How do you know if a cam girl really likes you?

[LedeanBody]

Hi all.
I need some advice from you awesome cam girls.
I been camming with this girl.for a few months now, and lately it's been less and less privates and just the chatting about life and personal stuff etc.
Like an old fool, was really developing feelings for this amazing girl. So I backed away for awhile, but alas I couldn't keep.away, I missed seeing her.
I tried to go private with her but she didn't really want to lol. We did for a bit, but She said she felt nervous now doing stuff in private because she really liked me. We haven't done it since.Wtf?
I don't know what to think, is this a ploy ? Isnt Isnt her job to get as much money out of me as possible?
In your professional opinions do you think she might actually like me for real or am I being played? My head says yes but my heart........
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Hi all.
I need some advice from you awesome cam girls.
I been camming with this girl.for a few months now, and lately it's been less and less privates and just the chatting about life and personal stuff etc.
Like an old fool, was really developing feelings for this amazing girl. So I backed away for awhile, but alas I couldn't keep.away, I missed seeing her.
I tried to go private with her but she didn't really want to lol. We did for a bit, but She said she felt nervous now doing stuff in private because she really liked me. We haven't done it since.Wtf?
I don't know what to think, is this a ploy ? Isnt Isnt her job to get as much money out of me as possible?
In your professional opinions do you think she might actually like me for real or am I being played? My head says yes but my heart........
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm not sure what y'all usually would do in private, but for some cam girls, it can suddenly become a bit awkward having to fuck your pussy in private for a guy you've become "friends" with. Lol. I know that the situation sucks for you, but do you really wanna go private with a girl who's told you she's uncomfortable with it? She could end up doing it (afraid of disappointing you by saying no), and end up giving you a lousy private show. Did she flat out say she doesn't want to? If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to.

I'm confused as to why you think she's playing you? Usually when a model is playing a member, it's to get more money out of him. In this case, that doesn't sound like that's what she's doing. Also, there is no rule saying that a model must accept every invitation for private. That is the beauty of these cam sites...they give us a choice of what we will/won't do...and who we'll do it with. I was having a conversation with someone earlier about how crazy I think it is that Streamate doesn't give their models the option to turn down a premium session. But I digress...

Just talk to her.

 

[Admiralfoot]

From a member point of view. I agree with Shelly. I don't think she is playing you. There are several models that never get fully comfortable with the sexual aspect of the cam model job. So when they meet someone they enjoy chatting with, they like to have a little "normalcy" while they are working and prefer not to cross that line with them. Sounds like she thinks of you differently than other members that visit her room. You have become a friend to her. I have a couple models friends like this now and have had some in the past too. I don't think of it as a bad thing.

 

[Always_Tim]

Some models are happy to do sexual stuff in front of members that they consider to be friends, while others just plain aren't. And it can vary quite a bit as to how good of a friendship you have to have before she reaches that point. But it sounds like you're likely to be in that kind of situation.

I became a good friend of my favorite model too fast to ever have the opportunity to take her private. She doesn't go private with anyone she doesn't know, but also won't with anyone she knows too well. Apparently I totally missed out on the narrow "privates are ok" zone. Oops. Occasionally she's ok with me watching her group shows. Often she's not. And sometimes I'm not comfortable with it, but she wants me to watch. These things can change, so communication is good. (But don't bother her about it constantly; that'll just be annoying.) You'll just have to accept how things are. It can be difficult, but you should be able to understand, especially if you consider her a friend, too.

Note that friend means friend. It sounds like she considers you to be a friend. That doesn't mean she's falling in love with you or anything. Just a friend. Which is extra hard if you have romantic feelings for her. But that's a whole different topic…

 

[AudriTwo]

I would just straight up ask her what does she mean about her having feelings. I don't blame you for treding carefully. And since you have similar feels, what do you have to lose? I say see what happens.

Keep your head straight, watch out for red flags.

 

[LedeanBody]

Thanks guys for your wise words, i was beginning to think she might have feelings for me too, but what you say makes more sense, I guess I am in the friend zone now lol.
Time to take a break from her before i make a fool of myself.

 

[Mila_]

If I liked a member I would ask for contact outside the actual camsite. If she hasn't asked you for your contact info or actually sought to talk to you on her own time and dime, she isn't likely to be interested in you romantically.

 

[BobbyB]

In my view the keywords here are "money" and "feelings".

My general advice is always never invest more of both of them than you can afford to lose.
We can post here for a 100 pages but only the girl in questions knows really how she sees her relation to you.

So enjoy it while it lasts, and if you are worried ask the girl straight away about her view on things and take it from there.

 

[ThePrincessLuxy]

I'm not going to tell you yes or no because I don't know her... but I will tell you I caught a very real case for a member once upon a time and no matter how much he paid me I refused to do any skype sex with him because I felt like I would rather save it for when we met irl.

But that's just my one personal experience. So...maybe you should ask her what's up?

 

[AwesomeKate]

You can never know if a person really likes you. Not even off of cam sites when no money is being exchanged. You usually just have to choose to believe you are liked based off of indicators such as they are reaching out to talk to you or seem interested in your day, etc. It's possible that it's transactional for the other person (that they're getting something from you) but that's kinda the essence of all relationships deep, deep down. Just try and be useful and have things to give and people will want to share their time and attention with you. This is achieved with having intelligence, kindness, sexual attraction, or... money. =D

 

[Ambers Troll]

Played...always played, even if she does actually like you ...sorry.

 

[LedeanBody]

How would one go about exchanging contact details on SM without getting anyone into trouble or violating TOS?

 

[Mikachu_MFC]

How would one go about exchanging contact details on SM without getting anyone into trouble or violating TOS?

