To me business is business ... I made myself that promise before broadcasting but recently got drawn into a conversation with a follower who was charming and wooing me .. he really did do a great job of it and the conversation as I could see was getting more and more personal. Has anyone ever been in that situation before? I feel like such a fool.
I think most models have that happen at some point. You shouldn't feel like a fool. It's a normal human reaction.
Just try to be more careful about sticking to your limits in the future.
I have had friendships with several models, and it makes things so complicated for everybody. It is not a good or bad thing, but it is a thing.
This.
Models can form close friendships with members. But it nearly always leads to problems, so you need to consider the risks. Not only for you, but for the member as well. When members feel too close to a model, it can make things very difficult for them. I have direct personal experience with that, and have witnessed it many times among my friends on MFC.
I'm very lucky to have managed to maintain very good friendships with both of the (ex-)models who trusted me with their personal identification. One of them has never been an issue, probably because we didn't share that kind of information until she was pretty much done camming. The other, however, caused me all sorts of emotional issues and I am ashamed to admit that I ended up being rather difficult for her for a while. (I made her cry at least once. That's still painful when I remember it.) There were definitely some downsides for both of us in having a close real-life friendship at the same time that I was a regular in her room. There were pluses, too, however. I was able to help her with lots of things that other members couldn't. And we came out of it with a very strong friendship that has endured for several years now. (In fact, last week my girlfriend and I were able to take her out to lunch and we all had a wonderful time.) But if I were to start watching her cam again (as she's expressed some interest in that) I can't be sure that there wouldn't be problems again. Actually, I'm pretty sure that some of my old issues would reappear.
So I think I have to agree with everyone else. Be careful. Life is easier for everyone involved if you can keep your camming experience completely separate from real life relationships/friendships. But in extraordinary circumstances, exceptions can be made. But not unless you (a) have a lot of experience judging people's character and (b) have a spent a long time building trust with a particular individual and are ready and willing to accept whatever problems will occur (because they almost certainly will at some point).
