Need advice about feelings for a cam model

[Sorta_Crota777]

I know that this has been said and answered by people looking for advice about feelings for a model and rather or not they like them back, but I need my own answers.

So I've known this model for about a year now and things are good between her and I but I wonder if she has feelings for cause we are best friends, I have her Skype, Twitter, kik, whatsapp besides snapchat cause I told her I love seeing her (even nude) I just think that should be kept on the site I watch her on and she okay with that. We use to talk everyday and I even been on several dates with her, lately she been busy with school that she doesn't have time to text me like she once did.. but she occasionally message me asking how I am and what I am doing but for the most part we talk on the cam site she uses which is fine cause I still get to have interaction with her but only when she not to busy preforming. She doesn't ask me to tip but I do at times to help her show out when it is slow and she told me that she appreciates it and everything that I do for her (noted that I do buy her things like candy to send to her and she buys me things as well) I don't know if i am just a friend to her or there might be more there relationship wise cause I don't treat her like a object but as a normal woman with a job and talking to her is really great and I have a lot of fun hanging out with her just I am not so sure what to do..

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I don't know if i am just a friend to her or there might be more there relationship wise cause I don't treat her like a object but as a normal woman with a job

Please re-read this sentence....

She IS a normal woman with a job, and most likely people in her real life treat her exactly this way (and probably on cam too). I don't think treating a woman like a human being equates to her automatically wanting to hook up with you, believe it or not, men aren't that disgusting that our bar is so low as "Don't care about anything else, so long as he treats me like a normal woman". I know that loads of members seem to have an idea of all these "other guys" who are drooling, disgusting pigs who only objectify, but camming really isn't like that. Yes you do get those guys, but a lot of the guys who visit camsites do so because they want a normal woman who could be their friend or neighbour, rather than a porn fantasy.

As for whether she has feelings for you, absolutely nothing you have said seems to give you any reason to believe she does, so if I'll be honest it sounds like you're grasping at straws. A lot of camgirls are coy about members tipping, and many camgirls get very close to regulars. I am incredibly close to lots of my regulars and talk with them all the time when I'm not on cam with the whole best friend relationship, doesn't mean I want to go out with them. If I did, I would tell them. What reasons would she have for being coy about her feelings if she had any?

You mention in your post a lot about how she might have feelings for you, which it doesn't really sound like she does. But what are your feelings? Do you think you may be projecting your own need for a connection onto her and are now reading too much into things? As for "what to do", well, if you don't have genuine feelings for her then do nothing. It's unlikely she feels anything for you, and if she says she does then you can deal with that when the time comes, but at this point there seems to be no evidence or hints that she is thinking of that, so don't over complicate it. If you have feelings for her then that's entirely up to you what you decide to do, it may be that you have to leave camsites for a while, it may be that this is a sign that you are ready for a real life relationship. Your options are pretty much, ignore it and see if it goes away, tell her how you feel and see what she says back (though will quite likely fuck up your relationship with her, so be warned), start taking a break from her or start cutting down the time spent with her, put the same amount of energy into real life dating as you do with camsites (if you aren't married), if you are married then work on your marriage and work out what's up.
Probably best to also think about it logistically, whether in reality you would feel the same way or if this is just you crushing on a fantasy girl (however real she might seem).

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I know that this has been said and answered by people looking for advice about feelings for a model and rather or not they like them back, but I need my own answers.

Ok let's take a look see.

So I've known this model for about a year now and things are good between her and I but I wonder if she has feelings for cause we are best friends, I have her Skype, Twitter, kik, whatsapp besides snapchat

So you've have probably everything she offers outside of cam. You say best friends. I'm friends with some of my peeps, but this sounds a bit like a fanboy who gets along with a crush enough that he's decided she likes him back because they both get along.

cause I told her I love seeing her (even nude)

Ya don't say!

I just think that should be kept on the site I watch her on and she okay with that.

Is it supposed to be "she's ok with that"? Simply asking due to not wanting to misinterpret what you're saying here.

We use to talk everyday and I even been on several dates with her,

Not trying to sound mean, but are these paid for? This may come off harsh, but you say you have lots of her content. This makes me think she may be giving you some some "girl friend experience" time due to you being a high tipper. Perhaps she's bored and enjoys your company. I dunno here, because I don't know what "dates" meant exactly here. I'm assuming these are something like being on Skype together as opposed to physical dates in person.

lately she been busy with school that she doesn't have time to text me like she once did.. but she occasionally message me asking how I am and what I am doing but for the most part we talk on the cam site she uses which is fine cause I still get to have interaction with her but only when she not to busy preforming. She doesn't ask me to tip but I do at times to help her show out when it is slow and she told me that she appreciates it and everything that I do for her (noted that I do buy her things like candy to send to her and she buys me things as well) I don't know if i am just a friend to her or there might be more there relationship wise cause I don't treat her like a object but as a normal woman with a job and talking to her is really great and I have a lot of fun hanging out with her just I am not so sure what to do.

Sorry if you wanted it to be more, but I'm betting she thinks of you as a good friend. From what you've written you two seem to be there for one another when you both can. This obviously isn't bad, but you had quite a number of hints in there that you wanted it to be more than friends. She checks on you, she doesn't complain if you don't tip, and she buys you things. That sounds like a friendship with some non-sexual in person benefits to me.

 

[SophiaSophia]

why not ask her rather than everyone here...
in the least creepy and or needy way possible ask ...idk if you'll get a straight answer but if you're blocked on every conceivable method of contact within an hr of asking - you'll know.
but I guess- before you do ask- then what? reality rarely lines up with fantasy. Are you prepared to have your fantasy bubble popped? Are you prepared to continue to let her do her own thing and have her own time and her own job? (camming in this instance) and is she prepared to lose what sounds like a decent consistent tipper?

look, I think real honest to god relationships can start online but add nudity and sexual content with the exchange of money to the equation and things get really muddy for all concerned fast.
it sounds like she genuinely thinks of you as a friend so that's nice but I think what youre sorting out in your head at this point is- is it deepest soul bearing honesty time with sexy bennies- do you really want that?

 

[mynameisbob84]

In 99.9% of these instances, it's safe to conclude that she sees you as, at best, a customer she enjoys the company of and genuinely cares about the well-being of, but doesn't want a relationship past that. The only thing in your post that makes me think there's even a chance that you're in the opposing .1% is the fact that you've been on several dates with her. That suggests to me that she at least thinks of you as someone she trusts enough to meet in real life and likes enough to test the waters for a more romantic/sexual relationship.

But you really need to talk to her about this. Nobody here can answer for her (unless she posts here).

 

[AudriTwo]

What ever happened to jerking off?

 

[Picnic]

It sounds like she's just doing her job.