Is it really true that only 30% of women can have real orgasms during sex?

[Guy]

Is it really true that only 30% of women can have real orgasms during sex?

 

[Tilly]

There are plenty of women in this world who won't ever even know what an orgasm feels like. It's pretty tricky for lots of us girls to achieve. Vaginal intercourse definitely doesn't make most women reach climax.

 

[Guy]

There are plenty of women in this world who won't ever even know what an orgasm feels like. It's pretty tricky for lots of us girls to achieve. Vaginal intercourse definitely doesn't make most women reach climax.

Why is that?

 

[StacySins]

Why is that?

Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm

 

[Miss AnniKa]

I didn't have my first internal orgasm until I was in my thirties. I thought I was broken. Turns out I wasn't

 

[Messalina]

It depends on the partner, I think. It's not his personality, it's even not how good in bed he is. It's about something like size/shape of his penis, or how he moves, or something else... You just have to match. But the fact that reaching an orgasm is pretty hard for some women, is true. Luckily, I'm not one of them

 

[Messalina]

Why is this smile green?

 

[Picnic]

In society, women are not encouraged to experience pleasure in the same way as men. Men and women are conditioned to view sex and pleasure in completely different ways.

To give you an example: I didn't understand where the clit was until high school sex ed. Before then, I thought all the ~good feeling parts~ surely must be inside

If I didn't put that together until my teens, imagine how many dudes didn't get how important clitoral stimulation can be?!

While plenty of men figured out how to jack themselves off from a young age, many women were in a similar position as I was and didn't figure out what felt good until much later.

Could that make having an orgasm a bit more difficult? You bet.

Also, consider what we see in porn. It effects how we think sex is supposed to go. We've all seen someone getting jack hammered by a dick before in porn, right? Doesn't necessarily feel great, but because we've seen it so often, we assume that's how it's supposed to go. Then there's the assumption/expectation that all sex should include orgasms and was terrible if it didn't. That's not always the case.

Another important factor to consider here: when you say sex, are you only referring to heterosexual penetration?

Cause I'm sure if we explored the statistics in lesbian relationships...the numbers in that statistic may different

 

[Picnic]

Why is this smile green?

Is there a reason it shouldn't be green?

 

[Carmita Bonita]

It definitely doesn't surprise me. I've had awful experiences of men who didn't understand female anatomy & assumed jack hammering would unlock orgasmic bliss. Hell, I even had one guy literally shoo my hand away from rubbing my clit as he was fucking me (lame) Or a guy who was literally disappointed that I couldn't cum just from his cock.

 

[Guy]

What is jackhammering?

 

[Guy]

There are plenty of women in this world who won't ever even know what an orgasm feels like. It's pretty tricky for lots of us girls to achieve. Vaginal intercourse definitely doesn't make most women reach climax.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-madsen/better-orgasms_b_7542670.html

 

[StacySins]

What is jackhammering?

when a guy aimlessly fucks a girl hard and fast, like a jackhammer in the ground

 

[MsLexi77]

This is only true if the guy doesn't know how to do it or if the girl is so uptight about herself. The guy needs to learn how to make her. Every girl is different and no one has the same buttons so to speak. Learn her buttons and you both will have the best time of your lives.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

The others have touched on this, but I'd like to put it in a bit more perspective. This quote was taken from HERE were there are facts about the clitoris.

The clitoris contains at least 8,000 sensory nerve endings. To put that into perspective, the penis has about 4,000. That makes this tiny area the most sensitive part of a woman’s erogenous zone. And while the clitoris is quite small, its powerful sensations can spread across a woman's pelvic area by affecting 15,000 other nerve endings.

It being so sensitive, means that if things are being done correctly done...then great! However, since many don't know wtf they're doing in regards to sexual pleasure for women (both men and women), this can basically lead to just blah sex that doesn't achieve anything good for the woman, or worse may even be extremely uncomfortable.

Also, I believe it isn't 30% can't achieve orgasm, but can't orgasm through penetration alone...maybe I'm wrong on that. I definitely have known ladies that said they'd never experienced one though.

 

[BasicBasic]

Any idea what the percentage would be for men?

 

[Nordling]

Yeah, the 30% probably doesn't mean that many CAN'T, but simply have problems reaching climax.

From Woman's Day:

"3. Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm.
If you've ever had trouble climaxing, you're not alone. According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse can help, says Stern, but so can medical treatment. "Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical investigation lately," she says. "For some women, topical testosterone therapies or some oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid evidence behind them." Because FSD may be associated with certain medical conditions, be sure to see your doctor to rule out things like thyroid disease, depression or diabetes."

 

[TacoBelle]

Guy, I'm gonna give you some homework. Here are some links that will help preemptively answer some of your questions.

First of all, learn what a woman's anatomy consists of.

