Meeting or Dating a Member

[FirePlay69]

I know I am not a verified model yet, and I hope it is okay for me to post here. I couldn't find any kind of rules that said that I couldn't.

I've done online dating a lot in the past and am currently on a couple of dating sites.

The reason I started camming is because I need the money and I like it.

I've been told that models should NEVER meet a member in person, and that I should say I have a boyfriend even though I am single. (I'm actually separated pending divorce and that is listed on my profile.)

Here is what is happening. I know that MFC is not a dating site and that is not why I joined. But I find myself getting attached to a few of the guys on there. I see them on cam and I think that they are really hot and then we do a private or a Skype show and it feels like we are in the same room together. And then I want to be in the same room with him. He wants to be in the same room with me too. He wants to meet me. I entertain the idea.

Would it really be such a bad thing if I did meet someone from MFC? Are the guys on MFC any more dangerous than guys on a dating site?

 

[SilentOne]

That is really up to you dear. This day in age it is not unusual to meet someone from some sort of online community. Whether it be dating sites/social media/camming etc... Just be weary that people tend to portray themselves differrently online. So who you think they are may not really be the case. I think after you've known them long enough and have seen them on skype it shouldn't be dangerous to at least meet them. But I wouldn't consider dating them for awhile. You wouldn't want to end up with some psycho

 

[Shaun__]

People are people, no matter where you meet them at. Every person needs to be judged on an individual basis I think.

 

[SaffronBurke]

There are actually a handful of models here on the forum who met their current S/O on MFC. While the usual rules of caution for any kind of online dating apply, if you happen to meet someone who you would like to be involved with and you're both on the same page, there shouldn't be an issue. I'm pretty sure that MFC used to brag somewhere on their wiki about how many couples have met through them, and they actually used to market themselves as a kinda-sorta dating site, which makes it seem odd to me that you were told to say that you're not available.

While it's true that MFC is not a dating site, that doesn't mean that if you happen to meet someone special there, you can't date them. Do what feels right to you, just be safe like you would be meeting anyone from the net.

 

[FirePlay69]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member). We had been talking about stripping, and I told him I was thinking about doing it, and he suggested I do webcamming instead because then I don't have to deal with assholes directly and I can ignore/ban them.

He suggested I never date anyone from MFC, that it is too dangerous and he has heard horror stories. He said that many of the girls insist that they will NEVER meet a guy from the site and that they will even say they have a boyfriend if they don't. I just don't like lying about stuff. And it seems to me that a lot of guys are interested in a girl that is single because of the fantasy of being with her.

Anyway, this guy was acting like a freeloader, kept asking me did I have any money and how much money did I have, and when was I getting paid from the site? He invited me to go to the strip club with him and said I had to pay my own cover charge. I told him I was broke. Then he kept asking me about the money. Said I needed to get a credit card so I could get stuff I need for camming. Made a joke about me being his "sugar mama" once I started making a lot of money on MFC.

Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and he's blocked. He probably didn't want me getting involved with anyone because he wanted access to my money.

 

[Shaun__]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member). We had been talking about stripping, and I told him I was thinking about doing it, and he suggested I do webcamming instead because then I don't have to deal with assholes directly and I can ignore/ban them.

He suggested I never date anyone from MFC, that it is too dangerous and he has heard horror stories. He said that many of the girls insist that they will NEVER meet a guy from the site and that they will even say they have a boyfriend if they don't. I just don't like lying about stuff. And it seems to me that a lot of guys are interested in a girl that is single because of the fantasy of being with her.

Anyway, this guy was acting like a freeloader, kept asking me did I have any money and how much money did I have, and when was I getting paid from the site? He invited me to go to the strip club with him and said I had to pay my own cover charge. I told him I was broke. Then he kept asking me about the money. Said I needed to get a credit card so I could get stuff I need for camming. Made a joke about me being his "sugar mama" once I started making a lot of money on MFC.

Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and he's blocked. He probably didn't want me getting involved with anyone because he wanted access to my money.

He may have had ulterior motives in telling you not to date.

