MILF lovers

[MsAllyCat]

The foot thread made me think of other common fetish, or particular turn ons.

One that I hear a lot is the MILF thing. What exactly is it about a woman who has children that is particularly hot? I don't really 'get' it.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

This pretty well sums up my thoughts on the matter. :-D
And thank you for providing a perfect opportunity to post an all time classic.

 

[Nordling]

My question is, if they (the fetishists) love older women with children so much, why do they refer to them with such an ugly word like "MILF?" Seriously, I think many misogynists simply love saying that word because it's another way of disrespecting women.

 

[Anonymous]

Also, what constitutes a MILF?
Does she specifically have to be the "mature" type?
I mean, I've got a kiddo. Am I a MILF?

 

[MsAllyCat]

This pretty well sums up my thoughts on the matter. :-D
And thank you for providing a perfect opportunity to post an all time classic.

Ooooh I never realised till now it was Rachel Hunter in that video. So hot. God I wish I'd named my kid Stacey.

Milf - yeah it's a funny acronym, awkward not least of all because it seems grammatically incorrect or something. To be honest I didn't even know what it stood for until a couple of years ago. I'm so backward sometimes.

 

[Nordling]

Also, what constitutes a MILF?
Does she specifically have to be the "mature" type?
I mean, I've got a kiddo. Am I a MILF?

What I've noticed is, guys who love using the term tend to use it on any woman over 16, whether they really know she has children or not.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

My question is, if they (the fetishists) love older women with children so much, why do they refer to them with such an ugly word like "MILF?" Seriously, I think many misogynists simply love saying that word because it's another way of disrespecting women.

I've never really thought the emphasis was on the fact that they have kids perse. I've always thought it was an appreciation of the woman's body that has had kids and then afterwards is still sexy.

God I know i'm going to get flack for wording it that way. But it's late and I can't think of a more tactful way to put it right now.

Also, what constitutes a MILF?
Does she specifically have to be the "mature" type?
I mean, I've got a kiddo. Am I a MILF?

What constitutes a MILF? I think it's just the basic requirement. Had to have had a kid, and the rest of the letters 'ILF' need apply in someone else's opinion.
I think I can safely speak for the men of the forum here. Yes, you qualify.

 

[Anonymous]

I think I can safely speak for the men of the forum here. Yes, you qualify.

You're my new best friend.

 

[BlueViolet]

My question is, if they (the fetishists) love older women with children so much, why do they refer to them with such an ugly word like "MILF?" Seriously, I think many misogynists simply love saying that word because it's another way of disrespecting women.

I don't really feel like it is a disrespectful term although it does have a very crude connotation. I think it's pretty much the same as guys who see any attractive woman and are like, "Would bang." I think most women would prefer to be referred to as a MILF than a "mature woman", but I could be wrong. I would prefer MILF.

The foot thread made me think of other common fetish, or particular turn ons.

One that I hear a lot is the MILF thing. What exactly is it about a woman who has children that is particularly hot? I don't really 'get' it.

This is all speculation, but I'd imagine a lot of times it starts out with a young teenager having a friend with a really attractive mother. So he starts to develop an attraction to older, more experienced women than teenagers his own age. I'm not sure if all guys who are into MILFs really even care if they actually have children or it is more about that particular cougar-type age and their attitude. But yeah, woman who have children tend to have slightly different body types than someone who hasn't given birth and that is probably a big part of it as well. I could be completely wrong, though.

 

[Nordling]

My question is, if they (the fetishists) love older women with children so much, why do they refer to them with such an ugly word like "MILF?" Seriously, I think many misogynists simply love saying that word because it's another way of disrespecting women.

I've never really thought the emphasis was on the fact that they have kids perse. I've always thought it was an appreciation of the woman's body that has had kids and then afterwards is still sexy.

God I know i'm going to get flack for wording it that way. But it's late and I can't think of a more tactful way to put it right now.

Also, what constitutes a MILF?
Does she specifically have to be the "mature" type?
I mean, I've got a kiddo. Am I a MILF?

What constitutes a MILF? I think it's just the basic requirement. Had to have had a kid, and the rest of the letters 'ILF' need apply in someone else's opinion.
I think I can safely speak for the men of the forum here. Yes, you qualify.

I think there are many reasons guys use the term, but I'm just talking about the ones I've noticed to be most common. Usually younger guys who learned the word from their buddies and it's like so many other "young male bonding" terms young guys love to use. I personally haven't noticed any real appreciation for a woman's body so much as the very crude idea that "hey, look at that older woman! EVEN at her age I'd hit it." <- keeping in mind she may be still in her 20s.

 

[Nordling]

My question is, if they (the fetishists) love older women with children so much, why do they refer to them with such an ugly word like "MILF?" Seriously, I think many misogynists simply love saying that word because it's another way of disrespecting women.

I don't really feel like it is a disrespectful term although it does have a very crude connotation. I think it's pretty much the same as guys who see any attractive woman and are like, "Would bang." I think most women would prefer to be referred to as a MILF than a "mature woman", but I could be wrong. I would prefer MILF.