Secondly, find out where the clit is actually located
and how to touch the clit.
The guy in the videos seems like a chauvinistic bastard when he says, "If you do become a good lover, women will never leave you. It gives you an amazing amount of power in a relationship because they'll never leave you." FUCK THAT. If you are unrespectful, emotionally or physically hurtful or unresponsive, or take her for granted, any smart woman will leave you regardless of how good in bed you are. However, the video shows a pretty good idea of what to do if you are with a woman..

Thirdly, moving on to fingering. Most guys I've dated think that fingering jackhammer-style (There's that word again. Aren't you glad you understand it, now?!) is the key to pleasing a woman. Nope. Most women need their g-spot stimulated. The g-spot is located on the front wall of her vagina (like behind her pubic mound) about um, 2-3 inches inside. It kinda feels spongey and ridged. Feel the roof of your mouth. Do you feel those ridges? That's kinda what the g-spot feels like except softer.
Try these techniques when you find your lucky girl. Personally, my favorite is the #2. Just make sure to do it slowly or you'll hurt her.


And last but not least, ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES/DOESN'T LIKE. Every woman is different. One girl may require one specific move to orgasm or enjoy sex (because YES, sex without orgasm is typically still enjoyable) while another hates that move and it will be torture for her.

 

[JickyJuly]

I would replace "can't" with 'haven't" and say sure. Female bodies can do all sorts of amazing things, but not all women figure out how to get themselves there. Then, they don't know how to find partners who care to get them there, or they don't know how to tell partners how to get them there.

 

[mynameisbob84]

100% of the women I fuck have real orgasms... 30% of the time. (though not necessarily while I'm present)

 

[Guy]

I didn't have my first internal orgasm until I was in my thirties. I thought I was broken. Turns out I wasn't

You look like your in your late 20's!

 

[Snowie1969]

Yes, there is a taboo on a woman having pleasure during sex. It's being broken as we speak but in some parts of the world, you are not a good woman if you are not circumsized (they basically remove their clitoris ).

Being a woman in some parts of the world is all about having children and nothing else. This surely should be factored in the results too. Some women have yet to experience an orgasm for some reason, for instance. And since this part of the world where sex of for the woman means procreation is quite big, I can see how they got to that 30%

But as far as I am concerned it should be as close to 100 as possible. Sex is one of the best things 2 people can experience together.... just do not learn it from watching porn.

 

[VeronicaChaos]

In society, women are not encouraged to experience pleasure in the same way as men. Men and women are conditioned to view sex and pleasure in completely different ways.

To give you an example: I didn't understand where the clit was until high school sex ed. Before then, I thought all the ~good feeling parts~ surely must be inside

If I didn't put that together until my teens, imagine how many dudes didn't get how important clitoral stimulation can be?!

While plenty of men figured out how to jack themselves off from a young age, many women were in a similar position as I was and didn't figure out what felt good until much later.

Could that make having an orgasm a bit more difficult? You bet.

Also, consider what we see in porn. It effects how we think sex is supposed to go. We've all seen someone getting jack hammered by a dick before in porn, right? Doesn't necessarily feel great, but because we've seen it so often, we assume that's how it's supposed to go. Then there's the assumption/expectation that all sex should include orgasms and was terrible if it didn't. That's not always the case.

Another important factor to consider here: when you say sex, are you only referring to heterosexual penetration?

Cause I'm sure if we explored the statistics in lesbian relationships...the numbers in that statistic may different

This is interesting.

I was always under the impression that women start masturbating much younger than men, due to the fact we don't have to wait for puberty to actually engage in it, and just talking to so many women that started years beforehand, such as myself.

However, even knowing exactly what my body needs since forever, I've still struggled a lot with bringing that to real life sex encounters with men. Men have notoriously fragile egos when it comes to sex, and even the ones that are pretty good at it aren't necessarily that great at receiving instruction. I can't count the number of times I've told a man exactly what I want and need and they'll do it for a few seconds/minutes before abandoning it and going back to what they were doing before. After you tell them several times and they keep reverting, it's easy to just give up and get yourself off later. Add to that the fact that women are taught that a male's orgasm is more important (and biologically speaking, it is) and you have lots of women who just accept mediocre sex. We really need to stress the importance of sexual communication, from both ends (har har har!). Everyone is different, so what feels good to one lady will do nothing for another. Women need to stop protecting the male ego, and men need to get the fuck over themselves and actually LEARN how to be a sex god, not just blindly assume that they are one.

 

[Guy]

This is interesting.

I was always under the impression that women start masturbating much younger than men, due to the fact we don't have to wait for puberty to actually engage in it, and just talking to so many women that started years beforehand, such as myself.

However, even knowing exactly what my body needs since forever, I've still struggled a lot with bringing that to real life sex encounters with men. Men have notoriously fragile egos when it comes to sex, and even the ones that are pretty good at it aren't necessarily that great at receiving instruction. I can't count the number of times I've told a man exactly what I want and need and they'll do it for a few seconds/minutes before abandoning it and going back to what they were doing before. After you tell them several times and they keep reverting, it's easy to just give up and get yourself off later. Add to that the fact that women are taught that a male's orgasm is more important (and biologically speaking, it is) and you have lots of women who just accept mediocre sex. We really need to stress the importance of sexual communication, from both ends (har har har!). Everyone is different, so what feels good to one lady will do nothing for another. Women need to stop protecting the male ego, and men need to get the fuck over themselves and actually LEARN how to be a sex god, not just blindly assume that they are one.