 

[Nordling]

I think the default is to not date members. There is a reason why lots of models say right in their profiles that they do not date or meet anyone from their chat room. If you really feel you want to meet a particular individual, make sure you have a few "safe" meetings before you find yourself alone with them.

I don't think it's any more dangerous than actual dating sites...but I think dating sites can be very dangerous if one does not proceed with caution. A friend met a guy on one of the big name dating sites and they got together...all seemed fine, and she even mentioned how she was so happy that he showed an interest in her 9 year old daughter (ALARM BELLS). I had no way of knowing exactly how his "interest" was manifesting itself since I only talked with her online or by phone. As days passed and a few weeks, she told me more and more about how he and her daughter were getting on so well.

Finally, she called me one day and said that he asked to take her daughter with him on a "business trip," which would happen at night. I told her to absolutely tell him no, but she finally had her own alarm bells setting off and told him to never darken their doorway again.

People you meet offline can be dangerous too....but there is an advantage to sizing people up in person in the first place.

Anyway, hope all turns out well.

 

[WickedTouch]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member). We had been talking about stripping, and I told him I was thinking about doing it, and he suggested I do webcamming instead because then I don't have to deal with assholes directly and I can ignore/ban them.

He suggested I never date anyone from MFC, that it is too dangerous and he has heard horror stories. He said that many of the girls insist that they will NEVER meet a guy from the site and that they will even say they have a boyfriend if they don't. I just don't like lying about stuff. And it seems to me that a lot of guys are interested in a girl that is single because of the fantasy of being with her.

Anyway, this guy was acting like a freeloader, kept asking me did I have any money and how much money did I have, and when was I getting paid from the site? He invited me to go to the strip club with him and said I had to pay my own cover charge. I told him I was broke. Then he kept asking me about the money. Said I needed to get a credit card so I could get stuff I need for camming. Made a joke about me being his "sugar mama" once I started making a lot of money on MFC.

Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and he's blocked. He probably didn't want me getting involved with anyone because he wanted access to my money.

Yeah. He sounds more like a freeloader than a genuine friend.

 

[mynameisbob84]

There's no rules against it and I'm sure plenty of models meet members in real life without incident. Just be careful about who you meet and where you meet them. I also wouldn't announce that meeting IRL is an option until you're certain you trust the person you want to meet enough to actually meet them. If you announce on your profile "I meet members in real life" that's going to attract every shady fucker under the sun who doesn't see the distinction between cam girl and prostitute. And obviously be honest about your intentions to your members. If you tell a member you want to meet him, make clear to him why you want to meet him, lest he mistake your interest in him for something it's not.

 

[Gen]

I think it's a bit more dangerous than a dating site, because you'll be linking your cam identity with your real identity. Trusting someone with both of those is a pretty big step.

Anyways I think it's normal to be attracted to some of the guys you meet; I have crushed on regulars before. Especially if you don't meet a lot of guys in your personal life, suddenly interacting with a bunch of them can be exciting!! But bear in mind that most of them probably live far away, and probably have no interest in a relationship with you. That sounds harsh but most members aren't here to meet girls any more than we are here to meet guys, and the ones who are like "yay let's meet" usually seem like the ones you probably don't want to meet (this is a big generalization, haha). Sometimes both members and camgirls like to blur the line between fantasy and reality ("oh I so wish I was there with you, what would you do if I was there"), but when it comes down to it, lots of members are already spoken for or are not really interested in dating camgirls, or that in reality you live too far away and it's just not plausible unless there is such a massive undeniable spark between you that it's worth trying to overcome the distance.

Overall I think you can meet someone special anywhere, but on MFC I think it's more likely that you meet one specific person that you really like and decide to take the next step with. If you're crushing on multiple dudes, that is cool and all, but I'd be wary in sharing your personal info or meeting up with just anyone - what I mean to say is, be safe and discerning and whatever. Like Bob said, I wouldn't advertise it as am option.

