How open are you about camming?

[mynameisbob84]

A conversation in another thread made me curious as to how open we are as a collective (both models and members) about camming. Obviously, it's none of my business and really, I'm just being nosy... but I'm intrigued, yeah?

I would imagine a lot (maybe even the majority) of models haven't told their family about what they do - not because they have anything to be ashamed of, but rather that parents tend to be protective and probably have a distorted view of camming (if they even know what it is).

I would also hazard a guess that members aren't completely forthcoming about their camming habits with their friends - again, not because they have anything to be ashamed of, but rather because there's a stigma attached to frequenting cam sites and paying for sexual services.

I put up a poll so that people can answer anonymously but obviously if you feel like posting a more in-depth answer, feel free to do so.

 

[RoxieRed]

All my close real life friends know what I do. I get to choose who I am close friends with, and I choose to be friends with those who are open-minded and non-judgmental. However, you don't get to choose family. I love my family, but also know their thoughts and beliefs on things of this nature. I am not open with my family about camming. If I could be, I would be... but I think if given the choice between knowing and not, they'd rather not. I like my family enough to want to keep them in ignorance about it... not only so I can keep seeing them, but because I think they want to keep seeing me the way they currently do.

 

[southsamurai]

from the member side im sort of a bad sample since i dont communicate with many people off of the computer, and then its either family or my doctor, but such as it is....

if it comes up in conversation outside the house here i dont hide it, and admit it freely, and the ppl i live with know for sure ( my dad visits the site himself occasionally). but if i had more non computer friends, worked a job and such i suppose i wouldnt have many people knowing anyway. its not a matter of hiding cam watching as such. its more that i tend not to tell anyone that i work with anything about me that isnt absolutely needed. friends its different. im open and honest with people i care enough about to call a friend ( unless its something dangerous, or a confidence given me)

 

[Evvie]

My option wasn't really available (all my friends and some of my family, but none of my co-workers).

RoxieRed stated my sentiments perfectly. I can choose whom I am friends with; I only surround myself with people with similar beliefs and ideals to myself. One of my sisters is aware I cam, but she's not really one to judge. My family simply has very different beliefs than I, and while I do honestly believe they are some of the most open-minded and respectful Christians I have ever come across, it would be very upsetting to them to find out their baby does sex for money. I would 100% come out to my family if I did not believe it would be a big issue.

As far as my co-workers - I work with about 10 kids my age raised in a redneck conservative hick town. A few of them (my bosses who are all a decade or two older than I) probably wouldn't give a rat's ass; the rest of them would probably feel extremely uncomfortable or aggressive towards me. I really have no desire to turn an average-to-crappy workplace environment in to shitty-to-hostile.

 

[bob]

interesting poll :thumbleft:
there's been lots of talk around this subject, mostly from the model's side
it's made me curious just how open members are about their visits to camland....the way my head works, i'd be surprised if younger members kept if from anybody but maybe their parents. I, on the other hand, keep that part of reality to myself. My kids know: the girl is cool with it, even mildly curious, the boy laughed and said "you pay for porn?!!!...it's all over the place for free!!" and then he went on to gloat about his collection of downloads from the tubes.....which translates into "yeah, i've seen 'em (camland sites)....i've never visited one because it looks way too real....i don't need to pay for companionship, anyway: i'm married"

logic is not his strong suit, unless it's about repairing a machine :whistle:

 

[helloimc]

I only have a handful of friends, and most of them know. I haven't told any of my male friends. My mother was the first to know. My easy way of telling them is "It's just like my burlesque performances, just online and a little more interactive with the audience. The third wall is down the entire time, so it's a little more personal." I also tell anyone I decide to be involved with. I feel like it's the right thing to do but personally, it's scarier than telling anyone else I've stated because of the fear of what they'll do with that information if/when our relationship ends.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I am very open about camming.
I believe that "family" has nothing to do with who you share DNA with, but rather who loves you unconditionally.
Camming is a huge part of my life, if you can't accept that, you can't accept me as a person.
I don't want friends and/or family that won't accept the real me and all of me.
I have no problem cutting anyone out of my life that has a problem with my job.
Life is just too short to deal with people ho don't have unconditional love for me.

 

[bob]

I am very open about camming.
I believe that "family" has nothing to do with who you share DNA with, but rather who loves you unconditionally.
Camming is a huge part of my life, if you can't accept that, you can't accept me as a person.
I don't want friends and/or family that won't accept the real me and all of me.
I have no problem cutting anyone out of my life that has a problem with my job.
Life is just too short to deal with people ho don't have unconditional love for me.

nice :thumbleft:

 

[AllisonWilder]

5 friends (including my sons dad and 2 ex-boyfriends) know the full extent of what I do. 2 family members think that I make foot fetish/mouth fetish clips. To the rest of the world, I'm just a freelance graphic artist for adult websites.