What about in casual sex?

 

[VeronicaChaos]

What about in casual sex?

I stopped having casual sex because it wasn't worth not having the time to communicate my sexual needs in an ongoing sexual relationship. For me, sex with a man usually isn't great until we've had sex several times and learn what the other likes.

 

[Picnic]

This is interesting.

I was always under the impression that women start masturbating much younger than men, due to the fact we don't have to wait for puberty to actually engage in it, and just talking to so many women that started years beforehand, such as myself.

I've heard this too actually. And I know a few women who experienced this. But then there's also lots of women who never (or claim to never?) masturbate. Or people like me, who were maybe interested but just not educated or encouraged enough to explore it more at certain ages.

Just goes to show everyone is really different! While statistics (like the one this thread is based on) might hold some amount of truth, everyone's experiences will vary.

 

[ACFFAN69]

What is jackhammering?

Also known as jack rabbit sex!

This is interesting.

I was always under the impression that women start masturbating much younger than men, due to the fact we don't have to wait for puberty to actually engage in it, and just talking to so many women that started years beforehand, such as myself.

However, even knowing exactly what my body needs since forever, I've still struggled a lot with bringing that to real life sex encounters with men. Men have notoriously fragile egos when it comes to sex, and even the ones that are pretty good at it aren't necessarily that great at receiving instruction. I can't count the number of times I've told a man exactly what I want and need and they'll do it for a few seconds/minutes before abandoning it and going back to what they were doing before. After you tell them several times and they keep reverting, it's easy to just give up and get yourself off later. Add to that the fact that women are taught that a male's orgasm is more important (and biologically speaking, it is) and you have lots of women who just accept mediocre sex. We really need to stress the importance of sexual communication, from both ends (har har har!). Everyone is different, so what feels good to one lady will do nothing for another. Women need to stop protecting the male ego, and men need to get the fuck over themselves and actually LEARN how to be a sex god, not just blindly assume that they are one.

Men start masturbating as babies, they just don't produce sperm until puberty. It still felt good pre-puberty and we did orgasm. I'm sure any parent of a little boy knows how hard it is to teach them to keep their hands out of their pants, I specifically remember sneaking 'em back in whenever no one was watching all the time, but I was a young rebel.

The difference is when puberty occurs a boy will be surprised by white stuff suddenly coming out, the natural reaction after is being worried they broke something.

 

[JoleneBrody]

This is interesting.

I was always under the impression that women start masturbating much younger than men, due to the fact we don't have to wait for puberty to actually engage in it, and just talking to so many women that started years beforehand, such as myself.

However, even knowing exactly what my body needs since forever, I've still struggled a lot with bringing that to real life sex encounters with men. Men have notoriously fragile egos when it comes to sex, and even the ones that are pretty good at it aren't necessarily that great at receiving instruction. I can't count the number of times I've told a man exactly what I want and need and they'll do it for a few seconds/minutes before abandoning it and going back to what they were doing before. After you tell them several times and they keep reverting, it's easy to just give up and get yourself off later. Add to that the fact that women are taught that a male's orgasm is more important (and biologically speaking, it is) and you have lots of women who just accept mediocre sex. We really need to stress the importance of sexual communication, from both ends (har har har!). Everyone is different, so what feels good to one lady will do nothing for another. Women need to stop protecting the male ego, and men need to get the fuck over themselves and actually LEARN how to be a sex god, not just blindly assume that they are one.

Here fucking here! I was about to write the exact same thing.

The orgasm statistics have a lot more to do with society than anatomy IMO. People need to leave their egos outside the bedroom door, unfortunately this doesn't happen often. Many men just can't handle instruction and many women are afraid to give it. It is rare for a women to be able to cum from penetration alone, but even rarer to find a man who can handle the truth that a vibrator has nothing to do with him. Clitoral stimulation DURING penetration is one of the most magical things ever but somehow people have gotten it in their heads that a clit vibe is in direct competition with a penis instead of an enhancement to the experience.
Fact is, a clitoral orgasm while being penetrated is probably the most likely way to get a g-spot orgasm. keep up the pace after she turns off the vibe and the chance of her cumming again just from you is very high! About as high as your ego will feel when her eyes roll back, so suck up your lips buttercups, it'll be worth it!

 

[Messalina]

Is there a reason it shouldn't be green?

Well, green face means sick. Laughing face would rather go red, I guess. These are just my associations, though

 

[Swizzles]

Lots of mental foreplay, stimulate clitoris, massage G spot, give girl 2 minutes of business time (cos 2 minutes in heaven is better than 1 minute in heaven) ... Bish bash bosh job done