I'm gonna offer my own stance on this that may differ from everyone else here.... prepare for a little bluntness...
Let me first ask, did you stop camming with or without noticing your regs? If you did stop without so much as announcing a hiatus, retirement, or what not... well it's not exactly leaving on bad terms, but it's not leaving on good terms either. Especially when you've taken a 4+ years break, that's it for me. I'm more than likely moved on from you and wouldn't return as a regular.
If you didn't make any announcement of your hiatus, AND i've developed a close bond with you prior to your break, that makes the situation worse. I can tell you that i've had a real life close friend disappear on me for years - all communication cut off and being ignored, etc - only to reappear again and be like, "Hey i'm back. did you miss me?" as if nothing skipped a beat. Long story short, there was a lot of frustration and hurt from that experience. Now i understand this is camland where circumstances are very different from real life, but emotions are still real. Going back to the camworld, many models that i formerly frequented had abruptly retired without notice. A couple of them had made a comeback, but by then they're still considered retired in my mind since i've moved on.
This is camland, not real life. This is first and foremost a business for models. I think it's sweet that many worry about annoying customers with spam, putting members in awkward spots with other models, etc.
But really there are only three type of members on MFCs, customers, potential customers, and non-customers. I think many models worry too much about upsetting non-customer.
Let's imagine the worse case scenario, your favorite model who you really thought had a connection to just up and disappears without any warning. Twitter, IG, MFC account, snap chat, email all gone. To make it even worse, you had just tipped her a lot of tokens for things like snapchat for life, her club, custom videos. You are understandably pissed off.
Two years later she re-appears. She sends you and me and all her old regulars a PM or MFC mail, saying hey I'm back, and I really need your help cause I'm saving up for my trip to Tahiti with my new hunky boyfriend.
(Note this definitely a bad bad way of announcing your return
).
Now your reaction would be probably something along the line "the nerve of this chick", no way I'm going to give this chick another token, until she gives me an explanation, starts sending me snapchats, and gives me the custom video she owes me. Or you more likely you'll just say fuck it, I've moved on and ignore her. I, on the other hand, wasn't upset with her leaving, I just remember she was fun, and had a great ass. I might welcome the invitation and stop by her room and start tipping her. In her mind, as old regulars, we are both potential customers. Her pissing you off isn't her problem any more than me being annoyed that the newspaper keeps hounding me to resubscribe is the telemarketing guys problem. We are both almost certainly non-customers.