I tested the waters with my dad once saying that I make graphics for adult websites and he freaked out about it saying that he expected more from me, that I'm dirty and my money is dirty, etc. After that reaction, I backed off from telling him more (he's the only parent so there's not really anyone else to tell). Even now, months after telling him that I make graphics, he still doesn't accept it and will lie to anyone that asks what I do by saying that I'm a stay-at-home mom.

I was still living with family up until recently and was worried about the fallout of telling anyone more about my life so I just left it alone. Now that I'm on my own, I'm thinking more seriously about coming clean to more people and hoping for the best.

 

[ElaySmith]

I am very open about camming.
I believe that "family" has nothing to do with who you share DNA with, but rather who loves you unconditionally.
Camming is a huge part of my life, if you can't accept that, you can't accept me as a person.
I don't want friends and/or family that won't accept the real me and all of me.
I have no problem cutting anyone out of my life that has a problem with my job.
Life is just too short to deal with people ho don't have unconditional love for me.

This pretty much describes my situation.
I don't tell everyone I meet on the street what I do for a living but anybody that I consider friends/family that spend any amount of time with me know what I do. Most of whom I consider my family are not even blood related to me and I am okay with that. My moms family chose to not accept my job and there choice of how to deal with it is to not deal with me. Essentially if they don't see or talk to me, the problem does not exist. Because of that I made my own family and I could not be any happier. I surround myself with people that love and support me and that are happy that I am happy.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I am very open about camming.
I believe that "family" has nothing to do with who you share DNA with, but rather who loves you unconditionally.
Camming is a huge part of my life, if you can't accept that, you can't accept me as a person.
I don't want friends and/or family that won't accept the real me and all of me.
I have no problem cutting anyone out of my life that has a problem with my job.
Life is just too short to deal with people ho don't have unconditional love for me.

This pretty much describes my situation.
I don't tell everyone I meet on the street what I do for a living but anybody that I consider friends/family that spend any amount of time with me know what I do. Most of whom I consider my family are not even blood related to me and I am okay with that. My moms family chose to not accept my job and there choice of how to deal with it is to not deal with me. Essentially if they don't see or talk to me, the problem does not exist. Because of that I made my own family and I could not be any happier. I surround myself with people that love and support me and that are happy that I am happy.

Yea I'll tell random women, but not random men. Just because I don't want to be stalked or anything.
I also don't tell my bf's clients/co-workers. I say I'm a PB model, but not a webcam model. They are all super conservative and religious. It's not worth being homeless over.

 

[RedHerby]

One friend knows, he lives not close, we have dinner together a few times a year to catch up when one of us is in the area, we can have fun discussions, I'm into Eastern-Europe models, he likes Columbian & Philippine models, he knows all, including real life meetings.

A few other friends and (male) colleagues did hint about it based on my facebook friends, those are normal FB accounts, not special cam/work accounts, I don't give a clear answer to that, just a stupid smile.

 

[Rose]

Most of my family know, with the exception of a few that only know a censored version. My underage sister really doesn't need to know that I make smut for a living, so she knows an age appropriate censored version. It would make my brother really uncomfortable knowing even though he's an adult and married, so he knows a censored version and was told to "come up with his own conclusion". I have some family members who would either be too weirded out by knowing or would be extremely uncomfortable, so for their sanity and peace of mind we've told them a censored version. Because really, my grandpa and male relatives don't need to know that I diddle myself for a living. :?

All of BJ's and my friends know, most of my colleagues from school know, all of BJ's work colleagues know and it's not a big deal for us to tell random strangers depending on our interactions with them.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I started off not telling ANYONE. Only my boyfriend and I knew what I did. My ex-roommate slowly but surely figured it out when he lived with me. He was a douche and told a bunch of people. I really only wanted it kept secret due to my family, but they decided to cut off all ties with me for weird-ass reasons that don't make sense (pretty sure they found out). I don't care. I never got along with my family anyway. Since then, all my friends know. It was actually funny to me. Not only were my friends cool about it, but one girl (who apparently used to cam) said "I knew it! I thought so ever since I first thought I smelled baby oil on you! I thought to myself she doesn't have kids...omg is she a camgirl?" :whistle:

 

[Anonymous]

I would imagine a lot (maybe even the majority) of models haven't told their family about what they do - not because they have anything to be ashamed of, but rather that parents tend to be protective and probably have a distorted view of camming (if they even know what it is).

I have a granddad who gets mad if I speak about Halloween (he complained that I'm celebrating "the devil's holiday"), and I have family members who have an annoying habit of putting Bible scriptures in their Facebook statuses. And my granddad was complaining about Obama supporting gay marriage, and I was thinking OMG, not everybody has to believe in everything you believe in!

