How to get a message to a model

[boycat]

This is NOT about meeting up, or finding someone in IRL. A model on Jerkmate, who is in China, suddenly disappeared from the platform. She was my favorite, and we would always laugh and even sing together. I would tell her it make my day better to see her, and she said the same. I will never meet her in IRL but I feel her heart in mine. She would tell me tings in private sessions that helped me through hard times and she would also show me her sexy side and was amazing. Sometimes she would share problems with me and I would listen and feel honored that she would tell me about what she was going through, and to tell her what an wonderful person she is. This was during private sessions and I felt it was proper that I pay her for her time.

Now she is gone, with no goodbye. I am sure she had a reason for needing to do this.

My fantasy is to tell her how special she is to me, and that I do not expect a reply but I think she is a wonderful person who deserves to be treated well and deserves success.

Any advice?

 

[mike_aussie]

Don't do it.

 

[Mila_]

Leave her alone, if she wanted to hear from you she would have left you some way to contact her.

 

[squirtalot]

Isn't Porn illegal in China?

 

[LittleLei]

My fantasy is to tell her how special she is to me, and that I do not expect a reply but I think she is a wonderful person who deserves to be treated well and deserves success.

Might be bad wording using the word fantasy here.

If you want to send a last message, keep it short, like really short, wish her well then move on.

 

[Life_Happens]

I might be guessing here, but sometimes models might just want to make a clean break and start over doing something else. A clean slate.
This has happened to a lot of models/members.
I am sure she will miss you too. But sometimes in life, you have to cut ties and just take solace in the fact that you got to know each other at least for a while!!
You should try to move on and don’t obsess about contacting her. That’s just creepy in her eyes.
Hope this helps.

 

[CheeseMoon]

I've had several cam models go *poof* on me, and one in particular will be a blip on my mental radar forever. But gone is gone, and this Chinese model likely had good reasons to disappear.
Write her a long ass goodbye letter on paper, roll it up, stick it in a bottle and throw the bottle in the nearest river. Don't involve her in your own need for closure.

 

[squirtalot]

I've had several cam models go *poof* on me, and one in particular will be a blip on my mental radar forever. But gone is gone, and this Chinese model likely had good reasons to disappear.
Write her a long ass goodbye letter on paper, roll it up, stick it in a bottle and throw the bottle in the nearest river. Don't involve her in your own need for closure.

Its also likely she deliberately blocked him for whatever reason

 

[tokensarentforkids]

Take it as a reminder that every meeting with the other people in your life could be the last.

 

[CheeseMoon]

Isn't Porn illegal in China?

Technically yes, but not all Chinese live in China.

 

[MarieElise]

She would tell me tings in private sessions that helped me through hard times and she would also show me her sexy side and was amazing. Sometimes she would share problems with me and I would listen and feel honored that she would tell me about what she was going through, and to tell her what an wonderful person she is. This was during private sessions and I felt it was proper that I pay her for her time.

Doesn't anyone masturbate in privates anymore, or am I just old fashioned ?! (just kidding around... well kind of). Ahh the perils of getting to know people

OP I am sorry you are experiencing this loss, but everyone above has made good points.
It's more about you. Hopefully, you can take some time for yourself and be patient w yourself, as you process this loss... and then move forward.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

Her privacy >>>> your fantasy.

Cherish your memories and leave her alone

 

[mike_aussie]

Doesn't anyone masturbate in privates anymore, or am I just old fashioned ?! (just kidding around... well kind of). Ahh the perils of getting to know people

OP I am sorry you are experiencing this loss, but everyone above has made good points.
It's more about you. Hopefully, you can take some time for yourself and be patient w yourself, as you process this loss... and then move forward.

I always chuckle when models ask me during a private "did you finish?" Sometimes I'm super horny, sometimes I just want a nice show and a bit of a chat lol.

 

[MarieElise]

I always chuckle when models ask me during a private "did you finish?" Sometimes I'm super horny, sometimes I just want a nice show and a bit of a chat lol.

Yeah, I know. I got a bunch of shows the other night, and I didn't want any nudity, just chatting too.
Talk about a way to burn through like $50 in less than 5 mins, but it was totally worth it No regrets.

I guess it seems like out here in these public threads, some of these guys who are struggling with over-attachment might want to consider using the sites for masturbatory purposes only. But, on the other hand, with covid, we are all locked in our houses and need social outlets too, I guess. Every time I read these threads and they start describing how they started talking about each other's lives, I always think "yep, that's where this all went wrong.. shoulda just stuck to jerking it." But I get it, we're all just humans, not robots

 

[CheeseMoon]

"yep, that's where this all went wrong.. shoulda just stuck to jerking it."

From now on I will only respond with moaning when models ask me something.

 

[MarieElise]

From now on I will only respond with moaning when models ask me something.

Oh Dear God... me and my big mouth .
What have I started now...

 

[squirtalot]

Technically yes, but not all Chinese live in China.

No kidding. However, OP says she is in China and nothing about her being Chinese

A model on Jerkmate, who is in China, suddenly disappeared from the platform.

 

[DoD404]

No kidding. However, OP says she is in China and nothing about her being Chinese

It would not make any difference imo. They block any porn content they can find in your luggage at the border whatever your nationality is... Maybe custom officers find there their own source of porn In last decade they blocked and filtered a lot of porn sites, being engaged in a strong war against childporn and prostitution.

Though, Honk-Hong ie is China but still obeys to different laws, just a bit more permissive toward foreigners. Taïwan also can be more permissive as people there still consider not being Chinese, they are more open-minded to apply the law.

So, we can guess that she could broadcast using a VPN and may have been blocked or by the site or by gvt or both. But yes, she may have a big problem, or not, and you have no way to be informed about it unless she contacts you.

 

[silentm0de]

Doesn't anyone masturbate in privates anymore, or am I just old fashioned ?! (just kidding around... well kind of). Ahh the perils of getting to know people

I do! The old ways will prevail! What else would I do in private with a nice model? I am not lonely, I am horny!

 

[Deleted member 37064]

@boycat Out of curiosity, is this the same "favourite model" as you posted about in this thread? Or is this a new "favourite" model?

shoulda just stuck to jerking it.

Certainly would avoid a situation wouldn't it...

 

[MarieElise]

Certainly would avoid a situation wouldn't it...

Awh that was so cute Force, but also sad I like Steve Martin movies. I don't think I have seen that one though. From that clip it brings War of the Roses to mind (another movie I like).

I do! The old ways will prevail! What else would I do in private with a nice model? I am not lonely, I am horny!

Thank God, I was starting to feel like a real old fashioned pervert!