Finding a cam girl for my unique fetishes

[Kultivater]

I get your point, but most of us wont believe it until we see it. I work a site that rates members who spend in your room, and had high numbers freeload. Just because you've spent money doesn't mean you are going to continue. Money talks.

That is definitely true. Though my situation is different. It sucks, because 99% of dudes all want the same thing. Tits, ass, pussy, whatever. So, pretty much they don't need to worry about whether a model can satisfy them. If she's pretty/has big boobs, etc, that's something they can immediately verify when they enter her room and see her on camera(or even just see a picture of her). For me, it's so much more complicated than that. So much so, that I end up speaking to hundreds of models before I find one who fits me. Imagine if I had to give them all $10 just to make them read my message. It would end up being just impossible for me. So, I always try to do what I can to make it easier for both me and the model.

 

[AudriTwo]

That is definitely true. Though my situation is different. It sucks, because 99% of dudes all want the same thing. Tits, ass, pussy, whatever. So, pretty much they don't need to worry about whether a model can satisfy them. If she's pretty/has big boobs, etc, that's something they can immediately verify when they enter her room and see her on camera(or even just see a picture of her). For me, it's so much more complicated than that. So much so, that I end up speaking to hundreds of models before I find one who fits me. Imagine if I had to give them all $10 just to make them read my message. It would end up being just impossible for me. So, I always try to do what I can to make it easier for both me and the model.

All boobs look differently then they appear in tops or bras. Ive been argued with plenty of times with people who expect to see something first before paying.

When you have a odd specific fetish, thats what happens. You have to make those risk payments until you find what you are looking for. Camming is a luxury. Our time is valuable, and there are lots of time wasters trying to get our attention.

Maybe try to change your approach. When you said raised eyebrow i thought i could do what you were looking for, and i have a dimple, but its not that prominent of a lift. Maybe include a photo including what you are exactly looking for. (Mind you, models may require an extra tip to open your image in case its a stealth dick pic.)

 

[Kultivater]

All boobs look differently then they appear in tops or bras. Ive been argued with plenty of times with people who expect to see something first before paying.

When you have a odd specific fetish, thats what happens. You have to make those risk payments until you find what you are looking for. Camming is a luxury. Our time is valuable, and there are lots of time wasters trying to get our attention.

Maybe try to change your approach. When you said raised eyebrow i thought i could do what you were looking for, and i have a dimple, but its not that prominent of a lift. Maybe include a photo including what you are exactly looking for. (Mind you, models may require an extra tip to open your image in case its a stealth dick pic.)

9 times out of 10, in my experience, models don't mind showing me that they can raise 1 eyebrow in free chat, if they can. Sometimes they do mind, and most of the time I overlook that long enough to ask them some questions to see if they can handle the other side of my fetish. That's really the hardest part. See, since my fetish is so unheard of, nobody knows what I want. So, I really have 2 options if I want to get it: #1 tell them what I want to hear, which barely, if at all, turns me on(because it's like me telling myself/fake), or #2 subtlely ask questions to see if they honestly already believe what I want them to(for example(and this is the only example I'll give), I'll ask them if they're surprised if someone can't raise 1 eyebrow, and I want them to say yes. If they actually ARE surprised, chances are they're a good fit for me, though there are other questions I'd need to ask in order to know that for sure).

 

[yummybrownfox]

9 times out of 10, in my experience, models don't mind showing me that they can raise 1 eyebrow in free chat, if they can. Sometimes they do mind, and most of the time I overlook that long enough to ask them some questions to see if they can handle the other side of my fetish. That's really the hardest part. See, since my fetish is so unheard of, nobody knows what I want. So, I really have 2 options if I want to get it: #1 tell them what I want to hear, which barely, if at all, turns me on(because it's like me telling myself/fake), or #2 subtlely ask questions to see if they honestly already believe what I want them to(for example(and this is the only example I'll give), I'll ask them if they're surprised if someone can't raise 1 eyebrow, and I want them to say yes. If they actually ARE surprised, chances are they're a good fit for me, though there are other questions I'd need to ask in order to know that for sure).