 

[Fay_Galore]

It's very easy to be taken with someone who gives you attention, compliments ánd tokens! especially if they're also funny/goodlooking/interesting, etc. etc. I totally get that! I was having a lot of those warm fuzzy feelings towards guys when I just started out, I thought to myself, how am I going to do this when I fall for all these guys?! But, I guess you get conditioned (does that make sense in english?), you see those guys come and go, they'll eventually disappear either to other models or just their own lives. You'll get used to it :] I'm not saying it can never happen, but I do think, along the line you'll find you won't get swept off your feet thát often

 

[Leon_Omega]

Personally I'd say that if you give it enough time and thought, you should be able to decide for yourself whether or not to take the leap. You mentioned having dated online before and in many ways this is no different. I've personally not dated any camgirls, but I have had a few girlfriends that I met through the internet and as far as I'm concerned, it's a totally valid meeting place.

As the other people have already said, though, don't lose sight of the fact that MFC is not a dating site and as such not everyone will be interested in dating. Be sure to leave no doubt about the fact that you're both thinking along the same lines before you meet up, though. That includes gauging his opinion on whether or not you want to continue camming (a lot of us have weird hang-ups about other guys seeing our girlfriends in intimate situations, not to mention possible insecurity issues from his side when dealing with some of the "compliments" thrown your way by your chat room). As with any relationship, clear communication is key.

Personally I'd gladly hang out with any of the camgirls whose room I frequent - if I'm a regular in a girl's room, that's a clear sign that I'm enjoying spending time with her, regardless of the fact that she may or may not be clothed in front of the cam. Dating is a different story because the whole dynamic of how we met led to a different kind of relationship. Not to say that the other kind cannot ever develop, but so far I've loved all my regular camgirls in a strictly perv-pervee kind of way.

In any case, it's up to you, exercise caution, make sure you both know what you want and expect and if those line up, by all means go for it. Be sure to wait to get verified, though - I have a sneaking suspicion that the models only section on this forum has more than enough succes- and horror stories that may help with your decision.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I do think the guys on camsites are more dangerous.
On dating sites, you might get 20 messages a day. But on MFC, you're talking to a thousand different guys in one day. The more guys you talk to, the higher chance you have of running into someone bad. Not only that, but I personally believe the sexual atmosphere that MFC has can attract some really awful men.
Now, with that being said, I met my bf of 2 years on MFC.
If you have a good intuition and you really like a guy on MFC, I would say go for it!
Just take the necessary safety procedures when meeting. Tell a friend where you'll be going, text her his license plate or something, meet in a public area, have her call the police if you're not home by xyz time.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

If you become serious about dating an MFC member - you will need to re-think expectations.

There are complications with camming - your initial meeting has been based on tips.

The first thing I did was ask him to stop visiting me on MFC and to stop tipping until we figured out what was going on. I had to cut that stuff out completely to make sure this was something 'real' and not something I was .. getting caught up in the MFC universe.

I've been falling more in love with him every day for almost 4 years now since we moved in together.

 

[SilentOne]

I do think the guys on camsites are more dangerous.
On dating sites, you might get 20 messages a day. But on MFC, you're talking to a thousand different guys in one day. The more guys you talk to, the higher chance you have of running into someone bad. Not only that, but I personally believe the sexual atmosphere that MFC has can attract some really awful men.
Now, with that being said, I met my bf of 2 years on MFC.
If you have a good intuition and you really like a guy on MFC, I would say go for it!
Just take the necessary safety procedures when meeting. Tell a friend where you'll be going, text her his license plate or something, meet in a public area, have her call the police if you're not home by xyz time.

This makes me so happy to hear! Only because when your in the adult industry, it only becomes harder to find a real connection. We live in a judgemental world, and even til this day after years and years of this industry people still look down on people who have these type of jobs and see them as a piece of meat and not a person. But its not true, alot of cam girls have bachelors degrees and some even have phds. Just because your in the industry doesn't mean your not smart, and this was your only option. You just love to cam, and whats wrong with that? I had problems for falling for members. I never gave them the idea that I was. But every time they'd make jokes about us being together. They would say I would have to stop camming. And fuck that. Camming was something that made me happy and I love to do. Why in the hell would I give that up? Knowing that there is men out there that are open minded enough to not care what there lady does for work and still treats them like a princess at the end of the day. Is just remarkable

 

[JoleneBrody]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member).

