How do you guys conduct Blackmail sessions?

[JonesysMomma]

I have zero familiarity with this kink but have someone asking. How does this work? I don't want to break fantasy or I'd go to the customer. Any insights? How do you conduct blackmail sessions?

 

[LaceyRoyce]

#1 blackmail is illegal and the cops won't always get that you were consensually engaging in a kink. Not saying don't do it just go in with that awareness. You'll be the one in big trouble if it backfired.

#2 most of it is the threat of blackmail. Don't ever actually take action. Everrrr. You can tease - fake dial a number. Write an email to the boss and threaten to send. Print pics and pretend you're mailing them - write out info on envelope etc. But don't ever go through with even the smallest part.

Basically with blackmail sessions you collect info - ID, embarrassing pics, phone #s, work and family info... then you threaten to use that to "push" the sub into doing something they "don't" want to do. Often this is straight findom... take $$. It could also be doing something the sub "doesn't want to do" like swallow his own cum etc.

While I understand not wanting to break the fantasy, this is edge play and I think subs that want to engage on this kind of play should be able and willing to communicate desires, limits, soft limits etc openly or IMO they are not ready to engage in this kind of play.

Blackmail subs are often time wasters. They get off on just thinking about it cos it's scary. Charge fees upfront just to discuss.

 

[CallMeMaria]

Blackmail subs are often time wasters. They get off on just thinking about it cos it's scary. Charge fees upfront just to discuss.

This is my experience too. I often tell them straight up that its a cute fantasy but you dont want to go through with it.

I also tell them that for me to engage into any blackmail, I want a written & signed letter of consent with copy of their ID and video from them detailing exactly what they have asked me to do and for what purpose. That this is all done based on their requests for their sexual gratitification, they have provided all the information and details etc. I demand date limits too, so that I always have a valid document to back me up should any trouble arise.

Saying that.. by the time they have considered how serious I take it, they usually don't return.

Which is when I remind them.... hot as fantasy, not so hot in real life.

I find something that works better is as blackmail is "you either do task X or I will make you do task Y" similar principle but a lot less hassle.

 

[JonesysMomma]

Thanks for the insight @Miss_Lollipop and @CallMeMaria ! I didn't lead with this because I didn't realize it would be relevant but he's already a buyer of mine that I've known since middle school. So I have a lot of dirt on him already and we actually do direct bank transfers for payment as it is.

But what you're both telling me is that I should do some kind of insurance on my end to make sure I'm covered legally. Maybe that's what he meant when he said "just tell me what you need?" I assume he was going to other people for services before he realized I did online sex work, could he already be familiar with these insurances?

 

[Sunshineseeker]

I would avoid like the plague. I had a session many years ago when i conducted sessions through my personal website. The guy contacted me by email and sent a $100 amazon gift cert which I immediately cashed. I wasn't really sure what to do re the session as he'd just said be threatening so I googled his email address and his FB plus a few posts on a blog site came up. Didn't see I was doing anything wrong by screen grabbing and emailing the info back to him, I was never going to actually use it and he'd consented to the session.

But he went nuts. Threatened to call the police. Bombarded me with emails and DMs on Adultwork (another site i was using at the time) He was calling me every name under the sun, making all sorts of threats about ruining my life.

Not worth the $100.

Also, a lot of the big sites don't allow that kind of roleplay.

 

[JonesysMomma]

I would avoid like the plague. I had a session many years ago when i conducted sessions through my personal website. The guy contacted me by email and sent a $100 amazon gift cert which I immediately cashed. I wasn't really sure what to do re the session as he'd just said be threatening so I googled his email address and his FB plus a few posts on a blog site came up. Didn't see I was doing anything wrong by screen grabbing and emailing the info back to him, I was never going to actually use it and he'd consented to the session.

But he went nuts. Threatened to call the police. Bombarded me with emails and DMs on Adultwork (another site i was using at the time) He was calling me every name under the sun, making all sorts of threats about ruining my life.

Not worth the $100.

Also, a lot of the big sites don't allow that kind of roleplay.

Wow! I'm so sorry you went through that straight abuse!