When this happens and you're at a point where a model you haven't tipped yet is having a conversation with you about your fetish...and she's answering all of your questions...please consider tipping her 10 tokens at least for her time. Tipping doesn't always have to be for a model to show you something. It could be a nice way to just show your appreciation for the fact that she had a friendly conversation with you. If more members did this (Tip 10 tokens because they thought the model was cool about answering a few questions) rather than have this "I'll wait 'til next payday to buy a private show" way of thinking, we'd appreciate it because small tips add up.

 

[Kultivater]

and i have a dimple

I don't know how I missed that lol. Well, if you have a dimple, it's possible you could be a good fit. I just need more info. Is it big/deep? If so, I may be willing to give you a tip for a picture of it so I can see if it's a good fit for me.

 

[AudriTwo]

9 times out of 10, in my experience, models don't mind showing me that they can raise 1 eyebrow in free chat, if they can. Sometimes they do mind, and most of the time I overlook that long enough to ask them some questions to see if they can handle the other side of my fetish. That's really the hardest part. See, since my fetish is so unheard of, nobody knows what I want. So, I really have 2 options if I want to get it: #1 tell them what I want to hear, which barely, if at all, turns me on(because it's like me telling myself/fake), or #2 subtlely ask questions to see if they honestly already believe what I want them to(for example(and this is the only example I'll give), I'll ask them if they're surprised if someone can't raise 1 eyebrow, and I want them to say yes. If they actually ARE surprised, chances are they're a good fit for me, though there are other questions I'd need to ask in order to know that for sure).

Yeah, that's unrealistic expectations. You maybe need to learn to start compromising if you want them to say yes. Anyone who understands how muscles work know you may need to train. Some people can figure it out easier than others. It's like people who want me to say a specific thing about their penis. If they want me to say their penis is huge, i need to know that.

i mean this with 100% genuine care, have you ever thought exploring why this fetish has restricted you so much? Like a sex therapist. This sounds very restricting and really frustrating. I think you would probably end up saving money in the long run and live a more fulfilling sex life.

 

[AudriTwo]

I don't know how I missed that lol. Well, if you have a dimple, it's possible you could be a good fit. I just need more info. Is it big/deep? If so, I may be willing to give you a tip for a picture of it so I can see if it's a good fit for me.

No offense, but i dont think we would jive. I dont like answering messages or ppv. I prefer to show up on cam or post random shit on my onlyfans. Im a build it and they will come kinda gal. Thank god the cum.

 

[Kultivater]

Yeah, that's unrealistic expectations. You maybe need to learn to start compromising if you want them to say yes. Anyone who understands how muscles work know you may need to train. Some people can figure it out easier than others. It's like people who want me to say a specific thing about their penis. If they want me to say their penis is huge, i need to know that.

i mean this with 100% genuine care, have you ever thought exploring why this fetish has restricted you so much? Like a sex therapist. This sounds very restricting and really frustrating. I think you would probably end up saving money in the long run and live a more fulfilling sex life.

First paragraph: You'd think so, that's just because you can't do it. See, when someone can do both individually, most of the time it's super easy for them, and, unless they've had occasion to go and find out, that usually means they assume everyone can do it. I've had models tell me "saying you can't do that is kinda like saying you can't raise 1 arm without the other."(that one actually made me laugh lol). Different perspectives, different levels of knowledge, etc.

Second paragraph: It's not that it restricts me. I can have sex without those 2 fetishes, and literally everyone with a mouth can satisfy my 3rd fetish(mouth sounds, easy to get with ASMR too). I just LOVE those 2 fetishes. Orgasms are explosively better when they're properly stimulated. A girl with huge dimples, for example, can make me cum within a few seconds.

 

[Kultivater]

No offense, but i dont think we would jive. I dont like answering messages or ppv. I prefer to show up on cam or post random shit on my onlyfans. Im a build it and they will come kinda gal. Thank god the cum.

To each their own.