Everything he says is invalid.
:lol:

 

[JoleneBrody]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member). We had been talking about stripping, and I told him I was thinking about doing it, and he suggested I do webcamming instead because then I don't have to deal with assholes directly and I can ignore/ban them.

He suggested I never date anyone from MFC, that it is too dangerous and he has heard horror stories. He said that many of the girls insist that they will NEVER meet a guy from the site and that they will even say they have a boyfriend if they don't. I just don't like lying about stuff. And it seems to me that a lot of guys are interested in a girl that is single because of the fantasy of being with her.

Anyway, this guy was acting like a freeloader, kept asking me did I have any money and how much money did I have, and when was I getting paid from the site? He invited me to go to the strip club with him and said I had to pay my own cover charge. I told him I was broke. Then he kept asking me about the money. Said I needed to get a credit card so I could get stuff I need for camming. Made a joke about me being his "sugar mama" once I started making a lot of money on MFC.

Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and he's blocked. He probably didn't want me getting involved with anyone because he wanted access to my money.

AND HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I FINISHED READING IT AND I WAS RIGHT!

Sorry your friend was a jerk but.
LOLZ! BASIC IRL!

What Shaun said. People are people, camsite members are just people entertaining themselves on the internet like I'm doing right now here on the forum. The biggest dating site warning is mostly geared towards members not coming to MFC expecting something different than a business environment, full of woman earning a living.

Any environment where humans interact, bonds and attractions are bound to happen... they just shouldn't be sought out.

Just be EXTRA careful because you have more to lose than a basic dating site. If this person IS a weirdo (which can happen meeting someone anywhere) and has your personal information they can do a lot more damage to you than the average broken hearted feller. They can post your personal information online and make it available to every creeper weirdo lurking in the shows of your cam room, send your camming info to your family... yadda yadda. If you are going to pursue dating someone from MFC you just need to take the standard safety steps of online dating and ramp them up x100.

 

[NataliaGrey]

The only negative I can see to dating a member (other than the usual internet dating stuff you need to be careful about) is that you can't be 100% your true self right away. At first you're going to need to date him as FirePlay69. Once you trust him, REALLY trust him, you can give details about your life. You'll need to pay with cash, be careful about him seeing your ID, don't let him see your license plate #, etc. On a date with someone you met elsewhere you wouldn't need to do all that, and it just sets up this weird environment of distrust.

On the other hand, this is just a camgirl dating issue, regardless of who you're dating. If you went on a date with someone you met elsewhere, you wouldn't be able to reveal the side of your life that is camming until you trust him more. So no matter what, camgirls are always going to have to hide a big part of their life from whoever they meet until they get to know them better. You never want to be stuck dating someone you don't like just because you fear they will out you if you reject them. Don't give them the power of information until you know they wouldn't take advantage of it.

 

[JimsX]

The person who told me this was a guy "friend" who had introduced me to MFC (a basic member). We had been talking about stripping, and I told him I was thinking about doing it, and he suggested I do webcamming instead because then I don't have to deal with assholes directly and I can ignore/ban them.

He suggested I never date anyone from MFC, that it is too dangerous and he has heard horror stories. He said that many of the girls insist that they will NEVER meet a guy from the site and that they will even say they have a boyfriend if they don't. I just don't like lying about stuff. And it seems to me that a lot of guys are interested in a girl that is single because of the fantasy of being with her.

Anyway, this guy was acting like a freeloader, kept asking me did I have any money and how much money did I have, and when was I getting paid from the site? He invited me to go to the strip club with him and said I had to pay my own cover charge. I told him I was broke. Then he kept asking me about the money. Said I needed to get a credit card so I could get stuff I need for camming. Made a joke about me being his "sugar mama" once I started making a lot of money on MFC.

Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and he's blocked. He probably didn't want me getting involved with anyone because he wanted access to my money.

