@personalattention in which she tells of the type of member who is a pushy prick, I was hit with an Obvious Revelation. When ever I hear of members acting like dickheads it pisses me off to some extent. I may be pissed more or less, b/c of what they did, but regardless the flavor of rude, nasty, mean, or general maleness, I feel pissed b/c all these can be avoided in great measure by having the desire to avoid them. My mindset is always WHY do these guys act like such ass holes? -WHYdo they not care that they are such ass holes? Well even tho that is still how I always feel, the answer to those questions, I worked out long ago. There are simply a lot of ass holes out there.
Well, what occurred to me for the first time tonight, reading Luna's post, was the yin/yang of members/men behaving badly. I very often find a different prospective when I examine the yin/yang of something, and that always feels like an obvious revelation. Why, I don't always see this, in fact, most often don't see, how there is no light with out dark, no silence with out noise, etc, I do not know. It always seems so obvious when I do see it, and makes me feel thick headed, that I didn't see it from the get.
Its a preschool understanding and effort to be aware of yin/yang that caused me to very much dislike, the somewhat popular expression, "it's all good", No it's not, nor can it be, ever. If its all anything, then that anything loses all measure of quality. "Those are all potato chips", allows the only quality of 'potato chip' to be, that it is not something else. "Those are the salty potato chips" gives 'those chips' the quality of being the 'salty ones'. If all potato chips were of equal saltiness, that statement would make no sense. For some chips to be saltier, some have to be less salty. And conversely, if it were all good, it would all be the same, and good would lose all meaning, or quality. From a logical POV, "its all bad" should be just as popular, they both work out to the same thing.
What felt like an obvious revelation tonight, was that these members/men behaving badly, or like men, cave men, allows myself and other members/men who care that we aren't assholes, to have desirable quality. It is the un-concerned, rude, mean, asshole, that no Model wants to see/deal with, in her room, that provide much of the quality for the caring, polite, kind, gentleman members, who most Models want in their rooms. There are other qualities of course, and I now see that those qualities, in fact all qualities can be viewed as yin/yang. That I, and many member can not afford to tip more than .5-1K is what makes a 5-10K tip so impressive. (or whatever tag you wish. I have only recently come to this thing of thinking. I am clumsy, and make mistakes like equating yin/yang with terms of worth, or desirability.) so, I still don't like that there are lots of guys who treat Models poorly, and I will always dislike that in principal, and on an individual basis.
Would I wish that there were no men ever, anywhere, who treated Models/woman poorly? Before tonight, before I thought about the yin/yang, I would have said, yes. Well, as fucked up as it sounds, I hope there are always some members/men behaving badly, acting like men, like cavemen.
Members like Killer_Joe, Nordling, MrRodry, Marokite, SoTx, Phil, Jupiter, Los, (and I'm sure a bunch more here, that I have no reference for, - no experience being in the same room), might still be above average room guest, but would lose much of their quality, if it were not for, lesser desirable members, some Happily Gone from this forum, and others, behaving badly.
I'm sure I've had more than my fair share but can't remember at the moment. 