 

[Kultivater]

When this happens and you're at a point where a model you haven't tipped yet is having a conversation with you about your fetish...and she's answering all of your questions...please consider tipping her 10 tokens at least for her time. Tipping doesn't always have to be for a model to show you something. It could be a nice way to just show your appreciation for the fact that she had a friendly conversation with you. If more members did this (Tip 10 tokens because they thought the model was cool about answering a few questions) rather than have this "I'll wait 'til next payday to buy a private show" way of thinking, we'd appreciate it because small tips add up.

10 tokens in no problem at all. Well, that is until I get to like 20, 30 models, and more. It's really situational, but if they're nice to me, of course I like to show my appreciation.

 

[Marceline]

#1 tell them what I want to hear, which barely, if at all, turns me on(because it's like me telling myself/fake),

Camming, private shows, content and sex/adult work in general is pretty much all based around one thing, fantasy. Call it make pretend or call it fake if you want, but the majority of the time the person you’re seeing on the other side of the screen when you’re watching a cam show is there for one reason. To make money.

I’ve done “breeding” shows and content before. Does that mean I want to make a baby with the guys who like that content? No.

I’ve done sph shows with a guy who had a monster schlong, even though we both obviously could see with our own two eyeballs there was nothing small about it.

And I’m sure most models at one point or another have told members in private shows “you’re so sexy”, “I want you to fuck me” etc, even when they looked like gargoyles.

Most of the guys getting these shows know that it’s all a fantasy and are okay with it, because they understand that’s what porn, even interactive cam model shows, is.

What I’m getting at is, if you don’t tell people what you’re looking for and you’re just hoping they respond in the way you want them to, you’re going to keep having a hard time getting your fetish fulfilled. Because the majority of the time, you’re not going to find anyone enthusiastic enough to play the guessing game when they can be doing a show with someone else who is straight forward and concise about what they want. And even if you do find that, the chances are very high that she is in fact still acting.

 

[Kultivater]

Camming, private shows, content and sex/adult work in general is pretty much all based around one thing, fantasy. Call it make pretend or call it fake if you want, but the majority of the time the person you’re seeing on the other side of the screen when you’re watching a cam show is there for one reason. To make money.

I’ve done “breeding” shows and content before. Does that mean I want to make a baby with the guys who like that content? No.

I’ve done sph shows with a guy who had a monster schlong, even though we both obviously could see with our own two eyeballs there was nothing small about it.

And I’m sure most models at one point or another have told members in private shows “you’re so sexy”, “I want you to fuck me” etc, even when they looked like gargoyles.

Most of the guys getting these shows know that it’s all a fantasy and are okay with it, because they understand that’s what porn, even interactive cam model shows, is.

What I’m getting at is, if you don’t tell people what you’re looking for and you’re just hoping they respond in the way you want them to, you’re going to keep having a hard time getting your fetish fulfilled. Because the majority of the time, you’re not going to find anyone enthusiastic enough to play the guessing game when they can be doing a show with someone else who is straight forward and concise about what they want. And even if you do find that, the chances are very high that she is in fact still acting.

Very true. Unfortunately, I like what I like. I have no control over what does and doesn't turn me on, or over what turns me off. This is who I am, and I used to hate who I am. Especially sexually. But, over the years, I learned to embrace it, because the only other option is celibacy. I'm happier with it than without it, so I jump through the hoops. That's why I'm here. This forum makes it easier for me to find someone. It lets me make a post, and have the models actually come to me, instead of me having to spend hours looking at thumbnails and asking the same questions over and over.

 

[AudriTwo]

First paragraph: You'd think so, that's just because you can't do it. See, when someone can do both individually, most of the time it's super easy for them, and, unless they've had occasion to go and find out, that usually means they assume everyone can do it. I've had models tell me "saying you can't do that is kinda like saying you can't raise 1 arm without the other."(that one actually made me laugh lol). Different perspectives, different levels of knowledge, etc.