You can't. If you do, you're violating the clearly stated TOS to which you agreed when you became a member. From their site:

You shall not use the Service or our website to, either directly or indirectly:
Provide any of Your personal contact information to any performer or model associated with our website (and in the event that You do, You agree we have no liability for any results or events which occur because You did so)

 

[LedeanBody]

damn, is it the same on LiveJasmin?

 

[Guy]

damn, is it the same on LiveJasmin?

Yes

 

[BobbyB]

ask the model for a small loan because of an emergency, if she sends some cash then she really likes you....

 

[LedeanBody]

Lol yeah, brilliant

 

[NoelleBright]

How would one go about exchanging contact details on SM without getting anyone into trouble or violating TOS?

Have you tried googling her? Does she have a twitter or any other social media under her model name?

 

[n_i_c_u]

ask the model for a small loan because of an emergency, if she sends some cash then she really likes you....

I know you are joking, but I've done it twice in my life, once with a female I knew on a personal level and was struggling and another time with a cam model who broke her laptop (and I will believe her when she said that because I want to believe in the honesty of people). I've never considered it being suckered or taken advantaged of. I did it because I wanted to do it (no asking by them--I don't know if I was trying to be a white knight, but I thought outside of my world and did what felt good and right at the time). Neither worked out as real friends-- not because of that. Did I expect anything...no. Would I do it for a dude? I don't think so. Not unless they were a friend (like, someone I know and have hung out with for years)--so maybe I was trying too hard. Who knows. Life is life.

In your professional opinions do you think she might actually like me for real or am I being played? My head says yes but my heart........
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

In my non-professional opinion I think she might like you but it is a job and nice guys seem to be a commodity.

I remember a South Park episode where Stan signs up for a "free" account for a game (much like the MFC site model) and it makes sense why I do what I do:

 

[Mikey_P]

She probably does not like you enough to end your customer-to-provider relationship. Keep tipping and enjoy a long friendship.

 

[BobbyB]

I know you are joking, but I've done it twice in my life, once with a female I knew on a personal level and was struggling and another time with a cam model who broke her laptop (and I will believe her when she said that because I want to believe in the honesty of people). I've never considered it being suckered or taken advantaged of. I did it because I wanted to do it (no asking by them--I don't know if I was trying to be a white knight, but I thought outside of my world and did what felt good and right at the time). Neither worked out as real friends-- not because of that. Did I expect anything...no. Would I do it for a dude? I don't think so. Not unless they were a friend (like, someone I know and have hung out with for years)--so maybe I was trying too hard. Who knows. Life is life.

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I knew a model for some years and everytime she had an emergency I offered my financial help, but not for free.
The deal was I paied for Skype shows in advance, so she paid back the loan via Skype shows. Once 1 loan was cleared I was OK to give another, and I gave her a lot of time to clear it.
I don't believe in sending money for nothing.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Probably best to just assume that she's not interested romantically, as 99 times out of 100 that's the case. It is certainly possible that she wants your peen in and around her face, but it is probably more likely that she is now confident that she will see money from you whether she gets naked for you or not, and probably finds it easier to just talk and keep her clothes on. That's not to say that she doesn't genuinely like you, just that until she tells you to stop tipping and finds a way to contact you off site, you're ultimately just a customer.

 

[Mikey_P]

She has trained you to get less for the same amount of tokens that use to get you more. She has mastered the game. Pop your collar and pour a drink for her space age token pimping skills.

 

[NoelleBright]

She has trained you to get less for the same amount of tokens that use to get you more. She has mastered the game. Pop your collar and pour a drink for her space age token pimping skills.

She isn't on a token site and isn't getting the same money for doing less. She's on a private based site and is literally turning his money down when she refuses to do privates with him now.

 

[Mikey_P]

She isn't on a token site and isn't getting the same money for doing less. She's on a private based site and is literally turning his money down when she refuses to do privates with him now.

Wow that is even worse. Unless it is the 'I like you too much to do my job' thingy.

Why I rather be direct in life and not bobble around in no-man's land.

 

[BobbyB]

In general mostly you will regret missed opportunities.
To the OP : if you really like her go for it and if it ends in tears at least you tried and you have an end.

Otherwise you can spent years thinking what would have happened when.......

 

[LedeanBody]

So I suggested contact outside of site, did not go down too well . Think i probably fucked things up.
Lol, cant even pay a camgirl to pretend to like me anymore.
Thnx for your thoughts guys.

 

[yummybrownfox]

So I suggested contact outside of site, did not go down too well . Think i probably fucked things up.
Lol, cant even pay a camgirl to pretend to like me anymore.
Thnx for your thoughts guys.

But did you suggest this while you two were on Streamate? Mikachu_MFC had already told you that you cannot use Streamate's platform to arrange off-site contact. And did you take NoelleBright's advice about Google searching the model's username, and looking her up on Twitter?

In some instances, models (well, models on MyGirlFund, at least) have actually been unfairly suspended/banned simply because a member started a conversation about off-site contact. So some models (who are on these "strict" sites) have had to be super cautious about this, and even go as far as banning members who keep bringing up the subject. Never ask a Streamate model - while logged into Streamate - about off-side contact, because you're asking her to break the rules. You have to take the initiative, and look her up on Twitter or search for other cam sites.

 

[LedeanBody]

Thanks Songbird-Shelly, for your advice.
Just searched and She does have a Twitter account, just created yesterday, hmmmm.

 

[BobbyB]

Thanks Songbird-Shelly, for your advice.
Just searched and She does have a Twitter account, just created yesterday, hmmmm.

At least now you have a contact option in case she gets banned on her camsite.