Well, yeah, since you put it that way. :lol: But on one hand you have a term (mature) that is insulting by it's very nature (people don't like to be called older), and on the other a term (MILF) that simply sounds icky. It sounds like puking. I do agree, that guys love to say, "I'd hit it," "I'd bang that," and dozens of other ways of showing "appreciation" by being crude at the same time. I mean, gee, if a guy says something nice, like "Gosh, Freddy, that lady over there is absolutely gorgeous--I'd love to date her," he'd lose some macho points.

 

[Bocefish]

IIRC, it was started by some pubescent teens in the 90s as code for the Interwebz before the movie 'American Pie' made it a popular slang term.

 

[Diana Blake]

I think it's an attitude that's attractive. There's this idea that you're more grounded and nurturing if you're a MILF whereas someone without kids is more likely to be out partying and living it up. You have more patience and you have a kind word for almost everyone. At least, that's the type I get in my room since I am a MILF or "Mom I'd Like to Fuck" It's not necessarily true but IMO I feel like some of them are just looking for a woman to take care of them that they also find sexually attractive.

It also seems that the idea is that MILFs are more curvy and soft in all the right places. I already had giant boobs before becoming a mommy but don't tell the MILF fetishists that, it would break their little hearts. :shhh:

 

[LiLredhairedgrl]

I recently said to hell with it and have my REAL age on my Streamate profile, which puts me in the "MILF" category (I am 40 years old as of a few weeks ago! Muaw haha.) and I have actually noticed a significant increase in my traffic. But I have no kids of my own (and don't plan on it, EVER) so I am not technically a "MILF".......I wonder what that makes me? Ha! I mean, my CharlieB has an 18 year old and a 10 year old, so I am a stepmother I suppose. But that is really not the same. I do have to admit that I almost feel a bit out of place in that respect...but then heck, I sure don't feel like a 40 year old lady! At least I don't feel like what I THOUGHT I would feel at 40....

 

[Jupiter551]

I recently said to hell with it and have my REAL age on my Streamate profile, which puts me in the "MILF" category (I am 40 years old as of a few weeks ago! Muaw haha.) and I have actually noticed a significant increase in my traffic. But I have no kids of my own (and don't plan on it, EVER) so I am not technically a "MILF".......I wonder what that makes me? Ha! I mean, my CharlieB has an 18 year old and a 10 year old, so I am a stepmother I suppose. But that is really not the same. I do have to admit that I almost feel a bit out of place in that respect...but then heck, I sure don't feel like a 40 year old lady! At least I don't feel like what I THOUGHT I would feel at 40....

Yeah I never would have picked you at 40, though I'm 39 at the end of this year so... Which brings me to my next point.

When I'm in various rooms - I've noticed particularly in CammiStar's because I think I'm about 1 year older than her, guys start tossing around the word MILF and before long I'm wondering: when the 'MILF' is your own age, is she still a MILF? Obviously her motherhood is not affected one way or another, but as Violet pointed out, the word appears not to be solely defined by motherhood but has also been conflated with the fairly timeless fantasy of an experienced but still attractive "older" woman (note the importance of the relativity of this term - to an 18 year old, 25 MIGHT be "mature") helping to "train" the young man. (Presumably for some women this kind of fantasy is mutual)

So back to Cammi's case - is she a MILF? Well I know she's a mother, but despite meeting a technical requirement, having a kid is hardly likely to be the precursor to sexual attraction. She's gorgeous, so she fits that category, but again given that she's younger than I, it would seem more than a little odd for someone of my age to be calling her a 'MILF' lol. So again, I guess it's relative to the age (and mindset) of the beholder.

So, milves are in the eye of the beholder... (and they need dick too, their husbands are away...click here now!) *ahem* sorry.

So I leave you with some questions:

1. Is the fact of motherhood a necessary precursor to a woman being labelled a 'milf'? And if so, why? Is it just a technicality or are we missing some fundamental dynamic (ie attraction to highschool friend's mom or something)

2. Is it just (most of the time) a synonym for 'mature'? If so then it is indeed a technicality whether or not she's a mother, arising from the term being used in American Pie to describe a schoolmate's mother - if it had been in another situation, another film, perhaps we'd have the term WILF (woman) or TILF (teacher) etc..

 

[Nordling]

:lol: I think we're getting way too technical about a crude term used by immature men. I don't think they feel a need to follow any rules about when or how to use the term. I get the distinct impression that they get a solitary joy just from the act of SAYING it. IMHO it's like "hey, I can call a woman a word like the B word but no one's going to get on my case about it. In fact, some women think I'm being cute!"

 

[mynameisbob84]

...but then heck, I sure don't feel like a 40 year old lady! At least I don't feel like what I THOUGHT I would feel at 40....

Yeah I never would have picked you at 40, though I'm 39 at the end of this year so...

I always just assumed you guys were my age (I'm 28)

I've always taken "MILF" to mean "older woman who happens to be attractive" as opposed to "attractive woman who happens to be a mother". When I was 16, I'd have considered an attractive 30 year old woman to be a MILF. Now I'm a little older and a little less twattish, I'd no longer refer to a 30 year old woman in that way. That said, I've always been attracted to older women (older relative to me).

 

[yossarian]

What about women who do not have children and are past child-bearing age, yet are still hot?

*looks at Helen Mirren*

 

[Jupiter551]

perhaps we'd have the term WILF (woman) or TILF (teacher) etc..

oh and LILF, how the fuck could I forget Librarian I'd Like to Fuck!

You have glasses? YOU'RE A LIBRARIAN!