Second paragraph: It's not that it restricts me. I can have sex without those 2 fetishes, and literally everyone with a mouth can satisfy my 3rd fetish(mouth sounds, easy to get with ASMR too). I just LOVE those 2 fetishes. Orgasms are explosively better when they're properly stimulated. A girl with huge dimples, for example, can make me cum within a few seconds.

I know i can eventually train myself to do it more. Its a muscle. I know about anatomy, bb. But i really dont understand what exactly you mean, but from my perspective seems like its unrealistic particular expectations.

Regardless, it doesn't sound like your masturbation private time is fun. It sounds exhausting and it appears like its very bothersome. Your needs arent being met if you are here posting an ad. Everyone can benefit from going to therapy. What's the worse? Things stay the same?

Anywho keep an open mind, and i hope your able to find what you're looking for.

 

[yummybrownfox]

10 tokens in no problem at all. Well, that is until I get to like 20, 30 models, and more. It's really situational, but if they're nice to me, of course I like to show my appreciation.

You could probably cut down on that number if there's a way to search on the cam site to see if any models have "dimples" as one of their hash tags or in their profile description. Or you could even do a Google search using the search terms "MyFreeCams dimples" (or "Chaturbate dimples" or whatever cam site you use) to see which models come up in the results. Out of that list of the models who appeal to you, find out politely if any of them can do the one eyebrow thing. If so, then you lucky, lucky man...you've found yourself a model that satisfies both of those things you're looking for. And just remember that if you find models willing to answer your 4, 5, 6 or however many questions about your fetish/what makes you cum, it isn't unreasonable at all to expect you to tip like 10 tokens for their time. 10 tokens (on many of these cam sites) is 50 cents in the model's pocket. And tbh if I had a member in my room with a colored username/or ___ tokens visible, and he didn't bother to give me a small tip after I answered his 4, 5, 6, questions for him, I'd be a tad annoyed.

 

[Kultivater]

I know i can eventually train myself to do it more. Its a muscle. I know about anatomy, bb. But i really dont understand what exactly you mean, but from my perspective seems like its unrealistic particular expectations.

Regardless, it doesn't sound like your masturbation private time is fun. It sounds exhausting and it appears like its very bothersome. Your needs arent being met if you are here posting an ad. Everyone can benefit from going to therapy. What's the worse? Things stay the same?

Anywho keep an open mind, and i hope your able to find what you're looking for.

I appreciate your candor, and your empathy. And if this were the only way I can get off, I'd 100% agree with you. It's just something I deeply enjoy, and I've been doing it for many, many years. I've experimented and branched out and tried different things, and I've found that this is what I enjoy most. I really don't mind coming here and asking. Isn't that what this forum is for? Models to connect with members and other models? I think it's great that I can do this. And by the way, I wasn't trying to be condescending to you. I was just explaining. By now, over the course of two decades, I've probably asked literally over a million girls these questions, so I have A LOT of experience in their beliefs and reactions, and in my vast experience, at the very least 40% of them who can do both assume everyone can. It's natural for them, just like breathing, so to them, the thought of someone being unable to do it is nonsensical(unless they're disabled or something).

 

[Kultivater]

You could probably cut down on that number if there's a way to search on the cam site to see if any models have "dimples" as one of their hash tags or in their profile description. Or you could even do a Google search using the search terms "MyFreeCams dimples" (or "Chaturbate dimples" or whatever cam site you use) to see which models come up in the results. Out of that list of the models who appeal to you, find out politely if any of them can do the one eyebrow thing. If so, then you lucky, lucky man...you've found yourself a model that satisfies both of those things you're looking for. And just remember that if you find models willing to answer your 4, 5, 6 or however many questions about your fetish/what makes you cum, it isn't unreasonable at all to expect you to tip like 10 tokens for their time. 10 tokens (on many of these cam sites) is 50 cents in the model's pocket. And tbh if I had a member in my room with a colored username/or ___ tokens visible, and he didn't bother to give me a small tip after I answered his 4, 5, 6, questions for him, I'd be a tad annoyed.

lol I've used google like a damn beaten horse in my two decades doing this. Trust me, searching like that is a complete waste of my time. 99.9% of models with dimples don't use a dimples tag, and I've literally never seen a model use an eyebrow raise tag, since I'm pretty much the only person on the planet with that fetish.