Sounds to me like he wanted you all for himself and you are much better off without him.

As for dating a guy on MFC, why not? As long as you are careful it should not be a problem. Not every guy on the site is a disgusting perv.

A friend of mine met his wife on MFC and they are very happy, going on 2 years now.

 

[FirePlay69]

Thanks everyone. I enjoyed the variety of perspectives. I never intend to announce on my profile or in my room, "Hey, I want to date MFC members!" lol. Glad to hear that others had the same experience of falling for members when they first started too. I'm really enjoying the kindness and compliments, especially when the guy giving them is super-hot!

I think at least part of the reason I am getting attached so easily is that I don't get out much and meet people in real life.

That will change soon!

 

[JimsX]

Thanks everyone. I enjoyed the variety of perspectives. I never intend to announce on my profile or in my room, "Hey, I want to date MFC members!" lol. Glad to hear that others had the same experience of falling for members when they first started too. I'm really enjoying the kindness and compliments, especially when the guy giving them is super-hot!

I think at least part of the reason I am getting attached so easily is that I don't get out much and meet people in real life.

That will change soon!

I would suggest, if you do decide to date him, keeping it quiet on MFC. You don't need to deal with jealous members.

 

[FirePlay69]

There were three guys I was interested in since I started and already they have all lost interest. LOL. I guess feelings come and go quickly on MFC.

 

[Fay_Galore]

I never intend to announce on my profile or in my room, "Hey, I want to date MFC members!" lol.

That will change soon!

Don't mean to be a bitch, but in a semi-jokey way you kind of sort of do on your profile.

 

[ComicOzzie]

There were three guys I was interested in since I started and already they have all lost interest. LOL. I guess feelings come and go quickly on MFC.

A guy will come into your room, tell you he loves you 5 seconds later, and then call you a bitch if you don't immediately respond. Welcome to MFC.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

There were three guys I was interested in since I started and already they have all lost interest. LOL. I guess feelings come and go quickly on MFC.

...3 guys in that short of time is a lot.
I really don't think it's a good idea to actively look on MFC for love. If it happens, it happens. But you should be treating it as a job, first.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

There were three guys I was interested in since I started and already they have all lost interest. LOL. I guess feelings come and go quickly on MFC.

...3 guys in that short of time is a lot.
I really don't think it's a good idea to actively look on MFC for love. If it happens, it happens. But you should be treating it as a job, first.

That and .. yes feelings come and go quickly on mfc. MFC members for the most part (at least the smart ones you actually want to date) are not there looking for a gf. they're there looking to be entertained/socialize/blow off steam. You are eye candy, and a fun night entertainment. or a few nights. You live in the internet. You are not entirely real.

Remember they are not looking for a long term thing.

MFC is just not made for that. If it happens..awesome. But don't get your hopes up - try conventional methods and treat MFC as a job. (It's not unheard of for people to fall in all industries to fall for clients, however its not what they go to work thinking they will do)

 

[FirePlay69]

I never intend to announce on my profile or in my room, "Hey, I want to date MFC members!" lol.

That will change soon!

Don't mean to be a bitch, but in a semi-jokey way you kind of sort of do on your profile.

What is it that I say on my profile that makes you think that?

 

[JoleneBrody]

I never intend to announce on my profile or in my room, "Hey, I want to date MFC members!" lol.

That will change soon!

Don't mean to be a bitch, but in a semi-jokey way you kind of sort of do on your profile.

What is it that I say on my profile that makes you think that?

"I am an ESFP, and a Sagittarius, just like Penny on Big Bang Theory! I am looking for my Leonard... "

 

[Leon_Omega]

While it may not specifically say that you're looking for him on MFC, it can certainly be misconstrued like that.

Also, Penny/Leonard may not be the best fictional couple to compare yourself to, it may have changed since I stopped watching the show, but Leonard always struck me as the kind of guy who would sell someone out in a heartbeat if it meant he could get (closer to) Penny. :twocents-02cents:

 

[eyeteach]

On the show Penny and Leonard are engaged, so best of luck to you fire.