Yeah, I love my family, but I won't be having a discussion about camming with them anytime soon...lol.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I would imagine a lot (maybe even the majority) of models haven't told their family about what they do - not because they have anything to be ashamed of, but rather that parents tend to be protective and probably have a distorted view of camming (if they even know what it is).

I have a granddad who gets mad if I speak about Halloween (he complained that I'm celebrating "the devil's holiday"), and I have family members who have an annoying habit of putting Bible scriptures in their Facebook statuses. And my granddad was complaining about Obama supporting gay marriage, and I was thinking OMG, not everybody has to believe in everything you believe in!

Yeah, I love my family, but I won't be having a discussion about camming with them anytime soon...lol.

Why Fox I had no idea you were part of my family tree...maybe there is one that I can stand

 

[Shaun__]

I am a private person, so I have not told my friends that I visit cam sites. I think they would just say I should get a prostitute with my money instead, but my cam visits are about much more than sex.

 

[LadyLuna]

When I first started, I told the couple my partner and I were living with, the female of whom I considered a friend. To my horror, she told EVERYONE SHE KNOWS. Her whole family, all her friends, all her husband's friends... it was horrible. I told them because they liked to have kids visit, and I asked them to give me a warning when the kids would be there so I wouldn't be camming while they were over. Aside from telling everyone what I do, they also never warned me, or even informed me when the kid was there. I'd find out that they had company when the kid would start crying or screaming, and everyone on camera would hear it... x.x

My partner's family found out shortly after because he would watch me while he was visiting them...

In 2011, I started my coming clean campaign. I told my biological brother, biological sister, and my friends (all two of them x.x). December 2011, I told my adoptive parents, and they asked me to wait to tell my brother, since he had just gotten married (give them their honeymoon, I was asked, and I said I'd planned on waiting a few months. Mom doesn't want me to ever tell. I think the oldest knows though...)

I told Mom that I trust she knows who can keep it from becoming common knowledge, so she can tell anyone she feels won't spread it around who can help her deal with it, because I know she has a giant support system, and she'll need at least a few of them to help her process it completely.

Biological Father doesn't know, Biological Mother is dead, Adoptive Brothers (all three) don't know as far as I know, but Mom might have said something to them by now. A few friends from college that I talk to occasionally don't know, cause I'm not sure how they'd react and we've never been very close.

 

[MadisonGraceLloyd]

Only my bf knows, I class him as my family as we have our own one now but in the case of my parents I don't get along with them so well & I'm another one who will have them quoting bible verses or trying to pray for me to stop or something so telling them is something I will never do. My bfs family would probably be more easy going about it but we're not telling them just in case! I don't really have any friends I want to tell, as far as everyone knows I'm a stay at home mum so I'm happy everybody just thinking that.

 

[Kim36g]

I tried to encourage my Mom to do it for fun and extra money as a GILF. Is my family weird?

Then, one day I Accidently emailed my Mom pics of me with a pink dildo in my ass. Instead of being horrified she suggested "Why don't you try cucumbers dear? I think the guys would like that!"

 

[Rose]

I tried to encourage my Mom to do it for fun and extra money as a GILF. Is my family weird?

Then, one day I Accidently emailed my Mom pics of me with a pink dildo in my ass. Instead of being horrified she suggested "Why don't you try cucumbers dear? I think the guys would like that!"

Eh, cucumbers are a bit too rough and bumpy unless you use a really good condom or peel them first. It would almost be better to peel them, wait until they're about to turn and then use them with a really thick condom.

:twocents-02cents:

 

[TashaDutch]

only a few friends know... weird part is that everybody knows that i visit girls..
yeah i dunno where that happened... but i'm not ashamed of both, just don't think i can tell people with a sense of triomph that i cam
i barely make 500 dollars a year... so telling people i'm naked on the internet... for that... just doesn't apeal to me

my parents both know i visit and befriend alot of naked ladies on the internet.. and they're totally fine with that
and i also suspect that my mother knows damn well what i do...
why would a naked girl on the internet be sending me nailpolish from the states? that doesn't just happen :lol:

i feel that they just want me to shut up about it... so i do

 

[Violet October]

Most everyone knows what I do. I have my home state blocked, and most of the people close to me that I've told don't even know how to use their computer.

Very few people know my model name as well as my real name. A couple of the other cam girls I've met know my first name. And I think....two of my "real-life" friends know my cam name. My husband and one other friend. He's someone I used to work in strip clubs with and always knew about my camming career. I knew he spent money on MFC, but he understood why I never told him my name and why I had my home state blocked.


But when I was cammng with a friend who did NOT have my home state blocked, he found me. :lol: He's been damn cool about it though, as I expected. I ended up adding him to my friends list and he does tip when he comes into my room. So, yay!



Aaaaaand.......
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I don't even know why I went on that rant, but oh well.