 

[yummybrownfox]

lol I've used google like a damn beaten horse in my two decades doing this. Trust me, searching like that is a complete waste of my time. 99.9% of models with dimples don't use a dimples tag, and I've literally never seen a model use an eyebrow raise tag, since I'm pretty much the only person on the planet with that fetish.

Just now I did a Google search, and several models came up who literally had the word "dimple" or "dimples" in their screen names. But okay, man. Since you seem to know everything, and want to keep shooting down my ideas, good luck. So much for trying to help ya out.

 

[Kultivater]

Just now I did a Google search, and several models came up who literally had the word "dimple" or "dimples" in their screen names. But okay, man. Since you seem to know everything, and want to keep shooting down my ideas, good luck.

Yeah and I bet I know who they are too. Check their "last login" dates real quick. Also, many of them that have that tag don't actually have dimples.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Yeah and I bet I know who they are too. Check their "last login" dates real quick.

Maybe you do. I don't care anymore. I'm not doing anything else right now except going back to listening to this song by Omarion. Not doing any more free research for you. You're on your own. Nighty night.

 

[AudriTwo]

I appreciate your candor, and your empathy. And if this were the only way I can get off, I'd 100% agree with you. It's just something I deeply enjoy, and I've been doing it for many, many years. I've experimented and branched out and tried different things, and I've found that this is what I enjoy most. I really don't mind coming here and asking. Isn't that what this forum is for? Models to connect with members and other models? I think it's great that I can do this. And by the way, I wasn't trying to be condescending to you. I was just explaining. By now, over the course of two decades, I've probably asked literally over a million girls these questions, so I have A LOT of experience in their beliefs and reactions, and in my vast experience, at the very least 40% of them who can do both assume everyone can. It's natural for them, just like breathing, so to them, the thought of someone being unable to do it is nonsensical(unless they're disabled or something).

You have your experience, and we have ours. But if you are asking extensive questions, you need to tip.

Anywho good luck. You trying to find true honesty in porn world is a unrealistic expectation. This forum is an industry support and discussion forum. Its not just a place to advertise.

 

[Kultivater]

Maybe you do. I don't care anymore. I'm not doing anything else right now except going back to listening to this song by Omarion. You're on your own. Goodnight.

Listen, I'm not trying to just shoot you down here. You gotta understand man, I've been doing this for a LONG time. The things you're suggesting are things I've tried years and years and years ago. It's a situation of "been there, done that" for me. It's not that I don't appreciate you trying to help me. Of course I do.

 

[Ich Bin]

All boobs look differently then they appear in tops or bras. Ive been argued with plenty of times with people who expect to see something first before paying.

When you have a odd specific fetish, thats what happens. You have to make those risk payments until you find what you are looking for. Camming is a luxury. Our time is valuable, and there are lots of time wasters trying to get our attention.

Maybe try to change your approach. When you said raised eyebrow i thought i could do what you were looking for, and i have a dimple, but its not that prominent of a lift. Maybe include a photo including what you are exactly looking for. (Mind you, models may require an extra tip to open your image in case its a stealth dick pic.)

Very true. Unfortunately, I like what I like. I have no control over what does and doesn't turn me on, or over what turns me off. This is who I am, and I used to hate who I am. Especially sexually. But, over the years, I learned to embrace it, because the only other option is celibacy. I'm happier with it than without it, so I jump through the hoops. That's why I'm here. This forum makes it easier for me to find someone. It lets me make a post, and have the models actually come to me, instead of me having to spend hours looking at thumbnails and asking the same questions over and o

I know i can eventually train myself to do it more. Its a muscle. I know about anatomy, bb. But i really dont understand what exactly you mean, but from my perspective seems like its unrealistic particular expectations.

Regardless, it doesn't sound like your masturbation private time is fun. It sounds exhausting and it appears like its very bothersome. Your needs arent being met if you are here posting an ad. Everyone can benefit from going to therapy. What's the worse? Things stay the same?

Anywho keep an open mind, and i hope your able to find what you're looking for.

You could probably cut down on that number if there's a way to search on the cam site to see if any models have "dimples" as one of their hash tags or in their profile description. Or you could even do a Google search using the search terms "MyFreeCams dimples" (or "Chaturbate dimples" or whatever cam site you use) to see which models come up in the results. Out of that list of the models who appeal to you, find out politely if any of them can do the one eyebrow thing. If so, then you lucky, lucky man...you've found yourself a model that satisfies both of those things you're looking for. And just remember that if you find models willing to answer your 4, 5, 6 or however many questions about your fetish/what makes you cum, it isn't unreasonable at all to expect you to tip like 10 tokens for their time. 10 tokens (on many of these cam sites) is 50 cents in the model's pocket. And tbh if I had a member in my room with a colored username/or ___ tokens visible, and he didn't bother to give me a small tip after I answered his 4, 5, 6, questions for him, I'd be a tad annoyed.

Is his fetish being satisfied right now? Is his fetish really seeing how many models will come to him to discuss if 'they' are the right fit? To listen to his 'requirements'? To have him 'evaluate' the model? Just wondering.

I know i can eventually train myself to do it more. Its a muscle. I know about anatomy, bb. But i really dont understand what exactly you mean, but from my perspective seems like its unrealistic particular expectations.

Regardless, it doesn't sound like your masturbation private time is fun. It sounds exhausting and it appears like its very bothersome. Your needs arent being met if you are here posting an ad. Everyone can benefit from going to therapy. What's the worse? Things stay the same?

Anywho keep an open mind, and i hope your able to find what you're looking for.

 

[Kultivater]

You have your experience, and we have ours. But if you are asking extensive questions, you need to tip.

Anywho good luck. You trying to find true honesty in porn world is a unrealistic expectation. This forum is an industry support and discussion forum. Its not just a place to advertise.

If me asking around here for my fetish is a problem, I'll stop doing it.

 

[Kultivater]

Is his fetish being satisfied right now? Is his fetish really seeing how many models will come to him to discuss if 'they' are the right fit? To listen to his 'requirements'? To have him 'evaluate' the model? Just wondering.

God I wish it were that easy.

 

[Kultivater]

Is his fetish being satisfied right now? Is his fetish really seeing how many models will come to him to discuss if 'they' are the right fit? To listen to his 'requirements'? To have him 'evaluate' the model? Just wondering.

Go ask Sasha. If my fetish were being satisfied right now, why would have I tipped her to do a private thing for me? I'd have no need for it. That's a pretty weird grasp at the straw there man.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Listen, I'm not trying to just shoot you down here. You gotta understand man, I've been doing this for a LONG time. The things you're suggesting are things I've tried years and years and years ago. It's a situation of "been there, done that" for me. It's not that I don't appreciate you trying to help me. Of course I do.

K. Now if you don't mind...I'm in a zone right now, and I'm pretending I'm the Puerto Rican/Dominican chick from this music video dancing in the street with Omarion.

 

[Ich Bin]

God I wish it were that easy.

You made your case. This Forum is well aware of your special unfulfilled needs. The only thing you can do now is wait for the models to come to you.

 

[Ich Bin]

Go ask Sasha. If my fetish were being satisfied right now, why would have I tipped her to do a private thing for me? I'd have no need for it. That's a pretty weird grasp at the straw there man.

Because you need more. You're the one grasping at straws. Happy Grasping!

 

[Kultivater]

K. Now if you don't mind...I'm in a zone right now, and I'm pretending I'm the Puerto Rican/Dominican chick from this music video dancing in the street with Omarion.

lol. I'm a metal head, and absolutely despise that kinda music. But, I'm also a musician myself, and have a respect for all valid forms of music, so I won't hate.

 

[yummybrownfox]

lol. I'm a metal head, and absolutely despise that kinda music. But, I'm also a musician myself, and have a respect for all valid forms of music, so I won't hate.